My mom died..

Kiki-sue

Hi Kate,

I know what you are going through, I went through something very similar when my Mom died ten years ago when I was 19.  She was also my world, and I too felt estranged from the world without her.  I felt like when she died, a big part of me went with her.

Its going to hurt and be hard, but your heart will grow back. You will start to build a new life again, learn how to make new friends and then close friends; a sense of "family" will eventually come back. When I was ready, a few years down the road, I fell in love with someone who made me feel "at home" again, and that helped a lot.  It wont ever feel the same, you don't ever get a second Mom, but life will eventually feel alright again - and sometimes it will be wonderful too.

And remember - its your right to be sad, to cry, to talk about it to those you trust for as long as you feel like it. But when you are ready, you also have the right to try to be happy again.  Mourn her and your loss as long as you need to, but remember that she would want you to be happy and you can respect her memory by doing things to make you happier too.

Kyta

Hi Kate

So nice to hear from you. I didn't realize you were going back to school so soon....I thought you were done school for the summer. So for how long are you back in the UK? Not sure if you've started your exams yet but if so, hope they're going well. You seem very bright and studious so no doubt you'll do great :-)

take care Kate!

  

glanter

Hi Kate... I too lost my mom at your age...I was 17, in my senior year of high school.  It was hard but now....I'm older, wiser, stronger, and everything I think my Mom would have wanted me to be.  20+ years later, I even do the same type of job she did, I do it well and I'm sure she would be very proud  So we move on...we live our lives and look for the next good stuff to come.......Chin Up Girl...it'll get much better !!)  Time heals all.

Makratz

Thinking of you Kate.  I hope things are going better for you this term.

xoxo

Linda

Imissyou23

Hi,

My mum passed away about 3 weeks ago, im 15 years old and i have two brothers that are 3 and 10, my mum was only 35. The things that you have said, i completely understand and i get what your going through. My mummy was my bestfriend and i feel really empty without her. It was always me and mum because we were the only girls, and then there was my brothers and my dad. So now its just me and the boys, were all really upset. You really need to stop thinking about suicide, your mum wouldnt want you to do that, she would want you to be studying and be the best person that you could be. I get very upset to, but i use that sadness and i turn it into motivation to do what my mum wanted me to do, which is to study medicine, and that it was i am hoping to achieve in the next few years. Thats what you need to do, become motivated by your mums wishes for you to do well. But you know what do i know im only 15...

i wish you luck.....please dont commit suicide
....maybe our mums are having coffee together in heaven

Kyta

Hi there Imissyou ~how brave of you to write a post when your mom's passing is still so fresh. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I have a 15 yr old son, and I don't believe he'd be able to write such a mature and honest message. 

I wish you well....keep on making your mum proud :-)

Makratz

WOW!!!  Imissyou, how mature you are!!  Your mom would be so proud of you that you have such a great attitude after such a tramatic loss.  I will keep you and your brothers in my prayers.  I wish you the best in life.  Thank you for caring for Kate and sharing your story.

XOXO

Linda

gina1969

Glad to see you and your dad are on a better path to building a relationship, hopefully this is what you need to move on. I still think about you and i'm still in the same boat but it's not going to change. Keep going to school and make your life good, take care

Gina

apple

thinking of you Kate.. I hope you are gaining happiness.

Xxhippycrusherxx

haaah~ im so sorry. when i get down i tickle my dicktionary. At least you still have your father. my fathers name is dickson

Xxhippycrusherxx

lol no

Makratz

Thinking of you Kate, and hoping everything is wonderful with you!

Kyta

Hey Kate...I'm also thinking about you. Hope your summer has started off well!

KateDa

Hi,

Haven't come here for quite a while, exams have kept me busy and taken my mind out of things. I am going home again this Sunday. Things get better than it was. Thank you so much everyone.

apple

aww Kate.. nice to see you here.  I just lost my mom the other day.  miss her so.  I do hope things are looking up for you.

Makratz

Kate,

Thanks so much for checking in with us.  I am so happy to hear things are better for you!  I think of you often and wonder how you are.  I will keep you  in my prayers.

Do well on your exams, I know you will!  Best of luck to you.

XOXOXO

Linda

Makratz

Thinking of you Kate and wishing you all the happiness in the world.

Medigal

KateDa:  Your mom lost her life to this dreadful disease.  As a mom, I know it terrifies me to think that one day I could pass on and leave behind a daughter like yourself suffering so much.  PLEASE don't let this damnable disease that took your mom take your life too!!  Whether you believe it or not, I can assure you your mom is still with you as long as you carry your love for her in your heart.  Talk to her and allow her to see that you have the courage NOT to let cancer destroy your life too!!  That is what is so evil about a disease like this.  It not only takes the one or ones we love but it can leave behind those who love us with a life of tears.  That is NOT what your mom wants to happen to you.

If you feel so depressed try to see a doctor to get the right medication to help yourself.  You have had to suffer so much for one so young.   Try to find "one" person you can talk to about your sad feelings. Make sure that is someone who can hold you if you have to cry and not make you feel bad about crying.  Tears can be a blessing for healing our torn emotions.  As you have seen from the many replies you have gotten, you have lots of loving ladies here who want to help you.  Take life one day at a time and don't think because your mom is gone physically that you can't speak to her.  I know she is still watching over you and is going to find a way to give you that courage you need to cope with her death.  Any time you need comfort or love, please pop in this forum and let us help ourselves by helping you.  Love and Peace to you, dear one.

Kyta

Hi Kate. I have a feeling you're not likely to check back in with this group (which is probably a good sign!) but just in case you do, I wanted you to know that I still think of you. I hope you had a nice summer and wish you well this coming school semester.

Take care.