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Nancy I will pray for you and your father. This must be so dificult to go through.
Lisa, I think you should go to Florida and date Cathis BIL! Great idea!!
Cathi - I love the assicons!! To funny!
Hello to everyone else! I miss you all!
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Cathi, the dress I got for my kids weddings is cut straight across the top with ruching to an empire waist. There is enough going on, that from the front you don't realize I'm flat. I can just imagine how I would have looked in it with my 42D's! I bet it would have been too revealing for the mother-of-the-bride/groom!
For those who haven't been following, I thought I'd let you know that Michelle (Toyful) passed away last night. She had been set up in her livingroom with a bed and hospice about 10 days ago. There is a thread, Prayers for Toyful, that her MIL had been reading to her.
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Aw crap! Another sister passed? This disease makes me sick! I have a friend from high school who's former co-worker died from bc a few days ago. When will it end????
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Didn't know of Toyful, but so sad to hear BC has claimed another dear sister.
Barbe can't wait to see pic's of the dress @ the wedding, I am sure you with be breath taking -just STUNNING -
More prayers for Nancy and family.
Jaclyn has her 2nd opinion appointment this afternoon, I'll keep yeah posted.
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Ah, sad day. Another bc sister gone.
Cathi, I have your Jaclyn in my prayers. Lots of prayers going around.
On a lighter note, because we all need light notes, here's a link to my Emily's prom dress. Lisa, we should swap prom shopping stoires. Ach! My aching back!
Em picked the navy blue one. Now we have to shop for sparkly jewelry and shoes.
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Ooooo, gorgeous Nancy! What colour of shoes? I got pewter ones to go with my eggplant mother-of-the-bride dress and it looks stunning. I can also wear the shoes for other occasions.
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Love the dress Nancy!
Prayers and positive thoughts going out to Jaclyn!
Hugs,
Karen
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Those dresses are beautiful!
I will keep Jacki, and everyone, in my prayers.
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A quick pop-in while the kid is with his other family.
Prom season! What memories...my baby boy did his just two years ago
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Those dresses are stunning! And perfect for what I have seen of the girls...Olivia with her beautiful dark skin and hair, Emily with her softly pale skin and red hair. Perfect dresses. Photos expected.
Devin's grandmother also died before his graduation. She almost made it...less than two months before. She was hanging on, wanting to be there for him, but it finally became too much. She was a major player in his life and it was sad for all of us. We didn't see a specific sign of her presence like you did, Cathi, but we all felt her spirit throughout the ceremony and it was a very uplifting feeling.
I am sitting here wondering why everyone has been so delicate and lady-like with Cathi's bil's girlfriend.
Remind me never to cross one of you!!! I am speechless...just second all the above for me, will you? Sheesh!!! That goes for Leesa's family, too. More prayers for Jaclyn.I hope she knows just how much she is cared about by so many.
Cheryl, bless you! Hang in there and feel our support.
Nettie, I've missed you. I hope you get some energy back soon.
Glad your hand is better Sheila. Take care of it, will you?
My heart is with you, Nancy. I have participated in the final days of both my parents, my ex's parents, and my sister. Believe me, I understand. There are blessings to be had if you remain open to them. Please remember to gently care for my friend Nancy, too.
That's all I can do right now...
Love and hugs to all!
Judie
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Judie He's so handsome!!
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What a handsome boy, Judie! I told Portia all about him and his acting and love of improv. It's funny, she's had crushes on two different boys named Devin. Now she wants to meet yours!!! LOL!!! I told her that he was probably too clean cut and well-mannered for her. She tends to gravitate toward rather strange looking young men (piercings, tattoos, etc). Maybe her tastes are changing--she has a huge thing for David Archuleta, and he's about as wholesome as they come!
Hugs,
Karen
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Judie, you're so right about there being blessings in dark situations. When my fourth brother comes in this weekend, all seven of us will be together for a day or two.
And last night, the pastor from our church came to give my father the Rite of the Sick. While he was there, his cell phone rang a couple of times. The first time, I thought I recognized the ringtone, but it was too brief. The second time, I got it! It was the theme from The Exorcist. Who says priests don't have a sense of humor, lol.
Anyway, things are about the same, but tomorrow, they will make a decision about further treatment. If he shows some improvement/positive reaction to the drugs, they will insert a feeding tube to give him nourishment. If there is no improvement, they will recommend letting him slip away, and just keep him comfortable.
Meanwhile, the world keeps on spinning. And I'm glad it does. I would hate if we all got stuck in dark areas.
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Nancy, you are an amazingly strong lady. I'm glad your family will all be together soon. I hope and pray for the best for your father.
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Thanks, Linda. I still think he's cute, even with a beard.
Karen, Devin is no longer the rosy-cheeked innocent of that photo. College has caused him to blossom in many ways. He describes his current style as 70's meets gay cowboy meets the matrix meets the Ritz. (He's straight, but because of being raised in the family he had, feels perfectly free to enjoy being flamboyant.) He is bouncing off the walls because three of his favorite groups are playing at the festival at Marymoor in July...The Decemberists, Death Cab For Cutie, and The New Pornographers. His #1 favorite is Mika. He drove from Walla Walla to Portland and back in one day to see The Thermals...home at 4:30 AM. He has no interest in Goth, piercings, or tattoos but defends the right of others to exhibit their own style. If Portia is still intrigued, we'll have to arrange an "accidental" meeting if he alights in Seattle at all this summer. Plans are still up in the air.
Nancy, you are a gem. I hope the reunion will bring warm memories of the past and new possibilities for the family in the future.
I came here for a sanity break. Like the stereotypical MIL, I'm critical of my dil's parenting style. I can usuallly cope by letting go...she's the mom. I'm just here to spoil him. But I'm much more involved and expected to participate in parenting for a while and it's hard to cope. I'd like to bow out, but he needs me.
Okay. All better now. Thanks for listening!
Judie
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Nancy, don't be surprise if your Dad "lets go" once you are all together. My Mom passed into her final coma when my brother and I arrived in Vancouver where my other brother and sister already were. I had one last connection with her and then she was comatose. My heart goes out to you all....
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It is funny how our little boys grow up to have unusual tastes in music. John went the other week with his cousin to Charlotte to a 'disturbed' concert. John was the designated driver but I don't think his cousin drank too much. He said he loved the concert, it was his first one. While he was in HI there were concerts at the base but they usually happened while he was out of the area (on the ship).
About the hand, I went back to the therapist and there wasn't any change from Friday, so he wrapped my arm and hand in an effort to push the fluid up the arm. so please forgive me if I have any typos. It is like trying to work with a cast on your arm. When working I use the tab and shift key alot and it is cumbersome with this thing on my arm.
Nancy, my prayers are with you and your family at this time.
Sheila
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Hi Guys
The quickest of posts.
Nancy, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Like so many others, I have lost both my parents (it's my mum's 21s anniversary on Sat - she died very young) My sis, auntie (her wee sister) my neice and I are going to ''visit' mum and dad on Friday after my last chemo tomorrow. I'm planting a lovely planter with a beautiful white shrub with white flowers, some violas and my hollyhocks this pm, when my nephew arrives, to do the heavy lifting. We take a gin and tonic for mum and a guiness for dad and pour it on the graves have a good laugh and chat with them, keep them up to date, then lunch. With cocktails!
When dad died, quite suddenly with septecemia following a totally routine procedure he was delirious for 2 days and then came back to us - the dozens who took over the hospital in England!!
When he passes we, his 4 children, my dearest cousin, with whom I am staying when I visit Blackpool for the weekend, my neice (then 14, but insisted on not leaving his bedside) and the priest were all there and it was a beautiful, spiritual experience. I actually take comfort in it as it would have been his perfect passing. So I echo the thought that your dad might choose to leave this world surrounded by all of the people who he loved most, peacefully, full of love and fearless of death.
God bless you and your family Nancy - sorry, having a wee 'greet' (cry) at the moment.
Love to you all.
Cathi - the assicons are GENIOUS, what would we do without you? Just remember that ignorance, like your foul friends, is to be pitied. Someday something might just rock her old boat - not that we would wish it on her .......
Love you all guys. Away to blow my nose and wipe my eyes.
Nettie xxxx
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Hugs sweet Nettie
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Nancy-so very sorry to hear your family is going through this...I took care of and was with my father when he passed....although it is by far the hardest thing Ive EVER done in my life, I would trade those final moments with him for anything in this world......my prayers will go to you and your family during this rough time....
Just so you know ladies. Devins is as cute and handsome as is pic...I havent seen him since last fall but I can say that Judie raised one of the politest, curtious young men I have ever had the luxury to meet.....
Judie-when you have a free weekend you should plan a trip this direction again....David and I bought a 5th wheel travel trailer for camping/fishing.....maybe Us, you, and Devin can make a weekend of it and go camping ????? I tried to call Devin last night but didnt get an answer...I didnt leave a message as I was heading out and knew I wouldnt have cell service so will call him tonight as I will be in range for him to call me back....
Hope everyone that is feeling down gets a "pick me up soon".....and everyone that is experiencing spring-ENJOY!!!!
Jule
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Hi sisters!!
Jule...I can only imagine that Devin would be a polite young man and a Joy to be around...with a Mother like Judie..how could he not be!! Can't see the pic here at work..will look later.
Nancy..thinking of you during your difficult time..giving you lots of hugs, as you deal with all of this. I didn't actually do much footwork for Olivia's dress...internet! But..it was not without many headaches!!! Oh my!! Last one...until a wedding that is! YIKES!!!! I like Emily's dress!! I think that blue will look sooooooo good on her!
Judie...I know you said we were all so delicate and kind when it came to Cathi's bil's g/f. Well...sweetie...I WASNT! haha..you should know better with me...lol!! I told her, if I had been there..right after Cathi made the ass remark...I would have kicked her ASS, then we could have high fived and had a drink to celebrate!! haha...can't help it...she really made me mad. I don't have allot of tolerance for STUPIDITY!! That is a fault I have!!
Nancy..I agree with Barbe....that is what happened when my mom passed. There are 7 kids in my family too. She knew my sister from AZ was there, but knew that her husband and my mom's youngest grandchild was on their way to Ohio. Once they were there...mom passed within a few hours...we knew she was just hanging on to see Andrew!! It's funny, how they "just know". God bless you and your sweet father!
Judie...so you have a little break from Conner? How much longer are you watching him. He is just a little doll, but I am sure it is a handfull to watch a little one again, for a long period of time.
Ok..back to work....blasted head ache is now going away...thank goodness.
Sue....we miss you!!!! Check in with us!!!
Cathi...wondering how Jacuqeline's 2nd visit went.
xoxo
Lisa
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Lisa, funny you say that about stupidity. Whenever I have a job interview and they ask (sigh) what my worst fault is, I always say "I have no tolerance for stupidity." That usually shuts them up!
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Hah!!! I'm going to have to remember that one for my next job interview, Barbe!! Love it!!!
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Oh Barbe...it really is something that bothers me. Some days are better than others. Today was a bad one. My oldest daughter Danni..is the same way. She is very intelligent (unlike her mom, well..she is ..being honest) and she has a hard time with it also. She is a very kind and loving person..and it's not like she is not compassionate with those that truly have problems with learning etc..but those adults that really are stupid, ignorant, etc. Today for instance...I was working the ticket counter here..and a lady walked up and said she was on my Atlanta flight. I said, this afternoon mam, and she said no..at 9:30am. I said, sorry mam, we don't have a flight at 9:30am. She said, yes you do, I am on one at 9:30am. I said, maybe you are on Delta...she said, well they sent me over to you! She walks away, and I am thinking...."HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW WHO YOU ARE FLYING ON"???? OMG AND WTF
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That's pretty sad, Lisa! And who says you're not intelligent?? Come ON!! We all know better!
Spring is in the air!!! Check out my beautiful tulips! Love them!!
I'm sooo ready for summer!!!
Hugs,
Karen
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Well, I'm usually humble, but, I have a genius IQ. People say that must be great, but it is one of my biggest hardships in life. I talk fast, give/get answers quickly, don't need slow directions, can't stand hesitation, yadda, yadda. SIGH most people are soooooooooo slow! It drives me insane! I make a lousy manager as I can't figure out why someone doesn't understand something. But, I work well without supervision as I do now. I can multitask like there's no tomorrow. But again, a lot of co-workers resent it. I work way better with men as I don't do the "how are you feeling" stuff when I'm at work. I just don't care! When I ask here, it's because I care...
My customers love me though, as I can move mountains!
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Hello all!!
Sorry to have been MIA, haven't been feeling well and finally went to my PCP today. Ihave a sinus/viral infecton but thankfully no swine flu.
I just want to stop by and give Nancy a belated Happy Birthday wish and a big ((((HUG)))) to help her get through the next couple of days.
My short version of a post - LOVE the gowns, nettie & nana you are almost there, judie - devin is gorgeous, sheila - hope you are feeling better, Karen - how's the hip?, jule - WELCOME BACK, cathi - men are stupid, barbe - what did I miss - is someone getting married? Linda - how about those Sox?
Hope I covered everything!
Hugs,
AE
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Sheila, both my boys, 10 and almost 14 love disturbed. Can't say I do!
Lisa I agree with you 100% about Cathy dumb ass BIL'sGF. You are too funny!
Barb - You are a genius! Love the stupidity remark!!
Karen, Awesome pictures!
AE god to hear from you. It's a great time to be a boston sports fan. The soxs, bruins and celtics are all playing at the same time. My only regret is I haven't slept in weeks!! I hope UB is feeling well and that you feel better soon. Glad you don't have the swine flu!
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Busy couple of days - and I am sooooooooooooooooo behind on work, I am going to be up all night. Jaclyn will be having the LEEP procedure on 5/12, hoping this will remove all the malignat
cells and she may only need rads then, it was her choice, knowing what I know now I would have choose a total hysterectomy as removing the ovaries would have reduced her elevated BC risk, but right now thats her choice. They all just left, but I have to share this picture of Brandt and Margo - AND GET TO WORK. Attorneys are veri impatient. xoxoxoxoxoxo - TO ALL
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Cathi, great picture. He must make you smile! I will keep you and your family in my prayers. We are all hoping the best for Jacki. Hang in there.
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Cathi - what a beautiful child! He looks so bright and happy. Praying that Jaclyn's procedure goes smoothly and gets excellent results.
Nancy, whatever happens, I hope you will have a warm and loving time with your family and that your father feels all that love around him.
AE, Hope you feel much better soon.
Karen - your tulips are beautiful - lovely sunny photos!
Lisa, Barbe, Jule, Sheila, Nettie, Linda, Judie (love the photo of Devin) and everyone - love to everyone.
Jane xxx
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