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Thanks for the update Cathi.  I have been thinking about you and the kids.  I will continue to pray for you all.

We love you too!

Cathi, Just think, another grandbaby to love!  Trying to put a positive spin on it for you!

Where's Barb?  I miss Barb!!!!!!!!

My mind is MASHED POTATOES right now Barbe,  LOL.  I was able to relieve some stress last night with a huge bowl of chocolate ice cream,  I have decided that this AM I am going to spend a whole lot of money that I should not on shopping -  FOR ME .  Then I'll come home and have "shoppers remorse"  But I'll look good,  so off to my favorute dept store,  they have a huge 9AM-11AM sale today. 

Hey Cathi, great plan. You do the retail therapy and I'll take the mashed potatoes...I'm an Idaho girl! Love you....Judie

I just got an email. This October my class is planning it's 30th reunion! I don't believe that it has been 30 yrs since I have been out of high school! Now I have to work toward my weight loss goal really hard! It seems that the scales are broken at a particular weight and refuses to go below that weight.

Cathi, I also like barb's idea of daughters living together for a while. My sister moved in with me for a couple of months after she left her first hubby, right after I gave birth to my son and I was still living with my X. It gave both of us time to bond after living in separate towns for several years.

Sheila

Aw, Nettie {{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}

Just the thought that we might be finished with chemo can be so liberating...and then to have the it dashed with talk of more chemo. the Herceptin, I understand, but why the Tax? Well, at least you can be sure they've given you everything in their arsenal to beat this back to naught. I would just be very diligent about noting SEs for each of those drugs and letting your onc know when/if they pop up. Taxol can cause permanent neuropathy and Herceptin can cause heart damage.

Once you've finished the Taxol, your hair will start to grow. As far as I know Herceptin doesn't cause hair loss. 

A year from now (and I'm just coming up on my one-year end of chemo) it will be all behind you. And you know, at our age, a year goes a lot quicker than it did when we were children.

Hugs Nettie!  You have every right to be on a downer!!  Now, we need to help you cheer up.  It's a log journey but you will get through this!  Keep your chin up and know that we are all thinking of you  and praying for you.

I'm so sorry you have to do this, Nettie. 

Hi dear sisters,

Oh Cathi, I also grew up in a home with a horrible abusive dad.  But my mom stayed with him for 46 years, completely traumatizing me and my sister, tell her to GET OUT NOW and stay out.  Once this has happened and the guy gets away with it (even though he may be in dire straits, with a good "reason") it does not end.  He will cry, promise the world, yada, yada, yada, but it is never the same again.

Netti, honey, just think of baby steps, one day at a time.  Try not to look at the whole thing.  This should help.  I am sorry.

AE & UB, my prayers are with you.  This is so hard.  One dang thing after another.

Watch the retail therapy, I was sure I was going to die, had a wonderful time shopping, and now, 11 years later, still paying off the credit card bills!  hee hee

Love you all, Shirlann   

Barbe, are you talking about the Credit Cards being put down or something else?

Sheila

HAHAHAHAHAHA, now I got it! hehehehehehehe

Like freeze your credit cards so that you have to wait until it melts to spend money? No, I was referring to the fact that once someone is violent, it usually continues or escalates. (NOT funny, I know...)

Well, my bank account is classified "Accounts Inconceivable"....

Ok ladies. It's sunny and at least 150 degrees in Seattle today...well, maybe I exaggerate a bit, but it's gorgeous and I had a nice surprise. It lightened up the corners of my life, so thought I'd share:

I live in an area of Seattle that has a gazillion hospitals and medical office buildings. It is, in fact, called "Pill Hill" instead of the proper "First Hill". This means I have a wide selection of restaurants to choose visit from 7am to 5pm M-F with a few on Saturday. Office hours. Evenings and weekends there is a greasy spoon that's semi-adequate and McDonalds. Today I was walking to an appointment and noticed a new restaurant. INDIAN!!!! I've been missing soooo much the good Indian food we had at my old place. And they are open 7 days until 9pm. I'm in heaven. Had lunch and it was excellent...sigh....

I now have excellent Northwest/American basic, sushi, Vietnamese, Thai, and French crepes until 5pm, then fab pizza and Indian anytime. I'm set. Now all I need is money.

I hope today brings a ray of light to each of our lives. We've earned it.

MAN! Does it never end?!?! So much turmoil and sadness. So much stress. So much "prevenative" bull$hit! It wouldn't be so bad if you did it and it would never come back. But we all do what "they" tell us to , and there are still no promises. Hang in there Nettie and UB , like Nancy said , time goes by faster when we are older.

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OK , I feel better. If anyone would like to join me , feel free.

Cathi , I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. I can understand someone who can't hear , or talk , and maybe even see , getting physical. But why an able body and intelligent , human being over the age of 5 resorts to this kind of behavior is beyond me. And I'm not talking about the arguments that can escalate to a "he pushed me , so I pushed him" arguments. This is so serious. For God's sake , walk away before it gets to that. Have you found out what lead him to do this? Is he taking any kind of drugs? This could make him act out. I mean , if this is so outside his usual personality. Some anti-depressant can make some people become agitated or suicidal. I'm glad to hear that they are apart for now. Everyone needs to step back , take a deep breath , and let sometime go by before making major decisions. I hope things are clearer for your daughter after some time has passed. A separation is a good thing if she can do that. I think sometimes , we don't want to believe that someone we love could treat us this way , so we believe it was a one time thing. And we rush back cause we just don't want to believe that they could do such a thing. And sometimes I think , its cause we don't want to be alone. And sometimes we just think we deserve it. Or it was our fault. I pray that Jaclyn feels that its not OK for anyone to physically or mentally abuse her. She is worth soooo much more than that. And I really feel for you as a mom. I would really want to tear him a new a$$hole! But I wouldn't. Cause thats just not the thing to do. But I think I would try to protect my child anyway I could. Its just so hard when they are adults. I'm sorry if I am rambling , I just want you to know you are not alone. And I hope that you and Eds' relationship sends Jaclyn the message that , she is a beautiful human being and someday some one will treat her as such. Your relationship with Ed will give her hope. Please don't beat yourself up about the past realtionship with your ex.

Yes , It wasn't easy for your kids to see you abused. But they also saw you leave that situation. And as adults , they are seeing a loving , wonderful relationship between you and Ed.  Hugs to you sweet sister. Comforting hugs to you , Jaclyn , and the kids.

OK. I have had my share of "ups and downs" lately. My "best friend" , and she still is , was storaging my stuff at her house. Well , her DH , and believe me , that doesn't stand for darling husband , decided he didn't want my stuff at his house any longer , and I got a frantic e-nail from her saying , he was putting my stuff outside and I better come pick up boxes or give him money.

Believe me , I wanted my stuff out of there along time ago. But I didn't have the money to pay professional movers. I tried local movers , but they offered to "drive" my belongings to where ever , but not load and unload my stuff. So I have had a storage unit since April , but no one to load it and unload it. So I finally talked to my son about it. And being the sweet child of mine that he is , he said he would get his friends to help and that he would do it.

Well , he lives in Lakewood , his friends live in other towns , and they all work different shifts. So they couldn't get a day off together. Cause most of them work the weekends. Anyway , my ex SO , said to call the professionals , he would pay , cause at the time I had 39.00 in my bank acct. So I did. They cost 95.00 an hour! So my son said he would help. And he was such a great help! He helped so much , and when we got to the storage unit , he took over and made sure everything would fit in. And some of the stuff he left outside the unit , just to get it unloaded , so the guys could leave and it wouldn't cost me so much. So , 3 and 3/4 hrs. = 356.00. But it is now moved , and I don't have to worry about some crazy mad DH putting my stuff on the curbe.It was so humid that day. I bought my son and me lunch , and then I drove to the river and we had a relaxing , wonderful lunch. Got to see some canadian geese having fun on the river. And we did some bonding. Which was soooooo wonderful. Even out of such a bad situation , I was able to make a memory with my son , that was so awesome. So take that you DH , I had a wonderful day after all! I must say , I am really worried about my girlfriend. He is not the man he pretents to be , and I have a feeling , she is in for some major heartbreak.

My ex OH is having surgery the 23rd. He will be in the hospital for a week. I will be off the some of the week after due to a shutdown at work. I really feel this is his last chance for healing. If he doesn't do what the docs say , then it will all be for nothing. And I don't think he will last to much longer if he doesn't change.

things at work are still slow. We are having days off and the last week of the month off due to the recession. So if I loose my job , I will be heading to Tenn. to my family. If things hold out or improve , then I will get a place come December.

Been having the usual aches and pains. I see my onc next month. Prayers for good test results.

OK , I feel like I have written a book! So I will go. Love to all my wonderful sisters here. Prayers for all our families too. xxxxMel