I can't get my act together and I don't know why
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Cris,
That is too funny. Maybe the 2 little Dictators should get together and then they can boss each other around instead of us.
One day my little Dictator was aguing with me about everything. Finally I said to her "Stop arguing with me". She put her hand on her hip and she tells me "I am not arguing with you. YOU are arguing with ME". I nearly burst out laughing in her face, I had to turn away. She was also pointing her finger at me and then at her with the words. I thought that I was going to kill myself laughing. I wish that I had some of this on video. It is too priceless!!!!
I better go to bed as the Little Dictator has to be up early for school in the am.
Kerry
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Cristine,
Happy Birthday to your dd....now don't get weepy today!! She sounds great, happy and as if she likes who she is.
Kerry,
I wish there was a way we could clone ourselves so we can be home for the sweet moments and still go on the bc only cruise......
Hope everyone has a great day. I'm going to lunch with a good friend, and then we are shopping, even though I hurt....
Love,
Sue
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Cristine,
Happy Birthday to your dd....now don't get weepy today!! She sounds great, happy and as if she likes who she is.
Kerry,
I wish there was a way we could clone ourselves so we can be home for the sweet moments and still go on the bc only cruise......
Hope everyone has a great day. I'm going to lunch with a good friend, and then we are shopping, even though I hurt....
Love,
Sue
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{{Sue}} so sorry you are hurting
Sure takes a lot of the joy out of shopping when your hurting, especially the legs/feet. Hope you feeling up to and have a wonderful day in spite of the pain.It rained again last night. Starting to feel like a tropical jungle and looking like one around here! I wonder if those viney things growing wild will cover the house and then I wouldn't have had to worry about the gutters, b/c no one could see them!
Off to shop with dd this morning for funeral clothes. Her Bf grandfather who helped in raising him died of lung cancer yesterday. He was a neat guy that she really enjoyed, fishing and learning from as she has had no grandfathers in her life since she was 5. Hate that!
Have a good day ladies!
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Sue,
Sorry to hear that you are in pain. Hope the lunch was nice. And I hope that you did some GOOD shopping and spent some money. Never a problem with me. Hope that you bought yourself something new to wear on the cruise. I bought a new pair of sandals for the criuse on Monday when I went out to lunch. First time that I have done this but I brought them home and hid them. From the DD, not the DH. I didn't want the Dictator to lecture me about my spending.(The DD/PILL/8 year old Mother of Kerry)
Wish,
Wild weather around here too. You are right it is like the tropics. I think that my foam will melt to me. Sorry to hear about the grandfather of the boyfriend. Your DD must be sad. That is so sad.
Take Care Ladies and remember "Just say NO" to cleaning.
Kerry
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Kerry,
The lunch was nice. My wonderful friend Vicki (aka the Bohemian Princess) chose a little, out of the way place with great food and fresh baked desserts and then we went to the mall. I got body (soft) clothes at the Gap and a summer t-shirt material robe. I got my dh a set of nice knives for Father's Day (kitchen knives, yes, he cooks!!), I hope he likes them and doesn't think they are weird. Just a couple of weeks ago he said, You know, we have never had a really nice set of knives....
The pain has resolved. Thanks for listening and the wishes. My digestive system has also returned to normal from this round of chemo.. Today the mouth stuff started, but typically it's over by Saturday. So far no soreness, just nothing tastes right. I don't really have very much to complain about.
Off to the lake tomorrow for two nights. I can't wait!!!!!
Hope everyone has a great evening.
Love,
Sue
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Have a great weekend SUE!
FOr us too! Well, some are working and some leaving home and IT'S GOTTEN BORING HERE!
HARLEY? WHERE ARE YOU? Are you doing okay?
GSG? Still working I'm sure, too hard too!
Kes? You're not in jail for the 'MIA Hubby' are you?
Off to get the day going! Enjoy the nice weather ladies!
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wish,
well, they called my husband out to fly, today is supposed to be his day off. He will be home about 12:30, which means I get to do all the prep work for our trip. And I don't even get to be mad at him about it, because it's not his fault. Don't you hate that?
Found out the cabin has a hot tub!!
Have a great day,
Sue
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Hi ladies - sorry I've been so out-of-touch in this thread! You are all so funny - the vacuum picture sitting in the middle of the floor is hysterical - just like my house!
And cleaning out one drawer at a time is what I tell my daughters......I should practice what I preach!Have any of you heard of C.H.A.O.S.??? It stands for "Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome"......it's definitely an SE for BC. The Fly Lady discusses this and many other ailments on her website - check her out here: http://www.flylady.net/
P.S. I did it AGAIN - commented on a thread that was PAGES ago! Sorry - blame it on the early hour and my lack of coffee!
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Swimangel, we accept all and any excuse, so you're good to join!
Just don't misplace that coffeepot! Nothing worse than starting the day w/o a cup of joe by your side! Sue, enjoy that HOT TUB! I'm so jealous!
And yes, I hate when that happens! Finally talked dh into making use of his day off (no work happening yesterday) and said I'd help with his disasterous desk mess! WE got through 1 1/2 drawers and the phone rings! Yep, work, they needed him! He's been on the road since. Guess who's left to finish the job? Yep, THE CATS! Seriously. I did 2 more drawers, but just can't get to the last 2 and the cubbies. It's not even MY desk! UGH! -
I have to come back later and check in AGAIN. Getting ready for my appointment with my primary. But I just had to comment first.
You gals know how to make someone smile. Yep, you do.
Sue, sorry you have to finish the "prep" before leaving to that hot tub. No hot tub for me....it's so dad blame hot here plus I have LE.
Swimangel, YES!!! C.H.A.O.S. is definitely in my dictionary and it will probably remain there FOREVER! I really need to check out Flylady's site again. Hmmm...from now on when someone wants to come over I'll tell them, Welcome to C.H.A.O.S.
Wishiwsere, you're gonna get banded from this thread if you DON'T STOP IT! Cleaning, that is! Hell, you're probably Flylady!
Gotta go take a bath.
Shirley
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Hi Ladies,
Sue,
ENJOY the cabin with the HOT TUB! You deserve it. Sounds wonderful. Funny how both your and Wishi's husband were called out to work when the cleaning was happening! I love going out to lunch.I was at a covered patio down at the beach town on Monday and all the beautiful plants and they had a Golden Link Tree (that's what they said it was). I felt like I was in Georgia!! (HOT, HOT)My DH also does the cooking! Way better then me. I LOVE it. Probably why he is still alive.HA,HA.HA
Wish,
No, I am not in Jail yet. But funny you ask that. I was paying my bills yesterday and my long distance bill was really high. I couldn't figure it out. And then I checked. In the winter when at home recuperating from surgery, my 3 closest girlfriends could not phone me or come to see me. Too afraid, and I remind them of what they fear the most.Still not back to the old way. BUT the one person who would call me was my DH"s friend who was in jail on his 3rd DUI charge in Toronto and an alcoholic. AND he had to call me collect. So I ended up paying for the calls!!! I know that this is not Funny, but I was in a real downer of a mood and it brought me out of it. I thought, Ya only in my life the only friend who can call me to see how I am and how things are going after the bilat mastectomy is John, and he is in JAIL on his 3rd DUI charge and an alcoholic!!!And I had to pay for the calls!!! How screwed up is that? I feel sorry for this guy as at 52 yrs old and the bottle has just about ruined him and now wife number 3 is trying to help him. He had a relapse.Wife #3 bought a cottage while he was in jail. Can you imagine? And he is telling me over the phone from jail. She paid 220,000.00 for a cottage on an inland lake in Ontario when he was in the SLAM!!!! OMG!!! I said to my husband, well at least I only buy some clothes and shoes and a new car, but she bought a cottage!!!! I'm not up in the major leagues yet. I'm still in the minor league(sp) with my spending.
The cleaning ladies are coming today, so NO cleaning for me. I'm going to the city for a quick DR.appt and go grocery shopping.
Have a great day all.
Kerry
And the moral of the story is......When your DH nags you about your shopping and your spending your answer can be ......Well at least I didn't buy a cottage!!!!!
Will have to check the flylady also.
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shirley,
Good luck with your dr. appt. today. I am also headed for the bathroom, to try to make myself look presentable for my tattooist. You know, the last two times I have driven over that bridge into Wilmington, I have had panic attacks! When I drive at a normal speed, I'm ok, but when the car in front of me is going slow... then I freak out, I am not sure why, but maybe I am afraid of going over the side
wishiwere,
I'm still here, just not posting as much. I'm still dealing with the depression, and my dh is ready to kick me out of the house, because he's had it with me. We had a talk this morning, and I promised to put on a happy face... great, now I can't be my sad self with anyone... I will have to be 'happy' ALL the time!
Well, at least I can come here.... because you ladies all understand. HELL, I don't even understand why this is happening...
Harley
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Wow, I was gone a couple of days and ended up being 3 pages behind. I'm still not cleaning and dinners have consisted of sandwiches because it's so dang hot. DH gripes, but I just give him the look and he shuts up (wonder if he's been on here reading about the shovels and picks).
I'm sooo in for the cruise. I've never been on one and thinking sharing my initial experience with my bc sisters is definitely the way go to.
I would like to add having Mimosas served by the young Latinos while we relax in lounge chairs on the mildo deck. Then we could add in some young Italians to fan us with those big palmetto fans. They would also sing to us in Italian and we wouldn't know what they were saying, but it would be beautiful anyway. Oh and massages are needed too. Manis, peds and massages. . .yummo! Can't wait for this ship to sail! Hope GSG digs herself out of work and gets her butt on this cruise.
Sue, glad to hear the pain is better. Have a great weekend with your family and hot tub.
Gonna get dressed and try to get a little gardening done before it gets too freaking hot to be outside. And gardening is not work because I actually enjoy it and it gets me out of my dirty house!
Take care all
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Harley,
We love you whether you are happy or sad. I hope you can be happy, but I will take the sad. Remember, you feel how you feel. You husband is just making you hide your sad feelings from him. I know he wants to help you, but what he is doing is telling you it's not okay for you to be sad, and it is. So when you feel sad, instead of sharing it with him and maybe getting even closer to each other, you will hide it and there will be distance there. Not trying to say anything bad about anybody, just saying what I have found to be true for me.
Hope your day is happy.
Love,
Sue
P.S. You can come here and be sad anytime and everyone here will understand and love you up.
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Harley - Sorry you're still feeling down, but DH needs to back down a little. Mine does the same thing to me and it's what we fight about more than anything. His favorite thing to say to me is, "What's wrong with you?" I swear I hear it everyday and it sends me over the edge. When you're trying to sort out your feelings, it doesn't help to have someone expect you to just get over it. Being a man he's probably having a hard time with the fact that he hasn't been able to fix this for you.
Have you talked to any professionals about your depression? Have you considered taking any meds? I did it for a while and it really helped.
On the other hand, if the DH gets too bad, we can get the shovels and picks out of the red barn.
Hang in there. Big Hugs.
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Harley,
Sorry to hear that you are feeling sad. I tell ya, men cannot handle FEELINGS!! My DH is a great guy, But he will tell me that I am perimenopausal, depressed or PMS. It always has to have a label. I say that I am just SAD. What do DH's expect. I told mine to try and imagine having his penis cut off and the DR's tell him they will put it back on, with no guarantee of size or shape, and you will not have any sensation. They just do not get it!!!!! And neither do my girlfriends. Hang in there. It will get better.
Sheila,
I love Mimosas, great choice. The cruise is sounding like more fun all the time. My one girlfriend (another old one, and she can handle my diagnosis) called me the other day and said hey, Kerry , I am going to Vegas in Sept with 2 other girls, want to join us? What do you think that my answer was? I said after the winter I have been through and if all my surgeries are done, count me in!!!! 4 Canadian Nurses in Vegas. Can you imagine. And this crowd is NOT SHY. Very loud actually and Laugh!!! I HAVE to go with them, if it all works out. I hope it does.
Take Care All and remember "just say NO"
Kerry
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Kerry, can you drop in and get me on the way in sept? I'll be packed and ready, standing on the red barn!
Harley, the girls are right of course. He's not validating as the ones in the know would say, that your feelings are 1) Yours and 2) real! He needs to get a real sense of what this is all about.
I have a family that is torn between understanding depression (a brother who suffers from seasonal type) and my mother and sister who think I should be all better and not moody, depressed, anxious or any other 'negative' emotion. WF EVER! No, they don't get it and No, they NEVER will unless Gosh forbid..... I don't even want to say it. They can't understand where we are at, just emotionally have never been there.
You feel what you are feeling and if /when you need, you come on here, or pm me and I'll give you my number and you can put your dh on the phone with me!
Kidding...seriously though. If you want we can exchange #'s and you can call if/when you need to just talk, rant, rave, whatever, K? Depression is not something to do alone, k? Find someone, anyone that will listen, even if it's a priest, minister, doc, therapists, or another local BC patient that you can connect with and have a sit down and talk about it, K? And you know we will always be here, just a post away! Shirley, you can't kick me out for cleaning out tiny little drawers that have JUNK in them from 10 years ago? CAN YOU??????????? Seriously, it's my roll to and he's been using that long b/c I had another with my puter on it and he had a laptop. He's jammed it full of odd and ends, so it's like a parts warehouse! I'm sick of it crammed up! I had to do something to bring back it's beauty and for goodness sakes, so I could open it and see the cubbies at least! You couldn't even write on the desktop anymore, or FIND IT I mean!
Please...............forgive me. I'll be good and not clean anymore after this, I promise!
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Okay, I think we are going to have to have a cleaning intervention here. Wish, you are choosing cleaning over your family (us) and it is affecting your life. You can't see it because it's a disease. Your cleaning has affected me negatively in the following ways:
1. It makes me feel guilty because I didn't clean.
2. It keeps you off these boards when you really need to be here.
3. It just bothers me, a lot.
If you choose to continue to clean, I will do the following:
1. I will no longer read your posts out loud.
2. I will not participate in any shovel adventures if you are there.
3. I will not sit with you at dinner on the cruise.
Please, wish, accept the help that is being offered to you today. Will you stop cleaning?
Love,
Sue
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Harley, I've read about your depression on several threads. I think you need to sit down with the docs and talk about meds again. Can you get a referral to a psychiatrist? I don't know everything about these metabolic pathways for tamox, but maybe one of the older pre-ssri antidepressants would be ok? It is just not right that you are suffering this way. At the very least I want to second the suggestion of some talk therapy. That weekly appt has kept me sane at many times in my life. I remember telling one therapist that my appt with her was the only place I could just sit and cry and it was worth every penny. (And I got better too, eventually).
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revkat,
I can not go and see a psych. just can't do it.... For those that it helps, that is great... but it would NOT help me.
Thanks anyway.
Kerry,
You are SO right! Maybe I should explain it that way... too funny, though... he'd say that if it was a choice between his LIFE and his PENIS, he'd pick his LIFE...
Sue,
It helps, just knowing that SOME of you get it... But I guess I will just have to SUCK IT UP, and not show my feelings. You are right. I think that the attitude that I am just supposed to "get over it", because my tx is over, and I am all better now, is MOSTLY what is causing this distance between me and my dh...
wishiwere,
Thanks so much for the kind offer! I just might take you up on it. BUT, it seems that just about everyone I know is getting sick of it, and they just want me to 'snap out of it'. If only it were that easy! My dh says that he wants his 'old Harley' back. But she is gone, forever, and I don't know who I am anymore....
I will be ok, it will just take time.
Thanks
Harley
Harley
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{{{Harley}}} My heart aches, b/c you need to work this through, not hide behind a facade 24/7 and be something you are not, even if for just dh! Of all the people you should be able to be yourself, it should be him. Shame on him for his manly ways. I think many men have NO clue b/c when someone in their family was sick, they went to work. Period! They never have to be the 'supportive' one in the family and that's sad, b/c being on the giving end as you and I know is the best of all worlds. The worse is having to ask for the giving to be returned. Please don't ream yourself for his shortcomings sweetie. He's a ______. You fill in the line. I know you can do it, b/c I do about dh as often as he needs it! Sometimes it just helps to type it out here and other times, I want to head straight to the red barn!
SUE! I'm so sorry I've caused you such pain in the ARSE!
FUnny lady! I'll be good. Now that I've hoed the veggie garden, I'm too tired to do the sheets that need it, and the dishes that are still sitting in the dw from yesterday and all the other stuff that should get done. I'll just sit on here and type all night, K? Will that do your mind and soul better dear? I hope so, cause I really won't sit by myself at the cruise dinners. I'd have to crash your party and then you'd be sad and it would all start over again! Okay....i'm physically exhausted today! Omy, I hurt in places I had forgotten I could hurt! Owy!
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Harley, sweetie, WE WILL NEVER GET SICK OF IT! You'll get sick of it sooner than we will. You KNOW you can ALWAYS call me. I know depression is real. And there's not one damned thing you can do to make it go away. Except, Harley, I think it may be time to try the Effexor. I know you're scared to take it again because of your experience of coming off of it. However, perhaps you weren't ready to come off of it. I don't want you to think I'm telling you what to do. I just hate seeing you feel this way. This should be the happiest time of your life..dh retired and all. I want you to enjoy your cruise with your dh in December..it is December, right?
And no, men don't get it. NO ONE can truly understand unless they've experienced it. To be truthful, I didn't understand until I experienced depression. I didn't understand how one feels when one is dxd with bc until I was dxd. I was clueless. But'cha know what? I think it's made me a better person because I have more empathy for people who are dealing with ANY kind of illness. I certainly don't judge them. I learned way to early...in my 30s. I didn't think it would ever happen to me -- depression/anxiety.
Harley, and you are having panic attacks crossing the bridge? Oh, sweetie, that's terrible. I remember those TOO! When I'd go grocery shopping I'd RUSH through the store. I never left a grocery basket, but I'd rush around as fast as I could. And my youngest dd, my gypsy dd, always wanted to go with me. She was just a little girl then. It was a comfort to have her with me although she didn't know what I was experiencing. I had to try and hide it as much as I could.
"IT" is real, Harley. Tell dh to talk to me. Trouble is, I never really shared much with my dh. Shame, isn't it. Your dh needs to know that by you sharing your feelings with him you're not closing him out. Sometimes we just need some hugs THAT DOESN'T LEAD TO S-E-X! If you two watch TV tonight tell him to sit on the couch and you put your head in his lap and tell him to gently rub your back. Even though I gripe about my gypsy daughter and her dh he is the sweetest man I've ever seen with his spouse. He outwardly shows her affection. Not disgusting stuff...LOL. Just sweet stuff. Aw, how we women need this. And she does the same for him. They will be married 10 years tomorrow! They've been together for 19 years..ever since they were 16 yo. Which brings to mind...they are coming over for leftover Chicken Chow Mein tonight.
So, Harley, come here anytime. We love you.
Shirley
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Wishiwere, really, I'm so proud of you. I'm just jealous! Can I be jealous? I'm thinking about our junk drawer in the kitchen..just one among others. I'm thinking about taking that drawer and dumping out on the floor. I bet I could throw away 99% of the stuff OR find something I lost years ago that I don't need anymore. I could have an extra drawer in my kitchen that I BADLY need. Keep on working. I hear it's good exercise, good for the old brain and mood, and ya might keep weight off. Boy do I need that!
My trip to the doc was uneventful. Well, not exactly. I'VE GAINED FIVE POUNDS since Christmas. I CANNOT afford it. I'm going on a diet tomorrow. Yeah, tomorrow. After going to the doc I stopped by a friends house. She told me that Chic-Fillet (heck, I don't even know how to spell it) had this wonderful milk shake called "Carmel Coffee." I had not eaten and really wasn't that hungry. Yeah, you guessed it. I bought one for me and one for fat dh. Plus I bought me a grilled chick sandwich and him the one that's fried. But you'll be proud of me. I took about half the bun off and threw out part of the shake. I told my myself, "Self, throw out the rest of the shake. You really don't want it. Why make yourself sick?" Don't be too proud cuz the little bit I didn't ingest really didn't mean much. Then, I took a nap instead of getting on the treadmill. LOL
How'd I get off subject? Oh, yeah, wish, keep on keeping on and you'll find even more Owies! Is that spelled with "ies" or "ys?"
Sue, I LOVED your intervention! Made me laugh!
Patrice, where are you? You authored this thread. Is the Senate still working you? They didn't pass that bill the other day. Were you there to listen to all the shouting. Or was there any shouting? Darn, I should watched C-span to see what was happening. And maybe I coulda found you. I would have started jumping around and screaming at the TV. And dh would have to get off his arse and come down to see what the heck I was screaming about!
I'm going to mosey along. I should vaccum. But I'm not.
Shirley
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So Patrice? We need a pic of you as you look on camera, so we can recognize you! I want to say, "I KNOW HER!"
Thanks Shirley. I guess you can't count it as my cleaning, b/c it's his stuff I'm throwing out!
Even a little ceramic deer he was going glue the leg back on for our dgd in NC from 3 year ago! What ever! I threw it out b/c the leg was missing. Next drawer I found the leg and threw it out too! I'm on a streak here to get rid of excess baggage..... -
Wishiwere, you just made me laugh. And I think it's WONDERFUL that you getting rid of that "excess baggage." I've done a little of that. I've got tons more to do.
Poor deer!
Oh, and yes it IS most definitely considered "cleaning" even though it was HIS stuff.
BTW, what pill do you take to get you inspired....or....give you the energy...or whatever it takes to clean. I need to clean my glass front door. It's disgusting. And that's not even hard to do. And you hoed a garden?
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Sue,
I loved your intervention to Wish and I think that I feel the same way. Made me laugh also. She will really have to pull her socks up and stop all the cleaning. My DH has a desk/writing desk in the living room with all his important papers in it and when I find something of his I just shove it in there until it is spilling over. Then he can't find anything in there and he has to clean it out as he is saying "Who keeps shoving all this crap in here, I can't find a thing, you just can't shove all my stuff in here" Oh yes I can!!! It is too funny.
Harley,
I like talk therapy. Someone actually listens to me. WOW. I told the Dr. today that this pre menopause state was giving me mood swings. One day I am crying, the next day I'm o.k. then the next day I am ready to rip someomes head off. He treats this with a low dose of prosac once a week to even things out and not have the side effects. I think that I will give it a try as he said that this could last for 2-5 years and the ob-gyn told me it could last 2-7 years. I told the Dr. that I could not take this for 2-5 years and the DH said to me that he cannot take this for 2-5 years. I tell ya, talk about a different woman. Life was so much easier before I turned 50. That was the year of it all falling apart. Hang in there.
Shirley,
I gained 14 lbs since Christmas, so don't feel bad. We will all gain weight on the cruise anyways so it is o.k. For lunch today I had a giant Oh Henry bar and a bottle of coke. It was diet though. Felt like a kid again in public school when you go to the store and spend your allowance on candy and junk food. It was early in the day, so I will have time to burn the calories off. I am just being such a little sh*t lately. The BAD girl is coming out!!!!
Remember just say what ever you want. And NO CLEANING. I am on strike for the summer. The cleaning ladies were here today so I can be on strike today. Taking DD to the Fun Fair at the public school. It is fun. All sorts of games and a prize table and hotdogs and hamburgers. I will start my diet tomorrow. And I will try and behave tomorrow.Tomorrow is another day.
Kerry
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Kerry,
Sorry, no offense, but I just don't 'get' how talking to a PAID therapist can help anyone... I think it's GREAT if it helps YOU, but it wouldn't help me... really. My sister had a mental breakdown from something she took for Graves Disease treatment, and the therapist was VERY helpful for her, because he showed her how DUMB her way of thinking was... She thought she was a terrible person, and she was going to go to HELL, because... all you ladies will just LOVE this one, because... her house was messy!! Now it's not my brain that is broken, and I definitely don't have a warped mind, thinking that I am a bad person, because my house is a mess.... I don't have a problem with that...
Harley
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Shirley,
AWW.... You are SO sweet, and so kind! I will call you, but I won't bother you while your company is there.... See, you have a life, and I don't. I would be calling you all the time. Instead, I just come here. Maybe it would help if I had something interesting to do so I wouldn't think so much. I will think about taking that Effexor. I just don't know what to do. When I took it before, it wasn't helping me to sleep.
Oh, we cancelled that cruise, because it was $12,000, and we can't afford it, on my dh's retirement! That is why I took that job that I hate, to help pay for the cruise... Now I can quit whenever I want, but I think I'll wait a couple of weeks, just to see how things go. I still have to go to the dentist, and have x-rays, and a cleaning, so I'll need to pay for it, since we don't have dental insurance... do I sound like a broken record?
We are going on another cruise, in February, and it is less expensive, but after having had bc, I can't help but wonder if I'll even be able to go... you know. We bought this trip insurance, which was very expensive, because it had to cover "pre-existing conditions." It makes me think again about my own mortality, even though I know we are all gonna die eventually.
My dh is trying, I guess, but he just gets so MAD at me, sometimes, and that isn't helping our relationship AT ALL. It just makes me want to move out... When I was dx'd, he came back from his Navy job, to stay with me for a couple of weeks... and he was so sweet, he said "I won't let anything happen to you." Now we all know that no one can stop bc from happening.
When I was dx'd, I lost alot of weight. I was down to 93 lbs! In the past year, I have gained about 20 pounds! When will it ever stop! When I look in the mirror, I see an almost bald woman, with a huge pot belly, even though my arms and legs are skinny, and with my bad teeth, I'm picturing me toothless.... WHO could LOVE that??
I'll call you when you are not so busy...
Thanks! You are just so sweet!
Harley
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Harley, we are planning a cruise to Alaska and it is about 700 per person for 7 days. Is that a good price? Where were you going that it was going to be 12,000??? So your husband doesn't work just his retirement? Do you have kids? I just want to hug you and tell you this too shall pass. Your hair will grow, use your next check to fix your teeth, and quit that job. We love you.
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- 22 International, Non-English Speakers With Breast Cancer
- 16 Latinas/Hispanics With Breast Cancer
- 189 LGBTQA+ With Breast Cancer
- 152 May Their Memory Live On
- 85 Member Matchup & Virtual Support Meetups
- 375 Members by Location
- 291 Older Than 60 Years Old With Breast Cancer
- 177 Singles With Breast Cancer
- 869 Young With Breast Cancer
- 50.4K Connecting With Others Who Have a Similar Diagnosis
- 204 Breast Cancer with Another Diagnosis or Comorbidity
- 4K DCIS (Ductal Carcinoma In Situ)
- 79 DCIS plus HER2-positive Microinvasion
- 529 Genetic Testing
- 2.2K HER2+ (Positive) Breast Cancer
- 1.5K IBC (Inflammatory Breast Cancer)
- 3.4K IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma)
- 1.5K ILC (Invasive Lobular Carcinoma)
- 999 Just Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastasis
- 652 LCIS (Lobular Carcinoma In Situ)
- 193 Less Common Types of Breast Cancer
- 252 Male Breast Cancer
- 86 Mixed Type Breast Cancer
- 3.1K Not Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastases but Concerned
- 189 Palliative Therapy/Hospice Care
- 488 Second or Third Breast Cancer
- 1.2K Stage I Breast Cancer
- 313 Stage II Breast Cancer
- 3.8K Stage III Breast Cancer
- 2.5K Triple-Negative Breast Cancer
- 13.1K Day-to-Day Matters
- 132 All things COVID-19 or coronavirus
- 87 BCO Free-Cycle: Give or Trade Items Related to Breast Cancer
- 5.9K Clinical Trials, Research News, Podcasts, and Study Results
- 86 Coping with Holidays, Special Days and Anniversaries
- 828 Employment, Insurance, and Other Financial Issues
- 101 Family and Family Planning Matters
- Family Issues for Those Who Have Breast Cancer
- 26 Furry friends
- 1.8K Humor and Games
- 1.6K Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts
- 706 Recipe Swap for Healthy Living
- 704 Recommend Your Resources
- 171 Sex & Relationship Matters
- 9 The Political Corner
- 874 Working on Your Fitness
- 4.5K Moving On & Finding Inspiration After Breast Cancer
- 394 Bonded by Breast Cancer
- 3.1K Life After Breast Cancer
- 806 Prayers and Spiritual Support
- 285 Who or What Inspires You?
- 28.7K Not Diagnosed But Concerned
- 1K Benign Breast Conditions
- 2.3K High Risk for Breast Cancer
- 18K Not Diagnosed But Worried
- 7.4K Waiting for Test Results
- 603 Site News and Announcements
- 560 Comments, Suggestions, Feature Requests
- 39 Mod Announcements, Breastcancer.org News, Blog Entries, Podcasts
- 4 Survey, Interview and Participant Requests: Need your Help!
- 61.9K Tests, Treatments & Side Effects
- 586 Alternative Medicine
- 255 Bone Health and Bone Loss
- 11.4K Breast Reconstruction
- 7.9K Chemotherapy - Before, During, and After
- 2.7K Complementary and Holistic Medicine and Treatment
- 775 Diagnosed and Waiting for Test Results
- 7.8K Hormonal Therapy - Before, During, and After
- 50 Immunotherapy - Before, During, and After
- 7.4K Just Diagnosed
- 1.4K Living Without Reconstruction After a Mastectomy
- 5.2K Lymphedema
- 3.6K Managing Side Effects of Breast Cancer and Its Treatment
- 591 Pain
- 3.9K Radiation Therapy - Before, During, and After
- 8.4K Surgery - Before, During, and After
- 109 Welcome to Breastcancer.org
- 98 Acknowledging and honoring our Community
- 11 Info & Resources for New Patients & Members From the Team