please help

1Cathi

Thanks Judie -  don't over do it with moving things on your own -  you know we are not as young as we used to be -  HA!

AE -thinking of you today - can't wait until you can give us B9 results.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXO - TO ALL Cathi

my3girls

AE....positive vibes and good wishes your way!!!  (((((VAL)))))))...love you!!!!

Good report on Oliver, the surgery went well..and he was doing fine in recovery.  I felt so sad leaving him there this morning!  He was shaking like a little leaf in my arms...my 4lb wonder!!

Hope you are feeling better Judie...glad the new apt is enjoyable to you.

Cathi, Sue..hope the flu/colds are better.

Back to work...it's soooooooooo COLD here!!

I finally got my tree up yesterday after work. Olivia and I have to put the ornaments on tonight...it looked so beautiful just with the lights and beads. I put on 800 white lights...lit up the  whole room! I love ornaments...so tonight will be fun!

Dinner with Dennis tomorrow night...and then I will relax and breath!

xoxo to all of you!

Lisa

livesstrong

Hi Ladies -

Well I made it thru the biopsy. Got home and CRASHED. Won't know anything till next week of course.

Lisa -  so glad Oliver's surgery went well - poor little guy.  I hate leaving them at the vet.  Delbert is doing great.  The vet called before and his labs came back B9. UB & I are thrilled.

Just took a Darvocet - I'm starting to crash.

Thanks for all the postive energy.

AE

honeygirl

Hello all my lovely girlfriends and UB! AE , praying for b9 results! Hope you are resting now. And great news about Dilbert. Sweet lil' baby , give him a big ole' hug from me.xxxx

OK , for the good news. I went to my onky today. All blood work is good , I am stable , as he put it. And the results of my biopsy for the polyps, are benign and just simple polyps. YEAH!!!!!!!!

I hope everyone is having a good holiday season. I just can't seem to get into it. I just have such a homeless feeling. I feel so out of place. My girlfriend and her hubby are very nice. But it is just stinks not being out on my own. And then sometimes , I feel so lucky to be there and not alone.

And , I don't know how you all are fairing with the economy and your jobs , I had my review yesterday and it was the best ever. Got the best raise too. But I asked my boss about my job security , cause our company cancelled our Christmas party , and they are letting all the temps go. And there will be a layoff. She did tell me I wasn't getting layed off. But we are now owned by a corp in London. I felt safer when we were owned by a group of banks here. Cause I think it would be easier for the corp in London to close our doors and move things there. She said we are now in survivor mode. So if I do loose my job , I will use my last check to move to Tennessee to be with my family. My sister and I have been thinking about starting our own business there. I guess I am feeling insecure because of all the insecurities in my life right now!I just wish change could be a bit smoother.

I hope all who have been sick , are feeling much better. Judie , you're moving again!?! Well , I hope its a good move for you. Sounds like you are having trouble with your meds? I hope you find something that agrees with you. I miss talking to you and everyone here. Maybe soon , I'll get my own computer...

Where is Shirlann at? I just saw her post that she won't be here for awhile. I hope all is well with you Shirlann.xxxx

Karen , Jane , Lisa , Sue , Ulla , Fumi , Jule , Wren , Cathi , Kathi , Leesa , AE , UB , Sheila , Nancy , and anyone I forgot , I miss you all. Hope you are all having a good , peaceful start to the weekend. Love you all , Melody

portiasproudmom

Mel, I'm so happy to hear that your polyps are nothing to be worried about.  Thank GOD!!  Love you, Mel!

AE--so glad that your biopsy is behind you.  Now the damn waiting begins.  I know it's nothing, but it's still so stressful!  ((((((((AE))))))))

My thoughts and prayers are with your bff and her dh, Cathi.  I can't even tell you how much I hate bootface!!  Damn, dirty, stinking disease!!  GRRRRRR!!  Give them big hugs for me.

Thank goodness Oliver and Delbert are on the mend.  Poor babies.  Tinker is still drinking water like crazy and piddling in the house left and right.  Last night she puked on my bed.  Sigh....

I have a sad story to tell.  My dh has a co-worker whose wife has been battling bootface for two years.  I guess she hasn't been doing very well, but was hanging in there.  Last weekend, they were driving home from a Christmas party, and they were hit head-on by a drunk driver.  She was killed instantly.  He's banged up, but will be okay.  God, I hate stories like this.  Makes me cry .

Sue, hang in there honey.  Your mammo will be FINE!  You are FINE!!  Okay?  Okay!  Love you, Sue!!

Guess what I did today?  I slammed my right hand ring finger in the car door.  Boy, is it throbbing!  Am I a dork, or what?? 

Love and hugs to everyone.

Karen

portiasproudmom

Oh!  Forgot to tell you all that I had my first haircut since chemo.  I'll try to post pictures tomorrow.

portiasproudmom

Love to Judie, Jule, Jane, Elaine, Leesa, Kaloni, Shirlann, Lisa, Sheila, Wren, Nancy, Fumi, Ulla, and anyone I've forgotten.  I love all of you so much!

portiasproudmom

Good to see you here, Jersey Maria!

NancyD

Aw, Mel, feeling rootless at the holidays is the pits. I hope things settle down. I know that feeling about work. They told us no layoffs, but no raises! That's hard in the NYC area where everything is going up-up-up despite the recession.

AE - fingers and toes are crossed for good results.  Every mammo's a stressor these days, I'm sure. Makes me feel my bilat was the easy road to take.

Judie - new apartment! Well, now it's truly your own, right? Not living at the in-law's good graces. I hope you can make it as comfy as you want, and that everything's in by Christmas. 

Karen - A haircut! Great!  I don't want a scissor coming near my head these days, but my daughter did trim some scaraggly ends along the bottom back. I'm still at the Mia Farrow stage with a few cowlicks that won't lie the right way, so officially, I'm still wearing my wig.

I just colored my hair for the first time last weekend. The first color I chose, my old one, was not a good choice. I came out loooking like I had a pumpkin on my head. It took three tries, but I've got something nice now. I'm off work from Christmas Eve through NewYear's weekend, so I plan to come back without the wig. I really think I can do it!

I see my onc and my surgeon, both, this Thursday. Surgeon will just be checking the scars, making sure everything's healed correctly, which I think it has. Onc will be doing more blood work after telling me one of my TM's was slightly elevated last month. I think that was just residual stuff from my radiation that had just ended. This month will confirm that by going back down, I hope.

Lisa - glad to hear life is good!

Cathi - I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's husband. Jeez, I hate bootface in ANY form. I hope he finds comfort and peace through the holidays. And I hope your flu has eased up.

My sinues are still flowing. No infection, just filling up and then running. Ugh. I think I must be catching sequential colds. No one could have one cold this long.

Sheila - I have my calendar all hung and ready for the new year. Less than a month to go! I already have a few appointments written down for January. I love it! 

My office holiday party was yesterday. I have a very mixed review. The bowling was fun, but the food was the PITS. Absolutely awful. They served us pizza that wasn't pizza — I swear, they used tomato soup for the sauce and that was NOT mozzarella cheese. Then there were sandwiches that smelled like old socks. Yuck! It was lunchtime and I was starving, so I ate a little, but within an hour I really regretted it. I had the worst heartburn. 

The bowling was a good activity but really prevented much mingling. We had about ten teams and played a couple of games, but never switched lanes or changed teams so we only hung around with the people on our team. Mine was all from my department. I was high scorer for the second game. Then, I left for the day, made the 3:35 bus home. So modestly fun, but since I'm a foodie, that part really spoiled it for me.

Fumi - Jane - Leesa - JerseyMaria - Sue - Ulla - Wren - Shirlann - and all the lovely lurkers: I hope you have lovely holidays!

my3girls

morning sisters!

Nancy...that does not sound like a very good Christmas party...esp. the food!! Yuck! We aren't even having one this year.  No big deal to me though.  Ditch the wig Nancy...you will feel so much better when you do! I finished chemo at the end of august 2007, and I took the wig off by early Dec.  My hair was very very short..actually...I think I posted a pic on here...way back then. I dyed mine as well. But...don't worry to much about scissors coming near your head...I had mine trimmed by my hairdresser in Dec last year...and it looked SO MUCH better, shaped it up and actually made it look like a style!

Mel!!!! So happy to see you . Sorry you are not feeling the holiday spirit. I think that is how allot of people are feeling this year. I think your job sounds secure...please don't worry about it. Glad you got a raise!!! That is very positive. I doubt we get our yearly January raise...we lost too much money in 2008! I love you Mel...we need to get together again soon!!!

I am missing my little Oliver.  It was so weird coming home last night after work, and not having him great me at the dore. Poor baby...I wonder what he is thinking??

Val...I am glad the biopsy is behind you...and we are waiting with you..for your B9 results. Glad Delbert got good news too!! I bet you and UB are so excited!

Karen...I bet you love your haircut..post a pic. So sorry about your dh co-workers and their accident. That poor woman...to go through all of that tx and then have a drunk driver kill you. It is a very sad story...esp. at this time of year.

I have a sad story too. I did not know this girl, but she was from our area...17 yrs old, senior in HS (Nancy and I can relate to this...really hits home), athlete, community service worker..absolutely beautiful girl...was driving on an icy (black ice) road, and lost control, hit another car and was killed! I feel for her family.

Well...today is my "friday"...I must get back to work!

Going out to dinner with my Dennis later...and then back to my house to enjoy my tree and all of my decorations!

xoxo to all of you!!!

Lisa

1Cathi

Karen/Lisa so sorry about the losses you speak of.  Life sure is so very hard sometimes. 

I am sure everyone has heard of The Caylee Anthony story down here in Orlando,  I am so attached to the TV waiting on the final verdict as to if it is the sweet little girls remains they have found,  it is weird to hope on one hand it is (so she can be at peace ) and then hope one the other hand she is still alive.  My hubby actually had to deliver a car over in that area the other day - AMAD HOUSE of police and reporters.  I know everyone is innocent until proven quilty - but honestly it is a darn good thing on am not on that moms jury - 

Anyway hoping all have a great weekend. Yes I am feeling better , no more fever and the cough is much better, but like you Nancy my sinsus continue to just drain, no infection either, but they are so inflamed have a daily headache.  YUCK

XOXOXOXOXOXOXO -Cathi

geebung

It was so great to read everyone's posts just now.

Mel - these economic times are such a worry. I'm so glad that you and the others here still have jobs. I pray that you will keep your job and I'm glad there is that possible option with your sister. It's understandable that you feel homeless - you need your own place but I am glad you aren't living alone - kind of a catch 22 situation. I lived with other families for 2 years a few years ago and I longed to get back to my own place again. I'm so happy your results were all benign. 

AE, it's over, thank God. I wish you didn't have to wait so long for the results - any time is too long and the time drags and your imagination runs away. It's sure to all be benign. So glad that Delbert is doing well.

Lisa - also happy that Oliver is also doing well. He will be sooo happy to see you when you go to bring him home!

Karen - can't wait to see you pics of the new 'do'. I bet you look beautiful!

Nancy and Cathi - I hope your sinuses dry up soon and that you have a cold-free time for the rest of winter and spring.

So sad about that poor woman being killed after already fighting her other battle and the 17 year old - what a dreadful thing. Praying that you will all be safe over these holidays.

Judie - I wish I could help you move. How exhausting to have to do it all again after such a short time but this apartment will probably be better. I hope you can rest soon and that you feel stronger soon. It must be so hard doing this with lowered energy. 

Sue - thinking of you in the leadup to your mammogram - I hate the darned things! How long does it take to get the results? Quickly I hope but nothing like that seems to be quick enough. 

My youngest son returns home from overseas today. I haven't seen him for over a year so I am very excited. My middle son is leaving for Bali for a month about 2 hours after Will flies in so  that is a bit of a shame. I will be so glad when he returns safely as there is a high terrorist warning for Indonesia and Bali. 

Love and hugs to you all and everyone I haven't mentioned.

Jane xxx 

portiasproudmom

Here's the new hair,

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What do you think?  Portia said I looked like Donny Osmond, and the boys both missed my curls.

Hugs,

Karen

portiasproudmom

Oh, and it took her FOREVER to flatten it.  I've been wearing it curly again--I don't have the patience for that.

bee5467

My dear ladies --

I've just read the last 100 or so messages here.  If anyone ever needed to show unequaled love and support among women, there is no better proof than the messages here.  Portiasmom -- your hair is beautiful.  Mine still looks like curly fur, but it IS highlighted, LOL.

This time last year, I was facing a mastectomy in January.  I hadn't gotten the chemo & rad news yet.  I'm so glad that all that, at least, is behind me.   You are the most beautiful women I have ever been among.   I wish us all peace. 

portiasproudmom

Here I am in my natural, curly state. 

Sorry, it turned out really light.

portiasproudmom

Hi Bee!  Welcome to our little group.  We really do love and support one another.  I love these ladies with all my heart.  Please join us! 

Thanks for the compliment.  I thought it looked pretty good.  I just about wrung my daughter's neck for the Donny Osmond comment.  She's such a brat!

Hugs,

Karen

dink

Yehaw,  Mel I;m so glad your polyps were B8 and I have to admitt that I'm glad you're with you friends and not by yourself.  I;m glad to hear that your review went well.   I will kepp you in my prayers.

Leesa 

dink

Nancy, bless your heart, that party sounds awful.  I hope your weekend is better.

Leesa

dink

Karen, Lisa and Cathi, I am sorry about your friends and the families you have spoken of, I will keep them in my prayers and thoughts.  I don't do well talking about things like this, I have a hard time because I;m always afraid I'll say the wrong thing or not be as sensitive as I should be.  Bein in the ER, I have to part a shield up or I would loose it every time - which I do loose it as it is.  Its harder on the family more so than the patient. 

AE - thinking of you and I know the results will be B8.  Karen and Cathi - I hope the sinuses are better.

Jude how is the  moving going?  Are you ok and taking time to rest so as not to over do.

Karen, your hair is beautiful.  I need to color mine and I would like to have it styled but I;m going to wait until it grows long again and I loose weight.  I miss being smaller and I feel rotten about my weight but I let myself go this year due to the treatments and surgeries.  I just had that I don't care attitude in regards to this area.

Well, I;m off to bed.  I have alot of work to do tomorrow.

See you guys, XOXOXO  Leesa

Karen

bee5467

Karen,

Well, I'll be . . . .

The curly version is cute as hell too!!!  Mine still looks like fur.  But time heals all fur, eh???

geebung

You look beautiful Karen! Your hair has grown sooo much! It looks great both ways but it would be a pain to have to straighten it all the time. As it gets longer the weight of it will probably relax the curl a bit.

Bee - loved your post. Come back soon! 

Anonymous

What a thrill to drop in to a newsy flurry! Thanks to all for being here and just being!

Lisa...Hooray for Oliver! I can imagine what it feels like to come home and not be attacked by a 4 lb love bug. I hope he's home very soon. Will you have to keep him off his feet? That's such a challenge.

AE, so glad the day went well. On to the waiting game. Here's fingers crossed for Monday being the day.

Mel! I miss you so much. That homeless feeling is all too familiar and my heart goes out to you. I've been doing a "walking meditation" that has helped a great deal. As I breath in, I think "I have arrived." On the out breath, "I am home." No matter where you are, it reminds you that home is where you are at any given moment. Shirlann is off on another cruise.

I had bad side effects with Arimidex, so have been taking Femara for 6 months or so. I tried taking a vacation for a few weeks, and my insomnia, depression, and constant hot flashes went away! I'm going to start Aromasin soon. If that doesn't pan out, I'll have to decided what to do. Congratularions on the B9 polyps!

Karen, how's the finger? Ouch! Congrats on the haircut. It is adorable! Tell Portia to take a hike.

Hey Nancy, what's wrong with Mia Farrow? Her hair was cute. Take off that wig girl!

Hoping for decrease in TM's. Is there ever an end to these worrisome things?

The picture you painted of the party was painful. Food is my priority also and that food sounded unbelievably awful.

Cathi, I can't even bring myself to read about or watch coverage of the Caylee story. It tears me up to know that a mother can do something like that and manage to lie. GRRRR. Glad you are feeling better.

Jane, I would LOVE to have you help me move...c'mon up! Yes, it's hard, but since it is just four floors up in the same building and there's no rush to vacate the in-law's apartment, it's not too bad. My two sons-in-law are coming tomorrow to move the big stuff. I can to the rest over time. My family needs a break. They've moved me three times this year already. After 25 years in the same house, this moving business is quite a change. The apartment is a bit larger and has more windows and a lovely view. I'm pleased.

Some of the furniture I'm using belongs to the in-laws, so I needed to get some things. I hit the thrift shop nearby and scored everything I needed at great priced. It took two trips, but I got it home in my car. Two...count'em...two...strong young men stood at the loading dock watching me trying to stuff a full-sized futon in my trunk. If you've ever owned one, you understand you heavy and unweildy they are. I am clearly past my prime and have the gray hair to prove it, but neither guy lifted a finger or even offered to help. On the second trip, same guys, same scenario as I struggled with a 6-foot tall heavy bookcase. But I did it, by darn...all by my lonesome.

How exciting to see you son after so long. My youngest comes home from college for Christmas break next Friday. It's snowing here and very cold for Seattle. He has to cross a mountain pass to come home, so I'm hoping this storm will pass before he has to drive.

Welcome, Bee...glad you found us. Your description of what you see is right on the mark. Hope you stick around.

Leesa, I am taking time to rest between spurts of superhuman effort. I'm having to take pain medication every day, but it keeps me functioning.

Hello and hugs to everyone. I'll try to send pictures of the new place decorated for Christmas in a week or so.

Judie

Wren

Hello everyone!

I don't know how you all keep track of who said what but my brain gets so confused after I've read a page or two... I know what I want to say but sometimes I get all mixed up about who I want to say it to--and I get the nicknames mixed up with the real names... I think I'm a very visual person... and faces help the most... but not when there is so much going on!

We all have so much going on this time of year... as any time, but the weather and the economy seem to weigh heavily on us all.

I'm glad those who had biopsies are recovering or doing OK.

Karen, my heart just aches for that poor man losing his wife to a drunk driver. It just reminds us all that in a wink of an eye life can be forever changed. I will remember them in my prayers. Also, WOW!!!! Your hair looks so shiny and pretty!!! I love it styled either way. I'm such a girly-girl... I love to try out different hairstyles even if I don't have the time.

Towhee... I think about you a lot... and I hope you have lots of help and friends to join you in your new apartment. You can settle in and just relax for a while now, I hope.

Jane, I'm happy for you to get to see your youngest... My son came home today and I am just in heaven getting hugs from him and cooking his favorite foods. I hope you get lots of hugs too.

Welcome Bee....

Sue, Ulla, Shirlann, and everyone else... I am thinking of you and sending warm wishes your way.

Hugs to you all!

NancyD

Well, Judie, Mia had Frank Sinatra at her side. No one was going to make a comment to her with him around, LOL.

I'll wait until I to back to work after New Year to stop wearing my wig to work. It's just a le-e-e-tle too short to style in any way. I have to let it do it's own thing until I can grab enough of it to push it up or down. But I've pretty much stopped wearing it out and about at home. I went over to friend's Friday night without it. And Saturday I went to visit my son and took him out to lunch and shopping without it. 

Off to bed. I've got to get rid of these colds I've been catching one right after the other. This last one has been in my sinuses this week giving me on and off headaches as the weather changes and the pressure goes up. I want to feel good for Christmas.

Night all. 

1Cathi

Karen I love both styles,  straight hair is the in thing these days. When I do wear mine straight everyone says they love it, but being a girl of the 70's-80"s I still love poofy hair -  my girls tease me to get in style.  I never had naturally curly hair -straight as a board, so in the 80"s I did perms - YUCK.  Now it just takes alot of gel, mouse, and hairspray. 

dink

I think everyone's hairstyles are cute because they match the personailities that come out in the writings on this panel.  You guys are so special in different ways and I love to read and hear what's going on everyday.  I may not write but I do read.  I hope you all have a good night.

Ms. Judie, I hope you got moved in enough today that you can sit and enjoy your new apartment.  If I was there, I would help you - those darned old men.  The world has really changed in the ways they think.  You can definitely tell the afes of people when you describe what they are doing or how they are acting.  I would take it that the men were young because unlike men of my age or older they didn't help.

Where has the respect gone with this generation.  I signed up on a classmate site to find some old friends that I went to high school with and believe or not they are responding.  I haven't seen or spoken to some of these people since 1981.  Gosh do I feel "aged".

Talk to you all tomorrow.

Leesa 

livesstrong

Hi all!! 

WOW - busy around here this past weekend.

I'm at work so don't have much time - just wanted to say HI MEL!!!  Sure missed you around here - hope things get better for you soon. Jane - HELLOOOOO down under.

Karen  - I love your hair both ways - plus the color is beautiful.

Welcome to all our new posters - you'll find we are a pretty crazy bunch of women here - but we wouldn't have it any other way.

Big shout out to Lisa, Cathi, Judie, Leesa,Nancy, bee, maria, wren and our Sue. Hope I didn't miss anyone.

Hugs,

AE

lvtwoqlt

Judie, What I do when I am getting the flats of drinks for my hubby to take in his truck, I plain out ask people in the store or in the parking lot, 'would you please help me these items into the trunk of my car/into my buggy, I had breast cancer and cannot lift these items.' More than likely I get the assistance I need, I guess because I am barely 5 ft tall and look helpless I get the assistance I need.

Leesa, My brother told me over the weekend that a local community jr high and high school singing group we (older brother sister and myself) were involved in before we moved to NC are talking about having a reunion next year. I went to the website that has been created and put in my contact information. I was looking at the list of alumni and how many they have info for and how many they don't. They also had listed those who have passed away. We were involved from about 1970 until we moved in 1975. They had a couple of reunion activities in the late 70's and late 80's that we went to. It is good to get intouch with friends from the past.

Karen your hair looks great. My hair is not straight but not curly either just a lot of heavy hair with body. If it gets too long I get a cowlick on the bang area that curls too much the wrong way. I am due for another hair cut.

I need to get back to work, I will check back in later.

Sheila

NancyD

Karen, curly or straight, it looks great! It's HAIR!