please help

Wren

thanks, Karen

Hugs!

nowheregirl

Hi all, long time no see. I've been working like crazy but other than that, I'm doing just fine.

OK nobody wants to hear how I'm doing.  I'd better do my job quickly and go back to my world. Here's the pix Shirley was talking about and I'm posting them for her. Enjoy!

xo

Fumi

geebung

AE - my mother has a mole behind her eye which has been there for years and years and years. She has just turned 91. She had a malignant melanoma removed from her cheek when she was about 8 months pregnant with me so I have regular checks by a dermatologist. Just had a very dark mole removed from my scalp today but was told it did not look sinister.

Shirlann - is that you and your husband? - what a gorgeous couple! I love that photo! (Thank you so much to Fumi for putting the pics here). It's so romantic that you met so young and have had such a long and successful marriage - you are such an inspiration! Who are all the handsome and beautiful ones in the second pic? I am having a lump cut off the end of my tongue on the 10th July. Why are all these things growing on me?!!

Ann - I had a colonoscopy last year and I totally agree with Shirlann - I would much rather have one of those than a mammogram. No pain, no embarrassment - just lots of lovely happy juice! Even the preparation wasn't too bad - I felt very cleansed afterwards! 

Lisa - so good to hear from you - I bet you look gorgeous with your tan! So sorry to hear about your friend - that is so sad.

Karen - congratulations! I am so glad the mammogram is over and that you are reassured that everything is fine. It is a scary time - especially going back to the same place where you were diagnosed. I will be happy to go to a different place in Sydney when I move. Just driving past the centre where I was dx gives me the creeps.

Sue - dearest girl - I wish I could give you a big hug! I wish Shirlann could give you a big hug! I wish we could all have a group hug!!

Ulla - you need to be in the middle of our group hug too - I wish you weren't so far away...

Wren - I was so sorry to hear about your little kitty. It's such a sad thing to do - I had to have my dear old cat put to sleep last year - he had a bootface in his gut, the poor old boy.

I just finished my studies for the semester. We had an exam last night. Now to get into the renovations and packing. 

Hi also to Judie, Jule, Melody, Kaloni, Suebee and anybody else that I have missed.

Love from

Jane xxx 

AnneW

I've had the colonoscopy before. Every five years now, since my mom (who had breast cancer) died of colon cancer. My first was five years ago. I decided I wanted to watch the screen, so I asked for less meds, to stay awake. Well, let me say that THIS time, I'm going all the way! I don't need to see my colon or feel that pain as the tube rounds the corner ever again! I love versed--such a nice sleep, and no memory of a thing.

 It's the prep that I hate.

Window washers are here today. That means it will rain tomorrow and all the pine pollen will spot up my clean windows. Eternal optimist, that's me!

 AE--how does the ophth guy know it's just a mole, and not a melanoma? Are you having viual changes? I know it's probably nothing, but a friend on another board had a melanoma behind her eye--took forever to diagnose it vs mets. Sheesh. I don't mean to worry you needlessly (sorry, I'm sure I did just that!) but do be hypervigilant.

Shirlann, happy birthday--late--to you and Walt. How cool.

Sue, my dear, and Ulla, and anyone else who finds herself in a dark place, it DOES get better. You have been through hell, and your brain chemistry is totally whacked. Seriously, get on medication to correct this imbalance. You'd do it for any other part of your body! You deserve to feel better! You can't kick bootface till you're mentally strong.

By the way, being a latecomer of sorts to this delightful thread, can you tell me the origin of BOOTFACE?

Anne

lvtwoqlt

Anne, Sue did not like the c****r word and said that she wanted to see the bootface boiling in a bag. We all took up the unique phrases that Sue and anyone else on the thread coined and made it our own.

My mom just had her first colonscopy a couple of months ago and they did the prep different for her, She went on liquid diet Sunday morning and Sunday night they had her drink 8 oz juice mixed with fleet phosp. 3 times 30 minutes apart. She did not have to drink the gal of gunk to clean her out.

Sheila

Shirlann

Oh thank you sweet Fumi!  She is such a wonderful girl.  She was totally alone when she went through her ordeal, her dad had been diagnosed with prostate CA, so her mom was overwhelmed and our dear TimTam did her whole thing by herself.  She is a wonderful girl, working way to hard, and I love her. Thank you dear love, for putting the pix in for me, I am such a klutz.

Oh the kids are ALL my grandchildren.  I never get them together anymore, so this was a first.  We were at Father's Day Breakfast.  And of course, that is Walt and me in 1953, arghhh, where in the world did the years go?  Seems like yesterday.

Love to you all

geebung

Sheila - that's what my prep was like for the colonoscopy. It was called picoprep. I had a liquid diet first and then took the pico in the afternoon before. It was much better than I thought it would be.

Am off to Sydney, then mountains and home on Sunday. I hope you all have a good weekend.

Jane xxx 

Ulla

hi sisters..

i love u all..

my onky offie called telling me that my onky wants me to have a scan or x-ray for my chest..am not sure why,,but it seems he wants to make sure that my pains r due to rads and surgery effects NOT ANY MORE BOOTFACE...WAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

IT WILL BE IN 4TH/JULY

NEED ALL UR PREYRS,,

MUCH LOVE FOR EVERYONE

Shirlann

Oh Ulla, they are just being careful.  It is not Bootface, Bootface creeps in on silent feet, you have had a whole lot of NOT quiet things.  Rest your heart, dear Ulla, let your heart just rest.

4th of July, hummm, that is a holiday here.  But I will pray for you each day until then.

Don't worry, honey, you are just fine.

Hugs and kisses, Shirlann

Wren

Shirlann, You still have the same cheerful smile that you did when you were married! I could tell it was you just by the smile. Thanks for sharing such a lovely photo.

Ulla, I just know they are being careful. I'm sorry it has you worried, but I am sending positive, calming wishes your way.

portiasproudmom

I love the photos, Shirlann.  What a beautiful couple you and Walt were (and still are).  Your grandkids are gorgeous too!

Don't worry, Ulla!  I'm sure it's nothing.  Shirlanne's right--it seems like the bootface always sneaks up on people.  If you're hurting, it's probably from the treatments.

Hey, I have a question for you ladies who are of Tamoxifen.  Have any of you had vaginal bleeding since starting it?  I've been bleeding a bit today, and now I'm scared that the Tamoxifen isn't working.  Either that, or I have uterine cancer.  Grrrrrrr!!!  I hate this constant worry.

Love and hugs to everyone!

Karen

Ulla

1st of all..shirlann ,,ur wedding pic captured my heart..i just cant stop go back and keep looking at it,,waw..55years marrige,,how wonderfull...

dear karen,,i had something like period/bleeding for 3days after 35days of tamox and 3weeks of zoladex,,the onky told me that its not common but its not unusual..and i have remiss to gyn but dont know wen,,he asked me to keep him informed if anything else happened and that we just wait and c as i had the tamox for short time that it might not worked yet,,

so we will wait,,dont worry honey..

sisters,,am sorry that i seems not adressing each one of u,,i swear i read every single word of urs all..but wen i start to write ,,my brain is just empty,,do u feel the same or it just me???

where is sue??i want aWAAAAHHHHHHHwith her,then i want a group hug..

i hope u all know howmuch u mean to me and that i love u all...

lvtwoqlt

Ulla Here's the group (((((hug))))) from me. I agree that the onky is just being precautious and ordering the scans.

Karen, when I was on tamox (6 month only) my periods were very irregular and I would spot at the most unusual times. They put me on it after my 2nd biopsy for ADH because the dr said it wasn't a matter of if I developed bc but when. Then 6 months later I had my 3rd abnormal mammo in 26 months resulting in the biopsy showing the DCIS. After the dx the dr said I could go off of it since I was doing the bilat. I finished out my script then stopped taking it last June. My periods are still not back to what they were before. My mom couldn't answer my questions about it because she had a complete hyst done in the late 70's early 80's.

Wren, when my dad had it done a couple of years ago by a different doctor, he had to drink the gallon on goo. That is what mom was expecting when they told her she needed one, but they had changed gp and the new gp sent her to a different dr to do it.

I went to my ps yesterday and had the 'after' photos taken, he asked if I would allow the 'before and after' photos to be placed in his book to show new patients what he had done in the past. of course my head doesn't show so I said yes, if I can help others go through this process by showing the dr's success. I don't need to go back to him for a whole year!!!

Sheila

my3girls

Sisterssssssssssssss.......(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) to all of you!!! I feel like I am so out of the loop when it comes to this thread and all of you.

I have been working everyday...mostly 10-12 hrs a day since I got back, so when I get home, I am tired and haven't gotten on to read all of the posts carefully and see the pics...hopefully this weekend. 

I do miss all of you so very much!!

Sheila..that is great news...if my plastic surgeon were to ask me...I would say yes as well.  In fact...I have my appt for my nipple construction on july 7th!! yeah!!

Ulla...don't worry honey..like shirlann said...it's not bootface!! Hang in there sweetie!

Karen...I do remember you saying that you did not get the house plans you wanted.  I agree with whomever said that it means something better is coming along!  This happened to me about 14 yrs ago...I thought we found the house of my dreams and someone else bid before us...I was so upset..and my dear cousin told me what I am telling you...and sure enough just about 4 months later...my house came on the market...and I have to say...I love it soooo much more than the one...I thought was "IT".  So be patient...I know it will all work out for you!

Where is Sue?? How are you doing Dorothy?? I hope you are feeling better emotionally.

It has hard for me to get back in the swing of things since my 10day vacation.  I feel soooo tired allot of the time...

Danni had a wonderful trip to Europe!! Sue...you will love this...but she said she put in for a work visa..for the UK!!!! She would love to work and live near London for awhile!  She really felt at home everywhere she visited in Europe.  She never even saw the UK yet...haha. I will try and post a few of her pics when I can. 

I have a busy weekend...graduation parties and soooo much to get done at my home..etc.  It never ends ladies does it?  haha

Mel...we have to set a date!! July isn't the greatest for me....I have my surgery on July 7th (monday) and my sister is coming on July 15th (my favorite sis..the one I just saw in Arizona) and staying for about 10 days.  How does Sunday July 13th sound to you?? Let me know!

You ladies will not believe what I did!!!  The night I got drunk burning my wedding photos with my g/f...well...I went on a dating website...posted my profile and I was NOT going to pay money to join....but I was getting some responses...so my curiosity got the better of me...and I joined...only for 1 month..then I am cancelling!  It's not the greatest...but there are a few guys that are somewhat interesting.  In some ways I feel ready to date, but in several other ways..not sure if I am ready.  I really like being solo...but I would love someone to do things with too.  So...what do you think??? Any advice?? It's hard to know if these guys are being upfront and honest...it is the internet.  Kinda scary!  My girls say..mom...don't do it that way...?? I will take any and all advice from my sisters here.  Throw it at me!! haha

Well...I better get back to work.  Love to all of you...Sue, Mel, Sheila, Karen, Ulla, Jane, Shirlann, AE & UB, Jules, Judie, Wren, Nancy D, Anne...and anyone else I may have missed!

xoxo

Lisa

portiasproudmom

I think that as long as you're careful, it should be fine Lisa.  What the heck...can't hurt to meet a couple of interesting sounding guys in a neutral location for some chit chat.  Honestly, I think it beats meeting a guy at a bar.  It's HARD meeting quality guys at our age.  I was single for about five years after splitting from my ex.  Unfortunately, most of the guys I met were patients at the mental health clinic where I worked.  I actually went out with a couple of the doc's patients (gee, wonder why neither of those relationships worked out).  LOL!!!!!!  I think online dating is a better bet!  You'll know right away if the guy was being honest in his profile or if he's full of s@*t. 

Speaking of the mental health clinic, a former co-worker of mine got a work visa to work in the UK.  She was about 22 at the time and she a friend lived in London for a year and worked at a pub  She had a great time!  I think it would definitely be a wonderful experience for Danni.

I'm STILL bleeding, and now I have cramps too.  Blech!!!!!  Good to know that it's somewhat normal though.  I thought I was done with periods!

bbl!

Hugs,

Karen

my3girls

Karen,

Thanks for your support.  One guy asked for my ph# so we could chat...and I said, I was not comfortable giving that out yet..could we email first?  He didn't want to do that...ok...see ya later! lol

I had some slight bleeding while in Arizona.  First time I had that...and not sure why?? I sure don't want a period!! No way!

I know Danni would love to go....I would miss her terribly though.

xoxo

Lisa

portiasproudmom

Well, if he couldn't understand your reluctance to give out your phone number, then good riddance!! 

I called the onc's office this morning just to make sure that some bleeding was to be expected, and she said "yes".  Darn!  I thought that was the ONE benefit of Tamoxifen (other than keeping bootface away, that is).

Later!!

Karen xoxox

Shirlann

Hi everybody, Lisa, the best way to do this is meet for coffee at a BUSY place like a Starbucks, and sit outside.  This way, you will remain in control.  My son has done this, works well.  Make sure your car is nearby, in a well traveled area, and meet at NOON, or 2pm.   Not after dark.

Lisa, sweetie, don't worry about coming every day, you are a treasured member of this thread, and working that much, I don't know how you do it in the first place! 

Ulla, honey, I can't remember all the names either, don't feel bad at all, we just want to hear from you when you want to talk and mingle.  This is not a memory contest.  I think you are a whiz to master more than ONE language, typical american, only english and a tiny smattering of spanish, Mexico is only 15 minutes away.  They all try so hard to speak english, it is hard to get a spanish word in sideways!  But americans are notorious for being unilingual.

Karen, it is always wonderful to see your beautiful face!

Hugs and kisses to all, Shirlann 

honeygirl

Hi to all you wonderful , lovely ladies and UB. I'm sorry I have not been here in awhile. Worked nine hours and it has been very hot and humid. So I have been spending my after work hours in the pool! Oh , soooo relaxing.

First , Shirlann , I am so sorry I missed your (and Walts) birthday! You are my rock and inspriration. So even though I'm late , it is still much heartfelt to wish you HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!oxox

Wren , I am so sorry about your kitty. I had to do that last July. It is so sad and painful. I hope your heart is not so heavy soon. I now know it was the best thing to do for my "honeygirl". At the time , it was the most heart wrenching thing I ever done. But she suffered so , and was not having any "quality" of life anymore. I hope they(my kitty and yours) are playmates in heaven , playing tiger in the grass. Love you Wren. Hugs of compassion to you.xxxx

This is for Wren and all of us that have lost our beloved furbabies.

Shirlann , I love the pic of you and Walt on your wedding day! What a goregous couple. You look like Judy Garland and Walt looks like a handsome Desi Arnesz(msp)! And one granddaughter and the rest grandsons!?! I bet she is spoiled!

Shirlann , thanks sooooo much for being a part of our group. Thanks for keeping "our heads on straight" and giving us a reason to believe.I truly have such love and respect for you. You have helped me so much from day one. And I appreciate that more than words can say. And most of all , you made me laugh when I thought I would never laugh again. As Tina Turner would sing ,

"Your simply the best"! xxxxx

Karen , soooo glad you got good news on your mammo. Like Sue said , we always feel like we got some gum stuck to our shoe.

AE , wow , these docs never sease to amaze me! And there partners in crime! She assumes you know about the mole , he never mentions it , and can anyone explain it so you don't go crazy thinking about it!?!

You know , I have umpteen "skin tags" on my body. Lots of freckles , that are now "weird" looking , some of them "raise" and I can feel them. I feel like I've aged ten years in the last one. I have one boob , or foob that is bigger that my other. I am now "high risk" for just about everything. And you know what. I decided , I am gonna live , until I die. Life as I know it , is waaaay to short for me to be worrying about EVERYTHING. I am gonna do what I like , as much as I like , until I can't anymore. When its my time , its my time. So until then , I intend on smiling and laughing and relaxing in my pool(ahhhh) as much as I can. Dear sisters , I think we all need a group hug. Sue , Ulla , AE , Wren , and Suebee are all in the middle. All the rest of us sisters are arm around arm. Feel the love. Feel the healing power. Feel the warmth that surrounds all of us.

Karen , Love the pics. You are so beautiful.What  a loving , warm smile you have. And Portia too.

I hope you find the house of your dreams soon. You sooo deserve it. It will happen. I hope really soon. Hows Chase doing? Haven't seen any pics of him lately. Hope he is having a good start to his summer vacation.xxxx

Jule , I hope you are feeling better. I know it is so hard to loose someone that means so much , like valsul. Hugs to you honey.

Lisa so glad your back. Don't ask your kids about on line dating. They are soooo not there. And they don't want mom to be there either. Personally , my best friend met her husband online , they are happy and he is actually 20 years younger! I think its a good way to meet people. As with any way you meet some one , use your gut to tell you if it is good or not. Like when you asked to "lets talk on line" that you weren't ready for giving out your number. Now , if he was really interested in meeting someone , he should of thought "she is careful , this is good". But he didn't , so , Next! I think at our age , we have had alot of "life experiences" to help us weed out the ones that are dating material. Good luck Lisa! Not just with the online , keep all options open , but always listen to you "gut".xxxxx

Hi Jane! I love reading your posts. And am glad you get to go to the mountains this weekend. But I will miss you here. I sure hope "klaws" gets to go with you when you move. I picture him lying in your lap in your new home being totally content. Love you Jane.xxxx

Sheila , your son is in my daily prayers. I am so sorry he is having such trouble with his knee. Soon , though , he will be back close to you again. How wonderful about the before and after pics. That means they are nice! Good for you!

Oh Sheila , I love getting cookbooks , any chance I can get one of yours? Hope you are having a good weekend.xxxx

Sue , Ulla , and all of us that need WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH ,

I love you all dear sisters! xxxxxxxxxxxxx Mel

Shirlann

My goodness, dear Mel, I could not let that lovely compliment go unanswered.  Thank you.  It was so sweet.

Hugs, Shirl 

Anonymous

Hello all,

Shirlann, I must second what Mel said. You are amazing. 

It's all your fault, you sweet but sinister sisters. Half of me is living downtown and the other half on the Island. In between is moving the inlaws stuf out, cleaning, moving my stuff in by a carload every day or so. Hopefully it will just be furniture on the final day, July 12. I'm too exhausted to say anything but I've just read every word and found love and inspiration in them.

Computer access is intermittent, but I'll do my best to keep up. Don't want to miss a single episode of our own special "soap."

With lots of hugs,

Judie

NancyD

Hi everyone,

I'M ON VACATION!!! Until 7/7. Then out for surgery 7/9- 8/11.

Lisa, I just wanted to comment on the dating via internet. I tried Match.com about six or seven years ago. I met several of the men for coffee (as Shirl says...public place). I dated a couple of them once or twice after that, but nothing clicked with any of them. I went off the site for a while and then went back a couple of years ago to see if there was any difference. And YES there was...the difference was I found a lot of the men were lying about their ages. Go figure!

When I did meet the men from Match, they were eager to set up a date, and many expected, or at least tried, to move it along physically wa-a-y too quickly. Like that was all they wanted. Sorry, but I'm not a teenager anymore, LOL. Anyway, in the end I decided I wanted to meet people through real life activities, not the internet. That way, I would a chance to find out about someone without being in a situation that could feel uncomfortable...no expectations of a date.

Family Reunion starts today, and I've got a ton to do to finish up. I'll be on intermittently over the next week. And I hope to post some pix of my clan.

Love to all!!!

honeygirl

Hi Judie , hugs to you. Sounds like things are moving right along! I can't wait till you are in your new place. We'll be waiting for updates. Try not to pull anything with all the lifting and carrying. I know , we are women hear us roar , but for the heavy things , get the guys to help. Oh , I still have to go check out the library. I love libraries. Hope you are having a great weekend.xxxx

Hi Nancy , Yeah for vacations! I bet your busy with all the FR activities. Yes , please post some pics , we will wait anxiously...xxxx

my3girls

 Hi!!

A quick post from work.  Again...I am still dragging tired?? Not sure why?  I may have a bug...or just still getting back to the norm here. Who knows?

 Mel...you have such a way with words.  Your compliments to Shirlann were just the sweetest thing...it really touched me.  You are a doll!  So...let's set up our meeting!!!

Thanks Nancy, Mel, Shirlann and Karen for your advice on online dating.  I am really not that sure it's for me.  My one month will be up soon...and I am not renewing.  I agree with Nancy...I think allot of guys probably aren't very truthful.  It is very hard for me...because my ex (the recent one) I met in person...thought I knew him soooo well...and look what happened.  He was nothing more than a con man!! It will be very hard for me to trust.  You are right Mel...I do need to listen to my GUT!!  I should have with the last one...and didn't!

So sick of the rain here!! Nothing but downpours, dark clouds...peaks of sun...but mostly rain!  Take me back to Arizona...haha!

Nancy...enjoy your vacation.  Are you going anywhere? Or staying home and relaxing, after your FR that is. What date is your surgery?  Reconstruction right?

Judie....I am so happy for you and the move you have made.  I think it will do your soul good!  You must keep us informed and keep up on our very own soap!! haha

Ok...tata...ladies...back to work. Off for the next 2 days...thank goodness!  Lot's to do at home...most importantly ..BUY SOME FOOD!! As old Mother Hubbard would say...." the cupboards are bare"!

xoxo

Lisa

livesstrong

Hi Gang!!

Hope this finds you enjoying the weekend. 

Lisa - you are working way to many hours - I'm sure thats why you feel the way you do.

Ulla - how are you doing girlfriend? Feeling any better?? 

Mel - your right - I was out walking tonight and I was thinking the same thing - you gotta live!!  It felt so good being a part of this great universe of ours.(even thought I was sweating my arse off,teehee)

Shirlann- that picture is priceless.  I can only hope UB & I continue to have as many happy years as you and Walt. 

Karen - I never had any bleeding from Tamoxifen.  But then again, I'm an old goat that was on the verge of menopause when this whole journey started. 

Judie - how exciting this must be for you - It a whole new beginning!!!  Enjoy every moment.

Jane - congrats on finishing your semester.  Have fun packing.

Sue - hope you are getting your rest - UB is having a tough time of it as well.  Work & bootface don't mix well.

Did I tell you all we are talking about moving to Florida?? I can't remember.  Hopefully we will be there sometime next year!!  Keep your fingers crossed. 

Love you all,

 AE

my3girls

I just looked at the photos!  Shirlann...I love your wedding photo...what a great role model you and Walt are! Your grandchildren are just georgeous!! Karen...great pics of the relay.  You look so wonderful...your hair is really coming in fast!! How exciting you took part of that realy for life! Sue..love the pic of the table you finished.  It looks really good!  Want to do mine?? haha.

honeygirl

Karen , my onc told me that you can have a period or break through bleeding when taking tamox. It is just like going through menopause in the normal way , that some women will experience a period or spotting. I haven't yet. Sometime early next year , he is going to run tests to see if I am in true menopause. I really don't think its anything to worry about. See if it lasts longer than a normal period. Hugs , Mel

portiasproudmom

Thanks, Mel.  I know that it's probably fine, but it still makes me nervous that I had a period after all this time.  I was bleeding VERY heavily from yesterday afternoon through this evening.  It finally seems to be tapering off a bit.

Well, dh and I have decided on a house--he promises not to change his mind again.  I'll take a picture of the picture of it in the catalog and post it tomorrow.  It's really beautiful, but I'm sure we'll end up spending way too much money.  I think it makes more sense to buy less expensive materials (ie: flooring) initially and then upgrade to higher quality stuff in the future.  Otherwise, we may not be able to afford for me to go back to school.  The financial part of all this is really stressing us both out. 

Hugs to everyone!

Karen

sueps

Dear Sisters... xxx

I think of you loads xxx I am having a really rough week...tiredness etc HOWEVER all my joints muscles body has been painfully aching for days ...my knuckles and toes feel so pained and my wrists feel like they're broke. I have been out of treatment for 6 weeks ...is this POST CHEMO. I am bad tempered and sad with it...I thought I would be getting better...if it gets worse I will have to give up work ....

I am defeated...Tender if you are reading ...is it common...sisters did you have it ...I am CURSING xxx Work in 6 hours ... what to do xxx

I love and miss you all ... xxx

sueps

Feel like I have been crumpled up and stuffed into a cardboard box for five year I am that stiff

BOOTFACE ..... you are an ass h le   !!!!!!