please help

sueps

My o/h looks after me well at night...he is constantly getting me things I need.... drinks etc....after a while I screech "Do you have to keep getting up and down all night! ..Why cant you sit still for five mins!" LOL

Ulla

HA HA HA SUE

THAT WAS A NICE ONE ABOUT HIM MOVING FOR U ALL THE NIGHT ,,,,

HUBBYN USED TO WAKE ME UP EVERY MORNNING BECOZ HE DONT LIKE TO EAT HIS BREAKFAST ALONE,,HE WANT ME SITTING ON THE TABLE WITH HIM,,,AFTER SO LONG TIME AND ME COMPLAINNING OF THAT HE IS BOTHERING ME IN THIS WAY AND THAT I NEED TO STAY IN BED SLEEPING AS LONG AS I WANT,,,HE STARTED TO MAKE HIS BREAKFAST FOR HIMSELF ,,NOW WEN HE DO IT I WENT CRAZY ..I TOLD HIM,,WHY U DIDNT WAKE ME UP..U R A COMPLETE MESS,,U R MESSING THE WHO;E KITCHEN ,,

Ulla

NOW WEN HE WAKE ME UP//WHY THE HELL U R WAKING ME UPPPPP?????????

WEN HE DONT WAKE ME UP//WHY THE HELL U DIDNT WAKE ME UPPPPPPP????????

WEN HE STICK WITH ME ALL THE TIME..WHY U R IN HOME ALL THE TIMEE????????

WEN HE IS OUT WITH FRIENDS...WHY U LEAVE ME ALONE SO LONG,,,,

DEAR SISTERS ,,WE NEED TO MAKE A SECRET CONFESSION (JUST BETWEEN US HERE )

WE R DRIING THEM CRAZY WITH US TOO..DONT WE???

SOMETIMES I FEEL SO BAD AS I FEEL THAT I AM BAD WITH HIM,,,,

DO U FEEL THE SAME SOMETIMES????????

sueps

HAHAHA ...Ulla it is so funny that we are all the same and men cause all the mess!!  When we are better we will not get as stressed....maybe this is why a lot of marriages break down With bootface...the stress might be too much if one doesnt have an understanding partner...thank god our partners understand us !!!

It is difficult a partnership .. takes a lot of work and balance xxx

sueps

ULLA I FEEL LIKE THIS ALL THE TIME...

I WANT TO BE WITH HIM THEN WHEN I AM I WANT TO BE ALONE.

I LIVED ON MY OWN FOR 7 YEARS...AND WAS EXTREMELY HAPPY...I HAD LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS BUT NEVER LIVED WITH ANY OF THEM... I COULD JUST SHUT MY DOOR AT TH END OF THE NIGHT AND RE LAXXXXXXXXX

Maybe I am meant to be on my own xxx

Ulla

YES IT IS DIFFICUILT,,

THE NIGHT BE4 MY LAST CHEMO I SAW MY HUBBY CRYING FOR THE 2ND TIME SINCE MY BC

ALL THE TIME SINCE THE DX HE USED TO TREAT ME AS NORMAL HEALTHY PERSON,,

I BURST UP INTO TEARS THE DAY BE4 MY LAST CHEMO,,SCREAMING ,,I AM SICK FOR GOD SAKE,,PLZ MAKE SOMETHING TO HELP URSELF,,AS I WAS GOING DOWN TO BRING THE LAUNDRY,,,

IN THIS NIGHT HE CRIED ,,WEN HE WAS TRYING TO EXPLAIN HOW HE WAS THINKING,,HE TOLD ME THAT IT IS THE ONLY WAY FOR HIM TO DAEL WITH THE SHOCK OF MY ILLNESS,,THAT HE DENY IT ,,,HE SAID THAT IF HE ADMIT IT ,,HE WOULD E CRUSHED SINCE THE BEGINNING..I CRIED WEN HEARED HIS WORDS

GET LOST BOOTFACEEEEEEEEE

my3girls

good evening sisters! Oh my goodness...I just laughed out loud about 10 times reading these posts!! I agree with all of you about the men!! I sometimes feel sad, being alone, and not having anyone...but after reading your posts..it made me feel better! I love having my own time and space to do what I want! Bed to myself. Cause like you Sue...I love being in my bedroom...it's quiet..my own little haven! You are lucky your men are understanding. They need to be. I do think it's the steroids that make you feel crazy and that everything bothers you!! I sometimes felt like my skin was crawling!! I will miss all of you for the week or more that I am gone!!!

Think of all the posts I will have to catch up on!! lol

My markings are all coming off!! I think it's because I put lotion all over my body everyday. I probably should not have done that this morning. Oh well..he will have to redoe it!

Worry is for "shit"! Live, Laugh, Love!

Dx 3/6/2007, IDC, 3cm, Grade 2, 0/22 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

my3girls

awww...Ulla...he did not know how to deal with this. I know men can be pigs sometimes...but they have such a hard time expressing themself. I am sure he wants to be there for you, maybe you need to tell him EXACTLY what you need. I am off to bed here in about 15 min...up at 2:15am!

Worry is for "shit"! Live, Laugh, Love!

Dx 3/6/2007, IDC, 3cm, Grade 2, 0/22 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

sueps

awww Ulla ....poor hubby...

DO ONE BOOTFACE....AND DO NOT EVER COME AND HURT US AGAIN ... INCLUDING ULLAS' HUBBY!!! ... AND ALL OUR SISTERS ... XXX

I have to go bed in min..it is midnite again ...I have work tomorrow xxx

Ulla

SWEET SUE I CAN UNDERSTAND U,,

I LOVE BEING ALONE TOO

HE FEELS REALY SAD WEN I SAY SUCH THING,,BECOZ THE ONLY THING THAT HE REALLY LOVE TODO IS TO BE TOGEATHER..

WHILE I NEED TO BE ALONE SOMETIMES,,,

THE REAL PROBLEM IS THAT HE IS VERY,,VERY NOISY IN NATURE,,,

I CANT BELIEVE HE NOISE THAT HE CAN MAKE EVEN WEN WALKING IN HOME DRAGGING HIS SLIPPERS IN THAT CRAZY WAY,,,

GRRRRRRRR

livesstrong

I'm back...not too cold out tonight, thank God

Ok, I admit it, can't live with them, can't live without them!!!

AE 

portiasproudmom

Oh my goodness, ladies!  I'm so grateful that my dh is gone the majority of the time.  He leaves around 6am every morning and usually comes home around 8pm.  Two nights in a row he came home after 10pm and the rest of us were already in bed.  I feel guilty for preferring it this way.  He drives me bananas when he's here.  Talk about loud!!  He has to have the tv turned up full blast, he burps, he farts, he laughs too loud, he eats too loud.  Grrrrrrr!  I feel better knowing I'm not the only one who feels this way.  The problem is, it was like this before bc.  LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hugs,

Karen

Ulla

GOOD LUCK DEAR LISA,,

GOOD NIGHT DEAR SISTERS,,,

SWEET SUE,,DREAM DOUBLE FOR BOTH OF US HONEY

livesstrong

Well ladies, Aunty Em says - "Off to bed you go"..... sweet dreams !!!!

portiasproudmom

Sweet dreams, everyone. 

Love you all,

Karen

sueps

Gosh ...mine is noisy too...his voice booms ...it hurts my ears...lol...and then he cant just walk upstairs he has to stamp and bang...it girates on my nerves....even when he is cooking the boiling pan irritates me...lol....maybe I need help lol...

I think I should live alone...thing is my o/h knew I didnt want to live with anyone ....and understands.... it is all to complicated ...it really is but we are ok  xxx

I am going to bed now before he starts snoring !!!! lolololol

Yes maybe I will be on my own come the tenancy runs out in July....he knows this might happen xxx

 We dont want to make any rash decisions with the stress of bootface...as might be the wrong ones xxx

Ulla

OO POOR KAREN

U JUST SAID WAT I WAS THINKING ABOUT,,FARTING,,AND TV ,,,GOD ,,WHY THEY R SO SO NOISY LIKE THAT????

BUT U R A LUCKY GIRLL TO HAVE HIM AWAY ALL THIS TIME ...I WISH  HAD THE SAME WORKING TIMES OF UR HUBBIES FOR MINE TOO..IT WOULD BE HEAVEN FOR ME TO C HIM FEW HOURS ONLYY..

MINE WAKE UP AT 6 AM AND COM BAK HOM AT 1PM TILL THE NEXT DAYYYYYYY..IT IS A REAL HELLL

HE WORKS FROM HIS LAPTOP AND MOBILE MORE THAN FROM OUTSIDE/.....

sueps

Sweet dreams everyone xxxx

Nighty Night AE    LOL XXX

LOVE YA ALL XXX

portiasproudmom

Better go to bed before the snoring starts, Sue!

Can I tell you a secret?  I make my dh sleep on the couch (it's his choice--we do have a spare bed).  His snoring is HORRIBLE!  I can't take it.  I can even hear it with earplugs in.  He won't go for a sleep study and I know he has sleep apnea.  It's awful!

Nighty night!

Love and hugs,

Karen

sueps

Oh Ulla ...That would be unbearable for me ..... I am quite lucky really xxx

sueps

I feel so normal now ...knowing all this...I am a normal woman!!! yey !!!! rejoice!!!

Yikes best hurry up before the bed starts to shudder with the snore  xxxx

sweet dreams xxx

Ulla

YES DEAR SUE GO SLEEP BE4 HE STARTS SNOORING,,THEN U WOULDNT BE ABLE TO ENTER THE ROOM...

DO U ALL LADIES HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM WITH FEELING SO HOT THAT U NEED TO MOVE IN HOME WITH UR PANTIES,,AND THEN UR PARTNERS CANT THINK AOUT LETTING U ALONE,,,

THEY JUST CANT GET THEIR MINDS AWAY FROM IT,,,LOL

DO U UNDERSTAND ME??????

portiasproudmom

Maybe you can suggest that your hubby change jobs, Ulla.  LOL!!  My gosh--he's not gone nearly long enough.  I'd go crazy!  You poor, poor girl! 

Enjoy your night of peace, sweetie!

Love you,

Karen

sueps

ps... this conversation has cheered me up no end...thx Ulla... thx everyone...lol....ahhhh ... you all give support with  more than just bootface boil xxxx 

Ulla

GO HAVE GOOD SLEEP LADIES ..

I LOVE U ALLLL

Ulla

YES DEAR SUE AND KAREN..

THIS CONVERSATION MADE ME FEEL REALLY BETTER..

I FEEL LIKE HAVING A REALLY NICE CUPPA WITH MY SISTERS IN OUR COUNTRY CLUB,,,

NITY GIRLS

sueps

OH god Ulla lollolol yes we understand...lol....I am laughing my head off ..lol...you are TOO funny ....but Ulla take heart ...nxt time your hubby gets on your nerves...our hubbies will also be nerving us .... xxxx  see we are sisters...sisters share everything!!!!

Oh no I bet the snoring has started.....I am going

Much Love xxx

portiasproudmom

Oh my gosh, Ulla!  I would kill my dh if he messed with me while I was having one of my hot flashes!  All I have to do is take off my hat and I cool down pretty fast.  My dh tells me that I'm cute bald, but he doesn't try to mess with me when I'm hatless.  It may be cute, but definitely not sexy!  That's ok with me!!!

xoxoxo

Karen

portiasproudmom

Goodnight ladies (once and for all)!  Thanks for making me laugh!

Love you all,

Karen

my3girls

Karen, if my ex..the last one..haha...hadn't left...I probably would have kicked him out by now...his snoring was horrible!! don't miss that at all!! Good night ladies...2:15am comes quit quickly! We are supposed to get a winter storm tonight! yikes!

Worry is for "shit"! Live, Laugh, Love!

Dx 3/6/2007, IDC, 3cm, Grade 2, 0/22 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-