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  • kerry_lamb
    kerry_lamb Member Posts: 778
    edited March 2010

    Cris..we're all doin' ok because YOU are doin' ok :)  Otter you and I are going top enjoy our tag-along on the cruise..but I worry about the non-virtual parts of your life so I'm sending you some VV as well AND some virtual dexamethasone. Do y'all remember that stuff??? I can't believe how creative it made me..or how sick! Aw Jeano..feck that injury. No more medical biz for ANY of us, I say. Eddie et al after giving up femara FOREVER I started taking it at night and boy what a difference it makes. I feel as though I can do this now. I feel much more positive too..that ole recurrence monkey was on my back there for a couple of months. Love to y'all..especially Eyes..sigh...xx

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  • JulieC
    JulieC Member Posts: 324
    edited March 2010

    Happy Friday - I haven't even been on here for a few days and that was good - not that I haven't thought about all of you, but other things are just going on.  We got an 8 month old puppy on Wednesday and everything is crazy.  How about new dog, new life?  I think she (Tippy) will make a difference in my mental state.  I've already been outside more in the last few days than I have in a long time.  I also seem to be on the "doggy diet".  I feel guilty eating anything when she is staring at me which is ANY time I eat anything.  She is a shelter pet and was surrendered by her owner with 3 other dogs.  The family had at leas 8 dogs and 4 kids and I can go back and look at our court info and this family was involved meth one way or another in the past few years.  She is an Australia (hi Kerry) cattle dog mix.  She was very timid at first but is coming around and is great.  She wasn't leash trained, but is a quick learner.  I am Her human. My girls, too.  My husband is still earning her trust.  Makes me think she was abused by a man somewhere in her past.  Both girls said they will help so we will see how that goes.  We have spring break next week so we have more time to get familiar.

    Cris- been thinking about you and praying for you and your family.  I'm so glad you might be finding a house soon.  That will be a positive change. I don't have any advice for the itchy head and wig.  My answer was: take wig off and place back on styrofoam stand (decorated by my daughters), turn stand around so eyes can't follow you around the room and put on a bandana.

    Robin -  your cruise sounds wonderful.  Heck, I've never had a red bra (pre or post BC).  I'll sit nicely by Otter and Kerry in your suitcase.  We aren't big travelers so I love going with all of you.

    Otter - my v v prescription is on its way to you.  Use it anyway you want to.  Share it with all you think need it.  You have so much going on, I'm sure someone else could use a dose.

    My SIL is in town this week because her mom had a hip replaced last week.  She is going through similar situations.  Her parents are so stubborn and not real cooperative.

    Hoping all of you are seeing signs of spring or fall.  I saw my first robin yesterday so I know all will be okay.

    hugs to all - Julie

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  • Jeano77
    Jeano77 Member Posts: 237
    edited March 2010

    Julie - pictures of your new addition pleaseeeeeeeeee!

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  • lewing
    lewing Member Posts: 1,288
    edited March 2010

    Otter, I think one of the advantages of virtual valium is that it's perfectly safe to mix it with virtual alcohol.  So I am sending a bottle of really good virtual red wine for you to sip with your feet up, DH at your side (he can have some, too), and music playing.

    Sigh.

    Linda

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  • otter
    otter Member Posts: 6,099
    edited March 2010

    Oh, you all are soooo good to me!  Thanks so much.  Mmmmmmmm....  Feeling much better now.

    Big, soft hugs...

    otter

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  • rock
    rock Member Posts: 1,486
    edited March 2010

    i don't remember everything from the previous page but let me say:

    BROKEN ARM?  SUCK.  (Jean, I am concerned that you are not complaining enough.  As you know, I am pro-complaining.  Loudly and often.)

    Otter, I am completely uncharitable. I swear, if people refuse to look after themselves, I refuse to make them the center of my life.  People who struggle to look after themselves, have too much on their plate, are slow to realize gravity of situation... that's one thing.  But I must say, I am a person who looked someone straight in the eye and said "You need to get tested for HIV. I will call the hospital, I will go with you to the hospital, and I will be there for you no matter what happens next, but I will not continue to hear you and your partner talk about how worried you are about your health and then never get yourself checked out."  Otter:  If you haven't already, don't rule out having a "come to Jesus" moment.  Know that I, for one, will support you in saying whatever you think needs to be said, doing whatever preserves your quality of life.    I am tired of seeing my friends run themselves into the ground for people who are genuinely capable of caring for themselves but refuse to.

    Julie -- Your humor (re: itchy wig.) You are one of those people ... you crack me up!   

    And everyone: I spoke to Eyes! She's in Hawaii!  And she has a voice and an accent-- like Sue's -- that lowers one's blood pressure by 40 points.   We agreed that I would go to my mailbox in a few days, look in it, think "What a beautiful postcard that Eyes did not send me.  I am so happy she is having a lovely time in Hawaii!"  (Cris, we both agree that we feel completely betrayed by you getting your act together to send out christmas cards.  Betrayed, I say!!!!)

    Love to all of you.  

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  • kerry_lamb
    kerry_lamb Member Posts: 778
    edited March 2010

    Rock, are you SURE you are not Australian??? Talk about DIRECT! I LOVE the idea of going out to the letterbox and admiring the cards we do not send each other..what a hoot. I bet we laugh EVERY time we go to the letterbox now. "Ahhh! Look at this beautiful card I did not just get!" How awesome. I am so glad you talked to Dana and I am even gladder she is in Hawaii. Going to bed..love you all XX

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  • drcrisc
    drcrisc Member Posts: 836
    edited March 2010

    Julie - New puppy = new carpet in your future??

    Rock - I certainly beg to differ on how "together" my act is; however, I have my allegiances and Hallmark is one of them.  But so glad you talked to Eyes anyway!!

    Short update on us - We moved.  This past weekend.  In 2 days.  Can I say again that I have amazing friends??  I am still floored that we did it.  I had a "moment" (epipheny?) on Saturday morning when I realized I could not stay in that house one more day.  So I called and people came.  People I didn't even know came and packed boxes and other people came the next day and moved those boxes along with some heavy furniture.  Which made it's way into the right rooms and the correct spaces.  We are temporarily at my mom's house as the new one is in disarry.  My sister arrived this afternoon and we spent several hours sorting and hanging clothes.  Tomorrow we tackle the kitchen.  I am exhausted but good.  I will write more about it all later, but I just wanted you to know we are okay and moving forward.  And Kerry, the wine boxes were brilliant!  I have an entire surround sound system in one of them!!

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  • kerry_lamb
    kerry_lamb Member Posts: 778
    edited March 2010
    Oh my goodness!!! A girl after my own heartKissie 'If it be done, best it be done quickly'. Well done..goodness gracious!!! Ahh..we've had CANCER! MOVING HOUSE can't compare!! xxx
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  • Sable
    Sable Member Posts: 738
    edited March 2010

    Cris~ here is a silver lining to your cloud right now....... no more of your shitty neighbors! They got left behind wooohooo! Onward and upward!

    Can any of you ladies, or do you know of anyone who have use size 9/10 foobs? I have 2 really nice one and 2 foam ones. One cost me close to $600 and I hate to see it just get tossed. I figured I would ask here first and maybe then donate them to onc office????

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  • angelsaboveus
    angelsaboveus Member Posts: 298
    edited March 2010

    Have been away for the last 5 days...last week of spring break. Went to the West Edmonton Mall, did some shopping, did some waterslides, saw Alice in Wonderland in imax 3D,  Daughter bought more than me, I only came home with a purse.  Just not that good at the shopping part, if I don't need it I don't buy it.  It probably helped that I just cleaned out moms house of a whole lot of needless stuff!  It was nice to get away and do something different.

    Cris , so glad to hear you are in a new home, This will be a good distraction to help ease yourself and the girls into this new chapter of your life. I admire your strength.

    Robin have a wonderful time on your cruise, rest and relax!

    Jean I hope your arm is healing quickly and not causing you to much grief.

    Have a great weekend everyone

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  • sueper13
    sueper13 Member Posts: 1,224
    edited March 2010

    Hello!    I've been reading here all morning, woke up at 6 a.m.  Not much news except the sale of the Texas house fell through and it's back on the market.  (Sigh.) Building a VIRTUAL house in Georgia now (preselecting materials. finishes etc. and researching systems..solar, wind..hobby farming..)

    I am so uplifted to read that I am not the only one who has sit-on-my-ass-itis. I thought I was the only one, and that was because almost everything became my lowest priority there for a while.  I wasn't even reading here, although I thought of you every day.  Cris, I am so so sorry.   Meanwhiile, though, your measured wisdom and maturity really took my breath away.  I will hold you and your girls close in my thoughts and you have all the hugs and shovels you need. 

    I think I was depressed, the anti-d I was on had stopped preventing hot flashes, my estrogen levels went up so all the menopausal symptoms came back, it was like chemo again they were fast and furious...it was horrible.  So, we changed the anti-d, then went up on the new anti-d, and everything seems to be balancing finally.  Living in an almost constant state of hot flash sweatiness gets oldt pretty fast.

    So,  I just wanted to check in.  Very glad of red bras and a cruise and autumn and loving being alive and new boobies and finally being aable to stand up straight--it gets better every day!  Ilove all of you and miss you. I guess I really miss us.  I wouldn't want to go back but I sure am grateful that each of you was with me.

    Love and hugs,

    Sue

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  • lewing
    lewing Member Posts: 1,288
    edited March 2010

    Sue, it's wonderful to hear your voice again.  Yay!  And even better to know that you're doing better after a rough patch.

    (((Hugs)))

    Linda

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  • drcrisc
    drcrisc Member Posts: 836
    edited March 2010

    Sue - Good to hear you and thanks for the shovels and hugs. :)  I have been wondering/worrying about you, but knew you would contact us when you were ready.

    Angels - I do the same thing.  I can spend $300 on the girls for new clothes easily but never for me.  I think it's a mom thing.

    However, today I bought all new bathroom mats, towel sets, trashcan. blah, blah, for MY new master bath!!  I bought sky blue and chocolate brown towels - love that combination!!  It is both fun and overwhelming at all the small things we need to make this house our home - like paper towel and napkin holders, which I finally found today.  Katie said (wisely!) that she didn't want this house to just look like our old one.  She wanted it to be different and she is absolutely right!  This is our third night and they have school tomorrow.  I'll be glad when they have a week off for spring break!  And we are living with no cable!!!  GASP!

    I also have work tomorrow so, better go...g'night all.

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  • otter
    otter Member Posts: 6,099
    edited March 2010

    Sue, we can draw up some virtual house plans for you.  I hate that the sale of your current house fell through.  That sux, especially when you're so eager to move over here, closer to me. :)   The economy is getting better, though; so maybe things will start moving again.  As the realtor told us when we sold our house 10 years ago, all it takes is one buyer.  (Yeah, right.  Wish it was that simple!)

    Cris -- speaking of new homes... I like hearing how you and your kids have turned this move into something fun.  Having them pick out some of the new stuff will help them settle in and accept the changes in their lives.  (Of course, you know that better than I do.)  Are your kids still in their same school(s)?  I hope so.

    We got home from MIL's last weekend, and spent a night on the boat.  It was another fix-it trip, but it was nice to be by ourselves after many weeks living under other circumstances.  Once at home, I started to relax and not dread hearing the phone ring.  There was one odd phone message, though, from a former co-worker of mine.  As I dialed her number, I was telling dh that I was going to decline any requests that I come back to teach a class or serve on a committee.

    That wasn't it at all, though.  When my friend answered the phone, she said she'd called me because she figured I had done lots of reading and might be able to help her.  The problem?  She had just been dx'd with breast cancer.  She didn't know any more about it except that it was ILC and the tumor was probably > 2 cm.  (They didn't know for sure, since it wasn't a distinct mass.)  So, she was awaiting an MRI and the rest of the path results, and was thinking about all those other decisions she would need to make.  She sounded shocked, and sad, and angry.

    I can't believe this is happening to another person I know.  I am getting so tired of it.  I don't read or post much on BCO anymore, because most days I can't come up with words that will help.  Maybe I'm moving on; or maybe I'm just stuck. Anyone else find herself in that situation?

    Hugs...

    otter

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  • Jeano77
    Jeano77 Member Posts: 237
    edited March 2010

    Sue - Great to see you posting . . . sorry that the sale of the house fell through.  Hoping that you find a buyer soon to continue with the dream.  Did I mention that I dream of a reunion on your future porch?  :)

    Otter - Your friend has reached out to the right person, you are a wealth of knowledge and a calming friend. 

    I have a new cast for another 3 weeks (5 total).  It is beginning to feel a little better.  They indicated it will take 6-10 weeks to heal.  Good news is no surgery.  

    It has been a long week - more on that later.  I simply wanted to say hello and goodnight.

    I love you all!

    Jean

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  • lewing
    lewing Member Posts: 1,288
    edited March 2010

    Good morning, Jean!  It's great to drink coffee and eat yogurt and granola with you (or at least with your post).  I'll be thinking of you this weekend as I run the "Around the Bay 30K" -- the oldest road race in North America.  All I'm looking to do is finish uninjured and non-hypothermic(Sunday's forecast calls for high 40s and RAIN).

    Linda

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  • KristyAnn
    KristyAnn Member Posts: 793
    edited March 2010

    Hi Everyone,

    Just stopping by to say hello- Ive been relocated (my desk anyway) to my new team, had a week of training in N. Carolina, college girl home this week on break- just BUSY and loving it!

    Kristy

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  • Jeano77
    Jeano77 Member Posts: 237
    edited March 2010

    Good morning back to you Linda!  I am soooo jealous that you are running a 30k . . . even in the cold, wet weather (sun would be better).  I am still struggling with the foot / planter despite the time, money and many treatments I have tried.  Just when I begin to see progress, good ole tamoxifen sends overnight painful cramps to my calfs, which end up in my foot (again and again).  I am trying to run 3 miles every other day.  ***sigh***  This time of year it is hard to be patient.

    If you do not mind, I am going to tag along as you run.  I hope you have a fantastic day, fun with friends and look back at how far you have come in 2 years and smile.

    btw - yesterday was my 2 year diagnosis date. 

    Enjoy the weekend!

    Jean

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  • lewing
    lewing Member Posts: 1,288
    edited March 2010

    I saw Noelle!  I saw Noelle!  I saw Noelle's beautiful town and her cute little house and her kitty!  And oh, did I mention, I saw Noelle?!

    More later - just had to get that out.

    (Jean, you're definitely coming along with me tomorrow.)

    Linda

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  • rock
    rock Member Posts: 1,486
    edited March 2010

    Cris -- MY bath towels are blue and chocolate!!! I love that combo too!  And your ability to buy a home and move into one in approximately 43 minutes may be what inspires me to get off my hindquarters and I dunno, CLEAN.

    Kristy: So happy your transition seems to be going well. and "happily busy" is a great combo.

    Linda/Noelle:  that is just plain cool.  (Did you see her store, too?)

    Jean:  Arrrggghhh.  My friend has plantar fasci-whatchamahoozit.  Some days it really lays her up. She has said on many occasions that she would pay any price for a pair of shoes that would

    Sue! Sue! Sue!  Sorry about the house deal falling through but grateful for the reminder that mine is not the only life that is not a dance through the cupcakes.  Of course, many of my problems are of my own making, i.e., avoiding dealing with income tax.  I only recently got round to paying 2008's. And now I need to figure out what happens with the Fulbright.  I'm going to heave a pile of paperwork at "my" accountant and hope he makes everything go away.

     In the meantime, though, I am going to do some early morning cleaning.  I have myself on a schedule. The goal is to make it to Friday with a clean house and some prep already done for the party I'm having Friday night.  To be honest, the main motivation for the party is to force myself to do some cleaning. 

    Everyone, everyone:  I think of us often. I really do.

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  • Sable
    Sable Member Posts: 738
    edited March 2010

    Funny~ my bedroom is in blue and chocolate LOL.

    Linda~ pics pics pics! good luck with your race!!

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  • drcrisc
    drcrisc Member Posts: 836
    edited March 2010

    Hey blue and chocolate girls...just another confirmation that we all think alike!  Laughing

    I love to hear about meetings between everyone!!  

    otter - I do know.  I tried to go on to some of the other threads when my friend was diagnosed and it was really hard.  BTW, the girls didn't have to change anything, we only moved about 4 miles away!  But that was enough.

    I just got back from being away for 4 days - 2 of them were spent doing continuing education for my license.  That part was really good (unusually so!) but the rest was a bit hectic and it didn't help that I got a cold also!!  But I also went with my really good friend and colleague (the one who adopted the baby last year) which was very fun since we rarely get to spend time together any more. 

    Eddie and Adrienne - This training was so fantastic that I would consider coming up to Seattle to do a longer one with this individual.  Marsha Linehan is a behavioral psychologist who has developed a theory and technique called Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT.  The primary training center for DBT is in Seattle.  I will let you know if that happens!!

    Okay, time for a shower and on to the rest of the day!

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  • JulieC
    JulieC Member Posts: 324
    edited March 2010

    Hey - I have chocolate colored sheets and probably authentic chocolate covered comforter, carpet, love seat, etc.  Or maybe that is yogurt covered.  Once it dries it is hard to tell.  We need some new carpet in the bedroom, but not until we stop eating in there.  Riley wants to paint her room - black walls with different neon colored splatters.  I told her she wouldn't be able to sleep with all of that going on.  We might compromise and do one wall.

    Cris - I'm so glad you were able to move so quickly.  I can't even imagine.  We have a difficult time just discussing a rummage sale.  I'm glad you got a way for a few days even if it was business related.

    Rock - what kind of party are you having?  Maybe I'll do the same if it motivates you to clean.  Riley is having a slumber party Thursday night so we will clean after that party.

    It is so nice to see you Sue.  I, too, am sorry about the house sale but I have faith. Jean - glad to hear from you.  How are you healing?

    Linda - so proud of you for getting through your race. You rock, woman!

    Jen - how is your re adjustment back at work going?

    Kristy - how are your new digs at work?  Hope you had a good spring break with your daughter.

    Hi Otter - is it boating weather yet?  We finally have some nice days.  The sun is great.  The grass is still a little frosty when I take the dog out in the morning, but at least I am getting outside.

    Have a great week ladies.  I love you all - Julie (Tippy says "hi")

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  • ellenoire
    ellenoire Member Posts: 674
    edited March 2010

    Oh Good Lord! Y'all need to give me the heads up on FB when you sneak back on here!

    Cris: "So I called and people came.  People I didn't even know came and packed boxes and other people came the next day" really is the best news I've heard in a long time. I hope you know I was here everyday thinking of you.

    Siouxieeeee! Great to see you! ;( on the house.

    As for me and Linda... we managed what 30m at my place?.. my staff knew she might show up and I was working at home at the "ellenoire curly hair pop up salon" doing one of many many haircuts and washes and he sent her over as a surprise! What a fabulous surprise it was!!! .. and yes, we suck we forgot to take pictures! But Linda, it was totally awesome to finally meet you and get the phone call the next day after your race... next year I'll be around when you and Jean run it ;)  Love to everybody! I have a zillion hours of work to do. Re financing the store/ house this week. praying my mother does not leap from her grave to yell at me for risking the house she left me to finance the store. I think we are doing a good thing, it will save a lot of money in interest in the long run. It's just scary. I have to move the store in September. The landlord is not renewing my lease..... and yes, we need a shovel brigade for him. Stupid jackass.

     more later... I miss us too... I was thinking about it recently about the safety of all of our confessions to each other... and all the things I often want to vent about.

    Love to all. More work...and then a meeting with Tim.

    xoN

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  • kerry_lamb
    kerry_lamb Member Posts: 778
    edited April 2010

    I love all your WORDS! : chocolate, Riley, splatters, imagine, rummage, (RUMMAGE!!!), compromise, motivates, frosty, awesome, zillion, jackass, shovel, safety.

    Lawdy! We could write an awesome new random book!  xxxxx 

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  • drcrisc
    drcrisc Member Posts: 836
    edited April 2010

    Whew...the weekend again.  But I'm home this time.  And I'm getting cable and a washer and dryer - woooo hooo!!

    Noelle - Glad to see you back here!  I must confess, FB is difficult for me now.  I haven't been on in weeks.  Sorry about the landlord, but maybe there's a bigger, better space waiting for all your good-smelling stuff!

    I tell you, ladies:  Men have nothing on us in terms of bonding.  I have made more friends telling this story and seen more women set their face and do that little head shake thing - I just keep drawing on that power!  I met someone today that I have heard of in professional circles who went through a similar situation and, interestingly, who also knows my (almost) ex.  Worked with him for over a year and (when she figured out who the "he" was during our conversation) said, "You have my support."  We start arbitration next week.  And at least I got this month's check without a hassle. 

    Really, there are other things in my life, but...okay, not much.  Somebody slap me if I get to be a bore with this...time for bed.

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  • lewing
    lewing Member Posts: 1,288
    edited April 2010

    Cris, you would NEVER be a bore.  And I think the power you're drawing on is really inside you.

    L  (smiling at the thought of your new washer and dryer . . . and setting my face and doing the head shake thing at the thought of your ex)

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  • kerry_lamb
    kerry_lamb Member Posts: 778
    edited April 2010

    Nothing boring about a gal taking hold of her own life..or taking possession of a new washer and dryer!! Three cheers for new washers and dryers!!!  And new premises whoooohooooo! And, perhaps, new computers (Rock???) xxxx

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  • angelsaboveus
    angelsaboveus Member Posts: 298
    edited April 2010

    Cris, love to hear about the good things happening to you like new washer & dryers and cable and always know we are here for you for the other "stuff" too ! So lay it on us whenever you need .

    Linda & Noelle...so cool you got to meet up! Linda I admire the strength you have to run like that. Noelle that sucks your landlord didn't renew your lease, let me know when you need the shovel !

    Robin how was your cruise...I hope you were able to relax and enjoy , give us an update when you have time.

    I am sitting here watching it snow as the sun shines..something not quite right about that ! It's just been stupid crazy weather lately.  Hope you all can get out and enjoy this holiday weekend, Time for me to head up and see mom at her care home....always an adventure Wink

    Cheers !

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