TIME TO CIRCLE THE WAGONS GIRLS

Boo46

Hi all,
Well I survived a night of teen boy overload! Actually 4 are still here. Gunna put them to work soon cleaning up.
Been reading back this morn but did not take notes. I think I'm glad I was not on here yesterday. I have a very short fuse these days and would probably have said something I should not have.
Buffalo girl - Yes you are welcome here. Your misinterpretation of people being "mean" I guess is understandable since you haven't been here long. There is a history on this thread with this issue that needs to be known to understand the feelings of many. Many of us felt hurt and decievied in the past. Enough said. ( See can't keep my big mouth shut!)
Amy - so sorry your daddy is so sick. Praying for him and your family.
Sheri - So happy you Just have anemia! How weird is it to say that!
Nicki - Ohhh a little black dress. That's great. I have a wedding next month and have nothing I feel good in.
Tgirl - So sorry about your job. Hugs to you.
Liz and Madison - Beautiful pictures.
Oh I'm missing so many!
Hugs to all,
Sue

DragonladyTina

Marsha,

I am RACING!!! I joined a dragonboating club and have been training all summer last year and this year, the picture in my avatar is where we won a bronze medal at the dragonboat competition/race in June.
I call myself an EXTREME DRAGONBOATER, lol

Tina

Boo46

Tina,
Tampa has a dragon boat team of bc survivors also. I have not been involved but it sounds very cool!
Hugs,
Sue

sherloc

Chicken is fried, macaroni salad is done, I'm showered and slathered in sucscreen. AND I have on my new bikini. The one I bought for my cruise last december and didn't get to wear cause my appy scars were to fresh. Now I have 4 more scars from my gallbladder and figure what the heck. If I wait till I don't have anymore scars and six pac abs I'm never gonna wear the darn thing. Anywhos just about time to leave.
Nicki, every girl needs a sexy black dress. I'm so happy you got yours.
Hey Liz I think that solves my dilemna about soemthing nice to bring to NYC. The little black dress it is.

Denise, I love thee too. When I get home I'll count the ways.

Hi from A to Z, love you all to bits. See you later.

sherloc

Tina, have a fabulous time. I would love to join a dragonboat team. Nearest one I could find was in San Francisco. A bit far for me to go for training.

zazette15

I am reading to catch up, gotta go fix lunch for DH and DS. I will be back in a bit, I've got a lot to share.

shokk

So "buffalo" gal how are you doing.......you really do believe that we are stupid don't you??????? I thought you were leaving bc.org for good.....why are you still hanging around......especially on this thread????? Are you happy that Gina is sick again???????? You really need to get some professional help for your anger issues........bitterness can eat you up alive........just a thought..........

Anonymous

lizws

Popping in for a quick hello. First coat of primer is on the walls and DH went to pick up pizza. I know it's not dietic but who the frick cares today? I'm tired!

Shir - after reading Nicki's earlier post - I was thinking the same thing. I'm going to go look for the perfect little black dress or something in that area. Oh, it can't wrinkle either. LOL We'll see what I come up with. I have one but can't get into it. Hey I have some super red sandals to wear with it. I think. LOL

shokk - good to see you. Is it hot and humid there? LOL

Tina - have a great time.

Nicki - honey I stay confused. Join me on the couch?

Hugs
Liz

jankay

hey gang
i will be ready to partiy after supper=steaksqand zuchinni but no cake. Where is robin, od anf deb

Odalys

Hi dear friends. I sure have missed you all! Anyone miss me? Hope everyone had a good wk. Wow, there are over 15 pages to catch up on. Let's see how far I can get today.

I'm a little concerned about my left breast. It has never bothered me and lately the scar area is very tender and painful, specially at night. Sometimes, I even get sharp needle pains in my nipple (just like before)....uggggghhhh. The NP said scar tissue around the breast tends to be painful. Has anyone else experienced this? It's going to be two years since my surgery. I sure don't want to worry too much but can't help those ugly thoughts every now and then. I am drinking much more coffee, could it be the caffeine? Oh well, I do have an appointment for my yearly mammo and surgical follow up next month. I will mention it to the surgeon.

On another note, All is going well and new job is keeping me very busy. I have been moving up the management latter very quickly. Now the company is making a two year commitment by having me participate in a leadership fellowship sponsored by non other than Harvard. All senior VP's are also participating in this project. So there I am rubbing elbows with all of them 3 moths after starting this job. I am honored.

Ok, enough about me. I am going back to catch up on what's been going on with the group. BBL

beth1225

Now Nicki, I am basically following your instructions in the pm's. But I have to leave a reminder here about the gift basket to Mena. Since she has no working computer again, she will hopefully not see this but she knows we are doing something for her.

I have pics from SoCalLisa and Tricia, and goodies from Denise and Tricia. I need the actual pics because my printer is not working. Just make them of you or better yet you and your family. As many as you want and please let me know any details if need be, like if it was taken somewhere special. I found a butler's tray in cherry wood that has a piece if plexiglass that screws down. I will put together a collage of the pics identifying each one so Mena can always see her friends. I figure the end of the summer before she moves i will be up to a long road trip to take it up there and Joyce said she will go with along with Ishop/Sue.

Thank you for helping put this together for Mena. If you need my snail mail addy again, pm me.

MargaretB

Just dropping in to see what's happening in the Circle while I take a break:

Tina, great to see you. We don't see you too often around here and I'm glad you dropped in. Have fun this weekend. And I heard it was your birthday. Have a great one.

Nicki, I hope we get to see a pic of you in that little black dress. If we have to wait until the wedding, that's fine. And you know that if you feel like you look good, you do look good, so that makes you feel even more confident. Way to go girl. My stepdaughter is getting married at the beginning of September and it's a big formal wedding. I'm not buying anything though until I see how I do in boot camp. I'm hoping to have lost a size or two.

Odalys, I can't answer your question on the breast pain but let us know the date of your appt and we'll get the magic carpet so we can all be with you.

Ok, time to go do some more chores....does it ever end?

BBL

Margaret

zazette15

Good Saturday afternoon to all my sister and brother, Peter.

I've just finished reading about 8 pages of posts and I see tons of stuff going on.

First to Amy - Peace will find you! Hugs to you and your family and a big ole' kiss on the forehead to your Daddy.

Beth - From what I read, no one asked you to leave, if you did you'd leave a huge whole in the circle. I remember when I first started posting here and read all the bc angst that the other sisters were going through, I felt out of place and I have cancer too, I just felt like my experience compared in no way, but the reception I received and the validation and caring keeps me coming back and not really anymore for bc stuff, just for life stuff in general and I would be lost without the Circle.

Gina - I am so glad to see you here. You are my hero. I read your article in Mamm and it was great. You of all people should know what this Circle is about, you started it. Good, bad, ugly, happy, sad, pain, joy, happiness all of this is to be shared here in the Circle. It does seem that there are more jovial issues developing, you should be proud that you have helped hundreds of women with bc to find the lighter side of life after bc, during bc, through treatment all that stuff that goes along with it - you know that you can share anything here, ANYTHING! I hate what you are going through, what I hate more is that you may feel you are going through it without your CG sisters, you never have to.

Jan - I agree with you on several different levels regarding the Beth issue. I have a girl in my group that had prophylactic double mast with no cancer and she comes every week and says at least she got a new rack out of the deal and never has to worry about getting cancer, she didn't even the gene, just bad mamms and cysts - I am ready to kick her a** because sometimes it seems she's only there to talk about her own life and nothing about the issues of bc or it's effects and the girls sitting around with ports and drains and popping Advil for persistent pain just look at her and whisper, stop coming here, you are wasting our time - all that to say yes, I agree, there is a significant difference between having cancer and not and that should be acknowledged.

Tina - Hi!!

Yvonne – I felt offended by your sardonic remarks. Knowledge is power. I think you should invest some time in becoming more knowledgeable about our group here before you speak to certain topics that occur here. If you are looking to join our Circle and help us as we help each other then, WELCOME! I look forward to getting to know you. If not, good luck and peace to you.

To everyone – I think the rule is that you take from the group what you need to and give what you can and we never judge. We all have our own personal and very different experiences and they should never be diminished or trivialized, by anyone – not even ourselves, if you feel you need to reach out and share your hard time just after someone else posted a really joke or picture – DO IT! I think we have all mastered laughing and crying at the same time – I know I have. There are all kinds of therapy that we have found that works while we deal with this new normal: retail therapy, laugh therapy, drink therapy and BMG (bitching, moaning and groaning) therapy. We have all done one or the other or all, that’s what we depend on one another for.

I personally reflect often on why I came here and why I stay – you all make it easier, period. You all make me happy, laugh, cry and you make me come out of my own head where it gets dark and gloomy and sad a lot and you make me give out the best of what I have to offer or you listen to all the crap I have going on and you guide and advise and make me feel cared for.

Ok, that’s enough of that, you all know this stuff all ready.

This week I have been dealing with a toxic person at work to the point that I had to take off Friday because I was afraid I would confront her and get fired, because it would not have been pretty – this bit** has been after me since day one, four and one half years ago, and I have to say, I gotta give it to her, she has not given up yet and I keep besting her in every arena and I am not even competing! So wish me strength that I don’t get ghetto on her a** and tell her what for.

I luv you all, especially Jankay today because it’s her birthday! I will try to post more often, because I miss so much of what is going on and I hate getting behind.

I know there are tons of other issues going on with all my sisters and I hear Peter has a chest infection – My heart and peaceful thoughts are with you all.

silvergirl9114

Odalys---I'm just a smidge over two years out and the ache from the scar tissue has finally pretty much gone away. Couldn't wear bras until a few months ago because the side seam sat right on top of it and boy, that smarted, especially by the end of the day.

As for the shooting pain---that probably is nerves regenerating. My BS told me that as did my Mom's surgeon many years ago. I remember my Mom suddenly gasping and grabbing her boob in church one Sunday after a lumpectomy. As a teenager, I thought that was pretty embarrassing---in front of GOD and everybody! :-) My lifted and prettied up nipple still gives me a clop in the chops every now and then.

OK---now I want a little black dress too. Never wear dresses but I like the idea! Think Audrey Hepburn in Moon River.

Jeannie

Anonymous

HI! Have the house to myself! Love the peace and quiet.

Odalys: Of course we missed you my friend. I was actually thinking of you this morning. Figured you had a pretty busy week and was hoping you would pop in this week-end. I sometimes get similiar pains to what you are experiencing. Mine are shooting pains that sometimes take my breath away. Ive thought all along it was related to the implants or scarring. Guess maybe I sure mention it next time I see my doc. Your job sounds so exciting. When I was in management my DH used to always say to my "you like to be a big shot." And I do, I do. If I were you I would be feeling pretty darn good just about now.

MargaretB: This dress is a keeper that for sure. I telling you a stronger power put me at that store at that time. Gonna buy some pretty high heel dancing shoes!! Cant wait.

Z: So good to see you back. I hate being around toxic people. Whenever I get upset I try to think of this little quote. "It doesnt matter who is right or wrong, its who looks best in the end." So stay cool and look good. Another quote. "Keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer." So hopefully you will be able to work with this yucky person and still shine like the star you are.


Liz: Now listen here. You just move over. I walking over there a shoving my big butt next to you on the confused couch. As the day goes on the more confused I get. As the witch in The Wizard of Oz says as they throw water on her. What a world what a world.

Jeannie: As always so good to see you. My black dress is sorta like this. Except the straps are wide enough to hide my scar from my port!

Yuck Yuck Yuck! I love being home alone.

Nicki

silvergirl9114

Ooooh yeah---gotta have that big black hat she wore too. Although at my height and weight it would probably make me look like a big black mushroom!

Z---come back soon! I love it when you share---you and Deb write the most eloquent posts.

Jeannie

Odalys

Wow, only read a couple of pages and noticed there was conflict going on here this week. Sad, sad, sad whenever we give our power away to others we are weakened to fight the beast and we need all our strength to fight the enemy... bc. Just my too cents worth. May God shine His healing light on all of us and give us strength and peace.

Nickie - yeap...I am back and feeling good. What is this I read about a black sexy dress and dancing shoes????? Wow! Glad to see you are coming out of your shell. Whatch out world, here she comes!!!!!!

Margaret – Are you exercising every day? Man, oh man, your muscles must be so sore. But, it’s a good sore cause you know the exercise is working. I started taking my daily 2 mile walks again. As for the chores, no it never ends.

Jeannie – you just made my day! Love you, love you. I never thought about the regenerating nerves. It does make sense.

Joyce- Kevin is a true blessing. He humbles me too. Talk about keeping a clear perspective on life. Please give him a gentle hug for me. Thanks for sharing your miracle child with us.

Amy – how is your dad doing?

Jankay – pool therapy sounds great. Do you have an in or outdoor pool? Happy birthday. I hear you are turning 25 today?

What is this I keep hearing about...Pinkstock? Can someone fill me in?

Okay, back to reading more pages. bbl

joy1122

Hi Girls,
First of all I have to say I hate conflict. One thing about having Cancer,I believe it changed me. I try not to focus on negative vibes or people. Life is too precious to me. So are all of you.Beth,I do hope you stay. I enjoy reading your post. No, you do not have the same fears that I have to deal with but we all have our own demons to deal with. I know I have said this before but my Kevin is so special. With all the pain and surgeries he has had to deal with in his short life he is always so positive. He never compares his pain with what others are going through. He is the one that says we all have to deal with what life hands us. If someone can learn from my pain then my life means something. This coming from a 15 year old humbles me.
Just wanted to share my special child with you all.

Amy, my prayers are with you this weekend.
Love to all,
Joyce

Anonymous

I dont want to be inappropriate here, but I posted this on another thread. Its sort of a reminder as to why Im here. We have lost so many to bc. So may all bad feelings end. Just take time to love each other.

A tribute to Linda McCartney - despite having all the money in the world, she lost her battle to breast cancer. We need to forget, heal and move forward.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvoLo3OekLM

Lets have only peace and good will in the wagon circle.

Nicki

PS: It musta been magic - the day that we met.

jasmine

Did I miss something?

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Now Nicki, I am basically following your instructions in the pm's. But I have to leave a reminder here about the gift basket to Mena. Since she has no working computer again, she will hopefully not see this but she knows we are doing something for her.

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Anonymous

Jasmine: Im guilty! Dont know about giving instructions - a surprise to me - just tried to give some logical advice.

Nicki

silvergirl9114

Nicki---Logical doesn't seem to be working very well this week----:-{

Anonymous

I stand by Jan! Which reminds me of the song "Stand By Your man."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DwBirf4BWew

Nicki

MargaretB

Z, love the BGM (bitching, moaning, groaning) - that was pretty funny.

Nicki, do you think it's the style of the dress? If it is, go find more of them. And definitely get the dancing shoes to go with the little black one.

Jeannie, mushroom - ha - I'm a shortie and very seldom wear hats.

Odalys, no, not exercising every day - I signed up for an exercise boot camp three days a week - what was I thinking? There are three of us who go at 5:30 in the morning!

Margaret

jankay

Me too jas
what is happening

Anonymous

MargaretB: Well I thought I posted this, but I cant find my post. This is just what the dress looks like, but the sleeves are wide enough to hide the scar from my port.



Nicki

Gus

Nicki--You are very good at finding youtube videos to fit any occassion. I love the Linda McCartney video. I'm a huge Beatles fan, and I've always had a soft spot for Paul! Now, can you go find me a video that says "all the drama here is giving me a headache and I need a shot of tequilla"!

Big hugs,
Sue

jasmine

I think its an empire waisted dress. That is what they tell those like me who have the santa belly to look for. I love the lines if that is what the dress looks like. Especially, the fluted hemline. So...what do you think....do I watch to much TLC???

Anonymous

Gus?Sue: Just save the worm for last! Hee hee hee.

Now with a husband who is an entertainer. Im love youtube!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cb5udOOguJc

Nicki