STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

DogMomRunner

Ladies - you have made my hockey-player teethed mouth smile. I am also so not a pink ribbon kind of girl and will hurt someone if they buy anything with that crap on it for me. As for the pre-diagnosis gals, I understand because I also posted pre diagnosis about my BIRads score. However, there are those who wallow in their almost-sort of close-miles away-near death experiences. My dad is a bit of a hypochondriac and acts like the slightest pain signifies impending death. Me: I have BC and will need surgery, chemo and radiation. Dad: I have cyst on my neck that needs immediate surgery. Me: Is is life threatening? Dad: No but it hurts when I do this..

AliceBastable

ctmbsikia, what a POS your boss is. A "cancer scare" is when you wind up NOT HAVING CANCER after having one or more symptoms. What a dumbass.

We need a designated Slap a Moron Day.

I have a pair of bright pink shoes, but it's because I wanted a particular style in a bright color for summer, and there's not much selection if you're a size 11. When I made my FB announcement to family and friends last year, I did preemptively threaten any one who even said the word pink.

Betrayal

AliceBastable:

OMG, LMAO. Here is my vote for Slap a Moron day. Did you have a specific date or month in mind? It should probably be scheduled for once a month so we can let off steam on a regular basis and not have to keep it in.

My Mother had a pair of pink shoes that she wore with certain outfits and her one GS used to bust her chops about them. She finally threatened to leave them to him in her will. She recently died and he asked me if she had left him the shoes. He was worried. LOL.

Lita57

People who are into foisting that BC pink crap on us...

Che fai! They're "mamaluki (mamaluke, singular)" Italian slang for idiots/fools!

Not all of us are into that. I deliberately DON'T wear pink if I can't hide it under something else.

It's "shangadda," messed up, or effed up. ((As you can tell, I'm having lots of fun with this Italian slang...I go to the site everyday for a NEW word, but because of my brain mets, I can't remember the words the next day, ha ha. Have to write them down.))

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ctmbsikia

Ha, Alice I love it.  I think I'll make a pink ribbon with those words written in black thread:  "Today is Slap a Moron Day" and wear it everyday!  LOL   I'll probably get sued for copyright laws or defamation or something...………….

ctmbsikia

Lita, I have a friend who speaks and teaches Italian (her family is from there)-she also teaches Spanish.  When I saw you say "shangadda" I actually heard her say this a few times!   It's a great word!  

Beesie

In Yiddish, we have schmendricks.

I think for women with breast cancer, every day needs to be "Slap a Moron Day" (or Slap a Schmendrick Day", which has a nice ring to it) because there certainly are enough of them for each of us to find someone new every day. And it would ensure one bright spot in every day.

LoriCA

Alice I almost spit out my coffee at "Munchhausenboobie gals"!!! I love that term!

Pink used to be one of my favorite colors. I own a lot of pink tops because the color looks good on me. I have those cute gray and pink sneakers (NE term haha!) too. I'm a bit of a tomboy and pink was always my way of adding a feminine touch and pop of color to my jeans-t-shirt-hoodie-hiking boots look that is comprised of mostly earth tone neutrals. When I worked in finance back in the days when I was told that a woman's brain wasn't smart enough to handle math, wearing pink with my gray or navy suits was my way of reminding everyone that I was a woman with a brain capable of handling math. Now I feel like I'm making a d*mn statement every time I wear something pink and I hate that. I want my color back!

There is a woman in my metastatic support group who wears head-to-toe pink and absolutely everything she owns is pink,I mean everything, including her car. She's involved in a lot of advocacy efforts and I understand that it's a great way to call attention to what she does, and she deserves a lot of credit for all that she does, but every time I see that color I want to slap somebody. Not the woman who is doing a lot of hard work on behalf of us, I can't be mad at her, I want to slap the person who chose pink to represent breast cancer.

Every day is Slap a Moron Day for me.

Lori

Anonymous

I have really been enjoying this thread this afternoon found myself laughing and smiling. Well I think I'm sorta exiting my sorry for myself phase (it may be on standby tho) after flipping off the latest cancer center for America commercial advertisement on tv, burying in the backyard my breast cancer ribbon gift pin and shaving my head so my hair that's starting to grow back beyond baby bird phase starts to look even again, I am feeling a lot better. I hate October btw, just saying. The hit to the gut happened at first diagnosis and then I got pissed shaved my head and did what needed to be done. This kinda feels like like I'm being told to “wax on wax off", “side side", “sand the floor" and “paint the fence" all that the same time. This new revelation makes me feel at square one again. Truly.

I had my brain mri today. I had this mental picture while I was in there with the cage around my head:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SR5BfQ4rEqQ

Ctmb, what an asshole of a boss. A true candidate for slap a moron. I'm glad I buried my tiny breast cancer pin... only wore it to fend off questions of why I was bald.... I surely denied myself a hidden gem of this disease, knocking some sense into a moron

Doodlegirl

Micmel, thank you for your words of honesty and comfort. That's exactly what I need to hear. My husband has assured me he is dedicated to fixing our marriage, however I know he is going thru a midlife crisis. His is vulnerable to the fairly tale story she is offering him. And she takes him back to the fun and excitement of their time together in high school. A time when everything is fun and you can act like an adult without all the real world responsibility. I know it's going to take time but I'm going to try to make it work. However if there is any more contact I'm done

AliceBastable

How about the first day of every month for Slap a Morons Day? Easy to remember even for those of us with wobbly memories, no matter what the cause. I told a friend yesterday it's one reason to have my phone on me, when I can't remember something, I just scroll until I run into it. I email stuff to myself, or download, anything I might want to remember.

RadagastRabbit, a friend of mine is undergoing simultaneous radiation and chemo for tongue and neck cancer. The headgear for radiation is just like the white helmets in Star Wars. I think the medical profession gets ideas from sci-fi movies and shows.

LoriCA, I never wore pink until recently. I was a redhead of the icky orange variety so I was brainwashed to never wear pink or red. Once my hair turned blonde/gray (more blonde when I bother to help it along), I started liking pink. Now it's kind of ruined for me, but I'm not giving up my huge bright pink clodhoppers

Micmel

Doodle~

AliceBastable

Oh, here's my favorite pink thing that I use as an avatar/profile pic other places. I love the removable chesticles. It's the perfect robotic 1950s female!

runor

Munchausenboobie ... ha ha, laughed and peed a little. Good one!

jaycee49

Slap a moron day? I won't even have to leave the house.

Capecodgirl

Alice you totally crack me up with munchausenboobie and slap a moron day.Thanksfor making me laugh.

Jaycee hilarious with letting us know you don't even have to leave the house!

AliceBastable

Sometimes the venting needs that "Laugh so hard a tear trickled down my leg."

Ooh, Jaycee49, you'll be so good at the slapping with all the household practice!

SuQu31

Do you know what is really disgusting? Being diagnosed during October. All of my tests were during October. On the day of my biopsy, they were having some sort of “reception" or something in the waiting room of the breast imaging center. Punch, cookies, music, smiling young women. It was awful. My husband was with me (they said I might need a driver), and I wish you all could have seen the look of horror/disgust/anger he directed at the smiling young woman offering him a cookie. While we waited to find out if I had cancer. Makes my stomach turn just thinking about it. Do you think they had a clue about what was really going on in the back?

I, too, love pink (more of a hot pink/magenta person, but still). Now, every time I wear it, I wonder if people think I'm making a “statement" or something. Nope. I just like pink.

AliceBastable

SuQu31, good grief. Were the cookies decorated to look like edible little boobies, and was the punch pink? What an appalling idea for a reception - or at least what a bad location, to have it where actual BC patients were. What the hell is behind the reasoning to market breast cancer like it's some vapid sorority we're dying (or preferably not, thank you very much) to join? Is October just an extremely long, drawn-out rush week? Pledge Pink, girls!

Pardon me while I vomit.

jaycee49

During October every year, I wish it were one of those months that had 30 days instead of 31. Nope. Just one day longer but still.

JanetMara

SuQu31-- yeah,it makes me nauseous.

Lita--I agree,"mamaluki"

JUST A RANT and RANT!

I had a L mastectomy 2017 and after mastectomy,biopsy results came back stage 1. 2018,there is a growing lump on my L supraclavicular area,again I had to have CHEMO,sad to say I have severe side effects,MO stopped the chemo and recommended for radiation,after I saw RAD ONCO,he recommended chemo before radiation for 2 weeks,but my platelets and rbcs started to go down as low as 23,000 and I was bleeding in my gums,my MO did not recommend for a platelet and blood transfusion,here I am now suffering with the complications of low platelets as joint pains,muscle pains,weakness,sleepless at times,weak immune system,sinus infection,dizziness,am monitoring myself for any bleeding and go to ER and MO just recommended blood tests every week and bone marrow aspiration and biopsy (am waiting for their to call if authorization is approved),how sad that this MO is not so concerned that I might bleed anytime,this is a very pathetic MO that he cares only for the big money he gets when his patients go for CHEMO,heartless person and no caring soul MO. So I made appointment with his PA who has more experience and more knowledgeable than him.

JanetMara

SuQu31

Alice, it was bizarre, to say the least. And if I ever figured out who was hosting it or why, I can't remember it now. I can see maybe having something set up in a hallway or lobby, or somewhere else, where you try to provide information, but in the place where you have diagnostic imaging and biopsies? Really?? I'm not as bothered by the "pink movement" as many, but that was completely tone deaf. The only positive was that it gave me something to think about other than the biopsy. And my husband and I thought it was funny after the initial shock. "Do you have breast cancer? Are you worried you might? Here, have a cookie. Don't you feel better now?"

AliceBastable

SuQu31, a plate of cookies on top of the mammogram machine would be nice. Inhale - squeeze - exhale - chew - repeat.

SuQu31

Yes! Or, while we have your breast in a vise for the biopsy, which would you prefer while we wait for the surgeon, oatmeal raisin or chocolate chip?!?

I will say that I found my new pink ribbon ice/gel pack quite handy to insert into my bra after the biopsy.

dorimak

Lita, you don't have to justify yourself to anyone even if you weren't a cancer patient. Let your friend know that it's not up for discussion and otherwise don't engage. Engaging in an argument is futile and a waste of your precious energy. Do what my son does when I start nagging him. He'll tell me mom I don't want to talk about this so am hanging up now. I love you. Bye.

mara51506

I also hate Pinktober because the focus is never on later stage cancer. I feel metastic cancer is largely ignored for the sake of awareness and early stage. All stages should be covered AND awareness of the fact that men get It too.

I ignore it as much as possible.

AliceBastable

Well, here's a new pisser-offer that I found on FB today. First, there's nothing like insulting people into hitting "like," is there? Where's that "fuck you and the horse you rode in on" reaction button when you need it? Second, WHY? Why not ask for a donation to a reputable cancer research or patient help organization? "Ooh, look, I thought about cancer today, I'm so caring!" (in Homer Simpson's sarcastic voice). WE think about it every goddamn day, some every moment. Third, one decent thing was that it included all cancers, so I don't have bits and pieces feeling left out! Fourth, don't make it about non-patients feeling all feelzy goodzy about themselves. Why not "If you know or love someone with cancer, invite them to lunch, or take lunch to them"? Or just "Invite them to go walk in the park, or sit in the park, or go sit with them where they are." Or "If you know or love someone with cancer, call or text them telling them you care, and just ask how their day is going." But like so many things, it's about everyone except the people who actually have cancer. Fifth, does anyone else feel awkward as hell when they see things like this posted on FB, especially if you're pretty sure it's not you they're thinking about? Like, if I click "like" (NOT gonna happen), will the poster be embarrassed when they remember I have or had cancer, too?

Random musings of a perpetually pissed person.

runor

AliceB, I hate those emotional manipulation Facebook post too. I never and I mean NEVER like or share. It's the social media equivalent of someone whining, if you loved me you would. Well I don't love you so eff off. Also, as if posting or reposting ever cured cancer. It's the ultimate form of self loving wanking off - oooh, look I said I hate cancer and because of that thousands of others will also hate cancer and all this global hate will stop cancer in its tracks and save the world and the baby whales too. Uh huh. Whatever.

Yndorian

Why just bc has a prevention month? Why not rectal cancer month? Or prostatic cancer month? It would be funny! New colours of laces, different kind of cookies... There are not enough months? There are not enough colours? It's about the cookies?

jaycee49

Alice, I have an ex-brother-in-law (yeah, he is a FB friend) who posts that exact thing all the time. I don't like or share it but I don't like or share anything. (Too many people like EVERYTHING on FB so it means nothing.) I do give him a pass because he had cancer, not once but twice. And he "waves" at me all the time. Sometimes I think he may be just trying to support me. I can't be mad at that.

runor, you do Facebook? That amazes me.