Here's what cheezed me off today

Anonymous

Ok nuff talk already. Let' Eat!!!

Anonymous

Hey what's with all these cheesy politics stuff?

Now I'm mad. Even the Mods are Mads!!!

Anonymous

I started this thread in 2011 so that people could come here and vent, cry, laugh, and seek support. Because let's face it, no one knows your journey like another person who's been dx'ed. We all live with fear every day and I just want you to know, I'm with you! I think the greatest gift we can give each other is kindness. I don't discuss politics because Washington is going to do what Washington is going to do, no matter who's in office. We can only keep pushing for more cancer research and hope for the best. Sorry I haven't been around much, but my mother is critically ill and I travel 2 hours to her town to take her to dr. visits and give my sister a break. I try to go every 2 weeks and stay as long as I can.This has been going on for 2 years and it's harder than I can tell you because she's been my only parent since my dad died when I was 13. She doesn't have the internet so I post and check in when I can. My mom is now bedridden and it is breaking my heart so I don't come around as much as my news is rarely good.That being said, I do welcome everyone to come here and sit a spell. Let's keep this a safe place to visit. We can all have a difference of opinion, it's ok. Cheezers, we NEED each other. Now I sound like my prissy 10th grade World History teacher so, I'll leave it at that. Just remember that I love you Cheezers no matter what!

Rocky, how is your mom? I know we're rowing the same boat and some days it feels like the Titanic. We just had 2 more skin cancers removed from my mother's face and now we've been told she's going to have to have another eye surgery because of a hard film that's developed on her corneas. I didn't think that could happen after her cataract surgery but what do I know? I'm trying to get her to have a second opinion. She's just not strong enough to keep having so many medical procedures. This sucks!

It's great to see some new people on the thread. Welcome and please take Rock's advice and read this thread from the beginning. Some of the stuff is hilarious and unbelievable! If I hadn't lived it, I would sometimes think it's a Tim Burton script. I'll try to be around more, Mom's health permitting.

Scwilly, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's dx. I'm sending you prayers and hugs! Please let us know how he is doing.

valstim52, we once said we were going to carry around those bum wipes so that when stupid people say stupid things like that lady, we can hand them one because they must have s%#t for brains. May be time to implement that idea. I admire your restraint!

Gmmiph, I loved the photo of the cat with the turkey. That bird wouldn't last long in my house because of our new kitten. He has to have a time-out about every hour for his bad behavior. The other day, he got so mad about being put in his kennel that he turned it into an outhouse! If he were human, he'd be in juvie by now!

That's all for now, Cheezers! I'll try to check back in soon. Be kind, be crazy and be a Survivor. Love to you all!

M0mmyof3

Hubby and I were talking and we were thinking of going over to Aldi's to see about the prices of turkey's there. Saw in the store ad they had turkeys for 99 cents per pound

Lisey

Thanks for the Welcome Rohanna... I have this as a favorite now, and I'm not going anywhere.. I'm glad the mods stepped in, but I didn't call their attention to it - they must have been following along as well.

I had a Plastics appointment - (first PS didn't make me as flat as I want), drove an hour to get there.. only to be told it was cancelled due to Docs emergency surgery. They claim they called me. They didn't. Yup... that's a pisser.

deevee903

Ya know what really is pissing me off??

At 8 months into this BC bullshit journey, ppl expect me to be ALLLLL BETTER!!

Make a Thanksgiving dinner, babysit the kids, go back to work at 100% and be happy.

I'm lucky to have dodged a bullet, but Ill never be all better nor the same.....Thanks for this thread!

M0mmyof3

Dee, some people don't use the brains they were born with.

magiclight

Rockym... appreciate the history of this thread. Your question what is PMPS - it is Post Mastectomy Pain Syndrome which was first described in the late 1970's and affects between 20-30% of women having mastectomies or lumpectomies. There is a thread here on PMPS with loads of info from women experiencing PMPS. Sadly, what Cheezes me off is that after all this time there are no overall successful treatments, lots of trial and error approaches with a few random successes.

Rohanna...kitty juvi (LOL) I have a puppy juvi - yesterday I worked outside for about 15 minutes using some limeaway so did not want puppy near it and left him in the house - free. My bad! I found that he ate a dinner plate size hole in a blue rubber shower mat. Could only find a few pieces, so obviously he swallowed quite a bit..Now watching for blue man poo. And so it goes

Rockym

deevee, I believe the media and/or our society has down played the after-effects of breast cancer. Sure, we go though individual treatment, but when all is said and done, we are left without much emotional support. There was a thread years ago called "Why was I stronger DURING treatment than I am now?" I don't know how active it still is, but it was very helpful to be able to discuss with other ladies what we were feeling. Many of us felt as if we were in an PTSD situation and had to find various ways to deal with it. I truly get what you are saying. We rock the illness, go to our appointments, do the surgery, chemo, etc. and then we are kinda left hanging.

Trust me, you will feel better as time goes on, but for now you have every right to be pissed off. Whoever is expecting you to simply go back to your past life needs a wake up call. I believe I gave my husband a letter that pointed out the top ten things I went though (sometimes it's easier when they see it in writing) and the next ten things I expected for the future. Just a suggestion :-). Be well.

Rockym

rohanna, I am so glad to hear of the new kitty! It took me couple of years after the loss of my 19 year old before bringing a new kitten in. I have two orange tabbys now. They look so much alike I have to take a second look sometimes. I sent you a PM about mom and life in general. It's crazy that we take care of our marriages, then our kids, then ourselves and now we are back to taking care of our moms.

magiclight, thanks for the info.., I didn't know that is what it was called. I had shooting electric like pains for sometime after my surgery. The doctors told me it was the nerves healing, etc. I was never one for pain meds so I just hung in there. I think one of the worst situations for me was due to the lymph node removal, I either had Lymphedema or something very much like it. One breast was a D while the other was a B. Having to come to grips with that was rough. I believe I was a year out at the time, but my BS told me he had seen it before and that they would even out. Easy for him to say as I was stuffing my smaller side to match up :-). Either way, he was correct and now I am back to a 36C. Hopefully whatever pain you are feeling subsides in time. Scar tissue, nerves, lymph fluid, etc. can can so much stress on our bodies.

magiclight

Rockym...someone compared all the post breast cancer treatment side effects to having a rotten tree cut down in your yard but the tree fell on your house. Definitely something to be cheesed off about when not told of the post surgical traumas.

Rockym

Definately! No one told me that when all was said and done, the cancer may be gone (remission, NED, whatever..), but that my body was going to be way ticked off. When we are in treatment, some of us experience the fight or flight response and others see us and think we are terrific, but they don't realize how much healing occurs afterwards. Heck, I recall at least one of the ladies in my chemo group having to deal with her hair not growing back. I mean really?? No one mentioned that some of chemos we were doing had a fairly high percentage of permanent hair loss. I think that one went to a class action lawsuit, but money can only help so much.

M0mmyof3

My hubby still sees me struggle from time to time with post-chemo issues. He doesn't hold it against me and gives me all the support he can.

Lulu22

Speaking of post-chemo issues, one of the things that really pissed me off was this- I went into this whole BC thing in about my best shape ever. I'd given up soda and sugar and I was running 3 miles a day. I felt sharp and sexy. 6 months after chemo ended I wanted to be back to normal, but chemo had thrown me into menopause so all of a sudden my hair was thin, I gained weight even looking at a plate of pasta, my skin had lost elasticity, and I'd gone through the lovely vaginal atrophy no one ever tells you about. I felt like my body had aged 10-20 years in one.

I didn't mind going temporarily bald and could handle the loss of my breasts but dammit, I don't want to feel like an old lady!

Rockym

Lulu, Besides the BS, MO and RO, they should also have a Breast Cancer Counselor in the team. How I would have loved a personal coach to talk to about boobs and body issues without feeling like a complaining bitch back then. So many out there want us to be happy we're alive and that there is treatment, blah, blah, blah. I also didn't expect menopause to hit me like a ton of bricks. It effing sucks. I was also very physically fit and healthy so the idea that I even got cancer was a lot to take in. Yep, overnight menopause was probably worse then the cancer treatment.

Anonymous

Mommyof2, Aldi's is a great idea for turkey. I find some really good bargains there sometimes but I hear the turkeys sell out really fast. Luckily this year, I get to bring the dressing and desserts. My two favorites. There is a Mennonite bakery between my house and my sister's that sells the most heavenly baked goods so that's my plan. I make the dressing in my crock pot .Take every short cut you can and take care of yourself first. My onc. told me that everyone who goes through this has PTSD so when I get really cheezed of and lose it, I just blame it on that. Besides, I can't get back to normal, I was never normal to begin with.

Deevee903, next time someone expects you to be back to your pre-dx self, tell them your anti-psychotic meds haven't kicked in yet. Watch 'em run!

magiclight, thanks for the info on PMPS. I agree with Rocky that we should have a counselor when we go through this. It would have helped so much. I find more info on these threads than I ever did from any of my doctors. My issues were with my left breast and I still find that after 5 years, if I turn a certain way, I get something like a charlie horse in the chest muscles on that side. I mentioned it to my onc, and got nothing from him. Anyone else experience this? I got such a kick out of "blue man poo"! Best laugh I've had in ages! My sister just got a Yorkie puppy and he is a holy terror. Soooooo cute and sweet but he's in mischief mode 24/7. We rescue kitties and rehome them. How's that going? Well, right now we have 9 fur babies looking for a home but I think they've already found it. Our "permanent baby" is a looney tune. I found him in the dishwasher yesterday!

Lulu22, this menopause stuff sucks! I don't know about you, but I was never told in detail what to expect. When my daughter and I see an ED commercial on TV, we yell "it's male menopause, deal with it!"

Have a great night, Cheezers! I love you more than cake!

Anonymous

Oh and if I haven't mentioned it, I LOOOOVVE the pictures of your furbabies. My profile picture is our beloved Siamese that we lost a few months ago. He was 21. I'll try to post a picture of our new little terror, Seamus, if I can get his hyper butt to be still long enough! It would be great if everyone would post some pictures of the hairy members of your family. Wait, did I say "hairy members"?! Oh that can't be right.

Icietla

My little boy.

Anonymous

OMG! Icietla, he is absolutely gorgeous! I love black cats! What's his name? And if I haven't welcomed you before, WELCOME! And I love his pillow. My little terror has a sock monkey pillow. And a thing for monkeys. He won't play with his box full of jingly toys but give him a long-armed stuffed monkey and the battle is on!

M0mmyof3

Icietla, I'm a black cat mommy too. The cat in my avatar was my beloved boy Charcoal. Lost him to kidney failure two years ago this week. Two weeks after losing him I got another black cat, my baby girl Princess.

deevee903

I love this thread! It makes me smile and vent at the same time. Thanks ladies xox

Icietla

Rohanna, Rockym, and MOmmyof2, I am so sorry about your furbabies passing on. We can fairly expect that our hearts will be broken later with each one that comes to us, but we give them our hearts anyway, because some of us just have to, and the ones who have gone before would want us to keep going that way for others.

Bunny is our first cat. I think that photo up there is from about a year ago, when he was still a kitten. After our having to wind up, for compelling health reasons, some ten years of small mammal critical care, this boy and his litter came to us at four days old, unfed since they were orphaned the day prior. The others were later adopted (whew!), and we kept this one for his well-being (and, as I am sure you will understand, for our own *special needs*). He has had colorectal dysfunction all his life. Genes can be so cruel.

Bunny loves the little puffy fish when they have been detached from wand toys. He loves chasing and playing soccer with wads of paper. He is especially fond of paper grocery bags. Now it is chilly at night, and he misses his nightly Gecko Show at the window kept undressed for that routine.

Wren44

Black cats rule! Squeakers is my 3rd black cat and I have fostered many more. I like their personalities.

Rockym

Years ago, I had a grey and a black kitty and both were female. Now I have two tabbys and they are both male. Luey and Simon. My husband says I picked them because they matched the house. I actually got them about 3 years apart and simply wanted kitties who were different from the first two.

Wren44

I once had a golden lab/shepherd mix and an orange tabby. There's a lot to be said for cats that match your house.

M0mmyof3

My boy Chatcoal was pretty laid back. Princess is so different, I often joke I should have named her Demon Child because she gets into everything

magiclight

Mom...So that is the other side of cats- just did not think that they got into trouble maybe because they are sleeping and lounging about in most images.

Wren44

I think they're photographed sleeping and lounging because they're moving too fast the rest of the time. I have taken millions of photos of cats rear ends while they left the scene.

M0mmyof3

Mine looks at me like "I'm so innocent" when I catch her getting into troubl

Anonymous

Just dropped in to check on some friends. Been gone a long long time. Some I knew / know have disappeared for weeks and months.

What I got from this page - ALDI'S. We could have bought our turkey from Aldi's! And have duly threatened Hubby to take the turkey back to M___'s and go get one for lesser cost. You guys are great.

Squirrel feeding wild turkeys in our yard.

Diane (Essa)