I can't get my act together and I don't know why

collector

Sounds like the garden really refreshes you.  I love to garden, too, but have had to stay out of it this year since the mosquitoes hatched and I am in the middle of chemo.  It kills me to see everything looking weedy and leggy.  My husband does what he can but doesn't have the interest I do and he only has so much time on the weekends.  At least we have had enough rain so that we are not having to water a lot.  Hope you get good results and that you hear them SOON.  And I think I deserve some ice cream tomorrow, too.

wishiwere

Come on over, I'll share tonight!   Sorry you're not able to get out in the gardens.  Thank heavens I had my chemo this winter, b/c I'd have never been as healthy if I'd been out feeding and cleaning up after birds and playing in the soil   My gardens too, would have been harried as they were 3 years when I had surgery last time.  I was really sick for 4 months before and then the surgery and they were nasty the following year.  But....it got me back in shape last summer making up for lost time!    As it will you also!  Gardens are a God Sent gift, that's for certain!

kes

Wish,  I hope that you are feeling better. The gardening is very helpful for people who love the garden. Glad that it made you feel better.

I went out to dinner with 3 other girls and this is the topper. I went to the washroom and all 3 of them ordered diet coke. What is up with that? I ordered a glass of white wine. I think that I feel like GSG in her above thread. I sit there and it is like all of my friends are strangers. They talk about things that I could care less about, and I sit there and try to act like I really care about what they are saying, when I really don't give a sh*t. I feel that way about everything, I don't give a sh*t right now. I could just sit in a chair and think all day. But that would make me crazy. I was looking at my calendar from 2007 and it all started on June 5/07 with my yearly mammogram and I just finished with the exchange surgery on June 6/08. I think that I need to have a brain cleanse. All the friends that I thought I could count on were not there and still continue to be not there. I have a DH and a little DD and a part time job and another surgery on July 10/08 and BC. Sometimes it is hard to get back into the real world. My mind needs time to catch up to my body. I hope that I feel better tomorrow.

Take Care Ladies,

Kerry

wishiwere

{{Kerry}} Sorry it wasn't as fun as you thought going with the 'girls'.  Must be you just missed us!  The fun ones!  HArdy harhar

Seriously, I understand.  As one friend, who is very patient with me and does ask about things and how it's going and seriously wants to know.  She does mention when we (2 with bc hx) and she are talking, that she has NO idea what we are talking about.  ER pos for one.  But all the rest.  I suppose that's part of it.  They just have no clue about our thougths and theirs are just trivial in so many ways now, you know?

Here's to hoping everyone gets a good night sleep and awaken with rose color lenses on and ready to tackle a new day!

kes

Wish,  Thankx for your pick me up. Yes, I did miss you guys, the FUN ones.LOL,LOL!!!! And I was the only one who ordered dessert. What is with that? Come on girls, LIVE a little. Even the waiter noticed that I was the only one having wine when they had there diet coke. I asked him if he had another table of people who could adopt me for the night. All this thinking is giving me a headache. My DH is right, I cannot get past the last 1 1/2 years. On the cruise I hope there are some wine drinkers and some dessert eaters!!!! LOL

Gotta go to bed and get some sleep.

Kerry

sueper13

Kerry,

Count me in on the cruise as a wine drinker and a dessert eater!!  And I promise to understand what you say, wish!

Love,

Sue 

sam408

I'll help drink the wine and eat desserts too! In fact maybe we should just skip the stuff in between. Who needs real food when you've got chocolate, or cheesecake, or ice cream???

Moose Tracks. . .mmmmm. . .

Even though I felt so good on Tues, I'm gonna have to take it a little easier on the walking. My ab swelled and I had muscle spasms Tues and most of yesterday. I think it was going up and down the hills that did it, even though it didn't feel bad when I was out there. I'm going to stick to the flat surface of the treadmill for a while until my ab heals a little more. I'll get my daily sunshine dose working in the yard with my flowers.

Just got a call from the Q-Man (Quentin, my grandson). He wants to come to Grandma's house, so of course I'm signing off and running to get him. Can't ever get too much of that little guy!

wishiwere

I'll join with the desserts, but the wine, I'll have to skip!  Sorry, the headaches aren't worth it!  But I CAN have fun without, so don't worry about that!

Sheila!  Oh my, yes, don't overdo on the hills!  UGH!  You surely don't want adhesions after all you've been through.  I've heard they can be nasty!  AND I'm so very jealous you have a grandson near enough to you to enjoy!  My 2 grandchildren are 12 hours from us in N.C.!  Just not fair, at all, at all.   ENjoy him for me too!

kes

Hi Ladies,

Thankx for being FUN on the cruise. Half of my friends have done the great disappearing act and the other half are DUDS!!! No wonder why retail therapy feels so good right now. And the 3 last night were Nurses!!! How sad is that? I think that I remind females of their greatest fear, BC. Oh well. Such is life right now.

Sheila,  Be careful with the walks. Hope you have fun with the Q-man.

Wish,  Sorry that your grandchildren live 12 hours away. Not fair. Don't do too much weeding today. It is cold outside and cloudy.

Sue,  We can drink all the wine and eat all the desserts on the cruise. And if that is not FUN then we will have to go to PLAN B. I will have to figure out PLAN B as we go along on the cruise.

Take Care All, I may actually have to clean today, as my GF from 2 hours up north is coming to visit on Friday and stay overnight. She in not a nurse and she will have some wine and eat some dessert I am sure as I think that we will go out for dinner. You can tell this girl anything and she is so calm and such a nice person and so non-judgemental. She has 3 daughters and 1 really was the daughter from ----. She has seen it all and that daughter still likes to yank her mother's chain and she is 24 years old. Her DD takes after the ex husband. Life is so interesting isn't it?

Kerry

wishiwere

Yes, interesting it is.  I have to go out today.  It might rain tomorrow and I've yet to get the mowing done this week! EEEEEkkkkkkk!  Oh welll....it will be there after the rain too.  I'll just don an extra layer to stay warm.  Actually I most prefer the cooler temps for mowing, so this will be nice.  And by mid-afternoon it should warm up enough to get some weeding and mulching done. 

Did I mention I have mater flowers and little pumpkins growing growing? Whohooo!  Oh and cuc flowers too.  Can't wait to start picking fresh veggies from the garden that aren't all hyped up on steriods!

Okay, off to read a few more posts and into a sweatshirt or two!

kes

Wish,  What are mater flowers? Tomatoes? The pumpkins growing  reminds me of fall, and I am such a summer/beach person and with the cold weather it feels like summer is over and the fall is beginning. I have already lost the last 6 months to surgery. Time needs to slow down for me. Summer needs to show it's face.

Kerry

Harley44

Kerry,

I know what you mean, about our 'friends' not getting it.  I went to the coffee shop this morning, and the friends there were talking about this and that, you know, just alot of trivial babble, and I could really care less.

I DID go quit that job today, and am looking for something that I will like better, at least I hope...  I'm thinking about working at a little book store near by, but the only ones I can think of right now are BIGGER, like Books A Million...  Oh well... maybe I'll give that a try for awhile.  I did take a Saturday only job as an arrival host, for a vacation condo rental place at the beach, at my dh's nagging.  So now, I won't be free on Saturdays...  GRRR...  not happy about that one!  I wonder if a book store would mind that I am not available to work on Saturdays, just for the summer?

I am going to lunch with two other friends today, and am trying to put on my 'happy' face...  it's hard sometimes. 

ok... enough trivial babble from me...  hope you are feeling better. 

wishiwere,

Did you hear anything from your dr. about the us test results? 

Thinking of you, and wishing you all the best!

Harley

sueper13

Wish,

You are my role model. My husband is gone 1/2 the time (He's an airline pilot) and he does the yard--and it is the bare minimum, let me tell you.  It's just not a priority for him, and I try to choose my battles wisely, so I leave that one alone.  I have been spending more time at home and noticed myself trimming the bushes and just trying to make it look a little better.  I am also jealous of your veggies. It's really nice to know what's in (or NOT in) your food.

Kerry,

Yes I will be bad with you on the cruise.  And I won't even talk about the salads I'll eat and the walking I'll do before and after the cruise to make up for my bad behavior.  And you will know I'm not judging you because I'll be right there with you doing the same thing.. Also, I am not afraid of your bc.  I have noticed that as well, that some people just can't stay connected because of their fear.  Also, if you want to see the face of summer, come see me in Texas!  I would KILL right now for sweatshirt weather...

I went to work today but came home early as I stll have the sniffles and was going from too hot to having chills..no fever and wbc is fine, just came home to rest some more.  It is very good to be a civil servant, and at the end of a long career, to have plenty of sick leave.

Have a great day, I'll be back after my nap!!!

Love,

Sue 

wishiwere

NAP?  Did I hear NAP?  Okay, I'll take one too!

Yes, tomatos was what I was speaking of.  Little ones, medium and big, then there are the steak ones!   HUGOS!  The onions are as always doing way better than I expected and here I am again, with them planted waaaaaaaay to close!  Oh well....live and NOT learn is my motto sometimes!   Kerry....pumpkins are the reminder of a good summer come fall, so might be fun, if they do well?

The pumpkins were some biggies that MOM started and had too many, so gave some starters to my brother and I.  Should be interesting, b/c I've never done pumpkins.  Ususally do the beans, peas, and what not and this just didn't!  So I had room to grow them and try watermelons.Anyway..............

Harley!  Have some fun today and just pretend it's us in those women and we are giving you are a hard time and give it right back sweetie!   Wishiwere a fly on the wall at that lunch!

Sue?  I love doing most yard work, most often.  This year, I'm really frustrated, b/c I still have poor range of motion with the affected arm and can JUST now lift a full gallon of milk with it.  I can lift, but can't push or pull much with it   Not good considering the size of some of my weeds!  UGH!  Only bad thing about mowing 2 acreas, is the danged price of gas! 

And finally!  YES~  I love this weather to be honest! I could not stand HOT as you have it, or my brother in Phoenix with 114?  IS that nutty to live there?  WHY????????

sueper13

Harley,

Sorry, your post came in while I was posting.  I know what you mean about trivial babble.  It's hard sometimes.  It's also hard putting on that happy face. Good to come here and talk about it.  GLAD you quit that job.  You'll figure it out and find a job you can love.

Love,

Sue 

Harley44

Hi... One of the women I had lunch with today is actually a contact from bc.org...  She is really nice, and... well, BOTH women are very nice!  I just have been feeling that 'making small talk' about trivial stuff is kind of taxing to me lately...  It was fun, though. 

SO NOW I get home, to find a note in the mail from my pcp dr., telling me that my cholesterol levels are kind of high, so I had better watch my diet.  

Thanks for the vote of confidence, Sue.  I have always had lots of issues with my jobs, and have not really liked working, no matter what I do.  I always feel like I just don't fit in anywhere. 

Now I am noticing that my vision has changed... D*MN tamoxifen!! 

I hope that my pcp office gets with the program, and gets my referral to an ophthalmologist... and soon!

wishiwere,

Have you heard anything from your dr. yet, about your us results?

Thinking of you, and sending hugs your way... only you seem so totally fine about it...  Wish I could not be feeling so bad about my high cholesterol levels!!

Hope everyone has less suckage today!!

Harley

wishiwere

{{Harley}}  Sorry about the high cholestorel.  Mine was elevated for the first time to 221 in april.  Can't be the arimidex, although does it too, b/c I'd only been on it for a couple weeks when they tested.   So.....has to be the chemo and such is my thoughts.  Who knows!

There are a lot you can do to lower it, one thing is the oatmeal type breakfast everyday.  Breakfast is a good way to start the day they say, so I've pushed myself to do it as often as I can remember.  I 'forget' to eat.  Not good at all, b/c I have problems now keeping the weight on if I don't eat regularly.   But  I know dh and I have to change our ways b/c we both have that problem now, not just him

So, one of the ladies at lunch is from this site you are saying?  Cool~

Wish you'd had more fun though.  Wish we could all get together for real sometime to meet.  We wouldn't have any 'quirks' the others wouldn't like, right? 

And no....nothing about the US yet!  I'm starting to be more relaxed about it, b/c I figure if it were a problem, they'd have called by now, right?  I mean, my breast surgeon called within 2 days and 1 day after each bx, so I'm figuring no news is good news.  At least I'm trying to remember that!

3/4 of the 2 acres mowed and I ran out of gas   It's dh job to refill the 5 gal thingy we fill, so I guess I don't finish till the next paycheck, b/c this one is nearly gone! OOps!  Oh well.... 

So.... I got out the spotter scope and watched the birds.  I have a pair of bluebirds nesting again this year for the 2nd time.  It's fun to watch, b/c he's building in 2 houses and trying to get her to commit to one of them I think!  OR!  The little scoundrel has 2 birdettes on the line?  Hmmmm...dirty ol'bird!  Love those birds though.  Plus watching the babies fledge and the little ones chasing a hawk away from the nests!  So cool to see 2-4 types all working together to chase the bird out of our area!

Okay, off to shower!

kes

Hi Ladies.

Harley,  " A lot of trivial babble, and I could really care less."  OMG!!! How true is that? I could really care less. I just don't really give a sh*t about all that trivial stuff any more. I need someone that I can REALLY talk to. Glad that you quit your job. An arrival host at a rental condo place sounds great to me. I am an R.N. and I deal with people with cancer all the time. It is getting to be too much, as I really feel for these people and now having to deal with the cancer stuff myself and no one wants to deal with me. Except the DH. Even my Mother relates to my cancer as to how it is affecting her. Her world revolves around her and how she is feeling.

Sue,  Glad that you are not afraid of my BC. And also glad that you will be BAD with me on the cruise. Someone to have FUN with. I would love some beach weather here SOON!!!

Wish,  If the pumpkins are a reminder that the summer was great, then I say "Bring on the Pumpkins!!!!" Wish, Please water them a lot, or do whatever they love, and grow great big pumpkins. Hope that your results come back O.K.

Harley,  Sorry to hear that you have to watch your cholesterol now. Crappy, one more thing to watch.

Wish,  Meeting for real would be too funny as we would already know each other so well. And no one would be afraid of the conversation. And I would have wine and dessert also. Sounds like FUN!!!

Take Care All, It is cold and raining here. YUK!!!!

Kerry

P.S. The Dh is going out to get ice cream sundays after dinner and I think that this time I will have a chocolate

fudge brownie delight and enjoy every last bite.

Harley44

wishiwere,

I think you are right.  If there were anything important that you need to know, they'd have called you, already.

Kerry,

I wish we COULD all get together!  it would be fun!  Yes, I am also getting sick of all this "be happy" crap that is being spouted by people who mean well, but really don't have a clue. 
Even my dh, who just wants things to go back to "normal"...  WTH?  Can't he realize that my life has been FOREVER changed?  I can't talk to him about anything that bothers me now. 

I am not sure that the arrival host is going to be alot of FUN... but it IS only ONE day a week, so we'll see... I am having a trans vaginal us on Sat. 6/21, and they didn't read me the riot act about wanting the day off, for this medical test.  They are just like... cool... we'll get a replacement.  That is how it SHOULD be...  EVERYBODY can't always work ALL the days they are scheduled, and they need to just get over it!!  Don't get me wrong... I'd much rather work than do this test... YICK!  It is just SO GROSS!!  I have uterine fibroids, and now I have to keep reminding my dr. that I have to go and get them checked, especially because I'm taking Tamoxifen, which can make them grow... 

Well, I really should get going... I am talking way too much!!

harley

wishiwere

{{Harley}}  You make me smile when You ramble, b/c I've been doing it alot this week for some reason?  Maybe it was the full moon we had?  I think we did anyway.

Yes, dh and I have been together for 25 years, married 20 last Oct.  I keep wondering if we'll make it to 25 with all this crap.  I'm certainly not happy with day to day humdrum anymore and he's working so much to pay all these bills, I know he can't be happy.  Plus there's the gyno situation

But hey!  We're supposed to be HAPPY right? Ha!  If I were happy, perhaps there would be a reason to clean my house too huh?  Oh well....not this week!

The end all.  Dh came home to shower, eat and on the road again   Hate that!  AND!  I'm OUT OF Moose Tracks

sam408

Harley - Glad to hear you quit the job. The condo job doesn't sound too bad. You'll find something that suits you eventually. In the meantime, enjoy the 6 days a week you have off!

wish - Sorry you're so far from your grandkids. Q-Man is the only one I've got and I hate not seeing him for any length of time. My dd and him lived with us for the first 3 1/2 years and just moved out last March, but her house is less than 5 minutes from ours. During 2006 my job caused me to live in NC for 3 weeks a month and it just about killed me to be away from him that long. Was so glad when that year was over! Even though NC is a really pretty place to live.

I'm so envious of your veggies. I actually looked at patio tomatoes this year and thought I might give them a try. Then I looked at my 2 labs and realized they would eat the tomatoes as soon as they appeared (they've been known to eat the dirt out of my flower pots, weird dogs). One of them will move out with my dd when she gets married next year, so maybe I'll try when I only have one dog.

Today was pretty uneventful. After getting here, Q laid down and slept for 3 hours. We're heading to our lakehouse tomorrow night, so I've got to get busy tomorrow and get things together. We're only going for the weekend, but it's the first time I've been down there since last summer, so I've got tons of stuff to take.

If I don't talk to everyone tomorrow, you all have a great weekend.

kes

Harley and Wish,

Yes, we are supposed to be HAPPY!!! Most people think that I think "Wow, I was so lucky to have found this early." When I really think "Why did this happen to me? No family history. I can't believe this" And if one more person tells me that I am doing great and that I look great I am going to POP them. My mind is not GREAT!! Things will never get back to NORMAL!! I am lucky to have found this early, but it is just so hard to get your head around.

Sheila,

My chocolate lab used to eat food stuff out of the composter. I would be yelling at her and she would ignore me and be back in the corner of the yard chomping on egg shells. Then she would get gastro and have to go on antibiotics and eat only chicken and white rice. I cooked more chicken and white rice for that dog than I did for myself. She was a character, but a lovely one.

Night all, Gotta go to bed early as my GF will be here at 10am and we are going shopping.

Kerry

Remember I am not a morning person!!!!!

althea

Hi ladies.  Esp harley, so glad you quit that job.  Hope things get better for you real soon. 

One of these days I'll get myself kicked off this thread, but not there yet.  I've been feeling a whole lot better since I started stuff called superfood.  Not one bit of nausea in over 3 months now.  I can actually make a to-do list that I can greet with a smile instead of a sigh of defeat before I even get started.  I still just can't seem to pull myself together enough to put in a solid day of activity. 

My work ethic vanished during this unplanned trip to cancerland, and I'm hard pressed to retrieve it.  Case in point, I still haven't filed my 06 tax return or collated my tub of files for 06 for the closet.  It's dreary crap and I've had it up to my eyeballs with dreary crap!  So when I do muster up some activity, I direct it toward something I enjoy, which is either mowing and pruning my mini jungle outside the door, or baking cookies. I've been tinkering with a recipe, finding healthier ingredients one by one, and my local bc support group is an eager group of test subjects.  LOL  Today I baked without an egg, using an alternative.  I think I might just have a cholesterol-free cookie!  Maybe.  No butter, no egg.  Maybe next week I'll get to my filing.  

wishiwere

KERRY!  Have fun with your GF!  Shop till you drop as they say!

Sam!  Enjoy your weekend away for us too!

Althea? Wow!  No Egg, No Butter?  BUT!  THE real test!  Does it have CHOCOLATE?   Probably not huh? Did you know a little dark chocolate is actually good for you?   Seriously, the cookie sounds good, how's the sugar content. I need something to send with dh on the road.  He's diabetic II with high cholestorel.  Always looking for something for the truckers to eat on the road, that's healthy.  IT's so dang hard!

The activity level seems to get good, then wane, then increase again.  At least it seems to increase much more than decrease these days. I think working in the sun helps alot for me!  Lightened my moods immensely!

I like your idea of a balanced diet better than any other diet I've read of! Simple and Tasty!

Harley44

Hi... I am still not cleaning! 

wish,

I thought I was the only one who was having these problems with my dh...  things are just 'ok', but not really wonderful, and I just don't feel as 'close' any more...  we have been together 26 years, and married for 22, and I used to be able to tell him ANYTHING, because he would really understand, it was like we were just so close...

I am waiting for Reach to Recovery to call me, I want to volunteer to talk to newly dx'd bc women, but they haven't so I just may have to mop the kitchen floor...  I really think I need help!! 

Kerry,

I know... everyone tells me the same thing... You are SO LUCKY to have found it early, while it was still very small... no lymph nodes, etc...  and YOU LOOK SO GOOD!  I LOVE YOUR NEW HAIRDO!  Well, I HATE it, it isn't me, I look like freakin' BOZO, cause the curly part just STICKS OUT!  WTH?  and now the new growth that I have is totally straight, so just the ends stick out!!  Everyone tells me to keep it this way, and I feel like SCREAMING:  ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND!!  It looks like CRAP!

Althea,

Thanks.  You are so kind!  I think everyone must be tired of me by now.  I just need to adjust to the "new NORMAL"... I am so sick of the new NORMAL... I want my old normal back!

I may go see about another weekday job, but... well, maybe I'll just see how this Saturday thing goes for now.  After all, I AM off tomorrow... my first day, and I can't go to work 'cause I have that us...  YICK!  You know, there are 6 other days in the week, and they can't find a day when I am NOT working!  I worked on Wed., and they originally scheduled it for Wed...  Incredible!

I like to shop, but lately, I don't even have the energy for that.

Well, I guess I'll get going.  Got to check out the fish in our local grocery store, so we can start on that 'sucky, healthy  low cholesterol diet'.  I bet that reach to recovery will call, the second I leave the house!!  How DO they do it?? 

THere is nothing like sitting home, waiting for a phone call!!

Hope everyone has a great weekend!  and NO CLEANING ALLOWED!

Harley

wishiwere

Yeah, I was going to clean the bathroom today, but forget it!  Maybe I'll take up drinking instead!  Dh bought me a bottle of southern comfort 3 years ago for new years.  Never drank a drop till the day we put the girls down.  Had 2 (glasses over ice), got sloshed and slept it off.  Haven't since, but I feel the need to drown in it this weekend!   HATE CANCER!  I hate it!  HATE EVERYTHING ABOUT IT!  People who say they've changed in a good way, are nutty!  That's my gripe for today....

OOPS@  Wrong thread huh?  Guess I brought my grudge with me  from the other thread....sorry!

Harley44

wishiwere,

You are allowed to cross threads... I do it alot!  Sometimes I forget which one I'm on, since I am always on either the bitchy thread or this one...

I feel the same way you do... All this bc crap SUCKS!  Bc has taken my youth, my happiness, my relationship with my dh, my sex life... the list is endless of stuff that bc has stolen from me.

But, we are just supposed to be HAPPY, and just MOVE ON... HOW??

Harley

BTW, none of those people called me today so I guess I'll have to call back on Monday.  You know, I feel like you... maybe I'll just wait and go to those two drs. - the eye dr and the onc nurse, and if the referrals don't go thru... screw it, I don't care!  I DID MY PART!  Why the HELL DO WE have to keep following up, making sure that they DID their job??? 

wishiwere

I have no idea WHY we have to do the jobs they are paid well to do!

I was just reading my pap results from april.  Now I'm ticked about that too.  Just one more thing....  says atrophic cellular changes.  Everything I read says when that's found in a post meno woman, that estrogen should be applied for 3-4 weeks and then redo the pap or the results are accurate? OR do a colposcopy.  So, why wasn't this mentioned I wonder?  I also know that blood on the specimen can cause problems with diagnosis and that was present I know, b/c the doctor mentioned that there was bleeding on the specimen and apologized for the pain.  I said, NP, knowing there would be.  They took a very large cone bx 12 years ago and I knew it would bleed, always does it's so thin   So there's 2 reasons it might not have been read right.  I'm just feeling like a person looking for problems, but if I'm paying (and the ins) for results, I expect the test to be done correctly and not give me a sense of false hope or worse, worry.  Just a pain I am today for everyone around me I'm sure! 

BUT!  I've decided I AM MOVING ON!  They say I'm healthy, I'm going for it! No more holding back.  I'm going to get back to my weight I need by eating more and walking (hate that) and start pushing that arm that's useless.  One way or another, I will get back on track!  I'm tired of being tired and feeling lost and feeling out of control of my life.  I'm through with docs till next october for my 6 month review with the onco or breast surgeon and that's that!  Shoot......I was going to fire my onco and get a new one..... guess I should have those records transferred huh?  Hmmm..next week.

Harley44

WishIwere,

I think that you have the right attitude... you go girl! 

I MIGHT have to switch my primary care dr., yet again, because there is only ONE other dr. who is in network, in my area...so that is why I'm giving this guy another chance...  The dr. I saw is an idiot, because she went scuba diving and flew back home the next day... a definite NO NO... she got 'the bends' and now her medical career is over.  I think she was tired of working anyway.  So now I have to see her partner.  He seems nice enough, as I reported on another thread, but... the people in the office are just SLOW as MOLASSES!  Now I am SUPPOSED to be going to see these two specialists, but if they don't get the necessary approvals thru my insurance co., I will be charged for these dr. visits!  I know my insurance case manager will tell me that it is MY JOB to keep up with all these referrals... but HOW can it be MY JOB, when I have NO CONTROL over these things?  Why am I the only person who can see how STUPID this is?

Good luck, wish!  I know that things never seem to keep you down for very long.  I hope I can get back into the groove somehow, but HOW??

You are right... it really sucks that we have to be worried about every aspect of our health, but I will do whatever I can to get my cholesterol back on track... that is something, at least, that I have SOME control over...

Harley

wishiwere

Have you called the docs offices you are going to see, the optom and other to see IF they can push the referrals through?  Explain to them WHY you need to be seen and that you've yet to get the referrals in the mail?  OR CALL the office back and say, I'M STILL waiting on the referral and my appt is coming up?  You can make the appt, just need the sheet for referral before you go ususally.

Yeah, I'm trying to cope.  Had a tearful day and fighting it still, but dang, I AM GOING to beat this!  I am!  I have to, or I'll kill something/one!