Spirited and Lively Older Women Thread

Elisimo

Well my post just went to never-never land.

HnS - I know exactly what you are going through as I am dealing with the same thing with my siblings and my Mom's estate.  I will be so glad when everything is finished so the fighting will end.  Maybe it will end anyway, if not then I don't have to be around them anymore.

DM - how was the day with the kids?  Was there much blood? ;-) 

heartnsoul76

AmyJo - it's so hard and stressful, and I just hope it doesn't end up with everyone estranged from each other. And there's just one causing trouble, but greed causes others to follow. So sad.

Prayers for peace and good results going up for you, Alyson. ((HUGS))

QCA

Alyson, hugs and prayers for you as you wait.

HnS, the estate, such as it was, wasn't a problem when my dad died a year ago.  It was only me and my sister, and the lawyer just sent us each a check for half.  We'd already had to dispose of Daddy's house prior to his death, and that money went for his care.  My DH's mother's things were a different story, as there were 7 children, no money to speak of, but tons of "possessions" like her crocheted afghans and needlework, and it was the sisters who were the problem.  I wisely stayed away from the division of her things, since I was"just" a spouse.  Took years to settle down, but it did.  Unlike my family, his is crazy!  (He might view things differently, though!)

Kathy

3jaysmom

when my mom passed, it was like a lock between my sister and i switched.. since i hadn't a care as to what i wanted, i let her decide what of her possesions she got. there was only one thing i wanted, and i knew it had already been discussed, it went to my siter. its' the one who lives the longest property now. nothing of worth, some lawn ornament myy mom loved... so, its' safe in Daytona... my mom put everyone 's $$ in trust for them before she died, so no problems, and my sister and i don't talk often, but when we do, its; ok.. she tried to be there for me with the bc; and to me, thats' what counts...not things...

   all is well here. im having horrific pain from my knees turning, so cooling it.. it was a busy week, with drs, etc., and my body just aint right lately.. gonna get in bed with ice, the dog, and a good book tonight. but i'll check in to see if all is well withn Chrissy B.s DD and Alyson... later.......3jays

SoCalLisa

we made it to Bruges,can't seem to post any pix we go to the ship on Sunday

hugs all around

Anonymous

Lisa!  Isn't that the place they filmed a movie at?...think that was in the title even. It was a comedy.  Barb is posting pics for you.

Alyson, When will you get results? 

Alyson

All's well, adhesions would you believe. I certainly need a drink.

QCA

Whew!  Now I need a drink!  I was worried, Alyson, but adhesions, that's great!

Kathy

Valjean

Alyson, great, great news! I'll join ya'll in a drink!

Valjean

When a great-uncle of mine passed away, my Uncle got so pissed at my Father because he inherited 50% as my Uncle did, they don't speak to each other to this day!! And they were/are grown men!  And then when my dear grandfather passed, their Father, it almost became an all-out war. To this day, they walk past each other like they never knew each other, let alone are brothers.

Families can be heartbreaking....

heartnsoul76

Oh, Alyson! Great news! I'll drink to that, too!

Valjean - isn't it ridiculous? And sad! 

BarbaraA

((ALYSON))) So happy it is nothing. Well, nothing bad.

I PM'd my email to Lisa and she will email me pix to post, since she can't from there. CAN'T WAIT!! My internet pix are nothing compared to hers!

Valjean, my husband was an only child and his mother started having Alzheimers ten years before she died. Her sister went to visit her and had her sign over her investment account to her. So when the will was probated, the account was gone. He found out from the investment company that the aunt cashed out the account five years before she died. Despicable. He has no contact with his family for obvious reasons.

Isabella4

Alyson...so pleased its 'only' adhesions !!!!

Isabella.

Valjean

Barbara ~ My Uncle had my Grandparents, not fulling understanding what they were doing & while my Father lived out-of-state, sign a Quitclaim Deed over to him. My Dad had to threaten court action & news media to get my Uncle to reverse it. It all came out after my G-ma passed before G-pa did. My G-pa was so pi**ed, but still left half of estate to each brother. (this was for the home G-parents had owned since 1951 with lots of property.) Then when G-pa passed, entire family (4 cousins on Unc's side, my bro & me on Dad's side) showed up at his newed purchased home (renovated in town garage) even tho Uncle's side had said they didn't want anything. When it comes to getting something for nothing, everyone comes out of the woodwork!!  Those were very tough days to get through. Nobody talking to each other at the funeral, people glaring at each other while rifling through my Grandpa's belongings....god, it was awful....

And it was very hard for me as I was, & still am, very close to my Aunt, she has been like a Mother to me ever since my Mom passed away. I was put RIGHT in the middle.

Familes hurt families more deeply than strangers would.

Alyson ~ I may have mentioned already, but will again: Love those adhesions!!!!

Elisimo

Alyson - glad to hear the good news.

My family only get together when someone wants something.  We are not and never have been close.  My younger sister insist on making everything a drama event and always blames everyone else for her poor choices in life.  I am glad I got an attorney to help me with all of this so when all is over no one can say anyone took advantage of anyone. 

marlegal

I don't mean to make anyone else feel bad, I'm only posting as a means to show gratefulness for my siblings. Dad died when we were all young, but when Mom died, leaving very little, we all gathered at her place and were able to amicably divide what was left (not money at all, just possessions). One item that we all wanted caused a little tension, but in years since then we just rag on the brother who got it (took it) 'cause it never worked after that night!!!  Hub has one sister and when their father died we told her since she cared for him for many years, she could have whatever she wanted. The money he had was divided equally, and then we gave her part of ours since she had done way more than we had. Just saying this so if others who haven't faced it yet got scared, sometimes it can work out well.  I thank God every day for my siblings...they are my rocks and my friends.

Hugs to all who may still be in treatment, and smooches to everyone 'cause it's Friday!!

3jaysmom

yeah //ALYson!!"just" adhesions.. i don't think they can stretch them, either, on the chest wall, can they? im having some i got thru 2nd surgery stretched in PT ; not fun... im soooo pleased with your results!!!3jays

BarbaraA

Mary, You are very blessed to have close family.

Tonight is the play, Rent, being performed in a park dowtown by the bay. Should be a blast. Then after we will go see DH's band and grab a bite to eat. Should be a fun Saturday.

Hope everyone has a great weekend.

Dilly

Hey ladies -

Lisa, glad to hear you're beginning your adventure. I hear Bruges is beautiful.

BarbA, I'm so glad you and Lisa found a way to get some of her pix to us as she travels - eagerly anticipating.



Also glad to know you contacted SV, I've been concerned for her.



Family estates: can be horrible. I've seen families fight over the food left in the fridge. (my ex's)

HnS, I hope things go ok for you! I was a bit concerned when my mother passed a few years ago, but my bro and I worked things out pretty easily after all. That was a real relief. I'm so sorry so many folks have such difficult families - good grief people can be underhanded. As BarbA said, once money (or family "treasures") is involved, all bets are off, and true character shows itself.



Nothing fun planned for this week, yet. It's the start of bake sale season in our community, and I have made some promises. DH has to go to the Bay area for work (he normally telecommutes). The place our crowd usually celebrates Easter has 5' of snow, so that's out. We'll see what the week brings.



Meanwhile, I hope you all have a pleasant weekend.

BarbaraA

Lisa emailed me some pix. Here is one and I added a link to an album I created for her pix on Photobucket. Awesome!!

http://s901.photobucket.com/albums/ac213/barbaraarcher/Lisas%20Pix/

River_Rat

Barbara, thanks for posting Lisa's pics.  Beautiful!  I hope that Lisa's having a most wonderful adventure.

chrissyb

The pics from Lisa sure are great!  Thanks Barb!

BarbaraA

Here are some more pix she sent.

http://s901.photobucket.com/albums/ac213/barbaraarcher/Lisas%20Pix/Dinner%20in%20Bruges/

http://s901.photobucket.com/albums/ac213/barbaraarcher/Lisas%20Pix/Windmills/

3jaysmom

thanks, Lisa, thru Barbara..Barbara; you're our resident techie!!

   Isabella, glad you fouund a younger, cutier, more reliable techie, too!!!     3jays

marlegal

wow, those pictures truly look like professional, doctored shots, they are sooo perfect!!!  What an awesome talent Lisa has, and Barbara you've done them proud - thanks so much for sharing

BarbaraA

Lisa just ROCKS!!!

Anonymous

I want to go to Bruges!! 

Elisimo

BarbaraA - thanks for posting the link to the album of Lisa's pics.  They are so beautiful.  Also thanks for checking on me this afternoon during the storms.  They came too close for comfort and even DH was in the closet with me and Daisy the dog.  And he never goes into the closet!  He even went upstairs and got a twin mattress off the daybed to put on top of us.  Fortunate the only thing we lost was the power for a few hours.  And it is evidently back on now since I am connected again!

There are so many that have lost so much.  Would you believe my sister's DH (not dear) called to "check to see if they would need to take over all the estate stuff!" All they want is complete control over everything, possessions and money.  I almost said yes and just let her handle all the headaches and all the legalities that are involved.  That way if anything was done wrong or not done according to the will the law would be after her.  And I could honestly say I had no idea what she had done.  But I didn't, since some one has to look out for our little brother.  He the only one that could care less about any of this.  My little sister, and all Mom's neices and nephews is a different story.  Funny how no one had a clue how to contact the neices and nephews and had not seen them for at least 10 years and now they show up.  Enought of my rant.

Marybe - got your passport?  We could go together. 

BarbaraA

{{{AMYJO}}} So glad you are OK. My friend in Cary was fine, also. Very blessed. That was a terrible storm system. When did Raleigh turn into tornado alley?

Elisimo

Not sure when that happened. It was scary.  We moved here from OK and there you can see them coming, but here the trees block the view so you have to just listen for them coming.  Fortunately the only thing we lost was the power for a few hours.  That turned out to be not so bad. We had an evening picnic on the back porch with candles and it was so nice that we may do it again on purpose!