STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

AliceBastable

DawnE1962, I am so sorry for the grief and added stress. I won't say "thoughts and prayers" because it doesn't mean crap without "discussion and action."

runor

Dawn, there are no words. So sorry.

bennybear

Yikes! I am So sorry! No words either! Hugs, that is too close to your home

DogMomRunner

That's horrible Dawn. I didn't even watch the news last night and missed it. Those poor families. It does make what we are going through seem so small. I wish events like this weren't so common now

jo6359

dawn- how sad and scary. I cannot imagine how you must have felt during the shooting. When are we going to have an intelligent discussion about these mass shootings in our country. No other country in the world has these type of mass killings. We need action and intelligent discussion.

Beaverntx

Dawn, ditto the other comments. So very sorry this happened and that you were so close to it. Also, when will we wake up and take action against this violence?

That said, good to know you were at least physically safe. Cannot not imagine the emotional impact, please take care of yourself.

Micmel

i am truly sorry that your community is going through this. Just wrong and terrible. All for what? Anger !!

Beesie

Dawn, I am so sorry. This certainly puts other problems into perspective. Venting can be healthy but this is a good reminder to also count our blessings.

Yndorian

Dawn, what a frighting and incomprehensible fact. Poor souls who are now with God. Poor family members, I'm sorry for all of them. Death is so unexpected sometimes. Take care about you. I send you HUGS from the other side of the world

DancingElizabeth

Dawn, I just learned this morning, as I don't watch the news much...

How very sad...

I'm from the SF Bay Area and last month a deranged man drove into eight pedestrians in a crosswalk thankfully all of them lived, however, one of the victims, a 13-year-old girl was very seriously injured.....

It breaks my heart, because my daughter is 12 1/2 years old, almost the same age is this girl, and it happened so close to home...and I don't know how anyone could be so evil.

Hugs from across the country..

bcincolorado

I just saw on our news about twins that were born on Wednesday here and the mother died from childbirth complications. Spent the day volunteering for an event for foster kids and the foster parents. Makes my problems and worries go into perspective.

JanetMara

It makes me cry everyday to see someone died of violence,hatred,crazy drugs.

There's never a day that someone and so many are victimized anywhere in this world.

JanetMara

BCINCOLORADO--very heartbreaking!

Dawn--so terrifying! but glad to hear you and your family are safe.

It makes me cry everyday to see someone died of violence,hatred,crazy drugs,complications.

There's never a day that someone and so many are victimized anywhere in this world.

Yndorian

I couldn't have my surgery yesterday because there was no anesthesiologist. Laboral union things again. So, after one day and one night at hospital, dressed and ready to enter to have my surgery they send me back home. My surgery will be rescheduled, it suposse to be next tuesday but it isn't sure, so the wait continues... I'm so nervous!

Karenfizedbo15

That is a Shocker Yndorian! Hope you’ve managed to calm back down......and Breathe

jo6359

yndorian- there isn't anything worse than the waiting. My surgery was delayed by 3 weeks. When I was notified I went off the deep end for about 15 minutes. I was pissed. So my advice to you is take a deep breath and hopefully everything will be on track for next week. I can appreciate your frustration and fear.

marijen

Yndorian, it appears your surgery has been delayed 9 months less the time for chemo and radiation What country are you in? Is your tumor still 3cm?

Yndorian

Marijen: I'm from Argentina. Unfortunely this things are very common here. I'm doing all my treatment in a public hospital. I have had my dx in 9/18, starting chemo 10/18. I'm 38 days PFC. The tumor size is 0.9 x 0.4 now and my armpit is negative ( they still going to take all my underarm nodes because it was positive before chemo). My MO wants the tumor out as faster as posible, I expect to be the lucky girl next week because there is a long list of patients for surgery.

Karen and Joe, thanks for the advice. I'm trying to breath deeply and take it easy.

HUGS

Artista964

they're going to take all your nodes? I'd question that. Do they understand lymphedema and the high risk for it by taking so many out, unless they see in surgery cause to take more.

marijen

Yndorian thanks for your reply. I'm glad your tumor is so much reduced and your nodes seem to be clear. Here’s hoping your surgery goes through on Tueday

AliceBastable

About ten years ago, I was all tubed up and ready to go for a procedure and the doctor never showed up. After several hours, the hospital found out he had a family emergency, and his office forgot to let the hospital know. I'll never schedule anything big on a Monday again!

movingsoccermom

Update. I did finally meet with the MO. Starting Ibrance/Faslodex on Monday. Will be followed by the NP over the summer, so hoping for an uncomplicated course!

Best wishes all

Yndorian

Movingsoccermom: good luck with your new treatment!

This morning I had the confirmation that my surgery will be next tuesday. Crossed fingers anyway! Thank you all for your support!

Rae7200

Hi, just saw this post, and it caught my eye. In both of my BC occurrences (2014 and 2017) my oncologist at Johns Hopkins, who stays pretty current, never mentioned a problem with spironolactone. Before I sent him an email without source info other that “I saw it on a message board at breastcancer.org with no attribution,” I thought I’d check to see what the latest is. Here’s what I found that was published 6 months ago in abstracts:

Breast Cancer Res Treat. 2019 Feb;174(1):15-26. doi: 10.1007/s10549-018-4996-3. Epub 2018 Nov 22.

Safety of 5α-reductase inhibitors and spironolactone in breast cancer patients receiving endocrine therapies.

CONCLUSIONS:

Most patients did not show increased estrogen levels with spironolactone and there were no data suggesting increased risk of breast cancer. Based on hormonal and pharmacological activity, spironolactone may be considered for further research on alopecia and hirsutism in breast cancer patients.

Meow13

My neighbor lost her hair on Arimidex and Aromasin she had taken from 2006 to 2011. She knew several people who also lost their hair while taking the drugs. She is now 84 years old and still complains everytime I see her. She points out how lucky I was not to have hair loss. I wonder if my using the generic form of both drugs is the difference. Never heard of sprinolactone but I try to get my neighbor to look into treatment for her hair loss but she never does. I am not sure if it about money she talks about buying a wig but never does. The hair loss is devastating to her. I can't understand if she is that unhappy why she doesn't do something about it, not one encounter with her goes by with mentioning her hair loss.

marijen

I’ve been rubbing castor oil every night into a balding spot at my temple and it’s working. Lots of new growth. It’s only taken a few weeks for it to start working

Artista964

I was on spironolactone for a couple years for hair loss and it did nothing.

Anonymous

Hope I'm not barging in, but I saw the topic and thought this is where I should post my rant.

I can't even express my anger and frustration. Sure I've heard of cancer throughout my long life; but it didn't really affect my loved ones or me though I expressed "so sorry" to those who had it.

All of a sudden it is like a rogue cancer wave hit me and the undertow is pulling me down.

Forget that I was diagnosed with cancer in April 2018. After surgery and 13 days of radiation, I believe I'm considered cancer free.

It was only about four months later that my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer: triple negative, BRCA1 gene mutation. Thus far, two surgeries in the same breast, chemotherapy. Now, after all this, the surgeon is telling her that she needs a double mastectomy and her ovaries removed.

Just about getting to accept this fact about my sister, I get an email a few days ago from a virtual friend that I "met" in a photography forum more than 15 years ago. She told me last July that she had metastatic lung cancer (her husband has very serious cancer too). Email correspondence stopped about two months ago, so I wrote her briefly the other day. I did get a brief response a few days ago: "I'm not doing well; I'm under hospice care at home."

I'm devastated. So upset that I don't know what to think, say or do.

Any suggestions to help get rid of all my anger?

Beaverntx

viewfinder, doing something physical helps me--pull weeds or such. Probably the best is to make bread that I knead by hand--something about punching the daylight out of that dough... My granddaughter who is a potterer probably punches the clay!

bcincolorado

viewfinder a good cry in the shower can get some emotions out too and can hide your tears from others in the house as well I've found.