MI Survivors

Options
11314161819106

Comments

  • gmr52
    gmr52 Member Posts: 74
    edited April 2005
    Lunch was wonderful again! It was nice seeing Pat, Nancy, Pam and our newcomer Sue. Hope to see everyone again for the next lunch in June.
    Gerri
  • DebraLynn
    DebraLynn Member Posts: 228
    edited April 2005
    Hi all my Michigan sister, remember me? I haven't been on the boards for awhile, not due to not wanting to, but being so tired, so stressed and sick that I simply had no energy or time.
    Some of you may remember that my husband left me in the middle of my bc. We are in the midst of a divorce, however he refuses to pay for any of my meds, called my cancer 'not a big deal'.
    I bought a house nearby in November and thought I would be able to get on with a new life quickly. Not so. I moved to my new house earlier than I wanted because my younger daughter got into some trouble and she was staying with her dad. I returned to my old house to get some things and my husband was so bitter, mean, heartless, he refused to help me and then when I was in the garage, he picked me up from behind and literally threw me onto the cement on the driveway. I called the police and they arrested him for domestic violence.
    This has all been such a nightmare for me.
    I am hoping to meet you guys for lunch, please keep me posted, I really need all of you in my life.
    God bless and gentle hugs
  • Catherine
    Catherine Member Posts: 305
    edited April 2005
    DebraLynn, I am so sorry you had to go through this crap. Hang in there.

    Catherine
  • DebraLynn
    DebraLynn Member Posts: 228
    edited April 2005
    Hi Catherine,
    Have you gotten a new job yet? Did you ever get anywhere with Kmart?
  • Not_Me
    Not_Me Member Posts: 180
    edited April 2005

    I tried to post twice...but I guess I did not get thru. Connisue and I did not make it due to the weather. We just didn't want to have to fight those roads again with snow. We are planning on being at the next one...when surely we will not have to deal with snow!!!

  • ZOOBRIT
    ZOOBRIT Member Posts: 1
    edited April 2005
    Hi,
    I just wanted to say big thank you to, Pat, Nancy, Pam and Gerri for making feel so welcome. Lunch was great, I am so glad I went, you marvelous ladies are an inspiration.
    Sue
  • gcpommom
    gcpommom Member Posts: 883
    edited April 2005
    Alright you guys, I goofed again. I had a cub scout conservation outing in the a.m. yesterday, but didn't realize it included a 'picnic' afterwards (we ended up inside) I couldn't desert my little boy, so I stayed for the lunch. I really wanted to come see you all

    Hi Debra, my goodness, how are you? I've thought about you from time to time, it's good to hear from you again. I am so sorry your husband is still being such a jackass, you deserve so much better. Maybe we can meet one of these days; I was thinking our next get together should be outdoors (if we don't get snow in June!)

    I'm sorry I missed you all again!!! See Michele, you aren't alone, these things happen.

    Hugs to you all
    Judy
  • Anna_Marie_Rogers
    Anna_Marie_Rogers Member Posts: 198
    edited April 2005
    I had to miss yesterday because I had my 3rd taxol on Friday and was in so much pain that vicodin was the order of the day. However, only one more to go!! Let me know when the next luncheon is and I'll be able to be there!
    Ann
  • Not_Me
    Not_Me Member Posts: 180
    edited April 2005

    Yes...lets difnetly do our next get together outside. We might as well take advantage of the good weather while we can.

  • Sphynx
    Sphynx Member Posts: 611
    edited April 2005
    I had a great time Saturday. Sorry Catherine, I forgot my camera this time. It was really nice to meet newbie Sue (zoo), another smart lady. Geri, Pam, Pat - such sweethearts and so upbeat. It is just a very nice afternoon when we get together. Sorry we missed everyone who couldn't make it but there is always next time. Hope everyone is well.

    xxxooo
    Nancy
  • Sphynx
    Sphynx Member Posts: 611
    edited April 2005
    Here is Komen's Race for the Cure website. I will be there with a few of my friends. If anyone wants to meet up and walk with us, we can plan something. If you are not able to walk 5K, then we can still catch you at the area they have set-up for the survivors.

    Race for the Cure
  • kats
    kats Member Posts: 509
    edited April 2005
    Nancy,
    Sounds like everyone had a nice time. When I heard on the news that winter weather was going to hit Michigan I was hoping it would interfere with your get together. Was everyone able to make it or did the weather stop some ladies from traveling???
  • Catherine
    Catherine Member Posts: 305
    edited April 2005
    I heard that there was quite a bit of snow in Ohio. Glad that missed Chicago. We just had a few snow flurries. Saturday I was an the "Auto Show in Motion" at Arlington Park Race Track (normally they have horseracing.) It was excellent. Free parking, free admission and even free lunch.

    I drove a yellow Hummer on an obstacle course with a very steep incline. It was quite scary as the hill was so steep and you couldn't see where you were going. I also took the Corvette for a test drive. That was fun.

    It was sponsored by General Motors and you could test drive more than 150 different kinds of cars. Definitely check it out if it comes to your area. It was a lot of fun and the free admission, parking and lunch made it even better.

    Catherine
  • pconn03
    pconn03 Member Posts: 643
    edited April 2005
    Hi All:
    I just wanted to chime-in with the gals who were at the lunch on Saturday and say what a fun time I had. We really missed the rest of you - but you better believe that we will be meeting again and again - I just have that feeling!!! It was really nice to meet Sue and so now we have another new sister.

    Michele - sorry you missed the lunch but there will be a next time.

    Debra Lynn - Wow, you need a break. So sorry you are having such a sucky time. Again, we will be meeting again and so you can make it then.

    Judy - You surely did the right thing to stay with your little son. They are little for such a short time . . .

    Ann - happy you're getting close to the end!!!

    Chris - we missed you and Conniesue but that drive in from Oxford is quite the jaunt!!

    To our Chicago sisters, Catherine and Kats - thanks for your kind wishes. The weather on Saturday was kind of cold, gray and blustery with rain but on Sunday it turned into a full-blown day in February. However, today it is 60 degrees and all of the snow (or most of it) is all gone!!! Go figure . . .
    Blessings to all,
    Pat
  • Catherine
    Catherine Member Posts: 305
    edited April 2005
    No, I'm still stuck at the same place. K-Mart never panned out but thanks for the tip just the same. It seems like there are more HR openings now, but I haven't found one yet. At least Psycho Boss is no longer around to torment us. That is a major plus.

    Catherine
  • gracejon
    gracejon Member Posts: 972
    edited April 2005

    My son did not make that hockey team. The father that encouraged us to try out thought that 5 spots were available. Our sons have played together since age 7 and really compliment another. It is part of the Little Ceasars league in Michigan so am disappointed that he will not be on the team. We still will be playing and traveling so hope to get up there on a date with one of the outings. I am currently being admonished by my mom and girlfriends for even considering reconstruction and when I get my thoughts together with sing my song of woe on reconstruction thread. Right now I am pretty upset that everyone wants to tell me not to pursue breasts and how vain I am. I realize this all is a personal decision but I do not want to elicit responses from people that most likely will never have to even consider their options. Feelin pretty darn grumpy these days! I will be doing the cancer society's "Making Strides' outing May 7th. Hope the bluebird of happiness finds me at the outing and I don't feel so out in the middle of the ocean without a paddle. These feelings too will pass! I miss you cause going to the luncheon really was one of the few times I felt like others can get through this and are doing okay. It has been hard for me because I am surrounded by my own personal decision critics! So much for my whining!

  • Sphynx
    Sphynx Member Posts: 611
    edited April 2005
    jon!!! Get those lovely breasts! I have seen the work of my two friends after mastectomies and their surgeons were artists! I occasionally get the guilty - vanity pangs about wanting to fix my frankenboob that is probably much worse in my mind than reality. To top it off, I want to plump up a few cc's just for grins. I see it as my reward for surviving the beast. Don't ask those who do not have to walk in your shoes.

    I saw another of your posts about getting your energy back and not being able to climb stairs like before. I should have answered right away but here is my take on it...

    The first year was 2003 and chemo kicked butt. I did have some spare energy when it was done but I think it was the relief that it was over. I even looked for flats of flowers at the end of summer. The nurseries thought I was nuts. The next summer, I wanted to do some gardening but didn't have my usual normal energy back yet. I did the minimal and was in bed by 8:30 pm every night.

    This year we had those few 60 degree days and I was obsessed. I went outside at daylight and worked until dark. I mean, I did some heavy lifting, wheel barrel pushing and cement moving. I did this both Saturday and Sunday, two weekends in a row. I hurt everywhere on Monday but it was absolutely wonderful! I did it just because I could. It hit me like a ton of bricks that I felt damn good. So, I'm back even if it took 2 years to get to this point! I still go to bed before 9:00 pm and the stairs at work make me winded but I'm working on that.

    So, I’m sorry your son did not make the team but you better find another excuse to join us. We will drag you out of that funk and show you the light at the end of the tunnel if we have to put a flashlight in your face.

    Lilia – I’m sorry, no pictures this time. There are some old ones under the photo albums. Next time I’ll remember my camera. Well, if someone reminds me at least.

    Catherine & Kats – next time make the trek out here. Surely we won’t have snow in June????

    Pat – keep us posted on the grandbaby news!

    We could think about meeting in one of the Metro Parks next time? They have running water and some semblance of a loo. The one by me (Hudson Mills) is very nice.

    xxxooo
    Nancy
  • Catherine
    Catherine Member Posts: 305
    edited April 2005
    That would be a riot to see you guys. I'll talk to Kats and see if she's up for the trip.

    Catherine
  • Sphynx
    Sphynx Member Posts: 611
    edited May 2005

    Did anyone catch Debra Lynn's post in "moving beyond"? She is looking for an oncologist in the Troy area. I know many of you talked highly of your doctors. I recommended mine from St. Joe's but I think it is quite a trek to Troy.

  • DebraLynn
    DebraLynn Member Posts: 228
    edited May 2005
    DUH!!! Great idea to post this in the MI thread, thanks Nancy, you are so smart!!!!! And thank you, Pat for the information. You ladies are the best!!!
    Hugs,

    --------------------
    DebraLynn
  • DebraLynn
    DebraLynn Member Posts: 228
    edited May 2005
    Hi everyone,

    Just wanted to share with you that tomorrow, May 4 will be one year since my surgery.

    Funny, all those old feelings are stirred up again just by remembering a date.

    Thanks to all of you who have made me laugh, feel 'normal', given advice, love, friendship and hugs.

    Although some of you may not know me, I have read your posts that have made a difference in my life.

    Each and every one of you have a very special place in my heart that I will keep forever.

    Thanks, and here's to the beginning of another 'year'.

    Hugs,
  • Catherine
    Catherine Member Posts: 305
    edited May 2005
    Congratulations on your one year anniversary. My two year anniversary is fast approaching - on May 30. It's hard to believe it's nearly two years already.

    Catherine
  • mom2acat
    mom2acat Member Posts: 556
    edited May 2005

    Congrats on your anniversary DebraLynn! My surgery was 2 years ago, on May 3rd.

  • normalcani
    normalcani Member Posts: 230
    edited June 2005
    Hey MI Girls.....Where is everyone at....??? We haven't posted anything in here for almost a month......Anyways, getting ready for my exchange surgery on 6/21.....anyone have any advice for me....??

    I am so miserable in this heat....my dad hasn't brought over my a/c yet and I live in a little hot box.....and it's just miserable....yuck....and at night is wonderful too from the armidex and night sweats, or should I say night baths...as I wake up soaked quite often.......

    Hope all is well with everyone.....
    Hugs to you all......
    Candi
  • mom2acat
    mom2acat Member Posts: 556
    edited June 2005
    I've been outside doing yardwork and planting flowers with some of my free time. On the days I work I'm so tired I don't get to all the boards that I want too. Everything is well with me, still tired from waking up with hot flashes all night though. My next onc. appointment is Tuesday.

    I'm on vacation this week, just staying around home, but it's nice just to rest and relax.
  • Anna_Marie_Rogers
    Anna_Marie_Rogers Member Posts: 198
    edited June 2005
    Candi,
    I admire anyone who can even go outside in this heat, much less plant flowers! Good luck on that surgery. I haven't started arimadex yet, but already have horrible night sweats. Does this mean it will get worse? An onc. finally called today & said he was having paperwork submitted to my ins. co. for a PET scan. After all the complaints my kids & I made when I was in the hospital for 2 weeks, he was given the impression that I didn't want to follow up the bad CAT scan with any other tests till my onc. got back from vacation in a month! He called to try to convince me otherwise. I don't believe how mixed up the system can get! Wish me luck next week. If this is more cancer, I honestly don't know how I will keep myself together. If one more person tells me not to worry at all because it will stress out my immune system, I may lose it completely. I'm trying to keep a positive attitude, but how can I absolutely not worry. I'm supposed to be recovering from chemo finally & instead am having to battle to get tests!
    Ann
  • gcpommom
    gcpommom Member Posts: 883
    edited June 2005
    Hi everyone! It has been a while. I, too, have been so busy. I am in a 7 week physics class that is killer, with a test every week, ugh. I started an exercise regimen, finally (mostly to get out of the house and away from my kids)! I've lost about 7 pounds already and am getting muscles.

    Candi, you're right, this heat STINKS! We're supposed to get some strong storms tomorrow, and then back to the 70's! That will feel nice!

    Nancy, did you do the Race for the Cure last weekend? I had to work on Saturday. I will definitely be there next time, please let me know when it is and I'll meet you there!

    Ann, I hope all goes well for you. I have not seen your posts, so I don't know exactly what's going on with you, but I really hope your scans turn out ok.

    Well, talk to you all soon!

    Hugs
    Judy B
  • pconn03
    pconn03 Member Posts: 643
    edited June 2005
    Hi All Michigan Gals:
    I'm checking in from Milwaukee just to let you know that on June 15, my daughter Julie had a wonderful, beautiful, healthy daughter who then named Reilly (my maiden name) Constance (her husband's mother's name). She weighed in at 8lb/4oz and was 21 1/4 inches long. And of course, she really is beautiful!!!! I wish I knew how to post pictures to the site because I would. I'll try to figure out a way to do that. Reilly was breach and wouldn't turn so they had to do a C-Section but Julie is doing great. What is funny is that Julie was breach 33 years ago and I had to have a C-Section too. Reilly looks exactly like Julie did as a baby - wow what a surreal experience. Well, I've gone on enough now but I really wanted to let you all know. This is our first grandchild - can you tell??? LOL
    Talk later -
    God bless,
    Pat
  • DebraLynn
    DebraLynn Member Posts: 228
    edited June 2005
    Congratulations Pat! A first grandchild. I'll bet she is beautiful and I love her name, very sweet.

    So, how are you Michigan ladies keeping cool????????

    Hugs,
  • gcpommom
    gcpommom Member Posts: 883
    edited June 2005
    Congratulations Pat! You enjoy that little baby, what fun for you! Good to hear that your daughter is doing well.

    Well, Debra, I spent the day at the beach today. We certainly cooled off in the lake, but now I am sooo sunburnt. Gotta put that sunscreen on more often! Otherwise, it's AC for me!

    Hope everyone is doing well. Enjoy these hot days, it'll be snowing again before we know it.

    Hugs to you all
    Judy

Categories