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Morning All,
Cathi that picture is a treasure!!! OMG is he precious.
Lisa - hope you are feeling better and the party is a HUGE success.
Judie - so sorry to hear Connor is moving. It must be breaking your heart.
Off to start the day.
AE
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Just stopping in for a minute...Cathi...that picture is priceless!!! Could be in a commercial!
Well...party went great...without a hitch..very smooth! People came a little at a time...so no great rush of crowds. Several couldn't make it, but we had a nice gathering...people came even at 9pm. Then the family that was still here late..helped me clean up..and it's all over! Albums came out great, and Olivia loved them.
More details later..along with some pics...I hope
xoxo
Lisa
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Can't wait to see the pictures Lisa, glad all was a success.
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Oh Lisa, you done good!
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Hi everyone!
Cathi, I suppose they just turned the hose on Brandt (gently, of course). That would have been my way of "cleaning up." Cake and first birthdays...always great shots, and Brandt doesn't disappoint.
Judie...Connor to China? Oh, no! For how long? Well, now there's a good reason to plan a special trip.
EWB...congrats to the newest graduate!
Val, I didn't have any trouble in the PET/CT tube. It's more like a doughnut at my hospital. But the MRI tube really freaked me out. Longer, tighter, and it brought out here-to-fore unknown claustropobia in me. I did not expect it and had not taken anything to prepare myself. I just had to pull myself together, finally, and try again. I barely managed to do it. If I ever have to have an MRI again, I will medicate myself to the max. Tell UB, there's no shame in not being able to do it. Maybe look around for an "open" MRI lab.
I have a brief onc appointment this morning. Really just a port flush (next-to-last one, I hope). But they do take blood and run the usual tests, and if I need to see anyone, the nurse practitioner is available for a consult.
And, we have plans to bring my father home this weekend! He's come a long way, is physcially stronger (although not what he was before he got sick), and is itching to get home. So we're planning his discharge for Sunday, July 5. My sister is on a quick trip back to her home in FL for her son's birthday this week, and will return Saturday. She plans to be his caregiver here until her beach house finishes the summer season (rental income), then will move him there. Since she's retired, she and her husband have the time to care for him without going to great expense...maybe with a part-time aide. My brothers and I work full-time, long hours, and we'd have to have three shifts of aides fulltime if he stayed here.
The week ahead is one of work and cleaning...I have an out-of-town brother and his family coming in for the weekend. My sister didn't pick up her stuff in the den so I will have to attack that in stages this week.
We also just found out my younger sister got tranferred from Tennessee to Arizona. She's out there already, but her family is remaining behind until their house sells. In this market, that could be a few years, lol. Thankfully, they are both former military and moving and having temporary separations due to work are things they are used to. A new place for me to visit!
Hope everyone in the US has a safe holiday weekend ahead! If you're traveling, drive safely.
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Nancy, In Canada, we celebrate July 1st, so you meant to say 'everyone' have a safe weekend!
GREAT news about your Dad! And what a relief for your sister to be able to take care of him full-time once summer is over!
In my MRI, they had a mirror so I could look out, music playing (which I couldn't hear), and bright light so it felt bigger. Kinda like home...
Was a bit easier, as I was face down (only done for breasts), I HATE looking up and seeing the wall of the machine just over my face!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
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I learned to close my eyes for the entire time. That way I have no idea where things are in relation to my face. Repeating some bible verse or prayer, especially in the early days.
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Nancy you had a smilar solution to the cake mess as I - I told Jaclyn just let him into the kiddie pool, but the hose would also work, Glad to hear about your dads home coming.
Well it looks as if DD and family are headed this way from NY on 8/1, I'll be honest while the thought of seeing them all (except the DH) makes me very happy and excited, it does not come without some stress and anxiety. Amanda and I have always had some DRAMA between us sense the divorce from dad, she became very one sided and pretty much told me I RUINED her life and the entire family, he also played her emotions to the max, I will admit the last year has been much- much better, I have let her fiqure out her dad on her own (he lives very close to her) , never once saying what I really thought of him, but she has seen and learned (he moved up there about 5 years ago) and has shared some fasinating stories, and I just always go "HUM" anyway Ed says don't stress (easy for him to say - he is MR MELLOW,
I hope this doesn't sound to bad - but I hope we can have them here and out within a month into their own place. Amanda's DH is a auto mechanic so Ed already has a job for him, Amanda has her CNA license in NY so she will retest down here and be working
UGH!!!!!!!!!
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That's what I had to do, too, EWB. Silly me, I thought since I sleep on my stomach I would have no problem. But I totally freaked the first time the slid me itno the tube. I've never had a panic attack before, but now I know why people get so overwhelmed by them.
OK ladies, a little superficial coiffuring help. Bangs, or no bangs?
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Well thats hard Nancy - if I absolutely had to make a choice I would say NO Bangs, but both ways look great and give a diffrent image. The bangs I think are a more "fun and care free" look, the No Bangs is the "savy" look. Your lucky you can do either. I have had bangs of some sort for 100 years and just can not go without them.
YOU LOOK GREAT EITHER WAY
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I've had bangs for years, too. They're still a little shorter than I'd like, and not as "full." I call it my "Mamie Eisenhower" look. I think I'll go without until they are longer.
The rest of my hair is almost 5" long, but the curliness obscures that.
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Nancy, you look great either way. You can always decide to go with or without bangs depending on your mood or your schedule.
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Nancy....can't see the pics here at work...I will check them out at home. I agree I have some bangs..and if I don't feel like wearing them, or they get too long...I just work them into the rest of my hair. Today is a very curly day for me. Arizona!! Yeah for you! What a great place to visit...my home away from home! So happy your dad is doing well enough to come home! Great news. I can totally relate to the MRI experience!! I was like you Nancy..didn't take anythign, because as far as I knew...I did not have any clastrophobia. People told me..."oh if you can lay in a tanning bed..you can do this". NOT!!! No comparison!! I did freak out...and I believe I had a panic attack. They had to pull me out. I ended up going back in that horrible tunnel...but it was not easy. Horrible!
I had a sad day yesterday ladies....just seemed to be one thing after another. I think with all of the changes coming in my life....I am getting emotional. I really am going to miss Olivia. My Alise gives me alot of grief at times. I can relate to you Cathi...there is just that one child that can butt heads with us..or push our buttons...but it gets me upset to the point of going into my room and just crying. Danni left...and that wasn't good...we left on not so good terms...mostly just a misunderstanding..which is cleared up now...but oh...sometimes...I think I could run away. I absolutely loved her boyfriend Adam....he was everything she said he was and more!!
Well...I was going to wait and tell you about Mr. Fantastic...and I really will wait more...lol. He doesn't live near me..he lives in Rochester...but things don't seem to be working out. He was trying to relocate here (Clevleand), but it's not happening right now. We haven't met yet..but ladies..there is something there..that is so amazing...and I have never felt this strongly about someone I have not met. But...he feels that with the distance it would be difficult..so why start something. I say WHY NOT?? Life is so short..and you just never know what is around the corner...look at what has happened to Dennis! So..I sent him an email...saying...let's meet..what can it hurt. I can fly there. Not sure if I will hear back. I hope so...I just have this strong feeling.. but...I am also thinking....WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME?? Is it just never going to happen to me?? My daughter Danni says'...quit trying to hard...it will happen when I least expect it. Ok..enough...
feeling down...and sad....trying not too....
xoxo
Lisa
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She's right Lisa. Just let it happen, and it will. I promise, just when you last expect it someone more wonderful than you can imagine right now will show up in your life and you'll know. Until then, enjoy your girls, celebrate them as young woman who are moving into a world that is there waiting for them to explore, Don't forget to celebrate YOU and nuture YOU and all your wonderfulness (and there's lots). There is so much to discover about Lisa beyond children and beyond significant others....This is your time...
HUGS to you sweetie.
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Nancy, Your hair looks great! Both are nice but I prefer no bangs. Isn't it nice to have to fuss over your hair?? I think you should do bangs one day and then no bangs the next.
Cathi, LOVE Brandts cake pic. I have some of those from my own sons. The trick is to do it outside and make sure he has his own cake!
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EWB - beautiful wise words of advice. You really said that well.
Lisa - do we ever stop worrying and feeling pain over our kids? We love them so much. You are such a lovely mom - you sound so fair in your dealings with them and your ability to talk things out with your daughters is just wonderful. I hope and pray that somebody fantastic sweeps you off your feet one day.
Nancy - you look great both ways - love the photos. I'm so glad your dad is so much better. That is such a blessing that your sister and her husband can look after him.
Cathi - wonderful news about your dear mom! And I love the photo of Brandt - the little, sweet boy! He's very edible!!
Judie - I hope you can see Connor from time to time - it's sad that he's going so far away. Is it a permanent move?
Love to everyone
Jane xxx
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Sisters xxx
Why am I sobbing uncontrollably tonight and thinking I am going to die ... I am very sad tonight. I am just off to bed , does anyone have these melt downs.... I JUST DONT WANT TO DIE YET xxx
It is nearly 2 years since I found the lump and thought it was nothing... maybe I might have recurrance these next 12 months. I worry about all of you ... and it all overwhelsm me ...
Sorry sorry sorry
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I came here early on ...your hair is lovely Nancy but please BANGS...ENLIGHTEN ME ...
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Sue- gentle loving hugs for you tonight! I expect we all have melt downs now and again, I know I do. Kind of hard not to. Big breathe, warm soak in the tub and curl into bed. We are all with you, tucking you in, singing a sweet lulliby. One day at a time deary, one day at a time.
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Sue I think we all have 'MELT DOWNS' more than you realize. Its ok to cry once in awhile. You are dtrong you will live long and happy. XOXOXOXOXOXOXO Soon you will see AE & UB.
Lisa thats right, MR Right comes along when you least expect it, I told you I had completely sworn off men (or long term relationships anyway) after getting out of my marriage, then completely out of the blue Ed happems in - amazing and a miracle and blessing. Your a special lady, love and happiness will come to you. As far as long distance, it can work, our Real Estate lady who found us this house and now a good friend as well, found the LOVE OF HER LIFE ( as she calls him) on a cruise 1.5 yeas ago, she is hear in Fla he is in Cape Cod, now granted she can travel freely with her job for the most part, but it's working, maybe not easy always, but they make it work.
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Sue.
Sue!
Sue, look at me when I talk to you!
Bangs = fringe (for you Brits)
Now, every once in a while I get where you are tonight. I go around asking my DH if he will miss me when I die. I tell him what music to play at my funeral and I ask him if I'm ever going to see the kitchen done! I say "When I die..." a lot and I'm sure it bugs him, but I need to do that.
When I was first diagnosed I told EVERYONE. I got so used to saying "I have breast cancer and I'm getting a double mastectomy on Tuesday" that I got calmer and calmer.
Verbalizing your anxiety and fears here is healthy for you. We have to have an outlet or the pain builds until we deal with it in an inappropriate manner!
Now, do the hug thing again, remember? Arms straight out in front, reach around your back and grip really tight. Now do one from me....
Love you,
Barbe
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"Deep Sigh" ahhhhhhhhhhhh thank you sisters.... yes I am glad it is normal to speak like this....like "I would like glass coffin so I can see them all as they take me to the church ... and wave goodbye .... eeeek silly thing to say I know but its a meltdown ... so am allowed to say things ....and now I am off to bed...
Another day up on you bootface ! .... and the more I have up on you the stronger I get!
Love Ya Sisters....
YOU ALL MAKE SO MUCH SENSE XXXX
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PS thankyou again xxxx
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Good night sweetie!
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I truly believe that its because we (people in general) don't talk about death and dying. It IS a fact of life and should bnot be scarey. What a shame that this society has made it bad/scarey/dark etc. I think it can/should be handled so differently, help people to leave life with the grace and support that we all enter the world.
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I truly believe that its because we (people in general) don't talk about death and dying. It IS a fact of life and should bnot be scarey. What a shame that this society has made it bad/scarey/dark etc. I think it can/should be handled so differently, help people to leave life with the grace and support that we all enter the world.
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No bangs...you have a lovely face
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Big Hugs Sue!! Glad you are feeling better. We all have meltdowns!! Only a couple weeks till AE and UB are with you!!
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Now that I'm home I can see your pics Nancy. I say no bangs as the sides aren't long enough to fill in. You have a beautiful, delicate face and the bangs seem heavy to me. When the sides of the bangs fill in more, post pics again and we'll be quick to give our opinions again!
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Barb, thanks for translating. Glad we have someone bilingual, lol. In the future, I will include British terminology for Sue.
Yep, I'm going with "no bangs" (no fringe, Sue).
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