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geebung

Mel, I just love the way you choose to see things. It made me so mad to hear about your girlfriend's DH (I hope she had a lightbulb moment when he displayed his true colours!). Then, to read how your day turned out - the loving support from your dear son and lunch by the river afterwards and the geese - really warmed my heart. Special prayers that things work out well for you and your loved ones. Love the primal screams too!

(((((((((((((((Nettie))))))))))))))). That stinks that you have to have more treatment but hopefully it will kick bootface's a*%# for all time and it never raises it's vile head again.

Cathi - have been thinking of you and Jaclyn and praying that things will somehow work out. Sending you, her and the kids huge hugs.

Met the volcanic girlfriend of my eldest son the other day - the one who he had a huge argument with and she went to an island somewhere. Well, she came back and has been staying with him. I can see why my other two sons don't like her - she seems very hard and complained to me about him. Was it my fault that she chose to fly twice around the world to see him?! If she doesn't like him, why doesn't she drop him! Thank goodness she flies back to Europe today! I really like my other two sons' girlfriends - they're kind, generous and funny. 

Sue, I'm thinking of you and your dad. How is he? Big (((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))s to both of you.

Hugs to UB & AE too - (((((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))). I hope you are feeling better UB. 

Love to everyone

Jane xoxoxo

Makratz

Mel, I think of you all the time. I'm so happy to hear that you have made some memories with your son.  My son doesn't want anything to do with me now, which breaks my heart.  I know it's his age (14) and will change when he gets older, but it still sucks.

I hope your job is stable and you keep on working.  Doesn't this economy stink?  Glad that all your stuff is moved and safe.

BTW, love your pics, the screaming and such.  Sometimes we need to do that more than hugs.  Youa re very insightful!

Keep checking in with us Mel.  I truely miss you!  I will keep you, your family and friend in my prayers.  Hang in there.  We love you!

hrf

Sorry to hear so many difficulties....Cathi, Netti, Mel.......here's to better days ahead.

Makratz

1Cathi

Nettie-  BIG BIG HUGS AND Good wishes coming your way. 

Shirlann I agrre with both you and Barbe,  I know I lived it to for far to long,  the endless rotten cycle of "I'm sorry"  "I didn't mean it"  and then mine was a freakin nasty rotten drunk on top of that,  which made him twice as bad.  Makes me want to puke.  I am over the hatered and detest for him,  never thought I would be,  but he is living the life he deserves now.  Jaclyn says she will not allow him back into HER life,  only time will tell I guess,  he has actually been a bit on the RUDE side this week with some text messages he has sent,  Isn't life just grand sometimes.

HOPE EVERYONE HAS A WONDERFUL PEACEFUL HAPPY WEEKEND.

XOXOXOXOXOX

Makratz

Hang in there Cathi.  I've been thinking of you and your family.

honeygirl

Hi Meg! Hi Jane! So good to see you girls. Thanks for the hugs and prayers. I am an optimist at heart and no DH or any pessimists are welcome! Meg , I love to come here and read your posts. You are such a shinning star! Thanks for being here for us all.xxxx

 Jane , I hate to think of the situation your son is in. There must be something "good" that your son sees in her. Or he is trying to "fix" her. Sorta like Cathi's BIL sees in Carol. No one close to them can understand it. I pray that he will see the light , or she will and only goodness will become of it.

Hows sweet Blossom doing? How is your hubby? Hey , are you still taking classes? Hows your mom doing? Praying for you all. xxxx

Sue , so sorry about your dad. I hope and pray that things will turn out well for you all.

And UB and AE , and you not being able to get together. UB , hurry and get better. You are so precious to us all. Although , I am sad that your visit to England has been postpone , I know you all will get together in the near future. Everything happens for a reason , and I know you all will get together when the time is right.xxxx

Barbe!?! Mick Jagger!lololoollol I am not laughing at you , believe me , the pain has got to be so miserable , but I LOVE the Mick! That is toooo funny. And so appropriate! I'm so glad they are taking it out. Soon , no more pain! And I can't remember if I told you or not , I saw your pics on FB , you have such a beautiful family. And you look marvelous! You go girl!

Hi Lisa , so sorry it didn't work out for you and , gosh , I can't remember his name!Sorry. I hope you can hook up in the near future.

Have you heard from Dennis latley? He is in my daily prayers. You too. Hope you are feeling better. xxxx

Hi Markraz , hey , where did you go on vacation? Pics please. Is the weather any better than it was? Hope so. Hope you are having a good weekend.xxxx

Judie! So good to see you here again! Wow , I am so jealous! I would soooo love to come to Wash. to see you. Sounds like a place I would love to live. Hoping that life treats you well , and know you are loved!xxxx

Hey , haven't see Wren , mdmouse or Kaloni in awhile. Has anyone heard from them?

To them , and all here , Great big hugs and love. Mel

honeygirl

Hi Linda! Aww , I'm sorry your son is 14! You are sooooo right , he will get beyond this when he is older. It is a hard time for us moms though. We are "mom" , and we love them to death. They  on the other hand , are "growing" and experiencing all kinds of things! And yes , sadly , mom is the least in there world right now. But Linda , it does get better. And especially as an adult. They stop thinking that we "know nothing" , and actually talk to us about their lives and ask for our opinions! Hang in there honey. Believe me , as they get older , they will appreciate everything you did for them. Believe me , everything you have done for them will shine through , and you will see it one day , and know! And then you look back , and it doesn't feel so bad. Love you. xxxxx

Makratz

Thanks Mel, sometimes I'm not too sure about my relationship with me son.  But, I know he is a good kid, making good decisions so far.  I just read in the local paper about a 14 yo boy woho was found at 6:30 in the morning wandering the streets in his boxer shorts, badly bruised.  He admitted to being at a party in the wood the night before and got really drunk, someone beat him up and stole his clothes.  I am not dealing with that....yet.  I thank God that I can stay at home with my kids.  We don't have a lot of money because of that decision, but I think it was the right decision to make.

I went on vacation to NH, Squam Lake.  The weather was better, although we still got a fair amount of rain.  I would post pics but everyone knows that they dont show up here!  Someday I will put some on facebook.

Thank you for all your kind words Mel.  Love you too!!

Have a great night,

Linda

honeygirl

Oh Linda , Such an awful story of that boy. So even if you don't have they money you would if you worked, you have piece of mind that you are there for your boys so that doesn't happen to them.

When my son was born , my ex and I agreed that I would stay home until he was in grade school. And we didn't have alot , and people would say , " oh , your not working" and I didn't care. It met more to me to be at home with my son.At least through the young years. I did get a job and have been working ever since he was in the second grade. I wish I could of stayed home through graduation , I would have!

Makratz

Mel, you are a great Mom!!  I wanted to go back to work a couple years ago but learned quickly that teenagers need parents around more so than little kids.  Little kids will be fine in daycare, teenagers will get into all kinds of trouble when they are unsupervised.  So I am hoping now, that I will be able to go back to work when my kids are in college!  Oh yea, I can't afford to send them to college!!

honeygirl

Linda , Stay home as long as you can! They can work their way through college!

Makratz

Good night my friends!  Thanks for all the advice.  I truely appreciate each and every one of you!

Linda

geebung

Linda, good on you for being there for your kids. I'm sure your son will come through this stage and be a good man. My youngest son was quite a rebel at 14 and I'm afraid he went to a party without my knowledge and got drunk so you are doing a much better job at parenting than I did!

Karen, how are you feeling about Portia not going to live with her grandma? I suppose you are kind of happy about it but also wondering how you are going to stand more stress and tension between her and Chase and your dh. Parenting is hard, single parenting is harder and blended families and step parenting present other problems. None of us realise what's ahead when we first hold those dear little babies in our arms!  

Barbe - hope your Mic Jagger can be extracted with the least invasive procedure. It all sounds too painful - the whole business - hope you will be blissfully bombed out with drugs before and after.

Lisa, that's disappointing about your friend not being able to see you. Any plans for another date? If he decides not to, there is sure to be someone better out there for you.

xxx

geebung

Meg - loved your lava comment! Thank you for being here too and to everyone else - you are all great people. xxx

Mary22

You ladies seem to be going through sooo much on top of BC. Hugs to all, I read this thread a few times, but never posted.

Cathi, my stepmom lives in Indian Rocks Beach, and I even worked at the Eckerd in IRB( it may be a CVS now or closed) Just the other day I asked my sister, if Ya Ya's chicken was still in the shoppoing on the other side of the bridge. There use to be an Eckerd there too, which I worked at, but that is going way back to the 90's. I lived in the Clearwater area of Fl for 13years(1986-1999). I am so sorry about your DD's, maybe they can live together. I lived w/my brother for a while and it was great. Now we are all so far apart.

Linda, yes older kids can get into too much trouble if left alone too long. Make them work to pay for college, it will build character. LOL

Have a great w/e everyone.

barbe1958

Oooooh, I agree with everyone above (thanks Mel, I think my family is beautiful too! ) But what I mean is about staying home while the kids are teens! I wish I'd had a Mom at home for me..... Also about them paying for college, not you! I see too many kids party away their parent's savings and then not end up doing what they went in for anyway!

Good (middle of the) night!

p.s. Oh Mak, they don't give you drugs here before surgery, You have to walk in on your own steam, climb up on the table and wait to get put out. Next thing you, they'll be making me do my own IV and put the mask on myself! Sheesh!

Anonymous

Mel, as always your thoughts are deep and spot on. I enjoyed the screams, too. What lovely images of the time with your son were brought to mind. Thanks.

Linda, it does get better. You have certainly made a good decision. I was a single mom of four and worked evening shift for much of the teen years. It was not good for any of us. How I wish it could have been different, but they all turned out well after some challenging years. They seem to like me most of the time, though they are now at that age where you suddenly decide to see all the problems of your life as a result of how you were raised...sigh. I did that but have finally outgrown it and accepted the fact that I had wonderful parents and turned out bad because I was a rebel.

Barbe, can we switch? You come here for your surgery and I'll go there. I hate preoperative meds. I want to be alert, chat with the team while I get strapped down and prepped, go out like a light for the op, wake up remembering everything except the actual surgery. These days you get drugs that make you forget everything that happened after you took off your clothes and donned "the gown." Crap..my memory is already going. I don't need drugs for that. I love the OR. I used to work in one. It's like my only chance to live that life again and they refuse to allow it. Starting my own IV and slapping on the mask would be a small price to pay. Whaddya say?

They found more cancer at my appointment today. I'm terminal. OK, so I'm being a drama queen. The appointment was with a dermatologist. The cancer is "probably the smallest basal cell carcinoma you'll ever see." The punch biopsy cured it. I'll live.

I'm rummy...sorry. No alcohol, just the hour.

1Cathi

Hi Mary all the Eckerds are now CVS and YaYa's Chicken is still across the bridge - great chicken although we do not go there to much as my DH makes tthe best grilled chicken ever. Gee I could be your step mom's neighbor and not even know it.  I live on 16th Ave where Keegans grill is if you know that place it's been here forever too.

Judie I have to say  - your a BRAT-  that was a pretty scary post until I read it all. 

HAPPY WEEKEND ALL.

XOXOXOXOXOXOX

barbe1958

My bowels dropped too Judie! Not funny! How did they find the tiny little ba$tard?

1Cathi

Hey Linda, I don't have any words of wisdom on teenage boys,  never had the pleasure (LOL) of having sons  and my bad judgments in raising girls does not qualify me as an expert either.  So just want you to know I'm thinking of you all.  I believe our children never stop loving us,  as most of us did they do find the need and desires to stray from the paths we have predetermined for them,  I know I did, and even when I was the nasty rotten teenage girl I was for a few years,  I never stopped feeling love for my parents  -  although I would never have admitted it then,  I was to busy thinking they knew nothing and just wanted to rule and ruin my life for sure. And now all those things I HATED THEN, I Cherish in my wonderful memory bank.

So my best advise for you right now is have a regular supply of hair dye or set up regular appointments with a hair dresser if you want to keep those gray hairs covered that will no doubt be popping out more and more everyday for the next few years.

XOXOXOXOXOXO -Cathi

hrf

I kinda freaked over that posting too ... had to go back several times to read the words ... at least you woke me up.

I asked for drugs before surgery ... got Adavan....worked just fine ... I remember the wait and them coming for me... but once they wheeled me away I don't remember anything which was fine with me.

Makratz

LOL!  You guys are great.  Thanks for all the advice on parenting.  I know I will get through it, it just sucks going through it.  Great advice about the hair dye too!

Glad you only have a basal cell and not more serious cancer.

Have a great day ladies.  I am off to a beach party on Cape Cod.

Mary22

Linda, any help w/ taanage boys, pass it along. My son is 11 and going through puberty. Most people think he is 14 or older, sad, he is not my baby boy anymore. My 8 yr old daughter is starting to develop breast and most people think she is 12. At least my 4 yr old is still little.

Cathi, she lives on Bay Pines Blvd. Even though she divorced my dad and he since pasted away, we still keep in touch. She and my dad had three children. Her oldest son was killed in a car accident on Sept 22, 2006. My 39th birthday. He was born just days after I graduated from from HS. My stepmom is only 4 years older than I am, but we had a good relationship. She is even a friend on facebook. I use to eat at that Ya Ya's when I worked at the eckerd now CVS. Our Eckerd's are now Rite Aids up here in the Poconos.

Have a great Saturday, the sun is shining all is good. Son has an appt for his ADHD today,yes a doctor's office that has regular Sat appt. works out great during the school year. Hopefully once he finishes puberty and his hormones are better managed he will be able to stop adhd meds.

Mary22

Linda, any help w/ taanage boys, pass it along. My son is 11 and going through puberty. Most people think he is 14 or older, sad, he is not my baby boy anymore. My 8 yr old daughter is starting to develop breast and most people think she is 12. At least my 4 yr old is still little.

Cathi, she lives on Bay Pines Blvd. Even though she divorced my dad and he since pasted away, we still keep in touch. She and my dad had three children. Her oldest son was killed in a car accident on Sept 22, 2006. My 39th birthday. He was born just days after I graduated from from HS. My stepmom is only 4 years older than I am, but we had a good relationship. She is even a friend on facebook. I use to eat at that Ya Ya's when I worked at the eckerd now CVS. Our Eckerd's are now Rite Aids up here in the Poconos.

Have a great Saturday, the sun is shining all is good. Son has an appt for his ADHD today,yes a doctor's office that has regular Sat appt. works out great during the school year. Hopefully once he finishes puberty and his hormones are better managed he will be able to stop adhd meds.

EWB

gee whiz too much going on! Everyone---hugs, prayers and screams.

1Cathi

Well Mary she is a neighbor for sure,  we are a few blocks from there,  actually used to have an apt quite close to there,  but still ride my bike over that way.  You can pretty much ride all of the streets on IRB in just a bit over an hour.  I love the Pita bread at YaYa's.  So your in the Pocono's now I see, my hubby was born and raised in Lebanon PA (Lancaster County) - Amish Country,  he infact is menonite on his mom's side.  Like going up there in the summer,  hate the winter time.  We went up almost 2 years ago in Noveneber for his dads funeral and just about froze to death -  YUCK!!!!!!!!!

sueps

Sisters just got in from work... I burnt my upper arm the other day on a hot tray.. OK I never feel pain nor nothing... 3 days ago... pretty big... as usual my arm is numb with fluid blah blah... but today the burn is slowly spreading under the skin... inflamed... what shall I use on it... I am scared ... I wasnt thinking... does anyone know how to treat it on bad arm xxxxxxxxx

Be back  soon ... just going to examine xxxx 

EWB

Only thing I know of for burns is silvadine, good luck Sue!

portiasproudmom

I finally have some time on the computer!!!  The laptop has been ordered, but hasn't arrived yet.  I've MISSED you all!!!!!  I skimmed over the posts from the past week and have a few comments.

((((((((((((Cathi and Jacklyn))))))))))))  I was in shock when I read your post!  What on earth caused him to snap like that??  I'm so scared for Jacklyn!  If he did it once, he may just do it again!  She needs to get out of that relationship in a hurry!  I feel for your grandbabies, but she has to keep herself (and them) safe!

Hang in there, Nettie!  It will come to an end--I know it doesn't seem like it now, but it will.

Oh Sue!  Do you have Aquaphor in the UK?  I burnt my arm on the oven door the other day and I've been putting Aquaphor on it twice a day.  The burn is almost gone!

((((((((((AE and UB))))))))))  So sorry to hear about UB's new health issues.  Having to postpone your trip must be killing you!  Hopefully, you can reschedule for very soon!

Where is Lisa??  I've been waiting to hear about her test results and what the onc said about AI's and whatnot.  Liiiiiissssaaa!!!  Please check in!

Love to everyone!  Hopefully. I'll have my laptop soon so I can check in every day.

Hugs,

Karen