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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited November 2011

    Man, I'm a whiney butt--sorry!

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  • OG56
    OG56 Member Posts: 897
    edited November 2011

    Joni, my DD and I always had a good relationship but of course the teenage years she was a normal pain, but her senior year she was so difficult, lazy and disrespectful, I felt like I couldn't stand her and then that always spiraled into guilt for me, and being a single parent just added to the stress. So, one day I sat her down and tearfully told her how she was treating me like an abusive man and if she was my husband I would divorce her! Well she started crying and said she was so sorry etc. We then began to repair our relationship and now at 35 she is truly a wonderful woman and such a good DD. So, hang in there honey and pray for patience because it will get better when she moves out LOL

    Love and hugs to everyone else, Meece I hope you feel better soon!

    Linda

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited November 2011

    Aw Joni!! I'm having trouble with MY DD right now and she's 28!!! She really tore a strip off me on the phone a couple weeks ago. I started crying and she kept going!!!! She dragged up crap from 20+ years ago and kept digging and digging. She finally said something so bad that I said "Bitch!" and she hung up. Now SHE'S mad at ME!!! My counsellor said if that continues I have to tell her that it is abuse. Good for you for seeing that right away!! My daughter's biggest grief? That she was afraid all her life that I was going to die!!!! How do I get over that one?? I've had health issues all my life, but certainly not all deadly ones! I apologized for sharing the scary parts with her. That wasn't good enough...

    I think your DD is doing the separation thing. She needs to WANT to get away from you to go on to college (is she at the time to go?), so she has to find reasons to 'hate' you. She needs to feel better AWAY from you than WITH you. Does that makes sense? Funny how your issues to me are crystal clear, but mine are all muddy!!!!!

    Hugs to all heart-broken Moms....!!!

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  • Laural136669
    Laural136669 Member Posts: 287
    edited November 2011

    Barbe1958,   I just wanted to share my middle child's take on growing up with cancer. She is a senior in high school and just completed her first marathon with Team in Training raising money for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. She has always dealt with my cancer with action...raising money for research, selling cookbooks, etc.You can view her blog on cancer at this link:   http://linleysince1994.blogspot.com/2011/09/life-with-cancer.html   My youngest child is more quiet about the cancer, wanting only the plan of action but none of the gory details. My oldest, a boy, doesn't want to know anything about it. He is off at college and in his own world most of the time. Each child handles it in their own way, and their anger at cancer is not unwarranted. I get angry too sometimes at the way cancer has invaded my life. It just becomes hard when the anger is vented on the person and not the cancer.  I will be praying that you and your daughter can work through the anger and that healing will come to your relationship. 

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  • Hindsfeet
    Hindsfeet Member Posts: 2,456
    edited November 2011

    Eph 3, TEENAGERS! AND KIDS IN THEIR TWENTIES! Barb words are wise...they are angry and perhaps it's their way of showing their frustration. Life is out of control, and they are mad.

    There are no easy answer and everyone's situation is unique...so giving pat answers isn't always good...but, we all at time share your frustration. And, when dealing with cancer, you don't need added stress of walking on eggs.

    In spite of what I just shared... don't let anyone abuse you! If you do they will walk on you all the more. Sometimes when it happens it's good to confront it head on and other times it is good just to keep your mouth shut. When I am not sure what to say, I go for a walk or out somewhere to pray. Most of the times this yields the best results.

    Another thought...young adults who lean more to the left side of the brain tend to be perfectionest. It takes time for them to accept their and others imperfections. Life has a way of balancing them out...but meantime, while they learn the world is full of imperfect people, life with them can be tough at times.

    Praying for you today...you are so encouraging to all of us. Much love to you dear lady.

    ((((((hugs)))))

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited November 2011

    Thanks Ladies, breathing a bit easier today, but not much!  Tomorrow's a new day! 

    The good thing about today was worship @ church was awesome!   

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  • zumbagirl
    zumbagirl Member Posts: 308
    edited November 2011
    I haven't been on here much. I have been working extra hours at the bank, and I got a bad chest cold, two weeks ago, and adding daily rads into the mix, has been stressful, and after two weeks of them, is getting a little uncomfortable, but God is so much bigger, than all of this, and he has brought me through so much already this year. I need to remember to thank Him more for all He has done for me Smile
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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited November 2011

    Thank you all for your well wishes.  I am still coughing and although I thought I was doing better by sleeping through the night twice in a row last week, I am back to waking up with the coughing again.  I have decided to call my chiropractor this morning because the neck pain is getting unbearable.  I have to wonder if I caused it by coughing.

    (((Joni))) I think those tears are coming from implied guilt.  Your DD is imparting it on you perhaps due to the pressure of having to grow up this year.  No longer will she be able to rely on you for every thing in her life once she has headed to college.  So she is going over the deep end these last months.  Don't feel guilty!

    I thought that I was a callous or unloving mother when I didn't suffer from Empty nest syndrome.  DH and I enjoyed having the time and space to ourselves.  Then in July, that changed.  I am so fotunate that I have Matt here, one year ago I recieved that fateful call from Japan alerting me of his first stroke.  BUT...it has now been three and a half months of slow-w-w-w-w VA paperwork and medical tests and my guestroom looks like a warzone.  My adorable little boy has informed me that I need to make room for his "stuff" in my garage as it arrives from Japan this week.  I am ready for him to be back on his own two feet.  My friend has a condo she will rent him for $550.  He needs to work a part time job of two days a week to afford it.  He is applying for work so I pray that he will get something within the next two weeks so he can take advantage of the condo.

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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited November 2011

    I haven't heard of the Lyzine but used Zycam and EmergenC.  I really think they helped the cold part not to be as bad.

    I am worn out if I try do do anything more than go to work in a day.  Although we did get out on Saturday to a chili cook-off and I had fun.  As tired as I was, I was still up at 2 am coughing and keeping myself awake.

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  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited November 2011

    at nightime here; they have a program on tv; called "reflections" on Daystar... its a series of natrue pictures, with hyms as background, and they play " in the garden " a lot.. i always pray extra for you guys then, you're forfront in my mind.. Im so grateful for you, Meece, for starting this thread...

       the program comes on quite late at night, when im at my most weary.. really soothes my soul.. comes with scripture verse, as well....................3jays

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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited November 2011

    Oh, 3Jays, you are such an inspiration.  I am so glad to se you here and to read your contributions.  I would love to see "Reflections".  It sounds beautiful.

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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited November 2011

    Proverbs 3:6

    In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths. 

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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
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    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
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    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
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  • Padiddle
    Padiddle Member Posts: 853
    edited November 2011
    Beautiful Meece!  3jays:  Smile
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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited November 2011

    Beautiful paths.  wish mine were more like those instead of the one I'm on with ginormous boulders & rocks strewn everywhere!

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  • Laural136669
    Laural136669 Member Posts: 287
    edited November 2011

    Starting TC chemo tomorrow for 4 cycles after a short delay to get cellulitis under control. Today has been a day of doctor visits and trying to get all the docs on the same page (hematologist for leukemia is in NY; oncologist for breast cancer here in Ohio). Thanking God for the first snowflakes of the season today, a nice dinner with my 2 teen daughters, and the overwhelming support of my coworkers who have been sending cards and notes for weeks now. Praying for you, Eph3, that soon your paths will be smoother, and if not, that God will continue showing you how to jump from rock to rock as you go.

    Banquet of Praise

    I spread for You a banquet of praise, Lord.
    Here in the fresh greenness of the mountain top,
    I lift my songs to You,
    An offering from the overflow of my heart.
    I revel in the awesome works of Your hands,
    Surrounded by Your glory and peace.

    Tomorrow, I will spread the banquet again,
    Only this time, it will be laid out in the dark valley.
    I will rely on the songs the Spirit will stir,
    A sacrifice of praise from the depths of my pains.
    In the desolate darkness,
    I will cling to Your hand,
    And You will surround me with Your love.

    Yet the praises will continue,
    One day overflowing and another a true sacrifice,
    One day a simple response to my situation
    And another an excruciating exercise of faith.
    You will be Lord in the mountains
    And Lord in the valleys,
    And the banquet of praise will go on and on...

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  • jazz3000
    jazz3000 Member Posts: 188
    edited November 2011

    Thank you so much for your prayers and requests that the angels attend all of us. I'm here to share that they are being answered. After finding this thread last night I found myself in a dream that was filled with light and a forest of trees, where I saw the top of that forest, that supported  a patio filled with the sisters going through this who werre all dressed in yellow? Though I've not met these women face to face I knew they held a happiness and a security within that left me with a strength as I awoke. I felt a hand brush the hair from my forehead and found myself in my bed a little startled at the experience. I thought where's this coming from and it hit me I had visited this thread and read the prayers and spiritual thoughts shared by all of you. I often times forget to thank the Lord and his awesome doings, and to thank those who work at His side. God Bless you for all your time and prayers on all our behalves.  An awesome work this thread. My prayers are with you and all who visit this thread. So much appreciated and felt. God Bless all going through these times and bring you comfort.

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  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited November 2011

    hey gals... yes, Meece; thats' just like it is.. you can buy the dvds also.. its so soothing to watch.. thanks for creating them here.......3jays

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited November 2011

    The secone path Meece posted is EXACTLY like the trails I have across the street from me. I love walking them, and wonder why I don't do it more often? They follow around the golf course, so do come to an abrupt end, but are very pretty, just like the pic.

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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited November 2011

    Eph, you can do it.

    Turn your eyes upon Jesus

    O soul, are you weary and troubled?
    No light in the darkness you see?
    There's light for a look at the Savior,
    And life more abundant and free.


    Turn your eyes upon Jesus,
    Look full in His wonderful face,
    And the things of earth will grow strangely dim,
    In the light of His glory and grace.


    Through death into life everlasting
    He passed, and we follow Him there;
    O'er us sin no more hath dominion
    For more than conqu'rors we are!


    His Word shall not fail you, He promised;
    Believe Him and all will be well;
    Then go to a world that is dying,
    His perfect salvation to tell!

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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
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  • jazz3000
    jazz3000 Member Posts: 188
    edited November 2011

    Love the stepping stones Meece

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  • kcl65
    kcl65 Member Posts: 1,156
    edited November 2011

    The stepping stone are beautiful Meece, how is your cough?

    Barbe ~ How are you coming along? 

    Laurel ~ I will be praying for you! How did it go today?

    Jazz ~  May God continue to strengthen and encourage you :)

    Hugs to all!

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited November 2011

    Blessed Sunday to my Gardeners!

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  • mumito
    mumito Member Posts: 4,562
    edited November 2011

    I think I captured some of gods best work.

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited November 2011

    Gorgeous!

    Attended 2 different churches over the last 2 weeks.  At both, we sang this song---love it!

    Our God is Greater-Chris Tomlin

    Water You turned into wine
    Open the eyes of the blind
    There's no one like You
    None like You
    Into the darkness You shine
    Out of the ashes we rise
    There's no one like You
    None like You

    CHORUS
    Our God is greater, our God is stronger
    God You are higher than any other
    Our God is Healer, awesome in power
    Our God, Our God...

    Into the darkness you shining
    Out of the ashes we Rise
    There's no One like You
    None like You.

    Our God is greater, our God is stronger
    God You are higher than any other
    Our God is Healer, awesome in power
    Our God, Our God...
    Our God is greater, our God is stronger
    God You are higher than any other
    Our God is Healer, awesome in power
    Our God, Our God...

    BRIDGE
    And if Our God is for us, then who could ever stop us
    And if our God is with us, then what can stand against?
    And if Our God is for us, then who could ever stop us
    And if our God is with us, then what can stand against?
    What can stand against?

    Our God is greater, our God is stronger
    God You are higher than any other
    Our God is Healer, awesome in power
    Our God, Our God...
    Our God is greater, our God is stronger
    God You are higher than any other
    Our God is Healer, awesome in power
    Our God, Our God...

    And if Our God is for us, then who could ever stop us
    And if our God is with us, then what can stand against?
    And if Our God is for us, then who can ever stop us
    And if our God is with us, then what can stand against?
    Then what can stand against?
    Then what can stand against?

    Our God is greater, our God is stronger
    God You are higher than any other
    Our God is Healer, awesome in power
    Our God, Our God...
    Our God is greater, our God is stronger
    God You are higher than any other
    Our God is Healer, awesome in power
    Our God, Our God...

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