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honeygirl

Hi AE , Yes , I wish we would hear from Karyll all ready. I am getting worried. Karyll , if you can , please just log on and say , I'm here. We are all concerned. And Auntie Em has flying monkeys , and shes not afraid to use them!lol

my3girls

Hi sisters,

Yes, I am still at work...another or hour so to go.  Our flights from New York are delayed due to the winds that AE described!  Very windy last night..woke me up!

Ill try and catch up with you ladies this evening when I am home, if I am not too tired.  Feeling very sleepy and achy today.  I think it's the tamox. Even my hands hurt!

I do hope dear Karyll is ok.

xoxo

Lisa

Shirlann

I think Sue and Ulla are asleep.  Poor darlins, this part of this journey is SO HARD.  Not fair!  But one day, one day, this will all be over and the sun will shine, the flowers will be out and things will get better.  Ulla, honey, don't worry about the weight.  A whole bunch of us in the US look like baby elephants.  Not a good thing, but you can lose the weight later.

Anyway, I am writting to a lady in Los Angeles, she has had a tough time.  This is not for the faint of heart.

Sue, you just don't worry about melt-downs in the hospital/clinic.  Sometimes I think we are so stoic, they think this is nothing.  A little honesty might be a very good thing, they will be kinder to the next gal that comes in, so cry and shout away.  Doesn't hurt a thing, and it is good for you.

Love all you sisters, Shirlann 

my3girls

This shall be a post, and a test. I had emailed the breastcancer.org ladies, to ask for help to remove the symbols from my profile and posts.  They told me they took care of it!! Yeah...so we will see! Well, I am feeling somewhat vindicated, and guilty. I got a letter from the prosecuters office, saying that they did arrest my ex, for not paying child support. I am however confused, because I am not sure if he is serving time in jail now, because I see a 1,000.00 bond, or not.  He does have a court date for March 6.  I don't know if I should be there for this or not.  I will call the PA office and see.  Why do I feel some guilt??  I have been doing it on my own for so long, no financial help from him..so why?? Well sisters, I am very tired this evening...I may turn in early! xoxo Lisa

my3girls

they are still in my posts?   I need to check out my profile.  DARN!

my3girls

gone from the profile!  I will email them again...see if they can help me on this. Have a wonderful night, sleep....to all of you!! xoxoxoxo

Shirlann

Dearest Lisa, you feel kinda guilty because you are a woman, and that is just the way we were all raised.  To never cause a fuss, to never make waves, to pretty much take what we get.

So STOP feeling sorry for him.  He has an obligation to his child/ren and you are the only one that can get this help for your children.

Not for you, for them, you are their only advocate.  So don't feel guilty.

Gentle hugs, Shirlann

my3girls

Thanks Shirlann.  I am not sure that you could say, I am one never to cause a fuss..haha, but I do think because we are women, we have that guilt factor, that is much stronger in us, then men. I know, there is only one child that he has to pay for now.  And that is not much.  But he owes allot in back support.  I just will never understand anyone who could deny their responsibility to their child.  NEVER!  I am sure his parents are mad, maybe not at me, because they don't know that I called.  But it's the LAW, darn it! ok..no guilt..stop it now!!

Angie59701

Hi all,

    I just wanted to drop a line to say hello and  hope that you are doing well.

   It must be something in the air for arm pain. Mine has had the little needle pricks since yesterday. Then on top of it I started the steroid today so I have that wonderful blah feeling. All this in prep to sit in a chair for 5 hours tomorrow. Big freakin woo.

   If all goes well, I'll post after treatment. Sleep well.

                                         With love

my3girls

Oh Angie...all the best to you dear for your tx tomorrow.  I hope your s/e are few. Let us know how you are getting along. Funny...I had allot of the arm needle tingling going on today too! Have a good night! xoxo Lisa

Angie59701

Lisa,

    I know it took it courage to do what you did and I have nothing but respect for you. My SIL is going through this with my brother and they are not divorced yet. She had to file for child support. My mother is upset, not with her, but because he was not raised that way.I think we as a society make it to easy for parents to cop out of their responsibility. You did the absolute right thing, and I hope it pays off for you and your daughter. $1000 is not enough. His bond should have been what he owes you.

my3girls

Thanks Angie.  It has gone on way too long.  I am happy your Mother is not automatically taking her son's side.  My ex mil, has let him live with them for the last 5 1/2 yrs!  The man is  almost 50!  If that is not enabling, I don't know what is!

Those are her granddaughters!  Sorry...going off again.

Done, over with, hopefully I will get some money soon!

I pay for all medical insurance...everything!! I don't make that much either.

Angie59701

   Lisa, I definitely hold moms like you in the highest regard. You have a lot on your plate and still come out on top. You go girl I know that your daughters are going to be strong women with you as their model.

   As for your mil, boy do I understand. My mom is an enabler for both of my OLDER brothers. (Both are at home) So you know I have stories of their crazy lives. My mom is getting tough. About time. The good news is that while they are there she gives them hell about the state of their lives. I love it. Then they have the nerve to complain about her. So my dad and I tell the remedy. MOVE OUT!

portiasproudmom

Hi everyone!  Well, I survived my last chemo.  I would be excited if it wasn't for that stupid lung worry.  I'd be doing the happy dance if it wasn't for that.  Sigh.....  It's always something, isn't it? 

I still believe that the worst is behind me, so that's something.

Have a wonderful evening all my dear friends--Lisa, Melody, Ulla, Shirlann, Valerie, Jane, Lucy, Valsul, Angie, Karyll, and anyone I may have forgotten--getting a little groggy, sorry.

Love and hugs to you all,

Karen

honeygirl

"A whole bunch of us in the US look like baby elephants" Oh Shirlann , I'm crying here!lolololololololol YOU crack me up so bad! Yes Ulla , its true. But we can help each other through it. We in the states need to decrease the surplus population of baby elephants! I love you Shirlann!xxxx

Hey Lisa , please don't feel so bad about the ex. He wouldn't have gotten arrested if he didn't do anything wrong. Its a crime not to support your children. Male or female , I have female friends who are paying child support. Unless you give up all parental control , it is the law to support your children until they are adults. So if you turned him in , or I turned him in or they just caught up to him he would be arrested because he is guilty , not you!xxxx Get some rest sweetie , you have a big appt. coming up in a few days! You need to relax and be in a positive , calm state of mind. Hugs and Love , Melody

honeygirl

Hi Angie , good luck with your tx. I hope it doesn't knock you down to badly. Just try to focus on the end results , no more bootface!xxxx

my3girls

It's no wonder I find myself logging on to this forum as soon as I get home....look at all the wonderful support we give one another!! Thank you, everyone, you have made me feel better.  Especially my dear Mel...she always has such a way with words.  Love ya..Mel!! Angie...I know I am setting a good example for my daughters.  Two are adults, and I could not be more proud of who they are, and how strong they are.  Even my youngest at 16, has one of the best heads on her shoulders, than some adults I know. They definately have it ALL OVER their  dad. I have to agree with Melody Shirlann...baby elephants...very funny...and very true! lol.  Karen, I am glad your tx went well.  I am still praying for a good outcome on your scan for the lung!  Love you sweetie! xoxo Lisa

honeygirl

Aww , Karen , you still deserve the happy dance. You have been through alot , and right here and now I'm doin the happy dance just for you!!xxxx

hawkwomen

This is not the same as your boys but when I went through my cancer ,i had 6 granddaughters from the age of 4 to 17 and through the whole ordeal I showed them my surgery places and talked to all them, my thinking was I didn't want if something happen to grandma and I didn't make it I didn't want them to always wonder what happen to grandma. Allot of people don't include there kids if there young but kids are very smart theses days they need to know so when your sick they don't worry so much or if you have a bad day you can tell them why, just my 2 cents. Hang in there, prayers to ya. Barbie

geebung

Just stopped by to say a quick hi. I have been thinking of you as I race around. I have been wondering about Karyll - wondering if you have heard anything and how you are. Karen - hope you are ok after your last chemo. Ulla and Sue - hope you are doing a bit better. And everyone else, it's late at night and my brain is tired but I pray for each one of you every day.

Hugs 

Jane 

my3girls

Thanks for your prayers Jane.  I love all of you, and think and prayer for all of you everyday too.  I feel so blessed to have you in my life. Mel, for some darn reason...your photo for Karen, is that silly photobucket thing again? Wonder what is up with that?? I am off to see my ps this morning for my markings, then off to buy a "new baby" gift for my new nephew! Then all kinds of errands, to get me ready for my big day Monday!! Have a great day sisters.  I will check back with you later today. Karyll...I do wish you would check in with us. xoxo xoxo Lisa

livesstrong

Karen - CONGRATS!!!!  Another happy dance for you................

Have a great day everyone,

bbl,

AE

lvtwoqlt

Lisa, I get that crazy photo bucket for some of the photos also, so it is not just you. Why are they marking you today? My PS marked me at the hospital prior to going in to surgery. Don't feel bad about calling the law on your EX, he is a responsible adult and should own up to his responsibilities.

Karen great news to finish up your chemo.

So much goes on that I can't remember it all - and I didn't even have chemo! I guess it is just old age (47) ha ha.

I have good news, the appeal process for the insurance to pay the full PS bill has gone as far as possible and an external review PS has sided with my PS and agreed that the use of AlloDerm is now the standard of practice for breast reconstruction and the insurance has to pay his full amount! I have written letters since July with my PS to get to the 2nd level of appeal, all other levels were denied. So I am doing the happy dance today!

Sheila

mommy_mia

Hello lovely ladies,

Phew...it takes a long time to catch up on the posts when you don't log in for a few days.  I'm with you all on the emotional roller coaster.  Trying to stay positive, especially around my family, but it's pretty tough some days.

Karen & Ulla - I'm so happy for you that chemo is done!!!  I'll join you guys after my last treatment on Feb. 19th.  It was supposed to be the 18th, but we have a new holiday here in Ontario Canada (Family Day) and the onc clinic is closed.  Oh well, just a 1 day delay.  But I've had Feb. 18th circled on the calendar for so long!

Had my 5th round on Monday this week and still feeling ok...steriods seem to help (and I didn't have them with my first 3 treatments of FEC...only with the Taxotere).  Although I gained 5 lbs in the 3 weeks since my last treatment.  Nothing tastes good, so I don't think I'm eating that much.  Guess it's the steriods.  Hoping it won't mean 5 lbs with each...that will be 15 lbs.

Karen - good luck on your CAT scan tomorrow.  I had one yesterday to follow up on a lump on my lung that they found before I started chemo.  Test itself is nothing compared to all of the other stuff you've been through...now lets hope that the results are just as "uneventful"!!!

I'm also scheduled to have preparation for Rads on March 4th, and I think I will start the actual radiation treatment on March 18th (every day for 6 weeks)...seems like a lot, but should be a breeze compared to chemo, right?  I'll be starting Herceptin for a year around the same time, too.

Love you guys...hope everyone is having a few good moments in there somewhere.

Mia

portiasproudmom

That's GREAT, Sheila!  Good for you!  Why do they have to make things so difficult?  My bladder surgery was denied by the insurance twice before they approved it--my urologist had to play the cancer card.  He really shouldn't have had to do that.  It's crazy.

Thanks for the happy dances Mel and AE.  Sorry that yours came through as that stupid PhotoBucket thing, Mel.  It's the thought that counts!  Valerie, the two kitties cracked me up!!  Thanks so much.

Karyll, please check in with us to let us know how things are going with you.  Whether it's good or bad news, we're here for you!  You too, Valsul.  We just want to hear from you and be of support and encouragement.  We love you!

Lisa, how are you holding up, sweetie?  Don't let those nerves get the best of you.  It's going to be fine!  And you'll look even more gorgeous than you already do!  You are such a smokin' hot mama!  And a total sweetheart too.  That ex of yours is a total moron!!

Good luck today, Angie.  I'm sending positive, healing thoughts your way!

Barbie, I totally agree that you have to be open and upfront with the little ones.  I've been very honest with my son-who's 5-from the beginning of this whole ordeal.  Of course, now he tells anyone and everyone that mom has cancer and is bald under her wig/hat.  It's a little embarrassing sometimes.  I let my daughter (age 14) feel my lump before I had it removed.  I wanted her to know what to look and feel for. 

Take care everyone!  Are you resting well on your day off, Sue??

Love and hugs,

Karen

portiasproudmom

Hi Mia!  I'm so glad you're still feeling all right after round 5.  You had a lump on your lung?  What did they think it was?  Stuff like that is so scary, isn't it? 

Take good care.

Hugs,

Karen

mommy_mia

Hi Karen,

Ya, it was a 1 cm lump.  And the bone scan had some abnormal cells on my ribs.

But they never said it was cancer.  It was right after my lumpectomy and port surgerys and they said it was possible to have something show up on a lung as a result of that.  They didn't want to biopsey it because treatment would have been exactly what they were prescribing (chemo) anyway even if it was cancer.

I think I will feel better if it's gone now on this CT-scan, but then I will always wonder if it was mets?

Weird, but just one of those dumb ways your mind works on this stuff.

I'm praying for good results for you tomorrow.  Are you having other symptoms with your lungs?

Mia

portiasproudmom

No, I don't really have any other symptoms of lung disease.  I don't have shortness of breath or anything.  They always check my oxygen level at the onc's office and it's always around 99%.  I do cough a lot, but it's because of my allergies.  I have a lot of drainage from my sinuses and it always feels like there's something hanging in the back of my throat.  My dad, brother, and niece suffer from the same thing.  Otherwise, no.  I'd be shocked if the CAT scan shows something.  Did you have any symptoms as a result of the lump on your lung? 

Hugs,

Karen

snowyday

I need help how does this work I'm trying to add pictures but they won't upload from my desk top.pearl49

geebung

((((Karen)))), nothing is going to stop you from worrying about this lung thing until you get the all clear. My SIL has coughed for years and my SO has been asked if he is a smoker by a doctor because he has allergies and coughs a bit. I think a lot of people have congestion in the lungs to varying degrees. Because of the bc, your doc is being extra cautious which is a good thing I guess - I just hate that you have to worry about this when you should be feeling relieved that your chemo has finished.

Lisa, I am thinking of you in the leadup to your surgery on Monday. It's hard waiting but it will soon be over and we will all be cheering for you! How long will you be in hospital? Please don't feel bad about your ex. This might pull him up and make him see how neglectful and wrong he has been. You did it for your precious daughters. Heck - as if you haven't been through enough! he's the one who should be feeling guilty!

Mia - so glad to hear that you have your last chemo next month. It's frustrating that you have to wait a day longer but it will be so great to have it behind you at last.

Sheila - that is such great news about your insurance! It's a pity you had to fight to get this through - it should be accepted that this is all part of your treatment for bc!

Angie - thinking of you. Hope your latest treatment hasn't left you feeling too dreadful. I'm so glad you joined this thread.

Barbie, I think you have done your grandkids a lot of good by educating them about bc. They are sure to be more proactive in their health checks.

Love the dancing kitties, AE! One of these days I am going to sit down and work out how to do this photobucket thing. Might have to wait until I get one of my boys back in town to show me how to do it.

Pearl, there is a member of this forum who goes under the name of Tim Tam. If you pm her, she will tell you how to upload photos. 

Sue, Ulla, Shirlann, Karyll (please let us know how you are), Cyndy, Mel, and everyone else - will catch up with you at the weekend. I just looked at the time and i have to get ready.

Love to all,

Jane. xxx 

L