Thinking Out Loud.....

Meece

I guess I have a big appetite!

Meece

Can I vent a bit?

DH's son is getting married this Saturday.  We were not even told the date until the invitations were sent out.  We only were invited to the rehearsal and dinner last Wednesday.  DH RSVP'd Yesterday, and today he gets a call from his ex asking for $400 so she can rent a tent for the 60 people she invited to the rehearsal dinner!  I asked him if he was sure she was a woman because she got a huge pair!  I have no idea if Dh will pay her off, but I am betting he will.  I think it is Cr@p!!!

sheila888

It looks like we all need little help.

Oh Meece sorry you had enough family drama this year. Sending you Hugs.

(((Chris)))

(((MY Friends)))

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Meece

Just makes it a little more painful since I am not working yet.

chrisct

Made it through class.  Excel 2007 takes some getting used to - there are "ribbons" now.

I would be so annoyed, Meece.  First not being in the loop, being invited at the last minute, and then being asked to help pay?  60 people for the rehearsal dinner?  That's kind of a lot, isn't it?  You have every right to vent.

I think they want to do the biopsies to make sure they catch anything that might be going on as early as possible.  That's they only thing I can figure.  We already had it progress to the point where it was invasive once - they want to stop it in its tracks this time around. 

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deborye

That is a great comment about your DH's ex.  I got to remember that.

Hugs Meece, I think it's CR@P also. 

I ask for prayers of strength for my DD, she got the results from the US on her cat.  He has mets in his gastrointestinal, spleen, colon and kidneys.  She will be going to the vet Friday to do the right thing.  It's so sad, she had him since he was 2 or 3 days old. It's called renal lymphoma. 

Prays to your Dad Sheila, Social Workers should help you out, that is their job.  They can asses your Dad and find out what is best for him.  My Dad loves the assisted living facilities.  They do so much there.  A lot of activities the food is great. A few times a month they go in a van to go to the drug store or grocery shopping, musical theaters with lunch, it's called Bach Lunch.  It's wonderful.  I think and hope he will be going back home next week. 

deborye

(((((Sandy))))))

Meece

Time for a group hug!

Meece

Long story, but at this point no money is being given to the "Party Fund".  We agree that 60 people is over board.  We were wondering if people do it differently these days.  When we were young and got married you had your attendants, your immediate family (No aunts and uncles) the pastor and perhaps dates for your attendants.  I had a large wedding with 8 attendants for each of us and 2 additional, our parents, our grandparents and siblings.  We still had under 40 people.

sheila888

I spoke to the Social Worker.

Explained everything. After he is discharged he will go to Extended care at least that gives me some time to think and discuss things with his family.

I called them and said we have 2 weeks to decide if he is going to nursing Home near me. We have few walking distance or if they want him in Armenian Nursing home which is in NJ I cant do anything for him because its far away and I don't have a car.

So they will be thinking and asking him what he wants.

At least he will be safe another 2 weeks.

Meece

If he goes to the armenian nursing home they speak Turkish?

deborye

My Dad is in Transitional Care, I guess that means tranistion from hospital to rehab to home.

sheila888

Meece......We were born in Turkey but we are Armenian so both languages are fluent for him.

They (his family) are thinking since that place actually has Armenian speaking nurses and Doctors and the cuisine is also Armenian maybe he can befriended to people and feel comfortable.

I dont think any place will make him happy and comfy.

Again I told them he cant go home.

I hope something works out soon.

Meece

I think the Armenian home sounds like a good option although it would be difficult for you to see him.

Makratz

HUgs to all the moms and dads today!!  (((HUGS))) and extra hugs for all you lovely ladies for caring for them ((((((HUGS)))))!

Good Morning!

Makratz

 Opps, I did not notice the 50's at the bottom of the cake.  I just thought it was a really cool looking cake!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MEECE!!!!!!!!!!  Ignore the 50's!

Meece

Thank you so much! 

The two 50's total 100%.  I have a couple more years before I'll need to use them.

DS#2 called last night to wish me Happy Birthday because it was the 22nd in Japan! He's so sweet!!!

Makratz

Lucky you!  I'm so glad he called and made your day!!

Meece

DH sat beside me for nearly a half an hour before he said anything.  I will chalk it up to needing to be fully awake.  He is taking me to dinner tonight, I just don't know where.

blondiex46

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MEECE....have a meeting with a parent for an IEP at a school then to the drs. then boys have bb scrimmage, will bb later and catch up...have a wonderful day!!

Meece

Thank you so much, Sandy.  Sounds like you are having a busy day!

sheila888

(((Meece)))♥♥♥♥

sheila888

Good Morning. Very late start today.

I have a full day of everything

Hugs and talk to you later.

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raincitygirl

Happy Birthday Meece!  I hope you have a wonderful dinner this evening.

As for the rehearsal dinner, it seems the concept is totally out of control.  When my son got married, I sat down with his fiance to discuss the dinner.  This was the same week that we gave them their honeymoon to Tahiti and rented the villa in wine country.  She tells me she wants 55 people there because so many are coming from out of town. That sounds reasonable to me so I say "well how about we do a barbecue with salmon and chicken or we could do a themed buffet if you like".  She says "no, I want a full sit down dinner".  I said that would involve tables, linens, dishware, etc. as well as a good deal more than I had budgeted.  I told her that a chef friend of ours was offering to fly down to Seattle (he did Bill Gates wedding) and do the barbecue.  She said "not unless it is a sit down dinner".  I said I was sorry that I just couldn't afford to contribute anymore (her family did not contribute a single penny).  She said she would do it herself then.  So we had Costco lasagne standing up.  I guess that was better somehow?

Meece

DH told me he should have told his ex to blow it up her....You'd have to know my DH to understand how mild-mannered he is, and how this was a big thing to him.  So far, no money going there.  His ex, and his whole family take to lying as a duck to water.  His ex said  that it doesn't matter that he isn't included in anything about the wedding, becaus eshe isn't either.  That must be why when we ran into Son in law Saturday in LA, he said She and his wife were busy with wedding planning that day. 

I would have loved to be a fly on the wall when DH talked to ex yesterday, because I doubt he ever stood up to her in their marriage.

The dinner is supposed to be "non-traditional" italian.  Could that be Costco Lasagna?

(I took the identifying addresses off the invite)

chrisct

Happy Birthday, Meece!   I hope your DH stands his ground.  Weddings are so stressful - ironic.

Many dads having difficulties - I hope they are all on an upward trend.  Hoping for the best outcome for your dad, Sheila.  Deb - I hope your dad progresses quickly to/through rehab and gets back home fast.  I hope my FIL settles in at home with no more bouts of pneumonia or low blood sugar.  And I hope he stops sitting in seats he can't get up from...DH had to go over there Sunday night to help him up from a low stool he was sitting on going through some papers...duh.  It's a little more than a 15 min drive with no traffic - so not too far, but not right down the street either.

Nurse called from BS's office - BS agrees I should have the biopsy.  Now to decide where - hospital 10 miles away, but have to deal with the parking garage and finding where to go or the radiology place 25 minutes away, but easier to park and easier to find.  Hmmmm.  I can't even make the simplest of decisions these days.

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Meece

When I tried to schedule mine locally last time I couldn't find anywhere.  Then I found one through the grapevine, but figured I'd rather go to my onc's area and make the 120 mile drive.  Did tell hubby he needed to go, too because it might be tough to drive with an ice pack on my chest.

chrisct

Yeah- I can't complain - when I hear people having to drive hours to get to their appts, I have absolutely nothing to complain about.  My friend told me I might prefer the hospital so my drive home won't be as long.  Good point.  I just don't like wandering around the hospital not knowing where I'm going. (no sense of direction - I got lost yesterday trying to drive to my class!)  I don't know how this type of biopsy compares to the ultrasound guided one I had last time.  I don't know if stereotactic hurts more.  I'm not sure they have to go too deep, so maybe driving home won't be a problem.  120 miles - yes - much too far to try to drive with an ice pack on your chest.  I'm glad hubby will take you.  ♥

sheila888

chris....I had 2 stereotactic biopsy and 1 core biopsy or whatever.

If i ever need a biopsy i will insist on Stereotactic. It was much more easier and less painful.

The good part is you don't see what they are doing because they are working under the table.

Any questions PM me or post it here.

deborye

Meece♥