The Hermit Club

chabba

Enjoy!

Basia

Ahhh, nice quiet home! Girls communion was great! but, somehow the party moved from the restaurant to my house! I don't know how this happened, but somehow everyone decided to come back to my house after the party and continue the party for 3 more hours! Urgh! I love everyone that was here, but I was exhausted already.  

Hope everyone is enjoying this beautiful day (we finally have nice weather in NY, lets hope it lasts)

OncoWarrior

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Teka

Cool weather in the North Country!!!!!!

camillegal

Oh I love to go out for breakfast about 7PM at nite. To much trouble in the morning but these IHOP commercials are really getting me in a breakfast mood any time of day.

Basia it always works like that, I hope u can rest now and just enjoy the rest of the day. I'm glad u got to go to the Communion tho.

Onco was that u--the fourth be with u--hahaha I never heard that one.

blondiex46

Will take u in my pocket for

r breakfast tomorrow..

camillegal

I'm there/////

Jazzygirl

Quick  hi- go live going well, just long days. Here is an update from the garden.

camillegal

Jazzy lots of stuff coming up.

SallyS70

Jazzy, good to hear "go live" is going well.  Your garden must be fun to watch ... interesting variety.

camillegal

Jazzy so glad all is going well for u.

Teka

*Good Morning Hermits*

Jazzy, Lovely Photo and Good Luck!

SallyS70

Teka, thanks for the spring chuckle.  That's how I feel about getting some color planted in the garden.

Teka

Today, in the 50's.

Tomorrow, starting in the 60's.

magdalene51

Hi, I'm a hermit too.

Sticking my neck out here because I haven't had a very positive reception on some of other threads I've tried. This sounds more my speed (none). 

I'm 63, retired from my own business for about 5 years, just dxed in April with Stage IIb (or III), Grade 2, PR+/ER+. I am seeing the surgeon this afternoon. 

I will warn you, maybe it's quitting the HRT that's doing it, but I do seem to be having anger issues these days, and I'm not handling criticism or anything that sounds like reprimand. That's what's driven me from other threads and maybe nothing was meant, but it hit me wrong when this is supposed to be a forum for support. I just wish people would think about how they say things to people they don't know, because you don't know how someone else is going to interpret your words.

I've always had a hermit streak, perfectly able to entertain myself, and when I want or need company, I tend to get it in small doses. I spend most of my days on the computer, either on my laptop or iPad. 

Never raised a kid; I have a son I placed for adoption in 1970 with whom I am reunited and who lost his adoptive mom to cancer just a couple weeks ago. He's coming for a short visit next week. However, I do have several 4-footers around, whose lack of discipline has convinced me I'd be a terrible mom. So just as well.

I'll stop now. Please be kind.

Teka

magdalene51, Welcome!

I hope a pleasant visit with son next week.

sandpiper1

Teka love that PIC.......I just opened my patio door today...and left it cracked open for some fresh air. The sun is shining and the trees are in full bloom. Temp is 61F. Supposed to finally warm up this week. YEAH! Need to get my Butt in gear to go out and walk. I have been so exhausted lately... BLAH

Welcome Mag and Basia....(like the name and the singer too)

Breakfast anytime is fine by me too. I will eat breakfast foods over any other. Even do a savory oatmeal that is so yummy.

Jazzy really like the garden pic

Blondie how was the ball game?

Hugs everyone......and Happy Teachers and Nurses week to those in the profession!!!!!

Lily55

hi Magdalene and Basia, hope you find what you need with us

camillegal

Welcome Magdelina I truly hope u find this thread a good one, and hope u like u'r surgeon that u'r going to, that  so important. Wow u just got DX--I think this is such a hard time for u until all u'r plans get together and I know what's going on more and sometimes this is u'r witing time which is rough. Well let us know what the dr. says and we can help u thru this as best as we can.

dwill

Welcome Magdalene and Basia!

I think you will find us gentle here on this thread.

Well, this is teacher appreciation week and I am enjoying it.  I keep teasing my students by asking them to show me appreciation.  Well- I am talking to teens here; one told me he was showing me appreciation by coming to my class everyday! LOL!!! I thought-he has a point!  All week the school is giving us free coffee and muffins, deserts. an ice cream bar and free lunch.  Well that nice--it will be nicer when school is over with for the summer in three weeks. 

Got my new PS. He has ordered a CT Scan and my insurance company has approved it to see why I am having so much trouble with my implant the old PS inserted.   Now here come the Scanxiety.  What if....   Okay enough of that, I just dropped in to say, "Hello" to all my dear Hermits.  Dorothy

Teka

*dwill*

Jazzygirl

Magdalene- welcome to this thread. Nice group of women here and we do our best to support one another, provide helpful suggestions based on our own experiences. You are newly diagnosed and just at the beginning of this journey so hopefully those of us who have been through treatment can help with information that may be helpful to you in some way. We talk about many things here including alot of the emotional aspects of this disease, dealing with other people, etc. We are a pretty non judgmental thread and lots of good support here!

Basia- also welcome. Your comment about people not feeling like they can complain to you sort of says it all, doesn't it? You wonder when people make the decision that anyone (including us) is an appropriate dumping ground to for their woes? The good news is that those people will fall away and better people will fill in those spaces. I found out going through this who really cares and who everybody else is. We hope you like it here and find it a good place for support!

Back to go live. Miss you guys!

dwill

Teka,  Aw-w!  So sweet!  Love the picture!

magdalene51

Thank you all for your warm welcome. What a difference that makes.

Just got back from the surgeon, she is a wonderful, down-to-earth lady, and we loved her. My husband and cousin went with me. She has ordered a PET scan to see if there's further metastasis, and scheduled me for bmx on Monday May 19. I will have to have chemo, but if it hasn't spread further I may avoid radiation. And she's consulting with the oncologist I will be seeing.

I have to say it still does not seem real.

Teka

I remember *numb* was my 1st feeling with January 2010 BC Dx.

Lily55

Magdalene - just to say that in all the initial fear etc we can overlook the fact that we all, like you, have the choice about which treatments you accept, have you been given statistics on benefits to you of the treatments they are suggesting? Do you know what kind of cancer it is etc?  Having a surgeon you like and trust makes a lot of difference.....take care

magdalene51

Hi Lily

I have IDC, Stage IIb (or III), Grade 2, PR+/ER+. The surgeon said she could do a lumpectomy, but I would have to have radiation then since it is in the lymph nodes (multiple, but don't know how many yet). We have opted for the bmx because I'm just ready to be rid of these things. I was a nice average size until my 40s when they started going crazy. At 35 I was a 34B-C, at 63 I'm 44DDD and can't find bras that fit and are comfortable. I live in Tshirts and leggings most of the time, and an undershirt that I tuck up under the girls so I don't get sweaty. What was the question again? Oh. Treatments and statistics, no I have no idea. I know that my Ki-67 number is 30%. 

My sister-in-law had BC many years ago and had a single mastectomy and has always wished she could have had double, but they wouldn't do it since hers was one side. Things are different now. 

If the PET scan is positive for mets she will just install ports for neoadjuvant chemo if that is what the oncologist determines.

Basia

Thanks for the warm welcome! 

Looks like May 19th is a good day for surgery! My PS's office called and asked me if the 19th works for me and they will call me back tomorrow to confirm.  May is not my favorite month, I am actually a bit scared of going under on the 19th.  I am superstitious in some ways.  On May 18,1993 I was in a horrible accident, flat-lined many times, broke almost everything on the right side of my body and was in a coma for several days.  My family was told IF I woke up, I would not be myself and probably will not walk again(proved them all wrong that time!).  But there is the uncomfortable feeling that comes along with going thru all of that and having surgery that week.  I have to think positive, my husband keeps reminding me that I beat the odds in May 1993 and its a good time to beat the odds again this May.  

Basia

Oh, and who was talking about breakfast?  I love breakfast for dinner!

SallyS70

Basia and Magdaline (sorry if I misspelled), you will both be in my thoughts as you prepare for surgery.  Waiting was hard for me and, I read, many others.  Keep posting so we can give you support and virtual hugs.