I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

River_Rat

My dad died almost nine years ago and I still miss him.  I wish he had lived to see his great grandchildren - he wanted another generation of babies to come along so much.

The quality of missing him has changed though.  Now I mostly think of him when I see or hear something that I know he would have liked/or hated - some strong reaction and it just makes me smile, whereas in the early years it would bring tears. 

Otter- I'm hoping that your good memories of your mom warm your heart. 

Ellie1959

Well said 3monstmama - my Dad is 88 and very sick and I dread the day we lose him. So very sorry for your loss Otter - our Dad's are so special to us! Love, Ellie

bluedahlia

My parents are also getting up there agewise.  We all know its inevitable, but never want that time to come.

J9W

Dear Otter - cyber hugs from afar. My heart goes to you and yours.  J9

Bren-2007

Thinking of you today Otter .. and sending love,

Bren

1Athena1

Otter, do you like crab?

 

AnnNYC

Or fish?  Glad all the neighbors are bringing you food, (((((Otter)))))

Yazmin

Dear Otter:

I don't even know what to say. I am so sorry for your loss and the new emptiness in your life.......

(((((((((HUGS))))))))) 

nanadee

I'm relatively new here, but wanted to send my deepest condolences to you and to all who loved your mother.  I lost mine to bc several years ago.  I miss her every day.

Dee 

Stanzie

Otter-

 I am so very sorry about your loss. I still miss my Mom terribly and she died in 2004. I can't imagine the sudden shock of losing your Mom so unexpectedly. I'm glad you and your Dad have each other.

Thinking of you and your family during such a difficult time. ((( Hugs)))

crazy4carrots

Am loving all the otter photos -- and I'm sure Otter is too!

bluedahlia

barbe1958

Otter, this will be many pages off as I'm jumping in here...I am SO sorry for the loss of your Mom. How very surreal to see her house still set up as if she would walk in the door any second. My heart goes out to you, sweetie.

As for Facebook, I don't even have my last name on it, no identifiers so how the heck do people get personal info off it? They'd see some bad haircuts and my grands and kids but wouldn't know where or who the heck they are! What do people post? Their Visa numbers?

Bren-2007

Barbe .. people post on FB the most bizarre and personal stuff I've ever seen.  Even phone numbers, email addys, home addy, etc.  What are they thinking!

Bren

Medigal

Bren:  I think these people on FB get involved with all their friends and seem to think only the people they approve to be "a friend" can read their info so they think whatever they share is only read by these people.  I am not on FB for personal reasons and don't know much about how it works but is it true that only the people one allows in as a "friend" can read the personal discusssions?  Whenever I tell a relative she needs to be careful what she writes on FB she says it is safe because only her "friends" can read it.  Is that true?  Thanks!

Bren-2007

I think so.  But, if your friend writes something on someone elses page and that person has their settings to Everyone, then everyone can read what your friend writes.  It's kind of tricky like that.

Bren

Alpal

I've heard that you need to check your security settings often, because every time they do any sort of  upgrade, you go back to just the basic security. I even read an article in the paper that said this, so I really do think it's true.

jenn3

My youngest daughter, believe it or not has such tight security settings that she is almost impossible to find and unless you are her friend you see nothing - she's the one who helped me set things up.  I too am amazed at what people say on FB - the one that bugs me the most is when people say they are going out of town........or talk about their kids so much that anyone could figure out their schedule......TMI

ADK

I am also on FB with tight security - you can't see my page unless you are a friend.  I do have a unique name and I do have my whole name out there, but even if some one finds me, they can't see anything.  You can also set it so that if a friend comments on your page, their friends can't see your page.  You are correct in knowing that you have to double check your security settings frequently - luckily, my friends are as paranoid as I am, so they always post whenever you need to check your settings. 

1Athena1

This privacy freak is not on Facebook and probably will never be.

From what I have read and heard, Facebook deliberately makes privacy settings tricky because if everyone were private in the way ADK is there would be no way to attract advertisers.

One disturbing anecdote: a colleague of mine purchased a book on Amazon. Later on, her Facebook page had an update that she had purchased a book and said what the title was. She did not want her mother to know about this. She probably had the same e-mail linked to Facebook and Amazon. Tt's like having a video camera installed in your house streaming information for others to see, except that the camera keeps changing rooms and angles.

Jenn - I don't read Facebook but I have heard also about how people talk about how they went on holiday, when they returned, where their children are, etc.... I agree: TMI!!

otter

Hi, all...

I do appreciate all the food we're receiving -- especially the seafood, of course.

I wish I could respond to each of you individually and personally.  I would quickly run out of space in the booklet the funeral director gave me for keeping track of the condolence cards, phone calls, emails, etc.  I am overwhelmed by your kindness. The comments about your own losses are comforting, because they make me realize I am not alone in grieving over the death of a parent; and, like everything we've faced with respect to our BC diagnoses, we'll help each other get through it.

otter

crazy4carrots

Otter -- I'll take the liberty of saying, on behalf of everyone here, that you are so welcome!  So many of us have experienced the loss of a parent (or parents) and the suddenness and subsequent shock takes some time to accept.  Eventually (and I promise this!) you will toss out memories of the not-so-happy times, and replace them with the wonderful memories of times you shared with your mom.

Hugs from us all,    Linda

BarbaraA

Otter, what Linda said. Hugs from all of us.

1Athena1

Lindasa definitely spoke for me!

Bren-2007

And me too.  I'm thinking of you today Otter .. sending you love and hugs,

Bren

Moderators

Our sympathies as well, Otter. 

Melissa and the BCO Team 

Bren-2007

I like what Linda wrote .. when I think of my dad now, I think of our wonderful last visit, and I don't think about all the hard times we had.  I just remember the fun and joy we had together shortly before he died.

Hugs Otter,

Bren

AnnNYC

((((((((((((((((( Otter ))))))))))))))))

Bren-2007

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/03/07/international-womens-day_n_832612.html#s250249&title=Stand_Together

Today is International Women's Day .. let's celebrate together!

2011 marks the 100-year anniversary of International Women's Day. The annual holiday has roots in the American Women's Suffrage Movement and is now celebrated by individuals, organizations and nations around the world.

International Women's Day is a time to honor women and raise awareness about the unique obstacles they face around the world. This year's theme is "Equal access to education, training and science and technology: Pathway to decent work for women."

Bren-2007

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KnVMwPuehoI

Wonderful song and video about women all over the world.

Bren