please help

geebung

Cathi, what an ignorant, dumb, small-minded, idiotic load of garbage has come out of that woman's mouth! Unbelievable! I loved your original retort to her at the beach - brilliant! Had me laughing out loud! I also think you were incredibly gracious and mature when you spoke to her on the phone and yes - you have every reason to feel empowered. I hope she felt humbled - ha! - unlikely, as she sounds way too ignorant.

Jule - so great to see you post - your man sounds like a gem!

Nancy, I have so much admiration for what you and your (lovely) brother are doing. It must be such hard work. I pray that your father will settle down soon and eat well and be comfortable. God bless you all.

Karen, so sorry to hear that you have more delays with your house. It must be extremely stressful and may explain some of your husband's hurtful outbursts (no excuse though!). You are such a sweet thing.

Bill - it's always a pleasure to read your posts. You and Val are a couple of shining lights here. Can't remember if your anniversary was 26 or 28 years (if I go back and look again I will lose my post) - whatever - it's still wow! That is something to aspire too. 

 Sheila - that's great news about your arm measurements! What a difference - I'm so glad you pushed ahead and got to see a therapist. Early intervention is the way to go. Glad you had a blast at your conference.

Much love to all of you as usual that includes all I haven't mentioned - you know who you are!

Jane xoxox 

geebung

Cheryl! So good to see you there! So sorry you are having a tough time. Congratulations on the last Taxol. I hope you start to feel a whole lot better soon. xxx

dink

Cathi, I'm sorry about your BIL's girlfriend.  She is a dope.  There are three things in my life that you do not mess with and that would be my husband, my children nor my money.  I would have to hurt dear girlfriend especially if she made that comment about my grandchildren.  As I say I have a little nation - I have one grandchild that is hald hispanic and white, one all white granchild, and three little black and white children.  They all came from my daughter and I lover them all the same. Not one above the other.  I came from Mississippi so you can imagine what I go through.  I finally had to tell my family "you either accept all of my children or none".  It was really strange that they accepted Madison (hispanic/white) and not the three little ones (black/white).  I finally told them that I would never spend my vacations nor my holidays with them unless they caould accept all five grandbabies the same.  It has been very hard for them but they are coming around.  They will not let the dad come around but it doesn't have to do with his race.  My family gets frustrated with my daughter as all the children are hers and she just turned 23.  Believe me it's not because she didn't know better.  I had a charge nurse that would always make snide remarks until I pinned her to the wall one day and told her she better be glad that I had myself under control.  Just like with my family, I put my foot down and now I don't have any problems.  Some people!!!

Karen you are so cute. DFH needs a swift kick in the booty.

Cheryl glad to see you.

Markatz - You have lots of words of encouragement also.  Oh Karen, I got the steroid shot in the right elbow on Friday.  I thought I would die later that afternoon - after the numbing medicine wore off.  I took a flexaril (one mind you) at about 6:00 on Friday night, went to bed at 6:30 and woke up Saturday around 12:00.  I was like a wet noodle the rest of the day and did nothing - the are is so much better.  But I took one more flexaril to help keep it relaxed one more day at around 4:00 and I went to bed at 7:00 Saturday night and woke up Sunday at 1:00 pm and went bake to bed at 8:15 pm and slept until this morning - It was great (very low tolerance to pain meds.) LOL  I'm not wearing the arm brace because I feel like I'm being tied down and it really bothers me.  I can have one more shot if needed in 4 weeks - May 19, 2009 and if it doesn't stop the inflammation I will have to see a surgeon to fix it.  They put this ultrasound machine on my arm and the total area was red showing inflammation of the tendon.

Sorry for talking so much

Leesa

lvtwoqlt

Leesa, I had a cortizone/steroid shot in my lower back about 10 yrs ago and had rebound pain the next day that they didn't warn me about. At that time I was doing the printing in the computer room, large boxes of pre-printed forms that had to be loaded in and out of the printers after each print job, and I could barely walk. My boss and co-workers helped me that morning by moving the boxes for me and my boss sent me home early. It took a couple of days but everything settled down and my back spasms lessened. Fortunately it only took the one shot to help my back.

Cathi, so sorry to hear about your bil's friend's in approprate choice of words. It sounds like something my in-laws would say. At least you tried to accept her apology but she stuck her foot in mouth again.

Sheila

NancyD

Hi ladies!

Cathi - I loved your retort to DIA. That's a classic and will go down in my book. Apology scenario was slightly less funny, but equally showed her dumb-ass-ness.

Sheila - I'm happy to see your LE is improving. I've worn my sleeve and gauntlet a few times lately as I have had some heavy cleaning to do around the house. I didn't think of it the other day, though, when I was sorting CD's so we could move my stereo cabinet. Now I think I may have something just behind my thumb, above my wrist. It's more likely to be some kind of carpal tunnel syndrome (all that repetitive motion opening several hundred CD jewel cases to check them) rather than LE. But I can't help but think if I had my sleeve and gauntlet on I might have had better support.

Cheryl - You go girl!  Only four more AC to go! Watch out for that Red Devil, though. I was just where you are a year ago (except I was getting all three drugs together).

Well, yesterday was my  birthday. I took the day off from work, and it was good that I did. It was the first day we had our regular aides come to help with my father. As the resident female, it was up to me to show them where things are in the house. It was also clear that since they will not be on duty together (to cover the 16 hours), my father will need to improve his physical capabilities. We will have a physical therapist come in three days a week to see if he can get back come strength and mobility.

My sister leaves tomorrow, and I will be (for all intents and purposes) the one left to care for my father, with "as available" help from my brothers. Truthfully, if he doesn't improve, I don't think he has long. In just the three days since he came home from the rehab hosp, he's declined, and now has a raspy, congestion in his chest. My one brother who doesn't live nearby is flying in this weekend for a three-day visit. I hope my father lasts at least that long...but much longer would be hard to handle. I'm worn out already.

Anyway, my son came and cooked my birthday dinner which was a nice treat.

And wonders of wonders! My ex actually sent a CS check!  I haven't gotten money from him in about five years, and that was a one-time only check. This was a drop in the bucket, but a very welcomed surprise.

EWB

Nancy- HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

Anonymous

Happy late b-day Nancy!!!

Sorry to hear everything you are going through with your dad...I know how brothers can be...I have 4 of them and am the only girl so most everything to do with mom falls back to me..thankfully she is still basically healthy and able to do for herself...she lives about a mile across town from me so Im close if/when she needs.

Cheryl-Congrads on finishing.....your almost there!!!!!

Sorry for those of you that I missed.....I just did a quick read through this morning and really need to get to work..

Thank all of you for the well wishes for David and I...he isnt exactly new in my life as we have been together for just about a year now but things are just as wonderful now as they were in the beginning so that has to say something!!!!!

Hope all is well wish everyone and I will try to post here a little more often...

Jule

cloudhowe

Hi  Girls

Nettie  here.

Sorry I have beenmissing in action, but my darling nephew pspiled a pinf of lemonade on my laptop, so I am now using my steam powered desktop in my wee home office.

I have had another upper resp infection, but has the anibiotics to hand so was  nothing like as bad as lastmonth, But my mouth has been very sore  - used NYSTOL which helped, and my feet have been to sore to walk on without memory foam insoles. THe never ending  joys of chemo!!!

On the plus side, gettting my last FEC on Friday, bloods permitting, and seeing my consultant onc for the first time since my dx, and feeling SOOOOO  very nervous! I know I have responded to chemo and that the bugger has shrunk, so why am I weepy and aanxious???? maybe I'm scared he'll recommend more chemo post surgery? Anyhow, I'm a wee  bit of a wreck.

The last 2 weeks I have been overwhelmed with fatigue, loke everything is too much of an effort, even making a hot drink. My onc nurse says it's commmon for the fatigue to be cumulative, but I feel so weary and weak, most unlike me!

I am going away the day after chemo to allow my living room to be done, new walls and architraving, but be back in time for my  jabs.

Will have to now discuss surgery with my Breast sureon and I don't know if i am ready for that. Feel a bit overwhelmed and uncertain at the moment, Have not has result of CAT scan (no news is good news, I trust)  Probably because I  have concenrated my resources in to the chemo phase tothe excluson of everything else. Advice guys would be most welcome!!!!

Karen, I had a torn tendon in my shoulder, very painful. They partially attached it to the bone durin my big shoulder op. I am now pain free. It's a simple procedure using a wee anchor. You poor wee thing - no wonder you've beenin pain.

So much has happened in the last 10 days or so, great catching up  with you all and remember you are in my thoughts and in my prayers. Always. Special hugs to Cheryl who  has the heart of a lion and the soul of a dove. Will send you a wee pressie, my dear.

Love and lollipops to all  of you very, very specail people.

Nettie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

1Cathi

Happy B'day Nancy (sorry I am late). And thinking of you and your dad,  and yeah I know how brothers can be too.

Leesa,  I still can't  comprehend how in this day and age people are still so racist,  espically someone in our age group,  but sad to say it's still out there - everywhere.  As far as your DD having children at 23 - who's business is it other than hers and yours, no other family member in my opinion needs to be concerned.  Your a wonderful grandmom, 

Cheryl hope you are feeling MUCH BETTER soon.  Ed, his sister and brother (as was his dad -never met his mom) are the most loving caring kind people ever,  so it is so amazing to all of us what he has with this woman (or should I say thing),  she has a college education, she is a hard worker (same job -  for 14 years, graphic artist assistant) but she has no CLASS or life education.

Nettie - good thoughts coming your way - Lollipops & Love right back at you.

And its ok Barbe  - you can say "I TOLD YOU SO" (LOL) But it was kind of important to me to be the bigger wiser person.

barbe1958

Heheheehe Cathi! I WAS going to say you're the bigger person, but I didn't want you to tell me that MY ass is bigger than yours! HAHAHAHHAHAAHA

Makratz

Happy Birthday Nancy!

portiasproudmom

Barbe, you are priceless!!!!  Thanks for always making me laugh!

Happy belated b-day, Nancy!  I can so relate to the situation with your dad.  My dad was so difficult to handle during his final weeks at home.  My mom was exhausted and we were afraid she'd injure herself trying to help him.  I certainly didn't want him to die, but I was so afraid for my mom.  She's in such good shape for an 80 year old woman.  I want her to be around for at least another ten years!  ((((((((((Nancy)))))))))))

Leesa, you go girl!!  I had to smile at the thought of you pinning that charge nurse against the wall.  Why are people such bigoted, ignorant jerks sometimes?  I just don't get it.  For the record, I think mixed children are absolutely beautiful!  My ex's friend is a very pale, blonde, white man and his wife is a very dark black woman.  They have the most gorgeous children!!  My cousin is 1/4 black, and she's a doll!!  I imagine your grandbabies are the absolute cutest--just like Cathi's sweet grandkids.

I still don't know if my hip will require surgery or if rest and a shot will do the trick.  My onc was going to refer me to an ortho, but they haven't called to schedule me.  I guess I should call, but I'm just so afraid he's going to suggest surgery.  I'm not a baby about having surgery, but I've had four already in the past two years. 

Nettie!!  I just love you so much!  Your posts are so much fun to read.  I can almost hear your voice in my head.  Your accent must be so darn cute!  I'm so sorry that you're still dealing with the upper respiratory infection garbage.  You poor thing!  You're finished with FEC though!!  I can understand your fear that there may be more chemo in your future after surgery.  I'll keep my fingers crossed that you won't need it.  If you do though, you'll breeze through it--you are such a strong lady!!  Hang in there, honey!

You're half-way there, Cheryl!  Whoo hoo!!  The Emerald City is in sight!!

Hi Sheila, Cathi, Jane, Jule, and Elaine!  Love to everyone I haven't mentioned.

Hugs,

Karen

portiasproudmom

Hi Linda!!!!!  How are you today, sweetie??

Okay, I'm off.  The treadmill is calling my lazy a$$!!

Hugs,

Karen

EWB

but is your lazy a$$ answering? Today is a beautiful day here in northern central NJ, thinking I might manage a walk outside this afternoon...accomplished a lot this morning- up, shower, to school w/form for them to sign and chat w/ dd's friends & couple of teachers, off to ortho to get okey dokey note for dd to do cheerlead squad tryouts for Rutgers, to SS office to drop off form school signed and home again. Phew, I'm beat. Maybe soak in hot tub first, or maybe nap, then walk then hot tub then bed time .

Barbe- what would we do with out you?

I think all kids are cute and open and honest and amazing litle people!

Karen- hoping the hip is holding up ok

Cathi- you are most certainly the wiser, kinder person! 

Jule- so glad things are still good! just check in now & again so we know your still having fun

Nettie- alsways good to hear from you! love & lollipops--can't bet that combo--life is good

Cheryl- hang in there chickie, the end is in site! We're here for you, what ever you need!

Hi and happy day to all --- can't remember what else I wanted to say 

Elaine

1Cathi

Barbe you crack me up - Your A$$ is just perfect I just went up to our Florida Store as they call it Bealls (they have a great outlet store too) I had a compelling urge to buy something,  I am so happy, I got some really cute tops that I think look just great boobyless, I paid way to much for one of them, but I just fell in love with it when I saw it - I didn't even try that one on - I knew it was perfect,  and it is when I did get home and tried it. Oh happy day.

NancyD

Ladies, my father was hospitilized again late this morning. There is fluid in his lungs and he was having trouble breathing. He's resting comfortably now with some oxygen, but we have to decide if he gets worse if he should be entubated. It's likely if he is, he'll never get off it. I hate the thought of that. Like a living corpse. His living will just says "no extraordinary measures" which has to be interpretted by my brother who is his health proxy. Thankfully, it's one of the sensible brothers.

So, please say a prayer that he stays comfortable, and when the time comes, passes without pain or anxiety.

1Cathi

How Ironic - I just got this E-mail from a friend - Guess which is my favorite  LOL

We all know those cute little computer symbols called 'emoticons,' where: 

means a smile and 

is a frown. 

Sometimes these are represented by 

:-) 

:-( 

Well, how about some 'ASSICONS?' 
Here goes: 


(_!_) a regular ass 


(__!__) a fat ass 


(!) a tight ass 


(_*_) an ass  hole 


{_!_} a swishy ass 


(_o_) an ass that's been around
(_x_) kiss my ass 


(_X_) leave my ass alone 


(_zzz_) a tired ass 


(_E=mc2_) a smart ass 


(_$_) Money coming out of his ass 


(_?_) Dumb Ass 

You have just been e-mooned!  

1Cathi

Nancy praying for you and your dad and entire family, such hard tuff decisions to make,  I have been in your shoes I know what the emotions are right now.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

my3girls

((((((((((((Nancy)))))))))))))))) hugs to you dear sister. I know this is a heart wrenching time. I will pray for your dad's comfort. Praise God that your father made the sensible brother in charge. Sorry this is happening to you. xoxo.  Sorry we missed your b'day.  How sweet your son is, that he came and made you dinner! You did a good job raising him MOM!  Congrats on the cs check. I have been getting mine regularly...thank goodness.

Ok..Cathi...I read everything about what the dumbass said. There really isn't anything more that I can say, that one of our dear, smart, whitty sisters here has not already said. BUT...the only thing I can say...IS DANG...I WISH I WAS THERE, WHEN SHE SAID IT!! You would have come back with your quick remark...and I would have taken her ASS and kicked it as far as I could!!! Then we would have high five'd each other..and had a good drink to top it off.  One other thing...tell your BIL..there is a single NICE, sweet, smart lady in OHIO...lol...

Cheryl...darling...SO HAPPY you are HALF way there!!! Woohoo....I did 4 rounds of AC..if you have any questions...I am here for you.

I know I don't remember everything...hmmm....Sheila..glad the swelling has reduced...

Cathi...finally looked yesterday and saw the pictures...omg...Olivia and I love..Margo..the dog and her name. Your grandchildren....absolute dolls!!!

Olivia found a dress...we got it from the same website..and it's in the mail. She had to change..and it cost...500.00!!! Do you believe it??? omg! Her dad is going to pay more than half of it..thank God.

I will try and post a link to the web page so you can see it.

Ok..back to work.

Love to you all, Mel, Jane, Karen, Shirlanne, Val, Sue, UB, Nettie, Leesa, Cathi, Sheila, Makraz, Barbe, Cheryl, Jules, Nancy..and anyone else I may have missed.

bbl

xoxo
Lisa

NanaOfTen

((((((Nancy))))))) as you care for your father and the decisions you will be making.

my3girls

ok..I hope this works.

 click on the link..when on the page..click on the box with the dress to the left of the description..and it will zoom in, so you can see it.

 http://www.christinagowns.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=catalog.prodInfo&productID=15228&categoryID=304

EWB

Nancy- so sorry about your Dad! My prayers are with you.

lvtwoqlt

That is a gorgeous prom gown. I know she will be lovely in it.

Nancy, I am sorry that your dad is going downhill so fast. my prayers are with you and your family as well.

Sheila

barbe1958

OMG LISA!!! I think that is truly the most BEAUTIFUL gown I have EVER seen! It is absolutely stunning! I can't wait to see pictures of her in it. If I still had my boobs, that's the kind of dress I would have LOVED for my kids weddings. UNBELIEVABLE! It is so ME! I actually moaned when the picture came up and said "NO WAY!"

Nancy, I have been where you are twice. I know there is a kind of relief that your Dad is in the hospital and in professional hands. It was already draining you and causing tension in your home. There is no way I would have wanted either of my parents to die in my home (or theirs!). They both died in the hospital and the staff know how to allow you to have dignity right to the end. You are all in my prayers. 

my3girls

I love it too Barbe...and I saw it...but thought, nah..she won't like it..then she called me to the computer and asked if I liked it! She has really good taste..and it's  very different from what anyone else will be wearing that's for sure! But...500.00 is sooooooo much money for a prom dress!!! Yikes! I pray her dad comes through with the 300.00! I don't know if you have ever seen pictures of Olivia..but she is dark skinned, and hair..so I think it will really look good on her.

Karen..I saw Portia's pic...she looked so cute..but so darn grown up!!! omg!

Nancy...we were fortunate to have my mom at my brother and sil's home when she passed.  It was nice for everyone to be able to come and visit her and us at their leisure. She was there for not even a week.  Of course the way we were able to do that was, my brother is a doctor and my sil is a nurse, plus hospice came in daily. I get choked up thinking about it...but I remember my brother saying, I will give her as much pain meds as she needs...I don't want her to experience any pain these last days. Your dad will be well taken care of. I said a prayer for his comfort and for our Lord to put his loving arms around you and your family.

Ladies..yesterday I was walking through my backyard...and looked down and there were lilacs growing in the middle of the yard..just sprinkled throughout very randomly.  Lilacs were my mothers favorite flower.  This happened 3 years ago at the same time of year....when my middle daughter Alise was graduating. My mom knows how I sometimes get stressed out over having so much to accomplish at graduation time, with prom, a party, my scrapbooking etc... Well, she used to always say to me.."Lisa Ann...don't worry about any of it...it will all come together and be just fine".  Well..as I bent down to pick a tiny little violet...I got all emotional, as I "heard" my mom say those exact words to me. I told Olivia...your Baba is here for your graduation and for me to keep me calm (although the effexor is doing that well..haha)..and just to let me know she is around.  I just love knowing that.

Love you girls...

Lisa

1Cathi

Lisa the dress is gorgeous. The Lilac story reminds me of my mom and something that happened, she loved all her grandchildren but she and Jaclyn had a VERY SPECIAL bond anyway when she started to get sick she said she would never live to see Jaclyn graduate from high school, and she didn't she missed it by about 8 months,  the day of her graduation I was feeling so sad when they started calling the names thinking of mom,  they got to Jaclyns name and I swear to God a single white dove flew over head (it was outside here in Fla), A tear ran down my face I knew it was my mom,  anyway when it was time to meet up with Jaclyn for pictures the first thing she said was did you see that bird fly over me - THAT WAS GRANDMA, I always remember that.

Barbe,  we could not weat that particular gown, BUT if you click on the 2009 Prom Dress (on the right side) 3-4 pictures come across the top, theres on that is cut straight across with a tie around the neck,  that I think we could wear,  I am going to check it out more it looks real pretty too.

portiasproudmom

Lisa, that dress is gorgeous!  I can just envision Olivia in it.  I swear, that girl looks like a movie star!  Sooooo incredibly stunning!!  Can't wait to see pics! 

I loved the lilac story (and your dove story too, Cathi).  I got all teary-eyed reading them.

Oh Nancy, I'm so sorry about your dad.  Reading your posts brings back all the emotions I felt last August, when my dad passed.  It's so hard....you feel sad that they're in the hospital, which means that their health is declining.  On the other hand, you feel relieved because they're being well cared for and having them at home is so stressful.  I'll pray that he remains comfortable and pain-free until his time comes.  God Bless you and your family.

Love and hugs,

Karen

1Cathi

Barbe - it's the third dress over, have not yet located it on the list of dresses on the site - but I will I think we really could do this, looks to be cut straight across and the tie would keep everything up.  I have actually put a few tops made like that. 

my3girls

Cathi..I just relayed your story about your Mom to Olivia..we both loved it! I love that dress ladies..very pretty!  I also read to Olivia, the story of your BIL's uhhemmm...g/f..trailor trash..nimwit, dumb a$$, clueless..anyhow...and her mouth dropped open! Still wish I had  been there with you girl...the two of us together...that girl probably wouldn't WANT to come around anymore!  Just tell Jim..about your friend in Ohio..I can visit when I visit Olivia in Orlando!

Ok...home and going to scrapbook!!

1Cathi

Oh Lisa I wish he would dump her everyone does ), he really is a great guy and deserves so much better than he gets from her,  he is just setteling, he was married many moons ago, grown daughter in PA, Ed's sis has been married 30 years and of coarse Ed and I met 6+ yrs ago, 3 years ago he found her and it's been hell for him ever sence, we think he just feels like he thinks its his turn to settle down or something weird like that )he's the oldest of the 3) now I realize he is a grown man, and should smarten up,  but I feel so bad for him, I could tell you all kinds of stuff - but won't waste your time about the way she treats and talks to him -  but when he does wise up I will relay the message.  He is a sweetie and deserves a special lady like you.

Good Night All -