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Jule...I am so happy for you and Judie. It sounds like you all (including Devon) had a wonderful time! That is great that you have some future plans as well. It doesn't surprise me one bit about Judie...I knew she is who we see here! I would LOVE to have lunch with her...she could bring Devon..and I could bring Alise (turning 21) haha.
Ulla darling...I am so happy to see you!!! I am sorry you are feeling so sad. Sadness and crying are very normal with all you have been through. I do wish you could get some type of meds to help you. But I agree with the others, to try and find something that soothes you. Try and get your mind focused on happiness...however you have to do it...try and stay positive..I know honey this sounds so cliche...but you really need to focus on the positive. You are a beautiful, loving, wonderful caring woman..who has a great husband...you have so much going for you...concentrate on that. Try too...ok? Love you Ulla!!! xoxo...you are very special to me!
Sheila...Yahoo.....Tues. the 30th...your son will be home for good!! What a great feeling that must be!!
back to work. Love to all!
Oh yea...forgot to tell you all. Back when the ex..the one who left during my cancer...long story short..but he broke in my house and stole Oliver from us in the middle of the night..and he was gone for about 3 wks. Olivia was devistated! Anyhow...the police put out a warrent for theft and falsification (since he lied to the police when he was questioned) back in November. They called me today...he is going for sentencing on Monday!!! Justice will be served!! yahoo!!! Throw the book at him....after all he put us through!!
xoxo
Lisa
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Yeah Sue!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thats the kinda news we love to hear! Good for you. You go girl. Now , get out the calendar , pick a date for when you can scoop up those two sweet boys of yours and pick somewhere sunny and fun and by the ocean. You deserve it. And the boys deserve a great time with you! Love you Sue.xxxx Mel
Hope everyone is off to a good weekend. Welcome to all the new ladies. Glad you found us.
Sheila , so glad your son will be home soon. And good news about Donald's ticket! Hey , maybe you should play the lottery this weekend!lol How long will John be staying with you? Hes moving to NY isn't he? Or do I have that mixed up with someone else. Are you and Donald doing anything fun this weekend? Hope all is well with you.xxxx
Ulla , honey , I'm so glad to see you here. We all missed you soooo much. You are such a beautiful , compasoinate soul. You feel everything. And that makes you an emotional being. I agree with the others , nothing helps me more than getting next to nature. I feel so close to God there. And it seems to cleanse me. I love to go to the beach and just sit there and listen to the waves , seaguls , wind , sun. But I also love to go there when its stormy. And since the country there is so into natural cures , I find alot of help with self-help books too. Maybe a visit to the library would be good. OR , just come here honey and let it rip! Vent , cry tell us all your feelings. We are always here for you sweet sister. Love you Ulla ,xxxxxxxxxxx
Jule and Judie! So glad you two got to meet. I know how great it was to meet Lisa and connect. Hope you all get to go fishing! Sounds like lots of fun.
Hi Jane! Glad you could pop in and say hi and let us know you are well. Good luck with the move. I can't wait till you are all moved so we can hear and see your new home. Hope Blossom is doing well. Check in when you can.xxxxx
Hi Shirlann , You're such a wonderful , thoughtful person. Sending Ulla biotin. Its the little things like that , that makes me glad to know you!xxxx
Well , the town I live in turns "purple" this weekend! I live in grape country , and there is a festival this weekend. Its kinda bitter sweet for me. My close friend , who I always met there , is the one who dropped out of my life when I was diagnosed. I really don't want to run into her. And some others that I really don't want to see ,cause its "oh my , how are you,really? But who knows , maybe I'll go up in the evening and get some of that "oh so good , but oh so bad for you" fair food.lol
And I definately have to take my pool , all the way down. So , I will be busy.
Hope you all have a peaceful evening. Mel
Fumi , thinking of you girl. I know your heart is hurting. I'm sending big , big hugs and keeping you close in my heart.xxxxxxxxxxx Mel
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Hi Lisa! Oh my. I remember you telling me that story of that @#$#$#@ stealing sweet Oliver and how upset you and Olivia were. I hope they throw the book at him! He is such an evil scumb bag. I am soooo glad that you got Oliver back. He better stay away from you. Do you have to go to court too? If so , you should take Dennis with you so the idiot can see what a Real man is like. Because I'm sure , he hasn't a clue! Hey , I am gonna give you a call Sunday. Is that ok , or are you gonna be "involve" somewhere?lol Let me know. xxxx Mel
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Sunday would be great Mel....I will be home. Dennis has to go to Texas for business. Call me...I would love that! I dont't have to go to court. I am just happy he is having to pay for what he did. I was surprised to hear from them! I am sure he is cursing me right now. I didn't have to go to the prosecutor, they called me!
I am still at work..and will be till about 8:45...flights from the east coast are all delayed.
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Cathi, I just noticed your location! Wow, my sister has a beach house in Indian Shores, just over the line from Indian Rocks. Their main house is in St. Pete, though. Small world.
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Hey Lisa , sorry you have to work so late. I bet you miss Dennis. Glad you don't have to go to court. I'll call you Sunday. Mel
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Ulla, love, this is such a hard phase of this whole nasty trip! I sure wish they would give you anti-depressants to get through this next few months, because you will begin to feel better, eventually. But if they won't, they won't. So try a really good B-Complex vitamin, this vitamin is very helpful with emotional issues. And most important of all, DO NOT feel worthless or shamed. You have Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, just like war veterans. You are just as wonderful, full of life, and vivacious as you always were. This takes a toll on all of us, and being in a strange land and with people you don't even speak their language, its like being dropped in a hole. So stop feeling bad about feeling bad. You have earned all this sadness, but it will go away. Trust me.
Oh Sheila, I am glad he is home. I just feel better with him near his family and your loving care.
Sue, I am so happy! You will not get upset again. Things will happen, but this complete terror just happens once. Then, you are better prepared for a scare or two when more time has gone by. You are soooo loved, you dear, precious girl.
Hugs to all our sisters, Shirlann
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Shirlann, you always have such comforting words. I too, cry so easily anymore... just a pretty sunny day will bring tears... or a brief thought of what I've been through, what I've lost, and what I'm still lucky to have, all make me cry... I'm glad to hear it will go away--or at least lessen.
Ulla, I've missed your posts. I feel so bad for you that you have to deal with a language barrier in addition to a cultural difference in treating depression and sadness. I hope you can talk to someone who will help you even a little bit. At least if you can post here, we all seem to understand the emotions and can send you our hugs and love over the internet.
Sue, I haven't given you a "Woop woop" yet to celebrate your great news, but I sure have been thinking of you and hoping you are having some happier days.
Fumi, I'm so sorry your trip didn't end up the way you'd hope, and I know you must be feeling so sad... When you are ready, I'd love to see some photos from your trip. I'm sending positive thoughts your way.
Big hugs to you all!
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Hey Nancy, sure is a small world, we love Indian Rocks Area, it has not become as comercialized as many of the other surrounding beaches, and while the trafic does pick up for us at spring break not nearly as bad as Clearwater, so have you ever been to the Original Crabby Bills , my husbands most favorite spot for casual.
If you get this way we should say hi.
XOXOXOXOXOXO -To all
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I was going to mention Crabby Bill's. It's a required meal at least once a visit to my sister's.
Speaking of development, the last time I was there (which is about 3 years ago, now), we drove south down the beach and I was shocked at all the tall condos going up. Even then, my sister said they were having trouble selling them. I can't imagine how things are any better these days. Maybe it's time to pick up a real bargain!
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Oh my gosh Nancy, we have new condos built for a few years now -totally empty, new building projects started and just stopped without completion up and down the entire coast line, so many homes for sale or rent - there for sure are some good deals.
We do Crabby Bills at least once a week, just a fun casual place and the food is never bad, they have actually expanded it now and have outside dining/tiki bar w/live music. We live just North of there by about 12 blocks or so.
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Wow, quiet weekend around here! Just thought I'd pop in since I'm ALONE in the house. That's a very rare occurance--and so nice every once in a while. I hope everyone's having a nice weekend. We went and saw "Ghost Town" last night. I can't remember the last time I laughed so hard at a movie. I'd never heard of Ricky Gervais before. He is hysterical! What a jerk he played in this movie! Sue, is he really big in the UK? I love Tea Leone and Greg Kinnear too. It really was a fun movie. There were a couple of (obviously intoxicated) women sitting down front, laughing their heads off. It really was infectious.
Well, I'd better run. My best friend is having a PartyLite show this afternoon.
Take care and enjoy the rest of the weekend. I love you all!!
Hugs,
Karen
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Ulla, sweetie, it was so good to see you post. I'm sorry you're feeling so down. It will get better, honey, I promise! You've been through so much, but you're strong!
Love and hugs,
Karen
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Karen...Ricky Gervais is big in the UK ,he starred in the Office and took it over to America
Heres a clip
..go to youtube and search for Ricky Gervais office dance .....so funny ...
xxxx
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He also had a series on HBO called "Extras" where he played a bit actor who made his living doing those extra parts in the background of TV shows and movies while he tried to get his very inept agent to land bigger, better parts for him. It was one of the funniest shows I've seen in a long time. Almost every episode had some famous actor/actress guest starring.
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I'm baaaaaaaaack!
Had a great time. I only had a motel for Thurs and Fri nights, thinking I would leave Saturday, but forgot about the play Saturday night. No funds for another night, coupled with no rooms available allowed me the adventure of sleeping in my car last night. I haven't done that in years!
Both Devin and I thoroughly enjoyed the visit with Jule. He is fascinated by her work and knowledge of fishing in the area, so I had trouble getting a word in edgewise for a while, but more than made up for it after Devin left. Jule and I are pretty equal in the windbag department. Devin left fairly early on for a callback he got from an audition for theater sports (think Who's Line Is It, Anyway). After that Jule and I just ignored the frequent visits by the waiter asking if we wanted anything else and kept on gabbing until the place was closing.
The theater sport team Devin had auditioned for has only 9 members and there were just two spots open. Around 30 auditioned and he has no experience, so expected nothing. At 3am there was banging on his dorm room door. When he opened it, the team picked him up and threw him on his bed and pelted him with candies. He got in!!! He's so excited. The school doesn't compete, but the team does frequent shows for the students, which are very popular. It's great acting experience and a ton of fun.
On Friday Devin and I walked all over downtown Walla Walla. It's such a cute town with actual stores along the streets so it's great for window-shopping. We then went up into the hills outside of town did some walking and talking. It was gorgeous. There were bushes dripping with choke cherries! I haven't seen those since I was a kid in Idaho. I wanted so much to pick a bunch, but had no container. If you're not familiar with these guys, they are aptly named. Put one in your mouth and you'd be very sorry. It's kind of like putting a lump of alum in your mouth. However, they make the absolute best jelly and pancake syrup in the world! The blackberries are coming on, too, so we gobbled those as we walked.
When we got back, I called Jule to make plans after she got off work. She had to go to a meeting her boss usually attends and said Saturday would be best, so Devin and I had dinner at Pho Sho (great name for a college town Vietnamese noodle house, eh?) Then he had to go to a meeting and I hung out at the motel until bedtime.
Saturday I called Jule and left a message, but didn't hear back so Devin and I headed south to Oregon and the fantastic Tamástslikt Cultural Institute on the Umatilla Reservation. Then we headed out to Hayes park along the Walla Walla river for another hike. It's such an amazing area no matter where you go.
Home, dinner, another call to Jule, left message, then went to the play festival. It was a blast. At 9pm the night before, 9 students from a playwriting class are given the theme for a 10-minute play they are to write by morning. Early am directors and actors are chosen, then all day rehearsals, staging, costuming, performance that evening. The theme was "reversals" and every play had to work in the name "Vladimir" somewhere. Utterly amazing, sold out event.
Night in the car, early breakfast with Devin, then head for home. It's about a five hour trip. The drive home was spectacular, just as the drive down had been. This weather is unbelievable! I had forgotten just how much I love to get behind the wheel and head down the road.
So there's the detailed travelogue from the wordy wanderer! I hope Jule is ok. I'm assuming David's plans got changed and she headed out of town. Love her comments about our meeting. We totally hit it off. Jule was exactly what I expected. I would have recognized her anywhere. She's bubbly, fun, wise, and soooo happy with her new man! Love ya' Jule, even when you choose him over me.
Judie
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Sue, I pray even now for God to give you a deep sense of peace, and the knowledge that He is in control, and that He loves you so very much. I pray for you to be restored to complete health.....
Do you have family or close friends nearby that can surround you with love and support? Some of your words concerned me (Sep. 11th, you said you were feeling very suicidal). You have all the support of the wonderful ladies on this site, but don't hesitate to seek a counselor who can walk with you during this stressful time....Also, if there is a breast cancer support group that meets in your area.... just some thoughts to share.
When I was diagnosed, there were 3 ladies in my church that are breast cancer OVERCOMERS and they surrounded me like mother hens. They helped me process the whole experience...
Just be sure to continue to reach out to recieve all the tangible support you need. You are loved.
Your life matters. You can beat this!
God bless you MIGHTILY. We all are here to support you......
Sue
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Judie-Im so sad I missed you
....there was some major issues at the hatchery and I got called in the middle of the night Thursday and ended up working out there until late Saturday afternoon...but the worst part of all of it was that while I was working with the fish in the pond there I dropped my cell phone in the water so had no way to contact you as your number was programmed into it. I tried to call the hotel but you had already checked out....But I enjoyed our time Thursday evening and look forward to seeing you again as well as Devin calling for a fishing trip. The next time you are here there wont be an issue of getting together because David made the decision to move here for good....he left this evening to go pack and will be completely moved here by mid week.....
And just so you know young lady.....the next time your here you WILL NOT BE STAYING IN YOUR CAR!!!!!!! My son will hopefully be moved into his own place so I will have a spare room for you....
Well, gotta run so will read and visit somemore in a while.
Love Jule
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Glad to hear all the good reports for the weeekend.
John will be getting out of the Navy but moving to Buffalo NY. He is actually going to fly direct to Buffalo and when his truck is shipped to the closest Military base (in about 45 days) he will fly down and spend a week or two with me depending on when his personal belongings are scheduled to arrive and then drive back to Buffalo.
I do have some bad news, if you remember my younger friend I spoke about earlier with mets. she passed away last evening. I got the call about 8:30 through the prayer chain at church and had to call 5 others about her passing. I knew that Sunday morning when they said she had been moved to Hospice and was on morphine every 2 hours it was just a matter of time. she fought this bootface for over 5 yrs but her body was just so wore out. I have not spoken to her parents but they will be devistated. They were both in their 80's - she was their surprise late in life baby.
Sheila
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Oh, Sheila. That is just so sad! I hate this stupid disease. I'll never understand why it takes these young women with everything to live for. I can't imagine anything worse than losing your child--her poor parents.
Hugs,
Karen
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Judie, you silly goose! I can't believe you slept in your car!! It sounds like you had a wonderful trip though. How exciting that Devin was selected for that theater sport team. Portia has taken several improv classes. She LOVES it! I give them both a lot of credit--I could never think quickly enough to pull that stuff off.
Hugs,
Karen
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Shelia so sorry to hear of your friend, another sad reminder of how hard we must all continue to fight this nasty disease.
I had a small melt down last evening, not over having the mastectomy -just angry that I have to be in the position of choosing such a measure to help ensure my life (not sure if that makes sence), but got through it and am ok today, just trying to fight off this horrible cold that has now settled into my chest -go fiqure I never catch colds and just a bit over 2 weeks from surgery I get one -Geez!
xoxoxoxoxoxo
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Just a quick hello. Sheila...I am so sorry about the loss of your friend. It's a constant reminder to how horrible this disease is. Blessing to you and her family.
Judie..you crazy nut!! lol..sleeping in your car. Sounds like you and Devon had a wonderful time. Congrats on his selection.
Cathi..sorry about the melt down...I totally understand though.
I am having allot of soreness and stiffness in my arm around my armpit (where the lymph nodes were removed) since last nt. I have no idea why...didn't do anything strenuous or different??? I can't figure this out. It even hurts when I press into my armpit? If it keeps up, I will call my breast surgeon. It's just not a good day all around. My car is giving me trouble again...it happened end of winter..the transmission is acting up, and I know I will need a new one or rebuilt!! OMG..when it rains it pours! I am still limping from the toe...and my head is hurting me and throat scratchy...anything else??????!!! Geeze!!!!!
Well...back to work...the day can only get better right???
have a good one ladies!
xoxo
Lisa
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Your right Lisa -when it rains it pours. If you were closer my hubby could hook you up with a car -he is one of the "Nasty - Mean Used Car Salesmen!" LOL. I hope your arm gets better, I posted my remedy on another thread awhile ago and some ladies have tried it and said it helps out -I swear by it, Epsom salt bath (1 cup) in bath water at least 3 times a week no more than 20 minutes , be sure and gently message the lymp node area, sounds korny I am sure , but it rreally helps after a few baths, also if you add a cup of baking soda it is also a detox bath.
HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER.
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Hi sisters!
Judie, how cute, but hey, whatever works, I say!
Lisa, think back, I still get this after 10 years, when I exert sometimes, even just carrying a heavy grocery sack. Annoying, no end to this, I guess.
Sue, baby, whose arm is around you? hummmm, Mum wants to know!
Sheila, I know, my sister and I have a friend who is in the last stages, and right in the middle of this, he is completely knocked on his back with Shingles. Can't even walk. Girls, get your Shingles vaccine! Shingles favorite trick is to get you when you are going on a trip! Nasty thing.
Hugs everyone, Shirlann
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Hello Sisters xxx
I hope you are all Okies xxx
Lisa I get the pain more often than not. Sometimes it comes on through doing nothing major...but I guess I have to do everything in a stupid majorly way... maybe you could try massaging it...do you know sometimes if you sleep on it it can cause pain....I am so fed up with bootface at the mo...I am sick sick SICK of the discomfort it has brought....YES BOOTFACE YOU SILLY FREAKING BAG OF NO GOOD!!! EVIL GOOD FOR NOTHING...BACK OUT OF MY HEAD AND TAKE A JUMP UNDER A 20 TON LORRY GOING 100 MILES AN HOUR ...BANG!!!
Oh god think I have P M T .... I am just soooooooooooooo fed up with it....and I am looking to book my hol abroad...but hey .... what will I wear on the beach cos I am all one sided now...SEE IT BRINGS MORE PROBLEMS .... never stops ...
I will probably go to the canary islands ...I want to take the boys on a camel rIde LOLOL ..and a trip to the volcanoes.... it will also be guaranteed sunshine...xxx
I am well freaked off tonite.
HO HUM X
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WHY IS LIFE SO HARD FOR SOME OF US...WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY....
WHY JUST SOME OF US.... WHY DO ONLY SOME OF US GET BOOTFACE....WHY ARE WE THE CHOSEN ONES.... WHAT DID WE DO ...
NAFF ALL ....
WE DID NAFF ALL...AND WHAM BAM... POW ...
whats wrong wiv me sissies....arghhh ....
love ya all
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Please can somebody tell me what a condo is.... is it one of those boats that sail in ...erm...which country is it....that does the cornetto advert...just one cornetto give it to me!! think its Italy...you know those romantic boats...
Judie / Jule I am so happy you met...its just crazy!!! heheheh....I hope we all meet some day soon xxx
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sue, condo is short for condominium. It is an apartment that you own and not rent. Some condos are rather pricy to purchase.
Sue there is nothing wrong with us and we didn't do anything to get this horrible bootface.
Sheila
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Hi all!!!
Lots going on as usual - canary islands, lunch dates, sleeping in cars - the fun never stops!!!
bbl
..go to youtube and search for Ricky Gervais office dance .....so funny ...
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