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bdavis, exact same thing for me!  I think I "notice" that every time I look at her hair link, then promptly forget it until the next time again!  Speaking of jewelry...when I looked at your hair pics, I noticed your earrings, and SWORE I had the same ones in a different color!  I was so sure, I even went and checked my jewelry box; I must have been on drugs, because they weren't even that close! 

Sorry to hear about your fingernail as well.  All of mine are horrible looking, but none are lifting, so I guess they'll just grow out and hopefully look normal again one day.

Hair is still about the same.  It just seems to have stopped growing at a quarter of an inch for a couple of weeks now.  I guess it is the Herceptin.

Good luck with the nipples Lago.  I can't wait to have a nipple again.  I can't stand the way it looks right now with a big Frankensteinish scar where my nipple used to be.  Please let us know how it goes.

Iam with you Lago   Love the "art deco" stuff.  My Dh has bought me so many diamond necklaces and although i love them, they are so dainty and the chains are always so lightweight I a afraid I will lose them.  I am also a big girl and I feel they look lost on me.   BTW I like the earmuff solution to my cold ears!  LOL  My Dh works outside and has a bunch of those.  I also have started wearing the scarves around my neck ( when they became popular) and that helps the back of my neck also.

My hair is getting crazy, too long to flip up and too short to curl under...thinking about my first cut this week. 7 mo PFC

9 weeks PFC and today I noticed my hair in the front is laying down-not standing up. That means progress!! Still have some very thin places on top but the back and sides are long enough to have bed-head.

Am I really the only woman on this board who likes salt and pepper? Or are we all just keeping quiet? I totally appreciate the preference for keeping one's youthful hair color...some of my best friends dye their hair But like wigs and makeup, it just isn't me. Like my mama before me, my gray is a map of where I've been: I've worked hard to get here, and wouldn't trade 60 yrs to go back and do it again. Well...let me restate that...I'd go back a year and not do the cancer voyage...But I've been steadily turning gray for the last 20 yrs, and I love the process. And yes, long. I find it interesting that friends who keep their gray short don't consider long gray to be old-looking, but friends who color their hair, short or long, do think long gray is old-looking. It presumes, I think, that there's an inherent problem with getting older.



Not dissing anyone, honestly - y'all are beautiful and amazing. I just couldn't help wondering why no one pitched in with a voice to keep the gray, and was feeling a bit lonesome, haha. My boggle is that the one inch I have is board straight, and I've always had curls.

Jackifp, my family is FULL of relatives who grayed in their late 20's and 30's, and I mean TOTALLY silver!  But, at 48, I was still naturally blonde, so I'd like to keep that, if I can!  I probably wouldn't be salt and pepper, anyhow...I'd just be table salt and rock salt or something! 

I asked my hairdresser once how someone switches to gray once they start coloring their hair.  I assumed there was a gray "color" I could use rather than let the gray grow out and have a line where half is brown and half salt and pepper or gray.  According to her, there was no gray color, so I kept coloring brown.  I look at this as a chance to switch to gray!  We'll see.

LowRider, I have followed your posts since I joined this site. I am sorry to read of your new mets and that you are now on chemo and losing your hair.

DH and I got called siblings by a patient at chemo...guess 36 yrs will do that to ya - tall, fairly thin, glasses...but wait! I was the bald one, and he was trying to grow his hair while I didn't have any, and it was past his ears. We laughed about it for days.



He's never had long hair, and hated it - when it got hot, I told him to cut it and save us both some misery.

jackifp, I assume I'll color my hair if it comes in gray, but can't say for sure until I see what it's going to look like...  In reflection, though, I wonder why I'd bother?  I've never been vain about my hair, which is one reason I kept it long and straight.  It was the style I preferred, and I didn't really care what others thought about my lack of style...  My hair never cooperated when I TRIED to style it, either, so I really DID get lazy about it!  That being said, though, I was kind of attached to the color.  As I said, I wasn't dying or bleaching pre-cancer, and I don't want that to be one more thing cancer forced on me...  

My DH is salt and pepper--a little more salty than when we married 11 years ago--and I love it on him.  I think the hardest part for a lot of us to accept, though, is we will have gone from one color pre-chemo, to no color, to a completely different color post-chemo, without any adjustment period while the "other colors" were growing in with the rest of the hair...does that make sense?  

I am facing the dilemma of whether to continue to color or not.  Pre- bc, I colored my hair with a demi-permanent dye to cover the greys.  My mom and dad have had silver hair for as long as I can remember, and my 5 older brothers were prematurely grey.  I had only a little grey, maybe 20%, and my hair grew so fast, I had to touch up every 4 weeks.  I always wondered what it would be like not to be a slave to the hair dye.  Now my hair is coming in almost black with just a little salt, and I'm thinking I'll just keep it this way a while to see if I like it or not.  It's still very short, so if I don't like it when it's long enough to style, I'll go back to coloring it again.

I am the same..I had brown hair before chemo, after it has been growing in white at first then black..both the harsh black and white look horrible against my skin. Also at just over 40 I feel like I look 10 years older..I love some people with grey hair..but not me.. Even my mother commented on it so I guess that tells me the color isn't for me!

jackifp,

Like you, I'm keeping my hair the color it grew back with.  Kinda a silver, grey, black.  Very soft and curly, but with the growth that I've gotten in the year plus since my last chemo, its more of a ringlet.  

My hair before TX was brillo pad curly and unmanagable and not at all soft.  That's one reason why I'm not tempting fate by doing anything that might upset the apple cart and bring back my old hair.

Grandma rose - how long did it take to show the curl? Yours sounds beautiful.



Mine was super curly as a kid (think Shirley temple ringlets), frizzy curly as an adolescent (I came out to CA then from Brooklyn - to the land of surfers and ironing hair so it was straight - I didn't dare, so slept on giant juice cans nightly...), then wavy as I hit adulthood. My one inch now is dead straight, which will take some getting used to if it stays this way.

My daughter was home for the weekend and started petting my head and says "its so thick and furry"  Not sure if thats the look I am going for...thick and furry?