Housework support group!!???!!

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2011

    You can get rid of stuff!! Lucky you!!!! Don't over work it now, but you'll have less to clean later....!

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  • GramE
    GramE Member Posts: 5,056
    edited December 2011

    My son sold house # 1, bought house # 2, moved last week.    I have downsized a couple of times to a one bedroom apartment with a sun room, but still had a storage unit with the overflow.   The storage unit is going, going, but not gone yet...     

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2011

    I remember when you emptied 3 bookcases!! I was SO proud of you!

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  • GramE
    GramE Member Posts: 5,056
    edited December 2011

    Thanks Barb.   Since I live alone and only have the one son, I do not need all the stuff when I had when we had a house and my DH was alive.   Simple, uncluttered - easy peasy living !!!

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  • kmccraw423
    kmccraw423 Member Posts: 3,596
    edited December 2011

    I am loathe to admit this but yesterday I saw my physical therapist, the visiting home nurse, got my grocery order and put it away, did 3 loads of laundry, folded it and put it away, went shopping at the Dutch Market, had lunch there, went to visit my aunt and uncle and took them out to dinner for my aunt's birthday. I came home and collapsed!  Sorry - it won't happen again!

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  • GramE
    GramE Member Posts: 5,056
    edited December 2011

    kathleen, but you only did laundry, not "clean house" - you are excused.

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2011

    How the HELL did you do all that??? I don't think I've ever put laundry away the same day that DH does it. To me, it needs to steep in the basket before it's ready for the drawers!!

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  • kmccraw423
    kmccraw423 Member Posts: 3,596
    edited December 2011

    I like that - it has to steep!  No worries - I spent all day in bed today recovering!  My next big test is putting all my medical stuff in a binder so I can find it.  Since I am now seeing so many specialists I guess I have to be the "gatekeeper."

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  • shiny
    shiny Member Posts: 892
    edited December 2011

    xxxx for all my dear bunnies, whom i think of often.

    An not the energiser bunny, but I have been trying hard, too hard probably and I am resolving to put a stop to that. Just doing my best but trying in vain to do more then I can, just cause I know my dh would like me to be more on top of something, and I know he doesn't comprehend how much i do and how hard i try. No girls, not really a moan, just a fact.

    Kids are the best, and am injecting as much majic as I can. Body, lemonette, but all things considered putting up pretty well. Eyes stable, other bits and bobs, doing the usual.

    I just wanted to send some truly loving and peachy vibes out there tonight to my peaaachy bunny friends.. hug girls.

    Your Lemon,

    Shiny

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  • amontro
    amontro Member Posts: 504
    edited December 2011

    I'm glad I found this thread. I have been feeling so overwhelmed about housecleaning.  Whenever I tackle some of it, I'm wiped out for the rest of the day. I  need a nap, have muscle aches and pains, and get hot and cold on and off.

    I often pride myself when I clean out closets and drawers and shelves and then I look around and it looks like I haven't made a dent!

    After my smx 3 yrs ago, I hired a great local cleaning service that did not charge me a lot. My apt. is small and all that I wanted cleaned was my kitchen, living room and bathroom. The bedroom is closed to all because that's where I stow my paper work, laundry, etc.  After the cleaning, my place looked squeaky clean. I don't know what they used but it was great. It took 1 woman, 4 hours. I had it cleaned once again in 6 weeks, but nothing since.

     My SO contributes to the mess and doesn't clean up. So I do the daily wipe downs of the sink, stove, floor, bathroom. He likes to wait until everything is really bad (every 2 months) and then he wants special equipment to clean and yells like a drill sargeant.

    Right now, I feel like crying because I can't keep up.  I really want to spend some money that I shouldn't just so that I can look around me and enjoy the cleanliness by professionals. I'm Stage IV, so maybe I won't live that long to need the money. My onc keep saying "quality of life..."

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2011

    amontro, go for it!! Instead of buying your SO another Christmas gift, gift yourself (tell him it's for him!) with a clean apartment!!! You will enjoy the gift for months and months. Are you sure it's not just your bedroom 'stuff' creeping out into other rooms????

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2011

    Shiny, dahling!! So veddy, veddy good to hear from you!! Here's to 'nothing new'...status quo is good, too. May be boring, but it's a safe place to be!

    Merry Christmas to all!!!

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  • kmccraw423
    kmccraw423 Member Posts: 3,596
    edited December 2011

    Amontro ... get cleaning help - you'll feel so much better.  Tell the "drill sargent" to cool his jets!

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  • mumito
    mumito Member Posts: 4,562
    edited December 2011
    Laughing My laundry is steeping right now in the basket.Problem is some times all week.Embarassed
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  • Gingerbrew
    Gingerbrew Member Posts: 2,859
    edited December 2011

    Amontro,

    Yeah for you getting cleaners in again! It is a great idea! 

    I use housecleaners every other week now after not doing so for decades.  My bedroom can get too cluttered but I still let the cleaners in there. They can clean around things quite easily and it still makes it all nicer. For example you can just set out clean lnens on the bed and they will change the bed for you. I know when I don't feel great that changing the bed is really difficult alone. Yeah for housecleaners! 

    Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukah, 

    Ginger

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  • amontro
    amontro Member Posts: 504
    edited December 2011

    Thank you for lifting my spirits all of you, esp. Kathleen & Ginger. Barb, you always have good insights on these discussion boards esp. after all that you go through.

    I'm not crying any more because I've decided in January to call the cleaning crew, take a day off from work with my feet up, and enjoy the sparkle.

     I am always afraid to have people visit because my apt. is not as clean as it should be. When my grown son visits, I'll do surface cleaning: kitchen, bathroom, living room. I visit my other kids at their homes and they like to make me welcome and comfortable.

     In the old days, we had a saying "If someone comes to visit you and notices that your home is not clean, they are not a friend".

    They also used to say that if you are in your coffin, you don't want people to remember you because you had a clean house.

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2011

    Mum, baskets of clothes have to steep for AT LEAST a week! Otherwise they won't fold properly....

    Amontrol, the cleaners are used to a lot worse than your home!!! That is their job. To clean.

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  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 10,007
    edited December 2011

    Bunnies. Bunnies. Bunnies.

    ((((((((((((((((((((((((Shiny))))))))))))))))))))))))))

    Lemonette-friend. Sending hugs to your sweet-wonders. You've already enjoyed your Christmas festivities by now. Even when I'm not here as much, I carry you old-timer bunnies in my heart.

    Vivvvvvvvy-girl of tomorrow. Luv seeing you. Continents divide but we're here with a click.

    Welcome to all the newbie-bunnies. Ironically this thread has historically been more about friendship + caring and less about gleaming surfaces. We gave up our standards so many pages ago: LOL. Feel free to hand around and get permission to hire it all out and kick back.

    Barbe, I have laundry steeping from this morning. I see what you mean about it being too premature for proper folding LOL.

    We are here in Florida now for the next several months. It's been 80 degrees and blue-skies all week. It's so crazy to me that we're running the air conditioning all afternoon -- on Christmas! This is a first for us to be down here so early. A sign of seasons to come: twinkling lights on the palm trees.

    Just wanted everyone here to know how much you mean to me.

    I wrote a blog post last night and resurfaced an earlier blog article from a couple years back, that I've dedicated to the sisterhood here. It's entitled "Blue Christmas" and I hope that it would bring you some support -- in the mist of the reality of our journey.

    Here's the post: http://www.rainbowswithinreach.blogspot.com/2011/12/blue-christmas-re-run.html -- I hope it brings you support, even as we acknowledge our 'broken-ness' in the process.

    xx00xx00xx00xx00xx

    Merry Christmas. Blessed Holidays.

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  • kmccraw423
    kmccraw423 Member Posts: 3,596
    edited December 2011
    Faith ... thanking for providing the link to your blog - that was so beautiful and uplifting.  It was a beautiful prayer.  I hope you don't mind  but  I am printing it to keep always.  Have a blessed Christmas.
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  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 10,007
    edited December 2011

    Awwwwww. Kathleen, that's very kind of you. I'm glad that my 'ramble'  brought you some comfort.

    I can see from my "Google analytics" that someone read my blog-post after they typed into a google search "When you're mourning during Christmas." I hope that they found some comfort.

    Which just goes to show you -- just speak from the heart, ya never know who ya might make a difference to.

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  • kmccraw423
    kmccraw423 Member Posts: 3,596
    edited December 2011

    You are absolutely right when you saw you might make a difference.   Again, thank you and Merry, Merry Christmas!

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  • bludaizy
    bludaizy Member Posts: 64
    edited December 2011

    Beautiful post on your blog. Thank you for sharing!

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  • bludaizy
    bludaizy Member Posts: 64
    edited December 2011

    faithandfifty...beautiful post on your blog. Thank you for sharing.

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2011

    Faith, that is way TOO cool that someone reached your blog that way. I started to read it, but just got too sad when you mentioned the child...I just couldn't push through it.

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  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 10,007
    edited December 2011

    Thanks again bunnies.

    Barbe, it was indeed "fascinating" to realize that someone could google up a topic that 'touching' and be led to my writing.

    Barbe and old timer bunnies, the small portion I put in that blog post about the grandma to the unborn child facing SEVERE issues is in fact our very own "Julz" from these boards. Barbe, I think she would appreciate my sharing her identity with the bunny hutch here and you in particular. She sent a FB message around to a handful of us from BCO asking for prayers in this VERY challenging time.

    BTW Barbe, if you got to that sentence, you were almost to the part that I think would be the 'supportive' part of the post. You owe it to yourself to go back and read the rest of the post.

    In the meantime, everyone please keep Julz and their extended family in your prayers. I think its probably been 'ages' since she's posted to this thread, but I have in my faulty-memory, that she did used to breeze thru here and offer encouragement.

    xx00xx00xx00xx

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  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 10,007
    edited December 2011

    P.S. Welcome to you bludaizy.

    Most everyone here knows that I am crazy-for-daisies.

    If you've read along here for very long you know that we don't spend much time on house-keeping, but its always a grand thread for support + encouragement. Some of the ol' time regulars have drifted off into their busy lives and may not be here as frequently, but its ALWAYS been a spectacular thread of friendship.

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2011

    Oh dear!! Poor Julz...I have had 2 family members be told their child would be severely deformed (missing or extra chromosome) only to have the child born whole and hearty. I'm wondering if the pre-birth testing is taking things a bit too far!! I pray this is the case for Julz.....

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  • Gingerbrew
    Gingerbrew Member Posts: 2,859
    edited December 2011
    Marybe is getting her tumor markers soon. We were sort of joking around and BarbE suggested we have a lottery, I chimed in a raffle with the prize being the satisfaction of winning. I wagered that Marybe's numbers would be under 6000. Then I just decided to go make a BCO donation regardless and now, so I did. It is easy the link is right at the top of the page on the right side, just scroll up. So, as at any board meeting where one is absent, Marybe named me in charge of spreading the word about this so we might get a nice pool of donations going for BCO which has done so much for so many of us.

    It is tax dedutible too and I did donate in honor of Marybe but didn't request she be notified, she might get a big head ya know. Haha

    Here is what Marybe wrote on her thread.

    "Just thought of this....maybe you can spread the word of the contest to some of the other threads, I don't know about honoring me so much because believe me, I am really no one special, BUT wouldn't it be great to raise a bunch of money for BCO since it has given so much to us!? Also, I think you can use it as a tax deduction."

    Thanks for reading.

    GInger

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  • mumito
    mumito Member Posts: 4,562
    edited December 2011

    Darn my DH invited a few people over tonight for newyears dinner so that means I have to clean house this morning.All the food will be takeout just to make it easier on me.Now how do I get everyone to help with the cleaning.Smile

    Hopeall the DustBunnies Have a Healthy Happy Newyear.

    Kathleen

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2011

    Mum, your DH should have invited cleaners in first!!! I do know from reading Dear Abby that guests don't really see dust and stuff like we do, us who know our houses and levels of cleanliness. She says to vacuum AFTER the guests leave!! I read that about 30 years ago and have used it many times to relax when I have company coming. We do nothing on New Years and will be in bed by 9....bliss!!!

    Ginger, thanks for passing the word on!!!

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