The Hermit Club

Teka

Good Morning Hermits!!!

camillegal

Teka 

Jazzygirl

Good morning hermits- working on my second cup of coffee here this morning. How is everyone's Friday starting out?

Five days this week in the command center, and one more day to go tomorrow before this first week is over. I am doing okay so far, making sure I am eating well, getting some exercise in, etc. I notice as I go along with these go lives, my stamina has been better the further away I am from treatment. I am off today, again Sunday and think we may be reducing our command center support next week. I will be on the down slope soon to the end of this contract. I got some nice compliments from the director of patient accounting up to the senior execs for my work helping his area yesterday too.

How is everyone's weather here in the US? I heard there is some crazy stuff going on everywhere again. We had some wicked winds Wednesday that brought in cold and yesterday, snow the mountains! As I drove from the client site, I found myself in a cloud burst and then snow! Yes it can snow here through April, but may is much rarer. Go figure. I hope none of you suffered from the bad winds, tornadoes, or flooding they talked about on the news this morning.

Today I am home and have a couple different folks coming to the house to do things. I am going to go enjoy a jazz concert tonight. I am determined to take care of myself and try to enjoy life despite the go live.

For the newbees, it sounds like you are getting ready for your surgery and making sure your home is comfy. I found having my living space in a good place, the right types of food in the fridge and pantry, bills paid, etc. all helped me to feel ready to just come home and rest after. I never feel like eating much after any type of surgery so having some food around that are easy on the stomach are a good thing. My doctors told me "protein for healing" after my surgeries in 2012 and thinks like yogurt, cottage cheese, etc. were good sources for of that which I could handle afterwards. We will be here with you as you prepare for this and as you recovery from surgery and go into your next treatment. You will get through this.

Time to get going to my day. Wishing all of the moms here or those of you with moms still with you a lovely Mothers Day!

magdalene51

I am so thankful for my cousin, especially at this time. She is very health minded, and watched her mother be cured of cancer (with alternative methods only) and go on to live to the ripe old age of 95 cancer free. My cousin was the primary caregiver for both her parents (her dad lived to 98) and now she is living with us. She doesn't know how to NOT take care of someone, so she is actually enjoying spoiling me rotten. I know how blessed I am to have her as even before BC it's been a long time since I had the energy to shop, cook, clean, etc. She is juicing raw organic veggies for me daily to help clean out the toxins and keep me in the best of health possible at this time. She also encourages, hugs, prays, and laughs with us. Both DH and I know how vital she is to our little family. Bonus: she thinks she's the one being blessed.

She's going to make me a hope box and a board to put cards on. I got cards this morning from her granddaughter and great-grandson, with pictures, hugs, blessings, and the great-grandson who plays baseball drew a big baseball with a ribbon on it. He's in 7th grade. Wish I could post pics from mobile devices here, just doesn't work.

Teka

Your cousin is a blessing!

Jazzygirl

Mag- your cousin is a blessing, as Teka says. You may be constantly surprised by the people who show up for you in meaningful ways you never expected. Take all the help that is offered and know this is part of what we learn going through this- who shows up and who really cares. I am glad to hear you have good support around you.

blondiex46

Blessing for sure

Happy mother's day weekend

Sandy

magdalene51

I know, Jazzy. I have 4 sisters, all of whom know what's going on; none has reached out to me in any way. I have a friend who I met in an online group; we met for dinner and instantly connected, and she has been helping me with a garden. Grubbing in dirt is something I find very healing, and I can't really do it alone. She's a big help. Another friend sends flowers, cards, comes & sits. Others I just keep up with online. You find family where you can.

camillegal

Magdeline this is so good for u, with all of u'r problems and now this crap knowing u have someone to really ease things for u and 'r DH is wonderful, it takes stress off and u are right family isn't always blood related it's about love and caring.

Jazzy I'm so proud of all u do and how hard u work, u'r ethics are impeccable, but sometimes I worry that u get to busy so like u said take care and I know u do but just don't forget it. 

Jazzygirl

Off to work at my go live command center again. Hope everybody has a good day! 

Teka

Hermits, last night able to sleep with the bedroom window open!

SallyS70

Jazzy, that cat makes me want to give him a hug.  I am allergic to cats, but the many pictures make me feel they are a part of my life which is soothing.

Teka, so nice that you could enjoy fresh air subconsciously while you slept.  I was able to walk in the yard when I first woke up while I drank my whole glass of water which I need after taking my synthroid.  I put a pinwheel in the topless cage around my sprouting yarrow.  My DH will make a top for the cage as Sammy Squirrel climbs the cage and jumps in to feast on the yarrow.  Hopefully, the pinwheel will deter him until the cage gets a top.

Teka

Good luck, with Sammy!

blondiex46

Me too teka

Happy Saturday

magdalene51

Boy have I had a rough day. Got into a crying jag listening to music and thinking too much. And tomorrow is Mothers Day and my mom is 10 years gone and can't hold my hand through this crap. Ugh. 

Mothers Day has been rough for me for a long time. In 1970 I placed my son for adoption at age 6 weeks. In 2005 we were reunited and have had a pretty good relationship, however distant (half a continent apart). But a couple weeks ago that changed. A few days after I told him I have BC, he called me to tell me that his adoptive mother had just died, of cancer. Next week he is going to be working a few hours drive from us, and has taken a couple of extra days to come for a visit. Haven't seen him in 6 years. I can't explain the bond we have; I know he feels it too. But it's not your normal mother-son relationship by any stretch of the term. I'm glad he's coming – I hate for him to see me like I am now. For so many years I just wanted to be worth finding. I don't know that I have been, but I know he loves me, and I know that he knows without a doubt how loved he is. 

But all that is part of why I am a hermit. Thanks for listening.

Teka

*Hugs*

Jazzygirl

Mag- sorry you are having a hard day. Like many other holidays, not everything is "rosie" for folks around these days as society tells us it should be. If your mother is gone, it can be a sad time. If you did not have a nurturing mom, it can be a time of void. If you lost a child (through death or adoption), that brings all kinds of feelings too. 

Be gentle with yourself today and this weekend. There are a lot of emotions to deal with being newly diagnosed.

magdalene51

On a brighter note, though, our new furniture was delivered. Here's a pic of it in place in the den. The pillows actually came with it. My spot is second from left.

Thanks for the hugs & encouragement.

Lily55

i love your furniture.......i have one child, he stopped bothering with me two months after i was diagnosed  two years ago.......its wonderful yours is coming to visit you, have a great time

blondiex46

Mags love the furniture. ?

I am adopted n my mother wanted nothing to do with me. She is deceased. ? She died from a recurrence ofbc @ 63..so happy for both of u to have the relationship. ?

HAPPY M MOTHERS day

Sandy ♡♥♡♥♡♥

Teka

Yes, lovely furniture!

magdalene51

Lily, I'm so sorry about your son. I hope he will have a change of heart. But it is so hard when family turns their back on you, I know.

Sandy, I have known there were birthmothers out there like that but I cannot imagine such heartlessness. I often say I don't have the mom gene because I'm not like other moms I know (like my cousin) who see a child and coo over it, that's something that just got broken along the way. I never had another child, so I never had the experience of raising one, maybe that's it. But I loved my son enough to make sure he had two parents who could provide him a good education and every advantage that I couldn't. Maybe that's a mom gene after all.

Happy Mothers Day, all of you who have mothered children (including those of the 4-footed variety).

camillegal

Magdeline I agree with Jazzy---this is an emotional time for so many for different reason, but just being DX with BC just adds to it. I'm happy that u have found u'r son and he will be close to u. And u did a wonderful act by wanting him to have a good home, I miss my mom too, I think that's what was so great about Mother's day, but like I said I told my DD's to spend it with their in-laws cuz it's absolutely fine with me--I see them all the time, well I live with one and my GS so we can all get together next week. I do wish u could feel better tho. Your furniture is great--I love it, I would be in every spot any chance I got. I kind of favor the right side of that sofa actually. LOL

I hope whatever anyone is doing tomorrow it'll be a good day for all. 

Teka

camillegal

Jazzygirl

Teka- I agree! I sometimes look in the mirror and often say "who put me in my mothers body" too! I look just like my mother and have many of her fine qualities. I have also come to understand the person she was as I grow older....

Beautiful day here and enjoying some quiet time on the patio. I am taking it easy today, tired from the long go live week. I am going to stop over to see a friend who had surgery and is need of some help. As my sister says, you are going to "mother" someone who needs it today.

SallyS70

Teka ... your post about talking like our mom is so true.  My son told me that he stopped the car one day when the kids were fighting and said, "We are not going on until you stop fighting."  Then he laughed because I had done that when he was little, and he swore he would never do it.

Jazzygirl

Hi hermits- my friend I stopped to see who had surgery on Wednesday is doing much better. I had a good visit with her and her 3 year old son. He was so cute today, showing me all his little trains and then in the middle of it he looked up at me and said "I love you." Aww. Who could ask for more? 

I heard there is snow up in Denver and Wyoming. Winter won't leave the west! It is warm and windy here today.

Hope everybody is enjoying this spring day one way or another.

Basia

Hi Ladies,

Hope everyone enjoyed their Mother's Day.  I had a great time with my little ones, the weather was perfect and we did our annual tradition of going to a beautiful nursery and bought my mom plants for her garden.  Tomorrow after school the girls will help her plant them.  We bought a bunch of plants for my container garden, living in NY doesn't really allow for much of a garden so I have containers around the yard and balcony.  

waiting for the girls to fall asleep so I can watch Game of Thrones…good night ladies!

Teka