please help

EWB

Jule. prayers all around!

1Cathi

Oh Karen I feel for you,  teenn daughters are hard enough witout having to be the ref between her and DH,   I wish I had some words of wisdom or help, but I too have extra room if you REALLY REALLY do want a vacation from all that crap.  Sounds like they could both use a bit of a lesson in RESPECT for the other.  Teen girls pretty much hate everyone for awhile, it stinks but its just the way it is.  I am sending you good thoughts for a COMPLETELY STRESS FREE DAY.

Jule - praying for all good results on the mammo , happy the family is doing better

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

lvtwoqlt

Karen, I do feel for you also. I never acted that way to my parents and they never acted that way to me. It does sound like you do need to get away for a couple of days.

Jule, my fingers are crossed that the vancomycin keeps working it's magic on David and he can fully recover. I also have everything else crossed for boringly normal results on your mammo tomorrow. I can't help you any with SE's from femara, I only experienced Tamox for 6 or 8 months and don't want to take it any more. My husband said that the tamox made me the *itch from He**. He also said the same thing when I tried birth control pills when we got together 13 yrs ago. I guess I am not to alter my hormones.

I hope that all are having a good day today. It is the 3rd day in a row without any rain! We had to have Sunday school yesterday in the sanctuary at church in one large group due to flooding in the basement of the church last week. Serv-Pro is working on drying out the basement, hopefully we won't have to replace any of the dry wall but we will have to replace the flooring that we just put down about 3 yrs ago. They did contact the insurance and waiting to hear if it will pay to replace everything.

Sheila

Sheila

barbe1958

Ah Karen! I think you should send the two of THEM away for a weekend! TOGETHER! Make it or break it, baby! They do grow up, though. Hang in there, take drugs....hehehehehehe. I know, not funny. But it is their problem not yours so you shouldn't have to be the one to abandon all hope. She is setting a poor example for what Chase will do. Her hormones are probably racing too! Is Rheul her biological Dad?

Jule, meant to ask yesterday, did they ever figure out where/why/how David got MRSA? Scary that you can just pick it up anywhere! Glad he is improving. I thought about you and him while I was away. 

Makratz

Karen and Jule, thinking of you both.  I like Barbs idea!!

geebung

Hi everyone,

I have briefly scanned the posts of the last week. Jule - my thoughts and prayers are particularly with you and David. I pray that he continues to improve and the medication demolishes the infection and that your mammo goes really well and you get a great and reassuring result.

Karen, my heart goes out to you. I think that the most difficult thing about marrying for the second time is the relationship between your kid/s and your partner. I don't envy step parents - it must be extremely difficult. Yet, as the mother, you feel protective of your child and the stress of trying to keep the peace. I pray that Portia and Rhuel can work this out. Also, I hope Portia is feeling betterr by now.

Wecome back Barbe! Can't wait to see pics of the wedding. Glad you had a great time.

Cathi - wow! You look gorgeous!

I arrived home from visiting my sister & mum last night. I was able to help her (sister) with housework and cooking while she rested after her recent illness. We visited our mother each day. My mum was very weak and not eating most of the time while I was there but she has improved in the last few days. She is so thin - how can somebody continue to live in such a state? The doctor now thinks she may not have bootface - he thinks it might be a very large and rapidly growing ovarian cyst. At her age, they don't want to do invasive test/treatment to get an exact diagnosis. They are keeping her comfortable and she doe look very relaxed and peaceful. When asked if she is comfortble she replies that she is. 

Love to everyone

Jane xoxox

barbe1958

Ah Jane, tough trip for you to make! Hugs for you all.....

Makratz

Jane, thinking of you and your Mom.  I hope things get better for her.

lvtwoqlt

Jane, I know it is hard seeing your mother like that, my prayers are with your family.

guess what, I realized last night that it was my 2 yr anniversary of my surgery! It is hard to believe that it has been only 2 yrs, it seems so long ago that I got the call. I should have realized it all day yesterday when I was trying to remember that it was June 1 not May everytime I had to type the date.

Sheila

Makratz

Yeah for 2 years SHeila!!!  My 1 year is tomorrow.

1Cathi

Jane - thanks for the compliment. Senind prayers and thoughts your way for you & mom and sis as well. Such a tuff thing. 

Hard to believe how fast time flys Shelia, I am almost at 3 year DX date, but it seems more like I have been dealing with BC for 20  years.  Kind of weird that we almost celebrate such bad ocassions - oh well.

Hope everyone has a good day,   My hip annd leg is a monster today,  I try so hard to do mind of matter - "it doesn't hurt that bad" I tell myself,  well days like today make that almost impossible - again OH WELL.

EWB

Jane, so glad you were able to visit with your sister & mom, I imagine it must be difficult not being closer. Hope your mom continues to improve, sounds like her doc is caring and watching out for her.

Congratulations on all the anniversaries!!

EWB

Cathi- posting at the same time....so sorry to hear about leg & hip. Hope you feel better reeeeaaalllyyyy soon!

lvtwoqlt

For me it isn't celebrating but more like marking off the milestones in my life. like my baptism and spine surgery when I was 11, moving to a new state when I was 15, attending 3 different high schools in 4 years, graduating from high school and college, getting married the first time, dealing with an abusive husband, having a baby and getting a divorce the same year, going back to college for a technical degree as a single parent while working full time, finding the love of my life after 10 yrs single, being dx with pre-cancer twice then within 2 yrs of the first dx, being dx with cancer. These are all important dates that I want to remember but not necessarily celebrate.

Sheila

barbe1958

Good point Sheila. Remember, not forget. Just like forgive, but don't forget. That helped me deal with a lot of issues; I was able to forgive, but that didn't mean I had to forget.

Milestones, not celebrations...

Makratz

Very well put Sheila.

1Cathi

Your quite right indeed Shelia, I think we can all however use a few less of such milestones.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXO

Anonymous

Barb-we know that this mrsa thing started with a spider bite....uncanny enough, David was bitten while spraying the foundation of the house with insect spray to help keep them from coming in the house. We figure the little bugger was in the spray handle as we had stored the container in the garage over the winter.....after that we went salmon fishing and that is where they think the staff infection came from....they said that everyone has staff and it just takes something to set it off.....the spider bite had festered and was open, even though he worn a bandage on it the goop from cleaning the salmon we caught started the staff and the next thing we know its what they are calling "the super bug"....

The meds are still working well..he is on the 12 hr iv's still....he was told yesterday by the nurse that this drug is only usable for a 10 day run and he only has 3 days left of use after today so hopefully they will put him on a pill form so its not so rough on him.....

Im nervous, but hanging in there.....diagnostic bilateral mammo is 2:00 pm this afternoon....thank you for all your thoughts and support through all this...You ladies are WONDERFUL!!!!!!

Jule

Makratz

Jule,

You have been through way too much.  You are an amazingly strong woman!!  Best of luck today with the mamo. We all know how nerve racking that is.  Please let us know.

I will be keeping your whole family in my prayers.

1Cathi

PRAYERS JULE - XOXOXOXOXOXOXO

portiasproudmom

I'm sending TONS of positive energy and prayers across the mountains for you, Jule!  Thanks for the invite--I may have to take you up on it if the "children" can't learn to play nicely!  I'm so glad to hear that David's infection seems to be clearing up.  What a scary thing!!

The time does fly, doesn't it Sheila?  It will be two years for me in September.  Seems like a lifetime ago, but then again, it's so fresh in my mind, it could have been yesterday.  You're right about it just being a milestone, not something to celebrate.

I'm so sorry you're in such pain, Cathi.  Do pain meds help at all?  I'll pray that it gets better.  I want you to have a GREAT summer!  I'd love to come to Florida one day.  I think we'd have a blast hanging out!!! 

Thanks to everyone for your support regarding DH and Portia.  They had absolutely no contact yesterday.  I made it clear that I wasn't going to play referee anymore.  I think they finally are beginning to understand how hard it's been on me over the years. 

You are all the greatest!  What would I do if I didn't have this thread to come to? 

Love and hugs to all,

Karen

1Cathi

Well good luck Karen, I am thinking of you everday - it is not any easy time for sure.

Onco has prescribed Hydracodine (sp), that helps because it makes me sleep -  so I really hate taking it. Tylenol does nothing, asprin does help some, but of coarse thats terrible for the tummy.  Most days I can overcome and function with it, but every now and again it's unbearable and sometimes just makes me want to cry.  When I say PAIN its kind of misleading I guess, it is such a deep and throbbing ache, I think of pain as being sharp and jabbing. What ever it hurts like hell today.

barbe1958

{{{{{{{{{{{ Cathi }}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Jule you are in my thoughts and prayers....

Karen, you done good

geebung

Cathi, your aching sounds very painful to me. I so hope it improves soon. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Sheila, you are so right. We remember the good and the bad things. We look back with happiness on the good and, as far as the not so good and the bad, I think we can be thankful that we survived them and/or learnt from them. 

Jule, I'm continuing to pray that David's infection will be knocked out. Good luck with your mammo today.

Love to all,

Jane xoxox

Shirlann

Hi sisters, well, whatever anyone thinks, MRSA is a hospital developed infection, but it is now out among us, so who knows?

I am better, I FINALLY got to an Orthopod and he told me I had hips like a 1o year old, not mets, no arthritis, nothing.  Hmmm, I immediately felt better!  What's up with that?

And my son Marshall is getting better each day, that is the last time he will go cold turkey off of Paxil.  The nut.

I just kinda skimmed over all the posts, it is good to see so many old friends and new ones too.

Hugs and kisses, Shirlann 

barbe1958

Shirlann, glad both you and your son are on track! You done good

Makratz

Hey Shirlann, Thanks for checkng in and the update on you and your son.  Glad things are going well.

my3girls

Hi Girls!!

Sorry, I have been MIA.....or should I say...BURRIED IN MY SCRAPBOOKING!!!!! HELP!!! haha...just wanted to check in quickly and say hello.  I briefly scanned the posts.  Sorry about pain for Cathi, and I hope Jule's mammo went well....let me try and remember...Jane...so sorry about your poor mother..she is so frail..you are a good daughter!

Karen..your post I really remember...only because I CAN TOTALLY RELATE!!! About the teenage girls..and tension. I don't have a husband..but my two (which are both home now) can fight like two crazy women.  I HATE the tension too!!! I laid the law down yesterday...and so far so good!

Girls..you know I THINK about each and everyone of you....just taking this vacation week..to get caught up on the life book for Olivia! I am on 2002...so 11 years down...6 to go!!! It really is turning out beautifully!  Got some housework done too..and tomorrow I am cleaning out the garage...in preperation for the party on June 27th. So....my vacation is ALL WORK!! oh well...at least I am able..right?

Love you all!!

xoxo

Lisa (ps..thanks for all of your prayers and thoughts. Kim's sister is pretty close to the end, but she has not passed yet. My cousin, was transfered to his home..and hospice will be coming in)

Anonymous

Well the news for today??

Davids doctor said that if all goes well he will only have to have tonight and tomaorrow mornings iv, then they will change him to a pill form....thankfully that part of everything is just about dealt with....whew!!!!!

As for me...Im waiting on the mammo.....they called about an hour before I was suppose to be there to cancel because the machine was broken....she asked if I wanted to re-schedule for Thursday afternoon.....I turned it down and re-scheduled for Monday morning....there is ABSOLUTELY NO WAY Im going to worry about results all weekend...

I didnt have time to read, but thank you all for your thoughts I really appreciate them and so does David...

I have a long day ahead tomorrow as I have meetings in Spokane all day...will leave early and come home late....but on the bright side of that....I get to leave early on Friday ...for those of you who dont know Spokane is about a 2 1/2 hr drive from here...I will have my laptop so might check in here during the drive up as a co-worker is going so I will let him drive...well, only if his driving doesnt scare me that is!!!

Wishing the best for everyone

Hugs

Jule

1Cathi

Oh Jule sorry the appointment was postponed, I would have rescheduled just as you did, good news for David hope all continues on the right track for him.

Shirlan great news as well for you and your soon. 

Lisa your a busy little thing. This AM is starting out much better than yesturday,  the ache is at a tolerable level, I did end up taking pain pill yesturday just became too much - then of coarse I had to sleep it off for a few hours, narcotics and I don't tolerate each other very well, I alwasy get freaky dreams no matter the drug, no matter the dose.  Just gotta keep on keeping on - I have a full summer calander this year. 

My daughter and her DH (I can not stand him) and children are talking of moving to Fl, they have done that before though. He is a mechanic and just got laid off last week at the job he had for several years at the Quary in the town they live in.  The town she lives in is just HORRIBLE, I hated it there when I married Ex and moved,  and it is so poor, always was, but now with economy even worse.  It is about 50 miles west of Albany NY,  so we shall see,  I would love to have her here,  she doesn't even feel bad about leaving her dad,  guess they don't get along so well anymore -  lets see as she put it he is to into his "Crack Wh- - - s"   I never played the "your father sucks" card with either of them, Jaclyn has disliked him for years on her own,  but I guess Amanda is seeing his dark side now, he moved back up there shortly after our divorce,  I was never so happy.