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  • sandpiper1
    sandpiper1 Member Posts: 952
    edited June 2014

    I am packing my bags. I can take a travel assignment in Hawaii so you have a place to stay.

    HAHA

    anyhow, that is great news Jazz. Yea!

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  • Lily55
    Lily55 Member Posts: 3,534
    edited February 2014

    Wow Jazz - you so deserve it....fingers crossed

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  • Lily55
    Lily55 Member Posts: 3,534
    edited February 2014

    I have been blanking out on all this BC stuff for last few days so sorry if I´ve missed anyone´s post, please don´t take lack of response personally.......right now I am feeling very vulnerable financially, I don´t think I can ever work full time again energy wise as I get so tired and sleep does not replenish me, so how will I ever get enough funds to live on when I have zero work to do, then I wonder if I will ever need money as i might not be here etc etc....all really positive stuff..............!!!  I am taking practical steps to move savings into what I hope will be more lucrative vehicles but with more risk attached......so I have hope and vulnerability together.......cancer and feeling old are not a happiness maker......also really worried as I show several symptoms of ovarian cancer and thats it my biggest drea as its always so hidden and that and lobular together could be a deadly combination....boy am i full of the joys of spring...............

    Happy weekend everyone.

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  • Jazzygirl
    Jazzygirl Member Posts: 12,533
    edited February 2014

    Lily- I don't think you are alone here with not being able to work. I have come to realize many women on these threads are unable to work anymore due to all they have gone through. I really never realized how cancer disabled women. I always had the perception before going through it and being here, that you either got treated and got better or you didn't. I never realized you could go through treatment and end up disabled from the whole experience or have it return and live in a state of lesser quality. There is something about this which seems very wrong to me too. Medical treatment should help us to get better and return our quality of life. There are just not guarantees with any of this.

    I know you are not in the US, are you able to get any disability from the government or anything else you may had through your jobs in the past? Is there a social worker or other professional where you get your medical care that may be able to advise you of programs you may qualify for? I know many women here are on social security here in the US, as they are of the age to get it. You can get it here too if you become disabled before retirement time too. I just wonder if there is not something like that where you live? Countries in Europe seem to have so many better programs around these things than we do.

    It may be time to visit your gyn too. If there is a history in your family, they may run the BRACA tests. My doctor seems convinced I have a genetic cancer so she is doing some sort of new fangled genetic test now. I had the BRACA test and it was negative. It is all very scary to think about really. 

    I am sorry you are having a tough day. Hugs.

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  • Jazzygirl
    Jazzygirl Member Posts: 12,533
    edited February 2014

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  • SallyS70
    SallyS70 Member Posts: 947
    edited February 2014

    Jazzy ... great idea ... and just what I needed to hear at the moment ... I am going to kick up my heels and dance figuratively while I serve our simple dinner.

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  • SallyS70
    SallyS70 Member Posts: 947
    edited February 2014

    Lilly55, hoping you find resources to help you retire.

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  • Lily55
    Lily55 Member Posts: 3,534
    edited February 2014

    thank you jazzy and sally, i do work part time but its not enough to live well on and only fir two thirds of each year! Absolutely no disability or possibility to retire as i am nit physically disabked enough so can only keep myself going but i battle weariness and pain on mx side daily, old at 57.......

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited February 2014

    Lily I'm so sorry about u'r circumstances- I'm sure u;ve spoken totally to u'r Onc about this. and I hope u'r not going by the rule of thumb. Some people do so well after it amazing while others just don't and it's case by case, I planned on going back to work myself as did my sister (same stges) she went back and doing OK, I couldn't our bodies just reacted differently to Bc so maybe u can do more research on this. Unfortunately we have to do a lot on our own when I think our minds aren't; up to it, but it's worth a try. It's funny but I had planned on working til a certain age for my retirement and SS, never  thinking something was going to stop me. And money wise I would have been ll right but it didn't work out that way and I didn't count on this either and u being younger it has to be worse.

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  • Jazzygirl
    Jazzygirl Member Posts: 12,533
    edited February 2014

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  • sandpiper1
    sandpiper1 Member Posts: 952
    edited June 2014

    LOL Jazz, is that duck riding the back of a fish?

    We have a place in PA where the carp are fed so much they are massive. They all crowd together to get the bread thrown to them and the ducks "walk on their backs".

    I like your duck better. A single wave runner. 

    Here's my contribution for a quick laugh...warning, if you know the song, you will be singing it all day :)

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  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 5,712
    edited February 2014

    Jazzy love the Hawaii idea.....and thanks for the pix dancing is awesome

    Dwiii congrats....

    welcome to all the newbies...

    I will tell you that i am one of the annoying people at chemo...I joke around all the time and if people don't like it then leave, lol....cancer is way too serious and we have so much fun there we laugh and joke, eat and get on peoples' nerves....they roll out the red carpet and we shake things when people are done their last chemo and they ring that stupid bell...we last week we were getting ready to do it for someone and one of the patients said "I came here for peace and quiet and I have a headache...so she unhooked herself from chemo and left THEN we did our thing, and we didn't tell the guy that was done that she why she left.......I get that for some people it is depressing and they can't deal with it.....

    Chevy hope you are ok....

    love to all of you

    Sandy

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  • OncoWarrior
    OncoWarrior Member Posts: 5,234
    edited March 2014

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  • Spookiesmom
    Spookiesmom Member Posts: 9,568
    edited February 2014

    None of my docs could believe my 'tude either,  I told every one of them, more than once, well, I could go sit in the corner with a blanket over my head and cry. But you would need a crane to get me up, and I'd get a headache. 

    True?

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited February 2014

    OMG--that person actually left---whoa she wouldn't have lasted with my group either we got the nurses to put the chairs in a big circle so we could hear everything and all we did was laugh---one time my sister called and I couldn't hear her well and she could hear all the noise and said are u in a bar? Poor thing she didn't get chemo bt she got infusions and everyone was put behind a curtain. OMG we didn't want any curtain wrapped around us. So wasn't chemo better that way then poor me????

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  • Jazzygirl
    Jazzygirl Member Posts: 12,533
    edited February 2014

    Blondie- I think you are awesome!

    Piper- love the picture!

    Spent the afternoon with my friend whose mom just passed. We have not seen each other or talked in six months with all that has been going on. Lots of good talking and walking today. We took a nature hike down near the river, which was peaceful. We saw some migrating snow geese, but no sandhill cranes (we think they have gone now). Came back to the house for some snacks and beverages. It was good to reconnect, I have missed her. 

    She said she has not been a very good friend to anyone the last year and I said "you don't need to apologize, you were taking care of your mother at the end of her life. We all knew what was happening and friends give each other the needed space to do that they must do." It is good to have people in our lives who can just be present with each other's hard times. Support when you need to, give space when it's required. The friendship lives on.

    I feel filled up on fresh air, exercise, and friendship. I could have not asked for a nicer day.

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited February 2014

    Jazzy u  have such enthusiasm about so much u do and such kindness ad empathy--u are one hell of a woman/

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  • Spookiesmom
    Spookiesmom Member Posts: 9,568
    edited February 2014

    Sounds wonderful Jazzy. Nice to have friends you can be at peace with

    We have Sandhill cranes here too I didn't realize they are migratory birds. Mr & Mrs Crane thought a fenced in retention pond on the corner of a VERY busy street was a fine place to raise a family. A retired man made the news by spending the day there trying to keeps the kids out of traffic. They also mate for life. One of the parents was killed, the other wouldn't leave it's mate. I still cry when I think of that poor bird. 

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  • chabba
    chabba Member Posts: 5,065
    edited February 2014

    Crows and Canada geese also mate for life. One morning on the way to work I saw a crow standing beside its dead mate, crying loudly.  It sounded like a human wailing with grief.

    On a happier note, I also saw a Canada perform the Heimlich maneuver on its chocking mate.  The pair had been grazing in the weeds along our canal when one got something caught in its throat.  The mate stood along side of it and started whacking the the base of other's  neck with its neck. After just a few blows the obstruction was coughed up. They twined necks and calmley swam off together, 

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  • sandpiper1
    sandpiper1 Member Posts: 952
    edited June 2014

    So nice to hear of your afternoon/evening Jazz. You are a treasure and so glad that you had a day to reconnect and breathe in all that life and friendship offer.

    These bird stories have me amazed. 

    Here's one more for you that has nothing to do with fidelity.

    In Pittsburgh there has been a rare and interesting phenomenon: seagulls looking for open water, hence migrating here from the Great Lakes during this Polar Vortex. Apparently multiple types of water fowl are vacationing here on the great rivers of Southwestern PA. Now that the temps are rising, perhaps they will begin their flight home. ?

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    http://eclectictravelgirl.com/2014/02/pittsburgh-s...

    more cool pics and an article about it above. 

    PS. I did yoga on that bridge this past summer. I'll post pics of that another time. 

    ;)

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited February 2014

    Piper u did Yoga on that bridge???

    Those birds sound so sweet and I'm not a bird lover--but I do know wolves mate for life and are faithful. Not that I want to be around wolves.

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  • sandpiper1
    sandpiper1 Member Posts: 952
    edited June 2014

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    As part of a summer cultural trust event, the 'Andy Warhol' bridge was yarn bombed.....Every inch of the bridge had a handmade yarn panel and you can even see in the first photo how far up the bridge they went. The last day of the festival the yoga and yarn event took place. An estimated 750 people participated. The bridge was packed. I cannot find the photo of me. Someone on the site took it and I have since lost the tag. Anyhow, a small glimpse of my end of the bridge. It was fantastic. I suck at yoga, but what fun to be part of something that big. I had so many people bail on me for this event. I went by myself and had fun anyhow. Talked to many wonderful people and enjoyed a warm summers (Sun)day in the "Burgh".

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited February 2014

    Piper that's fabulous.

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  • Jazzygirl
    Jazzygirl Member Posts: 12,533
    edited February 2014

    Here is a photo of the sandhill cranes here at dusk in the Bosque Del Apache. Yes, they winter here each year and we all love them!

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  • SallyS70
    SallyS70 Member Posts: 947
    edited February 2014

    Chabba, interesting bird stories.  Reminded me that I feel we humans are very connected to the animal world in general ... actually to everything beyond ourselves in general.

    Sandpiper, I have decided to put yoga back in my life ... it used to make me feel healthy.

    The birds are singing in my backyard ... calling me outside.  Happy Sunday everyone.

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited February 2014

    Jazzy again u come up with a beautiful picture--but those are big birds, like from 1,000's of yrs ago.

    I love to mediate (which I haven't done so much lately) Yrs ago I was actually taught how to meditate and relieve stress with my body--I should go back to that for sure it was always so refreshing, I felt like I hypnotized myself too. LOL

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  • Jazzygirl
    Jazzygirl Member Posts: 12,533
    edited February 2014

    Hi hermits- I woke up early today after good deep sleep. All that walking and fresh air yesterday. Been indoors doing cooking today. Made some fresh berry salad, some hot italian sausage in sauce, and going to do a crock pot of vegetarian chili next! Been relaxing for a bit which has felt nice.

    I am a big fan of yoga. I go once a week to a class at my gym, sometimes more often. Yoga helps with the SEs from the arimidex and also is good for preventing osteoporosis. Never mind the overall mental and spiritual benefits. Meditation as part of that too. Really good for the mind body and spirit.

    We have so many yoga studios in my city now. When I started with it here in 1998, there were classes here and there, a few classes at the gym. It has become very mainstream now. I used to go on international yoga retreats for awhile, last one in 2009. I have less of a desire to travel internationally these days.

    Glad to hear you are going to get back into it Sally!

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  • Furfriend2
    Furfriend2 Member Posts: 299
    edited February 2014

    Hello Hermies! Love the little girl Jazzy!

    Just wanted to drop in and check on you gals.  Don't have much going on just trying to keep up and smile every day.

    Hugs to each

    Furfriend

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  • Furfriend2
    Furfriend2 Member Posts: 299
    edited February 2014

    Sandpiper, that is way cool. How neat to be a party of something so cultural.

    Fur

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  • Furfriend2
    Furfriend2 Member Posts: 299
    edited February 2014

    Chabba,

    What a great , fasinating & sad bird story.

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