please help

1Cathi

Hey Lisa , Ed and I just went for lunch at are favorite place here on the beach "Crabby Bills" when it is just us we sit at the bar (faster service) I was telling him your story, he said what and idiot the bartender was, might actually have been good for business, as maybe other people would have bought a few rounds to celebrate with you and GF.  I forgot that that actually happened to us when we got the news  my nodes were clean, we went there for a drink to celebrate and Ed had made a toast and we had a few drinks sent to us.

I hope he lost $100's of $$$$$$$$ 

NancyD

Cathi, save me a spot at Crabby Bill's!  If Sue comes to FL, I will be down on the next flight and we will have to take her there. I want a lobster hat!

Karen, did I ever tell you my ex is named Greg? Certainly couldn't be the same guy, but there must be something about the name that makes them jerks. That was horrible and the WORST thing a parent could do to their child.

Lisa, I haven't given you my "so-sorry-you-broke-up" condolences. It sounds like things weren't right, and we're at that point in our lives when we don't suffer for love. It's either working, or it's not. Don't fret. You are a very attractive woman in so many ways. I'm sure you will meet many more men, and be able to tell if they are right for you from this experience.

Cheryl... 3 CHEERS FOR CLEAN NODES!  Hurray!  Hurray!  Hurray! 

{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} to everyone else (Ulla...post a hello to let us know you're reading.)

1Cathi

Thats a for sure Nancy, I think I mentioned before they have expanded Crabby's, now have an outside area with live music in the evening,  it was still a bit chilly for me to eat outside, but it was full to max with tourists.  We just love that place. 

There was this little ole lady at the bar with her family, celebrating her B'day (she looked to be in 80"s or so and not over 4ft tall)) well I think she had one glass of wine , she was a riot,  just having a blast, in this high piched voice she kept looking around at everyone saying "AFLAC" - You really had to be there it was hysterical.

portiasproudmom

Mel, I'm going to let Portia read your post when she gets home this evening.  I'm sure it will mean a lot to her.  I know what it's like to have your father think you're an idiot.  My dad was a GREAT father, but he was very much a male chauvinist.  He didn't think women were capable of getting good jobs and being successful without a man to support them.  I knew he didn't have a lot of confidence in my intelligence or abilities, but he NEVER would have spoken to me the way Greg speaks to Portia.  It's shameful!

It must be something about the name, Nancy.  I agree--verbal abuse like that is about the worst thing a parent can do.  It's every bit as harmful as physical abuse, in my opinion.

Crabby's sounds like a blast, Cathi.  Aren't little old ladies a hoot?  My mom is SO funny after she's had a beer.  I always laugh my butt off.  Was she saying "AFLAC" like the duck says it?  How funny!!!!

Later everyone!  It's time to go fish!

Hugs,

Karen

1Cathi

Thats just what she was saying Karen -just like the duck. 

Well I have been putting off sharing some exciting news as so many of you are having sad times with your pets, but I just received new pictures again. So I must share,  we are having a little one come March, she was born Jan 7 (Chihuahua). I had one for many years until she became old /sick. I have wanted another for such a long time,  Ed has always promised for my 50th B'day we would get one.  But my bosses daughters Chi had puppies, so we are doing it early as all we will need to pay is for her shots.  Her name is Margo after the rude neighbor in Christmas Vacation (Chevy Chase) thats the first silly holiday movie we ever watched together and that name has always stuck in Ed's head.  Anyway I am so excited can't wait until she is big enough to bring home, I have held her and she is so tiny.  This is a picture of her when she is just waking up.

NanaOfTen

Cathi, so adorable! My little Sophie is so missing me! My daughter went to my home to get my mail and usually she (Sophie, my cat) only goes to me. When Amanda went in the house, she went to her for some loving. I can't wait to see her again! (siamese baby blue eyes)

Cheryl

1Cathi

Nana I was actually thinking of naming Margo  -Sophie, I watched MAMA-MIA right after seeing her the first time and was really leaning that way, but we have always said when we finally got a puppy it would be Margo, we have a kitty now her name is Roxie,  I think she is going to enjoy the company. She was around my SIL Chihuahua for a week when they visited over the holidays, day one she was a bit nervous  -but was fine after that. 

I hope you are feeling a bit better everyday, and resting as much as possible,  I am SOOOOOOOOO happy about your nodes,  I so recall what great news that was for me as well,  that was the first time Ed cried on this journey we have had,  I had had my biopsy, then the lumpectomy with node excision,  went to see the BS she said nodes were clean, we left the office went to the car and he just broke down, then we went to the bar and had a celebrating drink (or 2).

honeygirl

Oh Cathi! Yes , it has to be Margo. It fits her. Congrats. What an adorable furbaby. I love when people get new furbabies. Its so much fun to share pics and stories. I hope Roxie bonds well with the little sweetie. So much happiness and laughter is in your future. Sounds like you have a very loving hubby. Post pics and have fun with your new baby.xxxx Mel

honeygirl

Cheryl , awww, sounds like Sophie misses mommy! Hope you will  be giving her hugs and lots of love soon. And I have a happy dance for you too! Congrats on the neg. nodes!!!!

footprintsangel

Hello again, I thought I would stop by and wish you all the best. I been battling to get some

help. The hospital I go to has been bought by someone in California and they have cut back on help. And the cancer place has changed names and staff. My new cancer dr got mad cause I didnt go to my regular dr even though the ER told me to go to him.  Honeygirl Nice to see you pepping Deb up, Kathi I love that puppy. Karen, I have a book called The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense Very helpful. To all the other wonderful people here. Hang on to your dream! I will be praying for you. Debbie

cloudhowe

Hello lassies

Scottish Nettie here.

It' 8.30am Sunday aand I am watching American Idol - it's records automatically on my V box. Some of those girls are so CATTY!

Gor my CAT scan Friday - I was ridiculously worried - I had in my mind a kind of iron coffin and the note said it might take an hour and a half. It took 5b mins in a tumbel dryer, made by PHILLIPS and an American voive reminded me to keep breathing - talk about being patronised by a machine .... I slept ALL DAY SAT. Feeling rested now tho'. Missed my wig appt, will have to call Mon to reschedule and apologise ....

I am in the sausage machine now - getting heart ultrasoung Wed, sentinal node biospy Thus @ 8.00am and then my life is is the hands of the gods, or the docs. They seems to think they are the same thing anyway.

SOOOOO my mad cousin Yvonne is coming off her Lighter Life diet (500 cals + supplements) for the day and we are going to tear up Glasgow. So if bootface don't get me chirrosis just might ...

One wee bit of trivia my dear girls. You know the novel 1984, by George Orwell????

Eric Blair aka the aforesaid Mr Orwell wrote it (IN 1948) while recovering from TB in my hospital (Hairmyres, in East Kilbride) | photographed the plaque and will upload it once I work out how to ...

My dears, I am honoured to be counted among you - and now we are off to have a great day without reservation in Glasgow ....

Take the very best of yourselves 

Love and lollipops

Nets xx

livesstrong

Morning Ladies -

My, my you all were very chatty yesterday.

Mel - it is so good to see you back posting.  You are the sweetest lady. Love ya, gf.

Karen - b9b9b9b9b9b9b9b9b9b9b9b - thats all I'm saying. 

Lisa - you work to hard girl.  How is OLiver?

Fumi - pm me OK? 

Cathi- I'm sooo jealous of  the fact that you are in Fl. and I am NOT!!  grr.

Judie - thank you so much for your nice words. I am Aunty Em after all.  hahahaha

Nana - hang in there - we are here for you - to pick you up and give you hugs when you need them.

Nets - same goes for you - enjoy your day in Glasgow and fill us in on your return.

Sue - are you checking out your map??  Do you think you will visit in the fall?

Where are Shirlann & Ulla????  Miss you ladies.

Well, I'm off to start my day.

Hugs,

AE

EWB

So sorry to hear about bad parenting Children have it hard enough these days w/o help from parents.

Yipey for all the good news! Cathi- the puppy is so sweet! Enjoy her.

Hope everyone is well today..Elaine

my3girls

Hi sisters!

AE...I am working too much...but today is day 7 in a row..but I am off for 8 days straight for vacation!! woo..hooo...I will be doing things around the house, getting appts for Oliver and the car, and most importantly...SCRAPBOOKING Olivia's albums!!

Oliver is the same.  I am calling the vet tomorrow. I don't know what has happened to him...he leans to the left anytime you pick him up or even when he runs...it's very strange. He was not like that before surgery.  Not sure if he is overcompensating for some reason. hmmm???
The weather here is in the 50's!! woohoo....a heat wave! lol.  Actually some decent days this week.  Spring can't come soon enough!

Sue...we need to hear from you dearie!  I want to know when you think you will come to the US.

Ulla...We miss you!

Fumi...come back....please!!!

All the rest of my sisters ...love ya all, wish you good hours and days! Ill check back in today.

xoxo

Lisa

Shirlann

Hi dear sisters, I am here, just don't have much to say!  Had the whole gang over for Super Bowl Sunday,  The Turducken was good, but it was not worth $114!!!!  But it was fun to try.

We have seen Slumdog Millionaire, it is wonderful, so if you haven't gone, GO!!!!

Where IS Sue and Ulla???

I go missing and then wonder where they are, what a nut.

I don't have much to report, same old, same old.

Hugs and kisses to all you dears!!  Shirlann 

my3girls

Shirlann!!! Good to see you here.  I missed you!!

Even w/o much to report..we still want to hear from you.

I may have to go see that movie!

my3girls

Sisters..I need your advice.

I am really missing Dennis. However I know that he is probably NOT the one for me. He just doesn't make time for me, and that's not what I want. I do feel since we had not seen each other in 3 weeks, before I ended it, that I need some REAL closure. I want to call and ask if he would meet me somewhere so we could talk...over dinner. I am not even sure that he would answer my call. I have called once...did not leave a msg, and he didn't call back. I text 2 times and no reply. I know he is done..or hurt..not sure which. Am being silly wanting to have some real closure?

I will wait to see how all of you feel about it. I trust your input.

xoxo

Lisa

honeygirl

Hi Debbie , Good to see you again! Sorry you're having trouble with you medical people. I hate when it seems like no one knows what the other is doing , and then they blame you! It seems like every place is being affected by the economy downturn. Hang in there. Hopefully once they are situated , they we be more helpful. Keeping you in my prayers. xxxx Melody

portiasproudmom

Lisa, I've felt the same way in the past.  I've needed real closure.  Rhuel and I were on again and off again for pretty much the entire three years that we dated prior to getting married.  Every time we broke up, it was always without closure.  I'd get fed up and tell him I was done.  He'd never tell me how he felt.  Then I'd contact him and we'd have dinner and talk and then get back together (I'm not saying that you and Dennis will get back together, but who knows?).  I think it would help you to know exactly how he's feeling.  Is he hurt, or really over it??  You'll always wonder "what if" if you don't talk it out with him.  I guess if you call, leave a message, and he doesn't return the call, you'll have your answer.  If you're doubtful at all about your decision to break up with him, you should talk to him.

Poor little Oliver!  I hope he's going to be okay.  He's so darn adorable!

Love and hugs,

Karen 

portiasproudmom

Cathi, Margot is absolutely adorable! I don't usually care for chihuahuas, but she's so cute!!!  You're going to have so much fun with her!

Hugs,

Karen

portiasproudmom

Hi Shirlann!  I've missed you!  Please check in on occasion, even if you don't have much going on in your life.  We love hearing from you!

Hugs,

Karen

honeygirl

Hi Nets! Sounds like you and your friend is gonna have a great time. Slam one down for me!

Wow , thats really neat about George Orwell. Didn't know he had TB.

Isn't American Idol a riot!? I love watching it. Some of those people are really awful singers! They couldn't pay me enough to get up and sing , so more power to them.

Good luck with all the test. Let us know how the wig shopping went.xxxx

Hi AE! Hope you had a good day. Hows UB doing? Did you guys have some nice weather today? Our weekend was in the 50s' here! Spring is just around the corner.AHHHHH... Hows sweet Dilbert doing? Hope all is well.xxxx

Hi Elaine! Good to see you. You are in NJ too. Hope your weather was good too. Hope you had a good weekend. xxxx

Hi Shirlann! So good to hear from you. You know how we all worry when ladies don't check in. That includes you! I want to see that movie. It looks good from the trailers they show. So you tried some Turducken!?! Do you taste each individually , or do the flavors meld together? I wanted to try some ever since I saw Paula Deen cook one. Wasn't that a great superbowl? Go Steelers!!!! We are the champions of the world!!!! OK , I'll quit.lol Hugs to you.xxxx

Dear Fumi. I pmed you.I hope you are OK. We sure do miss you. Please let us know you are OK.xxxx

Ulla honey , we miss you too. I know you are busy with life , just stick your head in here for a minute and say hi , and that you are OK.xxxx

Hi Lisa! I think you should call him. Why not. You two need to talk again. If not to patch things up , then as you said , for closure. Call and then let us know what happens. Love you girlfriend.xxxx

Hope everyone had a good weekend. Talk to you all later. Melody

portiasproudmom

Debbie, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with your cancer center.  I know that confidence in your health care providers makes such a difference.  Take care and stay strong, honey!

Hugs,

Karen

PS  I may just have to go buy that book--thanks for the recommendation!

portiasproudmom

Debbie, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with your cancer center.  I know that confidence in your health care providers makes such a difference.  Take care and stay strong, honey!

Hugs,

Karen

PS  I may just have to go buy that book--thanks for the recommendation!

EWB

Melody- GO Steelers!  What a game . Are you also NJ girl?

Lisa- It is of course your decision in the end, but is it Dennis you miss or the familarity of Dennis and the two of you? The comfort of someone being there? The comfort of Dennis being there? So sorry that all this is happening, as if there isn't enough stuff to deal with. Be strong dear one.

So tired tonight and achy- Hope everyone is well, sweet dreams to all, prayers for a good, no great week!

Elaine

Anonymous

Dear ones,

No wisdom tonight, but reading all the posts I can echo all the words of encouragement, advice, and empathy. After two very, very difficult days of sorting through my son's belongings I am beyond exhausted phyisically and emotionally. Just know that I am here in spirit.

Hey Shirlann!!!! Great to "see" you. Y'know, turducken is a wonderful topic. We need something sensual going on around here and what better than food???

My daughter had bratwurst and brownies for dinner. I didn't get any.

1Cathi

Hey Lisa,

I have been pondering your question all AM, if closure is what you need then by all means try and reach him,  maybe he is feeling hurt and that is why he has not called you back,  you know these men will not eaisly let their "MACHO" side down much. 

The other thing is you said he was not making time for you and thats not what you want, to that I say 'DON'T SETTLE THEN" your a beautiful young woman and like me you suffered in a Horrible marriage for years, don't take LESS, than what you WANT -NEED  or DESERVE!!!!

If long term comittment is what you desire, then don't stop until you find that Special Someone. Buttttttttttttttt if you and Dennis do talk and you are both HAPPY with an Ocassional Happy Date (YOu Go Girl!!!)

I don't want to sound rude/crude,  but after 20+ years married to Mr. %$#$#@# and this whole BC thing,  if Ed were ever to change , if he were to get boring, rude ,  lazy, uncaring , self centered etc -  it would be TA-TA.  Time to move on.  I don't have time to waste. 

Lisa I hope and pray everything works out the best for YOU!!!!!!

XOXOXOXOXO-Cathi

my3girls

Thanks for all the advice ladies.  I do need some closure..esp. since I had not even seen him for 3 weeks when this ended.

Cathi...I agree with you! I would like more eventually...maybe not right at this time..but I doubt he can give that. And yes darn it I DO DESERVE IT!! I have to keep convincing myself of that.

Enjoying the start of my week off...but much to do..and trying to get motivated!

xoxo

Lisa

cloudhowe

Woe is me!

I spent 2 hours just crying and feeling so sorry for myself yesterday, just because my washing machine broke down halfway through a cycle!. I ordered a new one and that's £400 I can ill afford at this time. I missed my wig appt - I have had so much to do and now I feel so awfully exhausted and I havent even started chemo yet. I still have a full head of black hair and to be honest, I can't image not having it.  I have bought my scarves and hats etc, but I don' t think anything is really registering. My weapon to the world is to be nonchoclant and dismissive of this thing but I am shaken to the core.

I thought that I was so organised but I know that I am totally unprepared.  Be damned if I let anyone know however.

How painful is lymph biopsy? I don't know what to expect on Thur, so I am trying to do everything in anticipation, my wee house is sparkling clean!!!! I do wish I could sleep, might get some knockout pills from the doc.

Oh God what a misery guts you guys must think I am - and I'm so not. I am just scared shitless and as the treatment schedule nears I am in terror. But there is no way I will show it, it's just not me. And if I react in public, it will make it all too real and upset my family.

Is it ok to be around your animals during chemo? I have three wee cats who stick to me like glue - they sleep on TOP of me in rotation.

It's cathartic being able to unload, and I do hope I'm not boring or depressing you guys. It's so cold here, we get cold in Scotland but this is unprecedented - it hit zero in Aviemore today - a beautiful wee ski resort village in the Cairngorm mountains today (I used to live there, incidentally) and we are under a foot of snow here. A lot of the schools are closed and transport is unpredicable. All this and we are in the grip of a recession. Talk about everything coming together at once.

My sweet sisters, I will now try to grap a few zzzzs. Will let you know how went the biopsy later on in the week - do you think I will get the path results on the day? I think I will, after all I had the mammo, ultrasound biopsy and result with 2 hours on the day I was dx

And I have just spotted a job in Glasgow that is perfect for me and highly paid and I won't be able to apply for it!

Please tell me that things will get better!

Nite babes

livesstrong

(((((((((((((((((((Nets))))))))))))))))))))) - one is never prepared totally for bootface - we just put one foot in front of the other and just keep moving.

Are you having a sentinal node biopsy?  I had one - it is not bad at all -  you will do fine. I freaked out over  losing my hair but frankly, once it was gone I didn't miss it.  So much easier & quicker in the morning, you'll see. Once you get a plan & schedule in place you will feel better - like you have some control back in your life.

Don't worry about boring us we are here for you and will help youtravel that yellow brick road to OZ.

 Please keep in touch.

AE