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my3girls

Hi sisters.

I didn't get a chance to read thru all of the posts. I had a long day in Atlanta yesterday (meeting). I flew down on a 6am flt and because of huge rain storms, I did not land here until after midnight!! Long day.  Got my hair trimmed this morning and I am working today for someone.  Needless to say, I am tired!!

Ladies..I need your prayers again. A very dear friend here at work...Tonya...just one of the sweetest ladies you will ever meet...anyhow, her mother has battled breast cancer two times!! The last time was 8 yrs ago.  Well, she just found out, it is now in her bones and they believe her lungs!! Tonya was in tears today...we both were..we hugged and cried! DAMN BOOTFACE....I HATE YOU SOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!!! WHY, WHY DO YOU DO THIS TO BEAUTIFUL INNOCENT PEOPLE!! I AM SO ANGRY AND SAD ABOUT THIS!! This dear lady is only 64 yrs young...and her and Tonya are so close.  I know her outlook does not look good, and if they tell her to do chemo, she does not want to do that again.  Please sisters keep Tonya and her mom on your prayer list!!

Thanks!! So sad...........

xoxo

Lisa

1Cathi

PRAYERS & LOVE LISA FOR YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS.

XOXOXOXOXOXO

livesstrong

Hello All - hope you are having a great evening.

Welcome shari - come and sit a spell - tell us your story - don't worry - we can relate!

Lisa - it just never ends, I swear.  Sigh.  Hugs to Tonya & her Mom.

Cathi - how many people you have coming to your party?  What are you wearing?  We are going to need pictures. lol.

Karen - how is your Mom doing?

Shirlann - hoping your keeping your med's straight.

Jane - good to see you - pop in when you can - we miss you.

Judie - where are you????  Same for you Mel.

Sheila - so glad your son is home safe & sound - PHEW!!

Sue - how's the head???  UB wants to know when your coming to NYC.

Nancy - that sucks about the boosts.  How could they have forgotten???  I had to sign in everytime I went and they had the days numbered. Guess every place does it different.

So its countdown to NYC  - 10 more days!!  woohoo.

Did you I tell you ladies its me & UB's wedding anniversary on Saturday - 22 years!!!  Boy do I feel old. hahahaha. I'll have to find an old picture of us to post - we could all have a good laugh.

Love you all,

AE

1Cathi

AE -  we will have between 23&35 people,  if you make it to Lakeland or near here  next year you will have to come,  we do throw good parties if I say so myself.  I really don't know what I am going to be except  maybe just to say -'TRASHY" (but not to bad) I collect hats for my granddaughter and I to play with all kinds big floppy ones, pill box, you name it I got it -I found this new one big brim with leopard print feathers and bow - and I found this pair of real high heeled leopard print shoes - have a sexy black dress and matching gloves -  my last chance to show off the girls -LOL.  I just love to dance and give me a glass of wine or two and like I said before no stopping me. I put the young ones (20ish) to bed. Now that my daughter has matured to a whopping 28 -  she can appreciate her mom having fun -I no longer embarras her (HA) she brings her friends to watch.  I tell Alexcis (granddaughter) if your hairs not a mess -your not having fun!

I wish you all could be here

portiasproudmom

You are a woman after my own heart, Cathi!  I wish we could all be there too!

My mom is doing okay, AE.  She still breaks down and cries every day.......I usually tear up with her.  I hate seeing her so sad.  My mom is my very best friend.  I'm so glad I can be here for her.  Happy Anniversary to you and UB.  I'd LOVE to see an old photo of the two of you.  I'll bet you were so cute back then!!!

Lisa, I'll say prayers for Tonya and her mom tonight.  God, I hate this stupid disease! 

Hugs to everyone,

Karen

Wren

Welcome Shari! Hope you stay awhile!

Shirlann, my son bumped his lip on a playground and had a hole there for a while too years ago. The doctors said they don't sew them up so that the germs in the mouth won't infect it... That was about 20 years ago! I still get a little creeped out thinking about it... LOL!

Karen, I'm thinking of you and your mom.

Cathi, I hope you have a blast at your party. I was where you are a year ago... and I remember all those feelings... I went away for a weekend with my husband and we said 'goodbye' to the breasts that served me well for all my life. As scared as I felt, I also realized that I was strong and brave and doing absolutely the best thing I could for myself by letting my breasts go. Sometimes I cry and sometimes I laugh... I tell my family and friends that my old boobies are on vacation somewhere without me, but that's OK because they were trying to kill me anyway...

Judie, and Ulla, and Fumi--and anyone else I didn't mention---I'm thinking of you all.

Prayers for Tonya too!

Hugs to you all!!!

shari1232

Thank you so much for the warm welcome.  I REALLY appreciate it!  (If I hadn't capitalized "really" you wouldn't believe me, right?!)...  I'm 43 soon to be 44.  My Oncotype came in at 18, and I decided not to do chemo after the lumpectomy.  I just found out a few days ago that I got in to a clinical trial for Mammosite (otherwise, I was too young to get it...) and DID get "randomized" into the Mammosite versus whole-breast radiation.  I'll have my surgery to get the balloon in soon (will hear today I hope) and get this part over with and be on Tamoxifen...  This BOOTFACE (yay for this excellent term!!!!!!) is more of a personal struggle for me than anything else.  I try not to get too introspective; it makes me too sad.  I had just been offered a new job -- first interview before bx, second after dx.  Almost no one at work knows.  No chemo will make it less obvious, and the week or so for the Mammosite will be less intrusive than 35 days of external beam.  I've made my decisions and am not looking back.  More later.  Hugs to you all, and those you know who are struggling.

lvtwoqlt

Shari, I had my first lumpectomy for ADH (pre-cancer) at age 44 and my surgeon suggested I consider Tamox because of my strong family history of breast and ovarian cancer. I had my 2nd lumpectomy for ADH (other boob) at age 45 one month before turning 46 and my doctor said tamox was no longer optional and I started tamox on my 46 birthday. You might want to start the tamox slowly (half dose for a month or two) so your body doesn't totally rebel against the medicine, if your onc agrees. I didn't and had severe hot flashes and terrible mood swings. Of course when I tried taking birth control pills about 11 yrs ago, I was the wicked witch of the west (according to my husband and son), so any hormonal medicines really don't agree with me. I opted for the bilat after my DCIS dx 6 months after my 2nd lumpectomy and didn't need rads or chemo so I can't help you with the rads questions.

Lisa I too will say a prayer for your friend and her mom.

Cathi, I hope you do have fun at your party. I tell people I wanted these ticking time boobs off!

Sheila

shari1232

Thank you so much for this information, Sheila!  I also had several excisional biopsies on both sides (since my late teens, all b9 tumors) and was FLABBERGASTED to find out that my BRCA1 and 2 were both NEGATIVE with a strong family history of breast cancer... I thought for sure I'd be positive and had the mindset of double mastectomy if anything else happened... now, not so sure, but still kinda sure... But that's not happy thinking, so I'm trying to just deal with tx for what I've got to prevent now...  The wording of all this just SUCKS.  I HAD breast cancer.  For, um, a month from dx to lumpectomy.  I don't have it now.  I probably had it in me without my knowledge for some 4 years.  GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR at all of this.

lvtwoqlt

My mom was dx with ILC in 2001, she had 15 or 17 nodes removed and 8 positive. She did the single mast, chemo and rads and is doing great. Her sister passed away from ovarian cancer at age 37 in 1978. My mom did the brca test after her surgery and was negative, I didn't do the tests but my and her surgeon told me that the multiple incidents of ADH in less than 2 yrs increased my chances for invasive (he said it was not a matter of IF but WHEN) and after the 2nd lump he suggested I consider bilat so I actually had 6 months to think it over. I was tired of the 6 month mammo, biopsies, lumpectomies that when I heard the mammo was abnormal for the 3rd time I was ready for these 'ticking time boobs' to come off. It was actually 6 weeks from biopsy to surgery by the time I had follow up appointment with my surgeon to tell him my decision, consultation with ps, and the two surgeons to arrange their schedule for the OR. My final path report didn't show any additional DCIS but more ADH in both sides.

My avitar is myself and my mom. It is the picture in the local breast cancer calendar for 2009. Just a reminder for those who wanted a calendar,  I have a couple of them reserved for those who said they want one but I am running low on my supply.

Sheila

1Cathi

Hi All,

Busy in the party prep mode,  between this and work I have been so busy have not had a moment to think bad thoughts -YEAH.

But I must share with you a conversation I just had with my daughter that lives in NY (she is 26) I am just cracking up -  this is why we LOVE our children unconditionaly. She was asking how my cold was if my lungs were cleared up yet - bla-bla-bla  told her that on Wednesday BS has ordered blood work and chest X-ray before surgery Friday, she just calmly says "you know last night I was thinking (that can be hard for her at times -LOL) I haven't been to a funeral in a long time -noone in our family has died in awhile"  I just started cracking up -  Well Amanda lets keep it that way and thanks for the good vibrations - Then her lightbulb went off and she got it. 

I love my girls!!!!!!

HAVE A GREAT - GREAT DAY AND WEEKEND - "ROCK ON!'

lvtwoqlt

Sometimes you have to love your kids to keep from choking them. My son asked me Saturday while he was waiting on his flight from Chicago to Buffalo that he wanted me to send him the winter coat he purchased when he was home for Christmas 06. I told him I would but I needed his address he said I will get it to you. Tuesday he asked me if I sent the coat yet, he was going to need it in a couple of weeks. I told him you haven't given me your address yet and I don't think UPS can deliver it to your phone. He sent me his address in a txt message and the coat should be delivered Monday.

Sheila

1Cathi

You are very right about the children Shelia -  I am still laughing about what she said -  but she put this great thing on her My Space abouut me being her hero -  so I guess I'll stop teasing her about it now.

XOXOXOXOXOXO

lvtwoqlt

My son wanted to be here when I had my surgery, but the DOD didn't consider my bilat surgery reason for emergency leave. He did manage bereavement leave the following week after my father-in-law passed away from liver cancer. He cried the first time he saw me and kept appologizing to me for him not being there the day of surgery. He also says that I am his hero, and also said he bragged to his ship mates that my mom had a 'boob job and had big boobs!' Almost in the vein of put downs - 'your mom wears combat boots'. Even though my recon did not make me 'much' bigger than I was before, I am just not lopsided anymore.

Sheila

honeygirl

Hello ladies and UB! Welcome Shari! So good to have you here. Yes , we are one special group! We laugh one minute , cry the next and then laugh again. But we are always here for each other. So glad you found us. My oncotype was 23. And the tumor board vote for chemo. So I did it. No radiation though. Had a mast. with recon. and am now on tamoxifen. See my onc every three mos. So far , so good , as Shirlann would say! Good luck to you.xxxx

Karen , good to see you honey. Glad you are able to be with your mom and help her through her sorrow and tears. Its wonderful that you are so close to your mom. So good to hear you will be starting to build in a month. How exciting. We want pics!xxxx

Cathi , you crack me up! I would love to come to one of your parties. Sounds like lots of fun. Love the outfit you are gonna wear. I bet hubby does too! Yes , you must post some pics of your party.

Have fun!xxxx

Hi Kaloni , I remember that scary but excited feeling of moving out on your own. You will be just fine. Take some pics so you can share your home with us. Love you. xxxx

Sheila , how funny about your son. Sounds like something my son would do. Just glad he is getting his coat!xxxx

Lisa ((((((((lisa)))))))))))) I will be praying for Tonya and her mom. So sad. I'm glad you are there for her. Sounds like you need some rest young lady. Take care of you Lisa. xxxx

Hi to Wren , Shirlann , Jane , Jule , Fumi , Ulla , Nancy , Md mouse , AE , UB , Sue , Suebee , and anyone I didn't mention. Love to you all. Melody

honeygirl

Judie , thinking of you and hope things get better soon. Hugs , Mel

Shirlann

Hey girls!

WELCOME SHARI!  You are soooo welcome~!

HI SUE!!!!   Love bug, you sound soo much better.  This gets better then maybe you backslide, then better, then, ta daaaaaa, you feel like your old self.  Remember, you only have one year to worry! 

Karen, this sounds so familiar!  We had so many broken bones with our three boys, that the orthopod told me he wasn't a family doctor!  He was great.  Boys, that is what you get.

AHEM, no one could tell, but I have lost 16 pounds, 30 to go, hahahahaha, I always say, 10 pounds your husband notices, 20 pounds your best friend notices, after that, people don't recognize you.  I sure hope I can keep it off this time.  That is my problem, I can lose, I love all the rules, but I just gain it all back, what a PLONKER!!!, I am.

Hugs and kisses to all my dear friends, Shirlann

livesstrong

Hi Ladies - as promised - me & UB 22 years ago -

"My FIL, SIL, UB & ME, My 2 BIL's

 Boy were we skinny, sigh

honeygirl

AE and UB ,

Happiness always! xxxx Melody

honeygirl

AE , love the pic! You looked beautiful. And UB very handsome. Its so good to see a couple still in love and happy after all the years. Bless you both.

Shirlann , that is just great!!!! You keep at it , you can do it. I know what you mean though. I am a yo-yoer from way back! If I could just get going this time! You do inspire me. Love ya , Mel

sueps

AE ......I love love love the pic !!!!!!!  sigh...they dont make them like they used to...look at you all so full of love!!!! and 22 years ...my oh my ...that is good going..... hahaha I always laugh when I read UB .... DOES HE KNOW HE IS AN UNCLE TO ALL OF US lol.... I love you AE XXX

 Mel ...I am piling on the pounds...could it be my muscles are worn with the chemo...I have a jelly belly and a big ass....OH MY GOSH I AM GOING ON HOL IN 4 WEEKS...I am going to look like a beached whale....ARGHHHHHHHH .....ewwwwww...... I am dreadin it !!!

I hate flying ...do you think the plane will crash...up the runway with rickety wheels...or the under carriage wont come down on landing.... oh my oh my I am starting to worry....

Shirlann you are a Plonker hahahaha ...a beautiful plonker xxx

Ok I am off for a brew...I am sick to the back teeth of my chemo pain...it has ruined my bones ..I tell ya ...freakin ruined them!!!!!

STINKING LEATHERFACED BOOTFACE !!!!!!!! 

sueps

honeygirl

Sue ,lolololololLOLOLOLOLOLOLlolololLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh my gosh Sue , to funny. Unfortunately for me , to true! You my friend , do not look anything like this. Now I know you probably feel this way , cause no matter how big you are , when you gain weight , it makes you feel like the person on the beach above. So , have fun at the beach , make it your time to eat healthy and come back feeling positive about that part of you. Or , get drunk daily and cover all the mirrors and keep repeating "fat is where its at"!!! lol Love you Sue.xxxx Mel

Has anyone seen my thong?!

kathimdgd

OMG,These pictures crack me up!! Good we can still laugh .

Kathi

livesstrong

Thanks for the compliments ladies, now I look like this -

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I'm ready for Cathi's party!!!

honeygirl

Hi Kathi , glad to see you here , and that you can laugh with us.

AE! Now thats a wonder woman! Boy , what a trio we make! Lets all go to Cathi's party. It would never be the same again! ps- AE , you must give me tips on how you get your hair so high. Mine is so fat , I mean flat.

sueps

 AE ..YOU WILL BE LIKE THIS AT CATHI'S PARTY ....LOLOLO.LLOLOLOL X

sueps

Is that really you in that wonder woman costume AE ...you really do look the part...love the shoes too!!!!    

sueps

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA ....you're walking down the street with it on LOLOLOL

sueps

Gosh we have all put on weight...Mel I fink you need help honey ...you look so uncomfortable in that red piece xxx Why not get a bigger size XXXX love youxxx your hairs looking great ...needs combing though!!!