I Come to the Garden...

KAJDerby

Oh those pictures sure make me miss Matt!!!  I am thankful for my husband, our children, and BC.org!  This year would have been very difficult without all of God's "Angels"!!

deborye

Thanksgiving Prayer

Our Father in Heaven,
We give thanks for the pleasure
Of gathering together for this occasion.
We give thanks for this food
Prepared by loving hands.
We give thanks for life,
The freedom to enjoy it all
And all other blessings.
As we partake of this food,
We pray for health and strength
To carry on and try to live as You would have us.
This we ask in the name of Christ,
Our Heavenly Father.  

Meece

Oh, Eph, you always know what to say to make me feel good.

It is so hard to get family pictures where all three boys are with me, It has been 4 years ago in April. I get two together, but not the three.

I am thankful that I had a wonderful day with DS & DIL.  Probably one of the best days the three of us have had.  

Have a wonderful night my friends, and have a great time cooking, eating, celebrating and being with friends and family tomorrow.

chrissyb

HAPPY THANKSGIVING ALL  !!!!!!!!

Raj20

Happy thanksgiving  to all .. I extend  from India.

Meece

Happy Thanksgiving.

deborye

I hope everyone had a Bountiful Thanksgiving.

Meece

Very nice other than Dh is ill.  I feel so badly that he hasn't been able to participate as he usually does.  The dinner was fantastic, and nothing turned out wrong , over cooked or undercooked. 

Our Father knew I needed an easy day.

susantm

 

Hope everyone is having a restful day--or a productive one if you went Black Friday shopping!

deborye

Yes, everything went well for dinner on this side of the US.  I took my time cooking, I started the day before and could put everything out in the mudroom since it was in the low 30's. The only thing I had to do was cook the bird and make the gravy and cook the stuffing.  I always do that outside the bird.  Less stressful that way.  

3jaysmom

yep, exhausted, but " on the hunt" i was one of the crazies out last night. its' easier for me, because im a night walker, anyway ..thats' night  walker.. not street walker  lol.. got almost all of my shopping done in 2 stores, in 31/2 hours. not worried about any of it now. and i enjoyed the "retail Therapy"  !!   3jays

Meece

I did absolutely no shopping at all.  I tok my DSs #1 & #3, DIL(with baby on board) and FDIL out to shoot sporting clays.  DH is suffering from a bad cold and opted out.  It made for a long day but we all had fun and no crowds at all.  We hit Michael's on the way home for additional cookie decorating stuff and I will be making cookies today with anyone who is up for it.  DH hs become extremely grouchy and I will need to keep my distance to keep my sanity.  Why is it that men are the worst patients when they feel bad?

Meece

barbe1958

They really ARE the worst patients! And sometimes not such understanding nurses either!!!

Congrats on 7 years Meece! May you have many many, many more 7 year celebrations!!!!

Meece

Thank you.

I think someone has got the message I am tired of the crankiness.  I pray that I will have more compassion as this day wears on.

barbe1958

When my not-so-DH gets sick he raises the collar on his housecoat and goes moaning and groaning around the house. That's a red-flag for me and I get out of target range! ehehheheheh

sheila888

Happy Celebration Meece.♥♥♥♥♥

sheila888

Eph3_12

Love the victory dance at the foot of the cross!  And the koi-perfect for our Meece's celebration Sheila!

Have a good weekend all!

Paulding-ready for the game?

Meece

Thank you everyone!!!

DH did his share of moaning, but he stayed in bed most of the time.  But made sure there was enough maoning and tossing that I would inquire of his condition.  He'll be different today once the house is empty.

3jaysmom

Meece, how is Matt doing? any news? sorry about DH .. mine started the cold here, and of course, lucky me..went to GP today, and have walking pnemonia. not a big surprise. its steroids, a z pack, and a nebulizer for a few days. in 2 wks., a flu shot.. oh joy...

     have been visiting w/ the brother of my friend who died. my DH and I will be doing a memorial for him this sat.. so, im pooped, and off to bed.. good thoughts to all of you. take good care of yourselves...     3jays

Jwatrlily

My company is safe and sound back home and I am exhausted.  Don't want to go in to it but the visit was much less then what I had hoped for.  I'm battling depression and having feelings that are not good for someone going through breast cancer treatment.  For me right now, life maybe doesn't seem worth the fight.  Other then my husband and sometimes my son, my oldest sister (who still manages to sometimes say inappropriate things but doesn't mean it), I haven't really got a support system here.  I'm eternally thankful to God for my husband but he deserves better.

God Bless all,

Juanita 

barbe1958

Juanita, if people keep letting you down you just have to lower your expectations!

I have no support system except my DH and this board. No one understands it like we do. I had no idea about the constant fear of mets before I was diagnosed. So I would have been useless to someone too....

Meece

I had no support system when I was going through dx and tx.  I kept all my fears inside so my kids wouldn't get scared.  My older sister alsosaid and did thngs inappropriate.  i think she thought I got C to gain more attention.  I would have gladly gone into absurity to avoid the attention of BC!  What I found out through my journey, is that you cannot expect anyone else to say or do anything the way we "need" because I don't think we even know what we need.  That's why we need to go to our Father with our cares. 

I think about how people were before my dx and they really didn't change.  It was all about what I was feeling that made the difference. Juanita, come here when you feel down and let us support you.  We do undersand and perhaps that is why God brought us together.

Proverbs 17:22 A cheerful heart is a good medicine, but a downcast spirit dries up the bones.

it is understandable that you are feeling down, you've been dx'd with BC.  BUT, put a smile on your face, because we want you around for a long time!  

Jwatrlily

barbe1958 is right.  I've been thinking about your post and you are right.  My expectations while not unreasonable, are too high for people in my life.  I need to not expect anything out of anyone.  I guess I thought people in my life would realize the life changing seriousness of this disease, the real fact that I might not survive it, and would care about me enough to ....care.  They don't.  I shouldn't have expected anyone to care about me.  It is snowing here (good amount of flurries in the air only) and I am working on that yearly newsletter I send out with Christmas cards and wondering why I am even doing that.  Meece is right too.  I need to get my attention and focus back on my Lord and Saviour.  He never disappoints me and I know that above all He loves and cares about me, every second and every minute of my life.

Hugs,

Juanita   

barbe1958

Remember back to when you first heard the word cancer and you in the same sentence. For days after, while watching TV or driving or whatever, all of a sudden I'd get a shiver and think or say "I have cancer." "I have cancer." "I have cancer." "I HAVE CANCER!" We do that. Not the people around us.....

It was like when my Mom died. I told everyone I knew. My Mom just died. My Mom is dead. My Mom has passed away. Almost like desensityzing myself to the word "death", getting used to saying it. Doesn't make it any easier though....

Meece

Juanita,

Yes, you should expect people to "Care".  In their minds they may have deep concern and care for you, but not know how to express it.  You are not unreasonable to expect that those you care for would in turn care for you.   As for the Christmas letter, hmmmm. I could say you could use the passive aggressive way to let people know how you feel, but that would not be the best idea.  Perhaps you make the statement something like:

"This year brought with it the diagnosis of cancer for me.  I have spent a lot of time considering my life and the people in it, and hope that you realize how much you mean to me.   My hope for you is that you realize just how fragile life is and take every opportunity to show those you love how much you appreciate it."

Something to that effect may just give them the nudge to think about things a little more from your perspective. Don't give up an people.  I thinkif people gave up on me every time I let someone down, I would be verylonely.

(((((((((((((((Juanita))))))))))))))))

God loves you, and so do we.

In Sisterly Love,

Meece

barbe1958

Oh Meece! You said it so much more diplomatically than me.....sigh. And in such a Christian way - I'm so ashamed!

Meece

Don't be ashamed, you know what I said my first inclination would be...

Having you ladies to converse with has made me stronger in my ability to do and say the better choices.  Thank you for being here!

3jaysmom

well said, all of you. i, like Meece,throw em under the bus, (as youall know ) first, then, i try to think of something i can do better. i love what you suggested, Meece. im including something like that in mine, also..

    I also remember, Barbe, i went around doing both, myself.. i lost my mom, and it was how are you... awful, you know i lost my mom..etc. then, it was cancer.. you know, i have cancer.. so, i think its the shock of it all, and how we deal.  '

            ive told you ladies how hard it is with my boys. maybe its' their fear, maybe they're clods, but they don't wanna hear bout cancer at all. not that i talk to them about it, for sure.. they really DO think after a mascectomy, its' all done, so move along. God, please, that will be true of all of us here....        3jays