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  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited September 2008

    Thanks Wren helped to read your post this AM  as I ready myself for surgeon appointment  this morning. Gosh who knew that doing what is right and best could still be so hard.

    LOVE TO ALL

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  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited September 2008

    Cathi, agreeing to amputate part of your body is a hard decision to make, I knew that I was making the right decision to remove both but at midnight before my surgery, I broke down and cried while talking to my hubby on the phone. He was trying to get back home (long haul trucker) and was about 2 hours away from the house when I called. I was second-guessing my decision to remove both of them and fortunately he kept a clear head and reminded me that my surgeon supported my decision to remove both and calmed me down. The final path report validated my decision, additional ADH in the right cancerious breast and ADH in the left non-cancerious breast. And like Wren said, I have not looked back or said I wish I hadn't . . . I choose to let my attitude be positive.

    Good luck at your appointment today.

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  • nowheregirl
    nowheregirl Member Posts: 894
    edited September 2008

    Hi dear family,

    Just wanted to let you know I got home safely last night. Though I really can't bring myself to talk anything. I am still pretty much hurt, struggling and bleeding. There is a huge hole in my heart and I really can't cope this empty feeling. No matter what I do, where I go, everything just reminds me of the fact that he's not here looking into my eyes anymore. Even if things were never meant to work out, I still would have loved to be there. Tears just don't seem to stop.

    Love all of you bunches.

    xo

    Fumi

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  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited September 2008

    I am back from the surgeon and surgery is scheduled for 10/17, and I have a feeling of relief about me,  I know in my heart this is absolutely the right choice,  and she (BS) supported my decision 100% she actually made mention that the medical field is seeing an upward trend in the # of woman opting for this as to lumpectomy. She gave me some info on a Prosthesis she was impressed with. www.trulife.com

    Shelia I am certian like you I will break down the night before  - maybe sooner - I am a big second guesser sometimes. But my husband like yours is so strong and supportive he will be my shining light.  The scariest part of me with any surgery I have ever had is anestesia  -I always start freakin out "what if I don't wake up"

    Thank you all so much for your help and support - I have a feeling I might need you all for a few weeks to come.

    XOXOXOXOXOXO

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  • Shirlann
    Shirlann Member Posts: 3,302
    edited September 2008

    Oh my dear Fumi, it just hurts me that you are in so much pain.  Darn it all.  Life sucks sometimes.

    Just know I think about you and know that the right man will waltz into your life and sweep you off your feet.

    Try hard to heal that darn hole.  You are precious to me and precious to all of us.  

    Gentle hugs, Shirlann

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited September 2008

    GOOD LUCK TOMORROW SUE!!!

    HUGS,

    AE

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  • Wren
    Wren Member Posts: 324
    edited September 2008

    Today is my birthday!!! It's been a pretty average day too, and I'll take that... :)

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  • anet
    anet Member Posts: 2
    edited September 2008
    • SmileHi Wren and Happy Birthday!! enjoy everyday and always try to make time for (me time)!!Happy Birthday again.lol
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  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited September 2008

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU-  HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!!!!! YEAH -YIPPIE WOW WEE!!!Laughing

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited September 2008

                                                   

    I hope it was great, Wren. It's still your day, but only by 5 minutes!

    Judie

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited September 2008

    Fumi, you're breaking my heart. I wish I could just wrap you up in my arms and pat your shoulder until you're all better. Please stay close...we all love you.

    Cathi, meet another pro second-guesser. You have made a carefully considered decision. You have a plan. Trust yourself. Stick around...we're with you. 

    I won't be around much for a few days. I'm getting ready to head over the mountains to meet Jule and hang out with my son. I leave here Thursday around noon and will be back Saturday or Sunday. I'm soooooooo excited!!!!

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  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited September 2008

    Fumi...honey, I am so sorry that you are feeling so low. We do love you Fumi, and I pray that your healing time will be swift. I agree with Shirlann....there is someone very special out there for you, and you will find him.  I didn't think I would ever find anyone, after my ex leaving me during my cancer..or that I would ever trust anyone again. Everyone kept telling me the same thing we are telling you. God has someone out there for me, who is caring and kind and who will love me, scars and all. And you know what...HE DID! And He has someone for you. Take your time healing, cry when you need to, then pull your head up high, throw those shoulders back and take on the world...and you will see..your destiny is before you! Hugs to you Fumi...I so know how you feel!

    Cathi...you have your plan in motion. Of course you will have your doubts. I know I did, and I did second guess and cry the morning of my surgery. But like Sheila..I have no regrets at all.

    Good luck dear Susie Q...let us know how it all goes today!!

    Wren...Happy Belated Birthday to you!!! How many years young are you??

    To everyone else..much love..and have a great day. I am off to see my surgeon (follow up) and eye doctor.

    Ulla...we miss you honey!!

    xoxo

    Lisa

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  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited September 2008

    Judie......two words for you....HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited September 2008

    Lotas going on around here.

    Wren - HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!

    Cathi - glad you have your date set - the plan is in motion - it is always a good feeling.

    anet - WELCOME!!

    Judie - what did I miss??  You are meeting Jule???  I'm jealous!!  Have a great time!!

    Lisa & Nancy - UB suggested heading down to the Village - lots of things to see and places to eat - what do you think?

     Sue - you better post missy.

    bbl

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  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited September 2008

    Fumi, sweetie, my heart is breaking for you.  I will echo what everyone else has said--there is someone very special out there for you.  He'll show up when you least expect it, and he will be the luckiest guy on the face of the earth.  You are so, so special!!!  I love you, Fumi!  Hang in there, sweet girl.

    Sue, I'm waiting to hear from you.  Lots of positive thoughts are coming your way!  Please let us know what you find out!

    Have a safe and fun trip, Judie!  Give Jule a big hug from us all!

    Happy belated birthday, Wren!  Hope it was a wonderful one!

    Cathi, you are absolutely doing the right thing.  Don't second-guess yourself.  You'll feel such a sense of relief when it's all over and done!  I sometimes wish I'd opted for a mastectomy, as opposed to a lumpectomy.  For the most part, though, I'm happy with my decision.  We all pretty much know in our gut, what's right for us.  Hang in there, hon!

    Where is our Jane??  I miss you!!  Ulla too!  Please check in honey!

    Love and hugs to all,

    Karen

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  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited September 2008

    Val, the Village is fine with me...but I have to warn you I get lost there. Give me nice, numbered streets that cross at right angles, LOL.

    The things I'm really excited about is that when we meet I will be all done with my treatments! Finishing with rads on 10/13.

    ******* 

    SUE- it's Wednesday. What did the dr say?  Don't keep us in suspense!

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  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited September 2008

    Thanks everyone, I actually do finally feel so much relief mentaly  from having a decision and a plan.  Today though unfortunately I feel like total body crap "I think I have Disco Fever" from the weekend. LOL.  Sore throat, cough, headache,  nausea, I know it is just something going around, my honey has been sick for 2 days and he never is. Hopefully it will pass quickly.

    Karen if we lived closer we could do plays with my granddaughter (Alexcis) and Portia together,  Alexcis love musicals, plays all that also.  The winter season for kids at the local cultural Center Begins Oct 11, so yeah we won't be missing any -they do one a month through April for Children -totally awesome.

    LOVE TO ALL-----

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited September 2008

    Hi ladies,

    Sorry its been so long since my last post, but things have just been absolutely insane lately....I do read often to try to keep up with you all but sheeeeez you girls are a busy bunch lately!!!!!!!!!!

    I am so looking forward to meeting Judie and Devin Thursday for dinner and if things work out right we might even get to go fishing together over the weekend....Im normally on her side of the mountains with David on the weekends but he has been here all week and likely to be here over the weekend as well....

    Life on that front is going wonderful.....we are happy as two peas in a pod Cool and have started actually discussing wedding bells, but not in the real near future,  just discussing it for a little further down the road.

    But on the bad side of things that have been keeping me so busy......my boss was dx'd with protrate cancer 3 wks ago so I have taken on alot of his responsibilities here in the office as well as doing work in the field as the fish runs are huge this year so lots of outdoor work....but anyway, my boss came in the other day and said that they found something in his upper femur in one of the scans...they did more testing and today he told me that they are going to do something called an "open bone biopsy" and that if it is in his bones they dont think it is protrate cancer, they think it is a different cancer as the prostrate cancer pathology came back as very slow growing....

    As you all know Im holding my breath for him and praying that it isnt anything more than arthritis, but the doctors are all telling him they are sure it is more than that Cry

    Im going to steal Sue's rant now.......I HATE HATE HATE BOOTFACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Ive read each and every post on the last 5 pages since thats how far behind I was....I remember lots of things going on for all of you but cant put names to things going on so will just close by saying.....

    Welcome to the new ladies, always glad to have more sisters!!!!!

    I hope anyone that is having a bad time right now is doing better and those who are doing well continue to do well.

    Visit with you all again very soon.

    Love

    Jule

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited September 2008

    OK Sue - its 7:45PM in the UK - where the heck are you???  I still have the flying monkeys - do I need to send them out?

    AE

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited September 2008

      

    Guess what .......... WOOP!! WOOP!!

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited September 2008

    I just got in from work xxxx

    When in October are ya all meeting...I am so frickin JEALOUS !!!! WAAAA ....I am sooooooo far away from you .... !!!!

    Got a mmmammmmmmo in October .... cr p ..... I need to stop tekin the pain meds really and use some roseprimrose whatever pills for the bone pain .... who wants to eat a primrose!!! yuk xxx

    Work was bad today and I couldnt wait to get on here.... I was swearin while I was cashing up HAHAHA...

    AE .... :o( I wanna come see you all .....xxxx 

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited September 2008

    YES I DO!!! 

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited September 2008

    I HATE BOOTFACE FOR MAKIN US ALL SWEAT AGAIN

     

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  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited September 2008

    Sue, We knew that if it was ozzing green junk it wasn't bootface! Great to hear the good news.

    Sorry work went bad for you today but not as bad as Donald. He was in the right hand (outside) lane of a 6 lane interstate (3 lanes each direction) with 42,000 lbs in the trailer when a car in the inside lane decided he needed to get off the exit and crossed 3 lanes of traffic infront of Donald. He jamed his brakes and avoided a collision. He was shaken up and went off the next exit to take a break. He got back on the highway and at the next weigh station he was overweight on his front axle. the load slid to the nose of the trailer and he ended up with a $250 overweight fine. He explained to the officer why he was overweight on the front axle and showed his scale slip from this morning when he had the weight right but he still ended up with the ticket. And this morning I was fussing at him for spending too much on the road for meals and such.

    Sheila

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited September 2008

    Oh my goodness Sheila that is such an injustice...but thank goodness he is OK ...silly car .... makes my blood boil when I see people do this type of nutty stuff... very very VERY VERY annoying... X X X

    Poor Donald :o(  

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  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited September 2008

    Last year one of the other drivers with his company had to do the same thing and the load actually broke through the front of the trailer and came into the cab of the tractor. That guy was ok but really shook up. Because of the sleeper the load stopped before it hit the driver.

    Sheila

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited September 2008

    Sheila ...your motorways are huge compared to ours....I love your motorways...we hired a beautiful car when we were over there ... your country is just great xxx

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited September 2008

    Sue - call me stupid but I have to assume your appointment went OK?? Is a WOOP!! WOOP!! in order???

    What date are you going for your mammo?? I go on the 20th - the day after we meet up with the girls. I dread it - I am all ready anticipating going for another biopsy. Undecided By the way, our roads are called highways - you gotta get the lingo down if you are going to move here!!! Wink hahahaha.

    Sheila - man o man that's just not right about your son.  But in the grand scheme of things thank God he is all right.

    Gotta run, bbl

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited September 2008

    AE I WANT A WOOP WOOP XXX

    Dont know my mammo date WAAAA another frickin fing to worry bout.its October...they will send                         for me LOL

    Will I get told off if I ask for some scran when I go in a restaurant lol ... HEY I WILL BE A WOMAN OF THE HIGHWAYS!!!

    X X X X X X 

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited September 2008

    SCRAN??????????????????????????????? WTH is that pray tell?

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