MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

elimar86861

Welcome, cakes! Congrats on finishing with the radiaiton. How did your skin hold up?

Katlebbie

Welcome Cakes these ladies are wonderful!

Elimar I love the KFC and Chambord but George still buts a smile on my face!

marlegal

Eli, I'll write to BCO, but can't use pocs from recent gathering. A couple of the ladies are super sentitive about privacy andI haveto respect that...drat! I have a couple of me and my roomie though that might work.

Luv, I think the goats would be great!

macatacmv

ok, I don't want to sound too dumb, but is chambord a perfume? Sure looks like it in that pic.

katl, did you mean to say george's butt puts a smile on your face?

Did anyone else see that segment on Today about how women get more adventurous after a bc diagnosis? I was like well, of course. I have been hot air ballooning and zip lining and am open to lots of new ideas. (fotation devices?) I went to a dr appt with my friend with stage 4 BC today and we were talking about something and she said well, what's it (whatever we were talking about) going to do, kill me? I laughed so hard I thought my iced tea was gonna come out my nose. For such a serious day we sure laughed a lot.

Momine

Maca, I had the same thought about the chambord, but a vague memory tells me it is raspberry liqueur. Personally I stick to red wine. I am glad you and your friend laughed, but so sorry she is dealing with stage 4.

Cakes, WELCOME! The more the merrier.

Loral

Today is 1 year from surgery and thanks to all you it really does feel like the distant past .Have a great day everyone.

barsco1963

Loral - we'll be here for many, many more....................................

Meece

Happy anniversary, Loral.

Welcome, Cakes.

I agree, Maca. More adventurous, but also less likely to put up with stuff. I don't stand for bad behavior or hurtful talk. I'll call people out on it now as before I was to afraid to offend someone who had offend me.

elimar86861

Loral, a very happy cancerversary to you and many more to come.

The Chambord is a French raspberry liqueur. Long before I ever tasted it, I got one of the bottles at a garage sale. This was back when it had a crown-thingy on the top and looked like a soverign's orb. (Stick around and who knows what kind of trivia tidbits you will pick up.)

cakes

Happy happy Day Loral!

Thanks for the warm welcome.

I actually have my last reg rads today and start with the 5 boosts tomorrow. My skin is holding up ok but I was informed by the RO to expect some discomfort going forward as the tumor bed is directly behind my poor nipple. Funny how one can write nipple online and not feel weird about it. LOL!

Katlebbie

Typo's can sure get you into trouble............however, everything about George would put a smile on my face! Smiley face!

Katlebbie

Loral I was thinking so much about George that I forget to wish you a Happy 1 Year......way to go! (((HUGS)))

macatacmv

happy one year milestone, moral

Oh, I see now, the chambord is the fruit addition to the meal.

Meece, yes, I also don't take people's stuff or get upset about people or things I can't change. The energy I expended to live with drama and chaos was a lot of wasted time, I want to enjoy today. Whatever is going on.

macatacmv

ha ha, autocorrect turned loral into moral.

Barsco,you still looking for our morals?

Hey eli, when is the surgery? Thinking about you, baby!

staynsane

Cakes, welcome aboard! Regarding your comment, "Funny how one can write nipple online and not feel weird about it," get ready. You will likely read lots of stuff here that you would normally not see in print! No holds barred...you will also experience women talking about their diagnosis, prognosis, psychosis, including graphic details. AND their fantasies, dreams, desires. It doesn't get much more "real" and visual than this!

macatacmv

katl, like your avitar, putting the best foot forward?

Cakes, welcome. Congrats getting thru most of rads. Yeah,the boosts and a couple weeks after were the worst, so give yourself the time to relax and heal. You're almost done!!!!!!!!

luvmygoats

I think Barsco only looks for her morals in the spring. LOL. We better watch out or we'll give her a bad reputation like some of those girls I knew in high school. (For the newbies - Barsco hunts for MORELS in the spring - related to mushrooms)

Welcome Cakes to the place none of us want to be but we come back because we like each other. Congrats on being mostly done with rads. Lube, lube the baby. I worked all the way thru rads, hospice nurse. Fatiguing yes, but doable.

Congrats Loral on your one year and may it fade ever more distantly into the past.

elimar86861

cakes, Yup, it a regular 'Nipple Monologues' around here. My lump was in the 6:00 position right below the nipple, so my nip was in the boost area. My boost area was the only area that did a little peeling, but that was when it was all over

mac, My surgery is coming up on Oct 17. I'm second that day, which means a reasonable 8 a.m. check in, supposed surgery at 10 a.m, so I should be getting it by (snark!) 1 p.m., and it is a two hour surgery. Only one incision spot and rumor has it no icky drain. I think I can breeze thru' this. Reminded my surgeon to "put things back the way he found them" and to make sure wake up. I've come so far to quit living at this point, so it's very crucial that I wake up. Will be sure to mention that to the anesthesiologist tomorrow at my 2 hr. pre-admission bore-a-thon.

chrissyb

Hoping all goes well for you Eli!

Love n hugs. Chrissy

cakes

Eli - love your sense of humor! Good luck on your surgery.

I think I'm going to like it here. I don't know if the humor is so grand because we are a little older and wiser and say it like it is or if we just don't have a filter anymore. LOL!

Take care Ladies

P.S. I love Chambord in champagne!

Dianarose

HURRAY LORAL !!!!!

Barsco is right, many more yrs to come.

Eli- good luck. You are our leader so you will wake up. No getting out of the mess you got yourself into with all of us when you started this thread.

I need some advice from my sisters. OK, boy friend of 7 yrs has not had much to do with me since, well, the boob job, and even less since the stage IV news. So I went on a casual date to a county fair with a man I have know for over 25 yrs(his divorce will be final this month. Has taken a yr and a half).
Then we took a day trip to Boston. Had wonderful time. He is head over heals in love and says he doesn't care about the BC or the stage IV. I just feel that it isn't fair to him. He is at the point in his life where he wants to travel and do things. He now has the time and the money. I just feel like it is wrong to bring someone into my nightmare.I don't think he really understands what he would be getting into. HELP !!!!

elimar86861

My zaniness need no encouraging, cakes; my bad brain that gets off the leash at times. (But do encourage me to do well in surgery. I'm certainly going to try to.) I finished up my rads on October 10, 2009. What a glorious day that was. Somewhere, way back in this thread was a spirited account of it. Does your cancer center have an "all finished bell" (otherwise known as the "I'm outta here, suckahs, bell?")

The rads staff could form a victory tunnel for you to run through. I don't see why not.

elimar86861

Dianarose, only you can decide the fate of the boyfriend of 7 years. Might be time to cut him loose, regardless of whether you get with this new man or not. I think you deserve to go out and have some fun, so maybe you can placate "head over heels guy" just keeping it casual for a while longer and decide if you want to take it to the next level. He wants to travel, but will your commitment to the bakery allow you to do that with him? We must hear from Meece on this...she started dating her now-husband not too long after getting her Dx.

Loral

Thanks everyone for the congrats...

Eli... you have to hang around for the October B'Days, mine is the 19th, I'm not sure when Barsco's is and we also have Sweetest Day on the 19th too. I'll put a bug in the Dr's ear to let him know that you have much more life worth living...

Dianarose...I think you should see more of the man you knew for 25 years, he sounds willing to take this BC journey with you, good or bad. Old boyfriend, I don't think that is who you need to be with, he's not too supportive. Have fun, enjoy life with who ever makes you happiest.(you asked!)

Cakes... welcome, we share the good, the bad and the ugly, glad you joined are group.

Eph3_12

Dianarose, this is just my humble opinion: You are alive, you are entitled to live that life to the best & most full that you can. If there is a gentleman that is head over heels for you, it doesn't really complicate the picture; it gives you companionship, someone to do fun things with after the bakery closes & just share life with, no matter how little or long that life has left. You have the ability to set your boundaries & rules, but geez girl!! Have some fun! He has told you he wants to become the dream to set that nightmare spinning on it's axis-I would go for it!

That's just me though!

cakes

Eli - No bell at my rads center but I will be cranking the tunes all the way home. I will pray your surgery is successful and you heal quickly.

Sage advice you ladies give.

barsco1963

Dianarose - I am sorry that BF of 7 years seems to be making himself scarce amid all of your turmoil. I think that I will have to concur with the others in that you should be enjoying life, doing whatever it is that makes YOU happy. Nothing has to be set in stone right now. Go out, have fun, and see what follows. You deserve some happiness, some fun and companionship from someone that will be there for you and that you want to be there for in return.

Dianarose

I like how you ladies think. I want to have fun for a change. He makes me laugh. The old boyfriend makes me cry.

Eli- what would you like me to bring to your pocket party. Pumkin nut roll with a cream cheese filling was popular today. Is it too early for spiked egg nog???

Dianarose

How come my posts have no paragraphs????

barsco1963

Not sure that I have welcomed cakes yet. Glad to have you aboard. We are wonderful, we are wacky and we are even sometimes weird. But you may never meet another group of gals that will be here to support, encourage and listen whenever needed.

By the way - mac is right - morals only come about once a year in the spring time. So if anyone is running low, you will need to ration them to get you through the next few months.