please help

1Cathi

Barbe, my SIL is a mean nasty sick untrustworthy abusive person - my DD is SICK- Mentally sick - I finally realize that,  she is like completely transforming her appearance to look like the girl he is PLAYING with ,  and the things that I am seeing on his FB page just make me sick.  Under normal circumstances I would just LEAVE IT ALONE , not snoop, but I print everything that is ??????? just in case. For future refrence. It's pretty obvious by last evenings posts they were fighting, I can only sit and wonder what thoses babies are hearing and seeing.  Its also pretty obvious they have replaced drugs with drink, and not in moderation, completely not allowed, yet no one seems to do anything about it, the case workers the probation officer,  it's like they need/have to wait for something  really bad to happen.

1Cathi

HAPPY HAPPY HEART - Spent 4 hrs with Landen & Ella today their daycare was closed for Good Friday - most of the time at the beach and they had a BLAST -  GREAT DAY.  Pretty tired, but good tired, no sitting still in the sun with a 2 & 16/mo old- LOL

1Cathi

Just wanted to wish everyone a HOPPY EASTER,  a few friends over tomorrow Jaclyn & family and not sure yet about Amanda, Ed is doing grilled chicken & friends bring spiral ham kinda traditional/non-traditional here in Fla, pool is open and I am sure we will all treck to the beach -  LOVE YOU ALL - XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

barbe1958

I saw the pictures from the beach Cathi!! They were glorious!!! Look at that pudgy little Ella, what a doll! Did Landon knock down his sand castle in anger or for fun??? I don't like to comment some times on people's facebook pics when family has as I don't them to "think" of others seeing the pics....if you know what I mean??? I like comments on my own pics as it shows my family that I DO have friends...hehehehe. But your life right now is kind of private and therefore I didn't post a comment. Phew! Did any of that make sense????

1Cathi

It made sense Barbe,  as much as anything in my life makes semse- LOL. Landen knocked it down in fun,  Everyone showed up for Easter today - even SIL. It's very hard being around him,  even Amanda,  they are like loose cannons it seems,   All in all a good day.  I am pretty sure they didn't get them anything for Easter though,  they posted picture but not a single picture with a basket or anything-  we don't do baskets here , we do an egg hunt and get them all a small bunny. But they had fun and I guess it's good they are little and don't realize. I know it's not about the STUFF, but again back to the cloths & toys mom & dad get. Oh well anyway a good day.  Jaclyn said Mom are you proud of me I was polite all day - LOL

1Cathi

WOW- We have all been away a long time.  Just wanted to stop by and wish all a HAPPY MOTHERS DAY. 

Ed and I will be married 5 yrs on Friday - celebrating with a night out Saturday (8yrs together).  Kinda bitter sweet,  cause a month after the weddiing got the Big "C" DX.  I wish I was celebrating 2 5yr anniversarys - but I'm not.

The roller coaster ride with DD & SIL continues, won't bore you all with the details,  as Ed said last night it's just a  daily rolling & growing snowball -  waitin on that train wreck -  FRUSTRATING

Anyway HAPPY MOTHERS DAY - LOVE YOU ALL -

barbe1958

Love you too Cathi!! I think we are all leaving this thread open for you to rant on and us to commiserate.... Nice to know there isn't anything too traumatic for you to post about! I get nervous when I see this thread with a "new" symbol and worry that something has "gone down"!

chrissyb

Happy Anniversary Cathi!!!!    Hope you enjoy your quiet time together.

Love n hugs.  Chrissy

lvtwoqlt

Happy Anniversary Cathi.

Sheila 

1Cathi

Thanks everyone -  looking forward to a nice evening Saturday.  Oh Barbe your head would spin if I put it all out there - LOL. Nothing changes for the better anyway.  Amanda called me Tuesday night asking if they could take the bed in our spare room for Landen because his is going to get repoed this week -  they have it through a rent to own place and I guess they are not paying.  I could not let her take that bed, we maybe having company in a few weeks Ed's sister from PA,  suggested that she look at a consignment shop or something,  you know I sooooooooooooo want to go buy the little guy a bed- BUT I AM NOT.   Anyway thats just a tid-bit of all that continues on.  Just waitinn on that train wreck, in the meantime Ed & I are trying just to enjoy each semi-calm moment we have.

lvtwoqlt

Good for you for staying strong and not purchasing the bed for Landen. I know it is hard but they need to learn to stand on their own two feet.

Sheila 

barbe1958

Cathi, you're doing great!!! TOUGH love....for them and YOU!!

1Cathi

Thanks Ladies, if I really believed he would be sleeping on the floor, it would have been much harder,  but as DD works nights she in SIL pretty much sleep on the couch to hear them tell it anyway ,  Ella never sleeps in her crib,  always their bed,  so guess Landen will be camping there for awhile too - just not sure how the CW is gonna take that,  but this new one is sooooooooooo  young, and soooooooooooooooooooo new to this, right out of school.  Not sure she gets anything. 

cloudhowe

Hi girls

My we are all hyaving a time of it!

Cathi - I don't see where there is any ambiguity. At all. The children are not being cared for. They are unwashed, wearing unsuitable, ragged clothes and shoes, not being properly fed and now not even having a bed to lay their heads on due to their fecklessness. I don't know why they are allowed to stay with their sad excuses of parents.

Appeal to the CW's superiors, seek lagal advice. Here, I would consider involving the press, SIL is lost to you and Amanda might be too, so you have nothing to lose. I wish I could be more help, I can't imagine what you are going through. You know how much I resent those 2 eejits. The kids are the one and only thing that matters. The best case scenario is youand Ed gtting custody, with full financial and practical support and the eejits going into some kind of rehab. Never out of my thoughts Cathi. xxxxxx

Leesa, news from the front? It's shameful how good, hard working people are treated throughtout the world by hard, faceless coporations. Do you not have a Union youcan turn to to get the best deal, or one of those "no win, no fee" outfits, or a law society or anyone who can offer you guidance and support? Failing that, I'm with Barbe. Negotiatewith the swines who did this to you (I still think that would be best done by someone conversant in Employment Law. The very best of luck Dink. And do let us know how things are going. xxxx

Likewise Shiela, and news on the job front. Good jobs worldwide are rare as hen's teeth. And those in work are having their rights eroded and thier wages effectively cut which benefits are slashed. My niece's boyfriend is a Graduate Teacher who is doing supply work (and that is being cut) She is really lucky as she has been given a contract, but she is the only one of her class who has securiy. I am dispairing of the futuree.

Me, I've been feeling low since Sharon died - it could so easily have been me, and she had so very much to live for. When she was dyinbg, it was over in weeks. She was in bandages from head to toe latterly as the cancer spread to her skin. She inspired me so much as out dx and treatment was the same, so she was 3 months ahead of me and never failed to keep me going. She only lived 5 miles from me, so we all met up at least acouple of times a month.

One time, when I finished FEC, and got great results, tumour shrank so much that a lumptectomy, feeling on top of the world, Sharon had finiished all her chemo, had her mx and recon done (simiultaneously) and we felt the future was golden. We went to The Mussel Inn (where I took Devin when he was over) (Was advised again shellfish during chemo) We had loads of wine (which I couldn't stand during FEC) We were so happy thinking the worst was behind us. Sorry feeling weepy.

Anyhoo, do keep the thread going. Only we know what it's like, eh?

Love and hugs and lollipops

Nettie xxx

barbe1958

This may sound really stupid....Sharon? What was her bco name? Did I know her? Am I missing something or just very confused. I'm so sorry.

lvtwoqlt

Barbe, I think Sharon was one of Nettie's personal friends.

I haven't posted anything lately about jobs but nothing on the horizon for me. I have submitted several applications to various temp agencies but they don't have much call for office work. They said we have plenty of temp jobs in manufacturing/production do you want to look at any of them. I said no, I did my fair share of manufacturing work (15 years) that killed my back. I am too old for that type of work.

Sheila.

NancyD

I'm still checking and reading, ladies, so if you think your rant is going to go unnoticed and unheard, a never fear. Just not much to post (such a dull life). Cathi, I hope you had a wonderful anniversary dinner. I know the Don Cesare by reputation and drive-bys, and think it would be a most wonderful place to celebrate!

barbe1958

Nancy! How is your new digs? Have you painted? Had fun placing furniture? Found "surprises"???

NancyD

Hi Barbe! The new place is coming along. I still don't have all my furniture here. A lot of it was blocked by my brothers' things, and they just started moving out yesterday. It will be a while before I can get everything over here. And then there is the piano...I'll probably have to hire professional movers for that. None of my brothers are willing to try and move it. But we have enough stuff here to cook, eat, sleep, and entertain oursleves. Still, I'm looking forward to the day I'm not poking through a cardboard box trying to find something.

1Cathi

Anniversary night out was wonderful,  GREAT FOOD , we were home pretty early shortly after 10PM,  I said on the ride home-  ARE WE GETTING OLD -  Mothers Day went off well,  SIL did not come  - he was working all day - OK??? OH WELL,  Not really missed,  Amanda is much easier to deal with when he is not here,  yet it is still not easy. I wasn't even sure she was coming as on Friday she asked if I would pay her phone bill until Monday (his pay day) Again a NO, can't do that- of coarse she was not happy, kinda got huffy saying 'I TOLD YOU I WOULD PAY YOU BACK"  I have heard that before (didn't say that, just said I could not do it) . The FEELING bad part about saying no is getting easier each time.  I still just have so many emotions about HER ,  Anyway Nettie I have talked to CW supervisor -  nothing from her - THEY ARE MONITORING , and as long as Landen & Ella have a bed (parents bed at this point) I guess thats ok. UGH - 

At 10:30AM today the school calls because they can not get a hold of mom (no phone) - Landen is ill,  and dad is not returning the VM they left on his cell.  So PA-PA had to go and pick him up,

Anyway,  still the same old same old.  Nancy glad your diggin the new digs,  Nettie lots of hugs ,  I can only imagne your heart ache in missing Sharon.

LOVE TO ALL - XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

barbe1958

Cathi, we haven't heard news for a while and I don't know if that is good or bad?!! Please let us know what is happening in your life if you want to share....beach parties? barbecues? fights? brithdays??? This site is different than Facebook. I say things here I'd NEVER say on FB...

cloudhowe

Cathi

Just looked on FB. Lots of happy pics of Amanda photographing herself in the loo, and happy kids with loving parents. Silly question, but is there a shred of truth there?

NETS xx

barbe1958

Yah, I've been watching the posing going on. The ass shots, the boobs shots, what is she trolling for?

karen333

makes me worried about Cathi that no one is hearing from her, I hope she is as well as can be expected given the circumstances.  The facebook posting photos do not sound like a good sign.  Karen

barbe1958

Karen, I've talked to Cathi on Facebook. There are a lot of forest fires down there right now so it's a bit stressful, to say the least! It all seems status quo for now.

It just looks like Amanda is taking Hustler shots to advertise her body. I'd kill my DD if she posted like that on any site! Sorry Cathi, but that's the way I feel.

karen333

Thanks Barbe for letting me know, I will send a prayer that they all stay safe from the fires.  It is so wet here the farmers were just now able to plant, it sure has been a year of wild weather patterns.

chrissyb

Hope you are safe and well Cathi.

Love n hugs. Chrissy

1Cathi

Hi all,  sorry to make you worrry -  trying to LIVE NORMAL,  but as you can all see by my DD's FB page - UGH -------------------------- And if any of you care to glance at his it's worse. Discusting,  and nooone as I have said before seems to care anymore. As of Friday we now have anothercase worker $2 since they went home in March. Ed and I are trying to stay focused and realize we can't change things  - but pray everyday someone does for these babies. Nettie NO they are not happy & loving by any means -  just check his page it's not private WILLIAM MELLOTT - 

Ed and I did a NO-NO several weeks ago,  when Landens bed room set got repoed,  we were at a local childrens consignment shop and there was a great Captains Bed for only $45.00,  we bought it,  of coarse we did request to be paid back - knowing that would not happen,  they were to buy Landens mattress, guess what he still doesn't have one, they removed Ella's crib mattress, She sleeps in their bed - 

Can't even go on right now, they have been  FB fighting all weekend, to the point where SIL said he was single Saturday on his status, but Amanda made "sad eyes" at him,  makes me sick to my stomach.

But I LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE YOU ALL thanks for the rant

barbe1958

Thanks for the update Cathi. You can say things here you certainly can't on FB!!

1Cathi

THANK YOU BARBE & ALL, I try to distance my emotions right now or keep them in check because it has made me physicaly Ill over the past few months, but it's soooooooooo hard. I just this got a call from Amanda  and Landen & Ella are in the background,  they would normally be in school by noww. Well they can't go to school -  they are behind a months payment. And get this they only pay $128.00/mo right now for both while the kids remain in DCF care they get assistance. I knew 2/wks ago they were 2/wks behind when I picked Landen up one day he was sick  the owner told me - I am so pissed , shaking, mad and sad right now. Those poor babies are always the ones who gewt the crap end of everything.