Here's what cheezed me off today

Rockym

You have chosen to come to this thread Lisey and you are more than welcome to leave. If you noticed, there were no question marks in my first post and I was not looking to hold a discussion regarding a man that many of us find repulsive. I have been part of this thread since 2011 and we come here to talk about what pisses us off, joke and give each other support. We do not come to argue political ideology. Perhaps you should start a separate thread where you may find someone to argue points with you. I wished you good health and I will do the same again.

If anyone feels unsafe posting "what cheezed then off today," then do what we tell our kids to do in this situation. Walk away.

Lulu22

I'm cheezed off that for the third time in 5 years I have to have the "Guess what kids? Your parent has cancer!" conversation. This time it's their dad, and I know they will be devastated anew.

I'm also cheezed that because he's being treated at the same hospital as I was, on a floor that looks exactly like mine, just 2 levels down, it's bringing back all the anxiety I felt 5 and then 2 years ago. Then of course I feel guilty that I'm so self-absorbed that I'm thinking about (obsessing over if you want to know the truth) my health when I need to be concentrating on my amazing, loving, scared husband who did such a tremendous job helping me through my 2 encounters with BC.

Lisey

You don't own this thread and telling me I'm welcome to leave because of your divisive and completely repulsive posts is pretty bullying of you. MANY PEOPLE are asking you to stop... Just because you've been here since 2011, doesn't mean there is a hierarchy of power and you can be a bully. You don't own this thread, stop acting like it.

Wren44

Lulu, What a nightmare. Of course him being on a similar floor is bringing back all your bad memories. I would dread having the conversation with my kids too. You will be able to gather your strength and be there for him as well. If you don't have a good support person, consider a counselor. I hope is prognosis is good. You'll be able to support him as well as he did when it was you. Hugs.

Anonymous

Oh-oh, Do i smell a catfight in here?

Rockym vs. Lisey! for the World's Heavy Breast Division Title!

Lisey

Ha Ha Ha.. I'm a light weight... half my weight was in my boobs

Anonymous

Lisey, i guess youre right. Who would have ever had a double mastectomy twice one month apart?

Here's 2 pineapples to even up the odds.

🍍🍍

LOL!!!

Scwilly

Rockym: Thankyou for your support. Much needed for me at this time. Does your husbands status remind him of that Sting record (oh this shows my age) "Englishman in New York" - does me.

Lulu22: so sorry you have had such devistating news. I can imagine what the memories it must bring. I wish your husband comfortable and successful treatment.

Linsey and Gmmiph: I'm with Rockym - this thread should be for those wanting to vent and for others to sympathize. I post politically because it has cause me anger at such a bad time. Others are quite justified in their anger and fear of changes that might be afoot. Please use this thread to vent and rant your own topics that have cheesed you off and please feel safe posting and supporting your position and choice of vote. However, this thread is not the place for disparaging fellow cancer sufferers. I won't post on this again ven if you reply, but will use my posts to support others or express my personal frustrations.

M0mmyof3

So cheezed off today. My parents are coming to my house for Thanksgiving. I wanted to get a good sized turkey breast so I wouldn't have so much leftover from Thanksgiving. But when I talked to my mom yesterday I point blank got told to that getting a turkey breast was not good enough as she wants dark meat as well. I am furious! She is not the one who has to prep and cook the fricken thing, I am. When I told my hubby about it, he was just as furious! It is going to be just four of us having turkey, not a dozen people. I don't see why I have to buy a full turkey for just four people!!!!

Anonymous

Scwilly,

Im a lover, not a fighter. I am not from the US but we also have a crappy president.

Beatmon

MOmmyof2: why not just have your Mom bring the turkey then? I'm with her, definitely do not enjoy the breast...but I would certainly bring the turkey! Or get a honey baked and let them do the work

Anonymous

Did anyone mention turkey???

Here's a nice one for the taking...

M0mmyof3

lol That made my day.

Rockym

Lulu, I am so sorry to hear that your family not only went through this the first time, but has to deal with it again... Uggg. We have been venting here for years and it's a great place for such. This thread wasn't as active for a bit, as many of us have passed the 5 year mark, but please come and yell, bitch or whatever makes you feel better. We are here.

Scwilly, Every time I see your name with Westlake Village, I smile. Something about the pic of you smiling with the coffee cup shows that even through this cancer crap, it looks like you are positive person. I also imagine California and a lot of green ivy when I see your location. I visit Los Angeles every few months since I still take care of my mother's home. I moved her out here about a year ago, but selling the place didn't make sense since the appreciation on real estate in that area continues to rise. I try to look at it as an investment and not the home I grew up in.

Rohanna started this thread back in 2011 and we became close friends via this group. There was something about being ticked together that made it manageable. I come to BCO to see if I can offer support for those who are dealing with what I did, but I also come to find my old friends and see what's happening in our lives. If you ever want a good laugh, read the thread from the beginning. I still laugh at some of the things we were saying back then. When it comes to new posters, we have always been supportive when things tick them off. You will never find anything in this thread other then that. Thanks for the support.

Valstim52

As a lurker and sometimes poster, I thought we could post whatever 'cheezed' us off. I didn't think politics was off limits? we can agree to disagree,but when you start saying I can't say this or that on a thread, that's when I feel threatened. If you don't like it, then don't read it? I mean we still have the unique commonality of having BC I hope we don't forget that. Just my 2 cents. This for me is a safe environment to express my opinion, not to get folks to necessarily agree, just to say it and see what comes back. I have to say I do like reading all sides.

BTW I like the cats gmmph...

Scwilly in your pocket fellow IBC sister. Lulu words cannot express my sorrow. You are entitled to be cheezed off and anything else.

M0mmy so agree with you. I've come from the 30 pound birds to just a breast being enough. But i have to prep, store and then deal with the leftovers. They are endless by the way and unlike the lies on the food cooking shows, the do NOT freeze well. So no one wants to hear about me doing a turkey breast or a 10 pound bird , but guess what? thats what they are getting. Or I hear Cracker Barrel does a wonderful Thanksgiving Dinner. Hmph

So, what cheezed me off this week, I'm at the cancer center for my port flush and a lady sits next to me and begins to ask me what I did to keep my hair. I tell her that this is new growth, she then starts to attack me saying I didnt really have cancer if it grew back that fast. I was speechless. My last chemo was 4/18 and I have maybe 2 inches of hair. I let her see my mouth hang open. To take such liberties with someone you dont' know? or know for that matter. Speechless.

Spookiesmom

you want to discuss politics go to the thread that supports your view. Invitation only on either

Scwilly

Valstim52 - thank you for your kind wishes. My chin is hanging low in unison. What the heck! Why on earth do people think they need to be so competitive with BC or any kind of cancer. It reminds me of the movie Bambi - and Thumpers Mum who says 'If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!' For me, my hair loss was such a personal thing that was thrown into the public arena for comment and judgement. My poor British personality was shocked at how direct some people were.

Rockym: that pic was for 'Solidarity-tea' for a British radio soap character (BBC the Archers) who was charged with stabbing her abusive husband. I try to stay positive. I read on one of the threads someone who was stage 4 gave advise for people who were worried about progression, that if you are dx then you will never wish you spent more time worrying.

Gmmiph: Great attitude and I love that Turkey. Wonder who it's PS was! Lol

Sarah

M0mmyof3

Well I am at the point if I have to get more than just a turkey breast that I am getting one that weighs no more than 12 lbs. If that isn't good enough, Oh Well!

Despite my family wanting me and hubby to travel the two hours it takes to get to where they live in Rhode Island, I am staying home for Christmas!

Wren44

Mommy, Lots of stores here have cooked turkeys to pick up the night before. Costs a little more, but perhaps worth it.

Moderators

Dear Members,

We realize that this is the "Here's What Cheezed Me Off Today" thread, however, we have asked our members to refrain from making political posts anywhere but in the two threads that are designated for such in this community. You can find them here I Say Yes and here Mirror. We ask that you select the thread that most represents your views and that you refrain from posting on both threads.

As you can imagine the entire community might be filled with posts related to the recent election and arguments might erupt with differing opinions. We simply cannot moderate this level of discussion. Please abide by the rules of conduct that we have laid out for these types of posts and discussions. Regardless of the forum we ask that all of our members communicate with respect and civility on any topic that is discussed in this community.

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magiclight

Lisey. Really??? You say " I think for the safety of ALL the members in this community politics and especially attacks on Trump and his voters be stopped." Where were you when I and other like minded folks wanted the Donald to stop attacking Hispanics, women, handicapped individuals, Muslims, etc, etc., Oh Yeah, you are paraphrasing Donald telling peaceful protesters to just 'stop it' when even he can't stop tweeting.

Lulu22

I know we all have strong feelings about the election but it would be a shame for this thread to be shut down.

I also want to thank those who responded to my post. It's been a tough week and I've really needed the support I find on BCO. Y'all are keeping me sane, or at least as sane as I can be as I sit here in a hospital waiting room

Lisey

Magiclight, I am NOT going to be baited to respond to divisive political comments on me or my vote. I will simply REPOST the mods statement regarding this thread.

Dear Members,

We realize that this is the "Here's What Cheezed Me Off Today" thread, however, we have asked our members to refrain from making political posts anywhere but in the two threads that are designated for such in this community. You can find them here I Say Yes and here Mirror. We ask that you select the thread that most represents your views and that you refrain from posting on both threads.

As you can imagine the entire community might be filled with posts related to the recent election and arguments might erupt with differing opinions. We simply cannot moderate this level of discussion. Please abide by the rules of conduct that we have laid out for these types of posts and discussions. Regardless of the forum we ask that all of our members communicate with respect and civility on any topic that is discussed in this community.

We appreciate your consideration.

The MOds

magiclight

Mods et al: Why can't I find the threads you mention in the active topics?

Rockym

Hi Magiclight, welcome to the cheezed group. Come here an vent whenever you feel the need. We have never had a moderator post to our thread before and we have talked about some very wild things. Now that the mods made a statement, I am hoping this means those who came here to blab on and on and disrespect our thread and group will soon be gone. One can only hope. We have talked about many topics here over the years and never did someone come on here to try and push their agenda. Those who constantly try to prove themselves with unsolicited opinions typically don't believe their own words anyway.

magiclight

Rockym: I just found this thread and responded to a post. However, I tend to vent about my PMPS on that and the iron bra thread. I'll watch my P's and Q's - I did google that term and remain confused as to origin(s) and why the Q. As for the 'cheesed part', I just watched the last episode of Grace and Frankie and Frankie indicated that she used cheesed to mean pissed. If you have not seen that episode or series I seriously recommend it as a way to refocus being cheesed

Rockym

Magiclight, I loved Grace and Frankie and was totally sad when I finished the last season. Rohanna started this group years ago and used the term "Cheezed" with the z intentionally in the heading. We have had so many experiences in our lives that were either rough as hell or funny as can be. Our families, friends and even the doctors who came in adn uot of our lives were always conversation here. Because many of us are now 5 years out, this thread isn't as active. Kids in college, caring for aging mothers and trying to still get along with your husband after 30 years seems to take precedent. What is PMPS?

M0mmyof3

Might have found a cheap solution to the turkey situation.

Spookiesmom

they are NOT listed on the active threads. Use the search function to find them.

Valstim52

M0mmyof2 please share...