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There is no such thing as "too much garlic". I would never consider a serious relationship with a non-believer. You were wise, Nancy.
GRRR...I hate SPAM more here than anywhere else.
Curled up at my feet is a being who loves me beyond reason, thinks I am a goddess, and will never betray me. Of course, he ate half a large pizza when I left the room for a potty break last night. We were watching "Marley and Me." Go figger.
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I guess it takes all kinds but geewhiz.... playing in the street, what next?
Garlic? can't live without it...besides its really quite good for us.
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Yes Elaine - playing in the street, I do not strech the extent of SIL's stupidity at all, maybe I should have had 2 sons, perhaps DIL's are smarter.
NO GARLIC , I LOVE GARLIC. But my EX hated onions and green peppers, while he did not forbid me to cook with them, he complained about them, and always had a pile on his plate with spagjetti, or chili or what ever I used them in, he would pick each and every piece out I swear. Ed on the other hand will eat anything with the exception of yogurt - detests it. some of the stuff he likes scares the hell out of me -LOL, being raised in PA Dutch Country and his mom being Amish, WOW , some scary stuff, Tripe, scrapple - GROSS.
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Just skimmed the posts, but I have to say YOU GO GIRL!!!!! YOU ROCK!!!! way to give it back to those DUMB BIATCHES!!!!! Not counted all the wonderful ladie here, but just in my small circle of the world I know 3 other ladies first hand with BC. One I did not find out until I told her I had BC. So Barbe you are right many women say nothing!
You know what gets my goat is that there is not nearly enough attention to Ovarian Cancer. How many football teams wore Teal in September for OC awareness month. The two cancers are sooo closely linked. Oh well, my rant for the day.
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Hi everyone,
I would love to comment on everyone's posts but I am so flat out lately.
Welcome to Bo & Vilma!
Sue, before my early 40s I had never had a headache. In my early-mid 40s I started getting migraines. It felt like a axe was embedded in my head and, if I didn't quickly take medication (strong pain killer with added calmative), I would feel worse and worse until I threw up and then I would start to feel a bit better. If I took pills I would just sleep it off and wake up feeling a bit washed out. I don't know why I developed migraines then (maybe the beginning of perimenopause?). They gradually got less and less. The last one I had was about 2 years ago so I seem to have grown out of them thank goodness. I wish you could find a less stressful job.
Cathi - I think you have the patience of Job! How do you manage not to openly react to your SIL? You are amazing! My sister is staying with her daughter & SIL in Canada to help after the birth of the latest baby (she's been there nearly 3.5 months). Her SIL is also an impossible man (abusive, dreadful temper and a real chauvinist). I don't know how she manages to not react to him. She said she often cries herself to sleep though - worrying about her daughter (who has had severe postnatal depression - not helped at all by his rages). Now they think my niece is pregnant again! How will she cope with 3 kids under the age off 3 with her fragile mental state and her horrible husband?
Oh, and I loved your reaction to those ignorant women in the salon!
Lisa - I love to read about your happiness and I'm so glad that things are better with Olivia.
Judie - please give Jasper a hug for me.
Sheila - hope you are feeling better.
Karen - I was so sad to read about your dh's nephew. Is he going to a mainstream prison? Will he get any help with his mental problems? What a dreadful start to life the poor boy has had. I'm not saying his crime should be ignored but he does need help along with his punishment.
Now it's getting late and I have to pack and catch an early train.
Love to all of you I mentioned and everyone else.
Jane xxxx
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Hi Jane,
I think being married to Ed helps a lot, he is always so calm and reminds me - my DD's are adults and their lifes are their choices, we are here to love and support - not condem, but I will admit, my tongue has become several inches shorter these past 2 months with all the biting I have done -LOL. And I also know that my mom detested my EX, yet she never said a word to that effect, she alwasy supported me and if I needed her to T/T she was there, UGH, just 4 more days after today and life will be somewhat normal again.
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Cathi, Cathi....like others have said...I DON"T KNOW HOW YOU KEEP QUIET!!!??? My mouth would be going off...I know that for sure!! You are a patient woman!! You said Ed keeps you calm..and that is great...but I don't know if Christ himself could keep my mouth shut to your SIL!! That JERK IS A TOTAL RAVING IDIOT!! Playing in the street!!! Asking if he ATE today?? OMG...I am getting furious just typing this!! SMACK, SMACK...SMACK, SLAP, SLAP, KICK, KICK, PUNCH, PUNCK..AND SLAP! ok...I feel better! lol
Also Cathi...great comeback to those women in the nail salon!! WTF?? I don't get people sometimes! If that is how they truly felt...keep it to yourselves, or to your friend in private! Idiots!! God forbid they be stricken with BC..let's see how they are then. What did their faces look like when you said that?? OMG!
Jane..so good to see you dear!! Everytime I see your avatar, I am reminded on how your son brought that little baby kangaroo to you. So sweet and gentle just like our Jane! HUGS to you! Thanks for the comment. I truly am a very happy and fulfilled lady right now. I have not seen Tony for over a week..........and it's going sooooooooo SLOW!! He is coming to my place on Thursday, and will help me and my girlfriend Kim with our garage sale. Boy, he has work to do! lol
Sue..how are the headaches? If they are constant, you really should go have it checked out. You can get something for the pain. Hugs Sue!
Judie...I agree...I LOVE GARLIC! Love the smell of it sauteeing!! I can see your furbaby curled up with you watching a movie! LOL...what a great vision in my head!
Nancy...I would have broken off the relationship too!! Love garlic too much! Luckily with Tony being Italian, he likes and cooks with garlic! Yummy! In fact yesterday he had his 2 kids over and their spouses for homemade sauce and chicken and meatballs. Chicken Cattetori (sp?)
My antibiotic final is doing the trick. Feel pretty much like my old self today! Thank God!! I have allot to do before my sale on Friday! Plus, I want to feel good for my sweetie!!! He just found out that he is going to be a grandpa again. He found out when we first started talking that his youngest daughter is expecting a baby in May. Then just last week his son and dil said they are expecting too! How cool!!!
Ok...back to work!!
Sheila..how are you feeling now??
xoxo
Lisa
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Karen...almost forgot...so sorry about your nephew. How sad that a promising young man went down that path....xoxo
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I read all the posts this morning in between entering orders
and needed to take a break so I am answering about how I am doing. I am feeling better but have the lingering cough (not chest cough, but drainage cough) left. Kathi, I don't know how you kept your mouth shut all this time with your sil but glad you spoke up at the salon!
Yesterday, we had our 'Pink Sunday' at church, that my mother and I started about 3 yrs ago to kick off BC awareness month. I decorated the bulletin board with the local Komen poster in the middle, pink satin ribbon around the edges of the board and photos from previous Komen races scattered around. I also made up pink satin lapel ribbons to hand out. Just before the choir special, the choir director asked me if I wanted to say anything abou 'Pink Sunday'. Usually my mom speaks but she was in Ohio at the church I grew up at for their 50th anniversary homecoming so he put me on the spot. I got up from my place in the choir and welcomed everyone to our 'pink sunday' and gave the usual statistics (off the top of my head) about 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed. The local Komen affiliate was actually given more grant money from National than we raised locally to fund mammos, treatment, restorative yoga classes to name a few things funded. we do need more money for research to stop the 40,000 people dying from bc every year. And even though my cancer was found early and I did bilat mastectomy, I am not considered 'cured', I still have a 1-2% of it returning. I don't remember what else I said but my sister and husband said that I spoke from the heart and it sounded good.
Like you Lisa, Back to work!!!
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Hey Lisa the old hags kinda looked "arrogantly dumb founded" Not that I wanted any pity or anything from them at all, but they didn't even offer an "I'm sorry" for me having BC or for them even saying what they were saying, I am sure they were thinking I am one of those "PINK LADIES" in Oct knocking down doors asking for $$$$$ as I was wearing a pink top, not because of BC, but because I like it.
Lisa thanks for slapping around the SIL, well deserved, the worst will soon be over, I gotta say I am having that ?"motherly" instinct take over, worry about Amanda and Landen being alone with him, but they are so very close. Gosh I wish I had set a better example for my DD's than living with and excepting crap from an idiot through their youth.
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I love garlic too! I don't think there's many meals I make without it.
Great news - my niece is NOT pregnant! What a relief for all concerned.
Hey Sheila - why are you not considered cured? I was also told that I had about a 2% chance of recurrence but that I should consider myself cured. Maybe it's just how you phrase it - you have a 98% chance of it never coming back - sounds pretty good to me!
I had an estrogen blood test a while ago and got the results today and it was good. Apparently there are 2 types of estrogen and one of them puts you at higher risk of recurrence if it is high. Thankfully, the "bad" one was low. My doctor is recommending that I have a D&C for a uterine fibroid which showed up on a pelvic ultrasound I had a couple of weeks ago. Seems a bit unnecessary to me. I'm hoping the gynecologist I'll be seeing will say it's all ok and I don't need to have it done. Since bc, I seem to have had so many tests! I'm over it - just wish I could go back to how it was - I hardly ever saw a doctor in the good ol' days.
Lisa - roll on Thursday! It's going to be a wonderful day for you. I'm so happy you and Tony found each other.
xxx
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I was just being emotional. I wasn't trying to 'sugar coat' the stats. The young lady from my church that passed away last year was told after her surgery (lumpectomy), chemo and rads that her chances were low that it would come back (not sure of her specific stats). She was clear for less than 2 yrs before it came back as mets. I have seen too many women locally and online, fighting for their lives, I guess I was trying to push their emotional buttons. I am technically cured even though the doctors don't like to use that phrase.
Sheila
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Hello ladies,
Very quick pop in for me - I am at a class for work - just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you all and WELCOME NEWBIES!!! It will only be a matter of time before you get to OZ!
Lisa- NYC - at the Holidays? Will need to talk UB into that one!! lol. I'll let you know.
Sue - quit that darn job - your headaches will probably stop.
Gotta run - HUGS all around.
AE
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I guess I think the same way you do, Sheila. I don't consider anyone who's had any form of breast cancer "cured". Portia has a friend whose mom was diagnosed with DCIS around the same time I was diagnosed. She had a lumpectomy and rads (we actually did our rads at the same cancer center at the same time). I ran into her a couple of months after we both finished our tx's and she said, "you had real cancer, didn't you?" I took that to mean that she didn't consider her bc real. I bit my tongue. Didn't want to burst her bubble. I've seen several posts from ladies here who now have mets even though they were originally only diagnosed with DCIS.
I'm glad you're feeling better Sheila.
Hug,
Karen
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Hi AE!!! Good to see you!
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Sheila, I didn't mean to minimise what you have been through. I know that I feel emotional about bc at times and other times I feel as though I got off lightly. With dcis you tend to lurch from feeling grateful that you caught it early to feeling horrible that you have to have disfiguring surgery for something that some people think is minor. I really admire you for all that you give back to the bc cause. Good on you for making an impromptu speech - that would really scare me!
Hi AE and UB - please give that big, beautiful Delbert a hug from me!
Karen - I love your new avatar - you look like Portia's older sister! You are both beautiful. You make some good points about bc.
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I know you didn't mean to minimize any thing that I went through, like you said you lurch from being grateful to wondering why I went through bilat if it wasn't really needed. but then I look back at my path report and see more pre-cancer in the tissue removed from both breasts and know that I did the right thing, stopping it before it came back invasive.
One thing I didn't mention that Friday night was the unveiling of the 2010 Through Healing Eyes Calendar. I am Mrs November 2009 and they like the alumni calendar girls to come to the gala for the new calendar. While I was there, I met the calendar girls for 2010. One of them is a young (24 yr old) woman who was doing chemo during the photo shoot earlier this year. She had mast (not sure if single or double) and she was there with her friend who was going through bc about the same time I was. I mentioned I found a wonderful artist to re-do my tattoos in Asheville. Her friend was very interested (same girl did her tatts at the ps office) because she didn't like her tatts and didn't want to give them a third time to 'fix' them. They wanted to see my tatts, so we found an empty room at the Museum of art, and I flashed my boobs
. They were impressed with the work of Earleen so I gave them her web site and phone. Who ever thought I would be an exhibitionist!Sheila
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What an interesting path we find/take/create once dxed w/cancer.... we find many new layers of ourselves, not because we're "brave" or "strong" or "couragous" or any of that, but because we do what needs to be done, one step at a time. Discovering talents, strength, confidence and all sorts of things. Chalk one up for the exhibitionist!
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Elaine, you are so right.
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I am normally a private person until I get to know people but I know that the women of my local support group did all they could to help me understand the ramifications of the surgery I was going to go through after my dx. One woman, who was stage 4, took me into a private room and showed me her bilat scars so I would know what to expect when I woke up from surgery and what the scars across my chest would look like. I take the strength that she showed me and use that to pass on my experiences with others, even to the point of showing my recon boobs to others with questions. Of course I don't go around saying 'do you want to see my boobs?' But if someone has questions about what I have gone through, I will show them what I have done and how I have overcome. My sister said it all when she wrote this about why she created the 'brick house' bra.
When asked why I wanted to call my design ‘Brick House' I said that a brick house was strong and we have to be strong to fight this disease. My mother showed great strength when she was diagnosed in 2001. She found the lump herself and pushed the doctors for tests and received proper treatment. It all comes down to knowing yourself and being strong enough to speak up for what is right. She still reaches out to others who are facing the same battle.
My sister has shown strength all her life. She had corrective back surgery at age 11, ended an abusive marriage in her 20's, faced precancerous lumps twice in 2 years in her 40's. Then when the third lump was tested and came back as cancer, she was strong enough to choose bi-lateral mastectomy, with reconstruction. This battle has made her stronger. She has reached out to others and encourages them in their fight.
So when someone says, ‘she is built like a brick house" think of the strong women who fight, and to live, against cancer
This is all a journey and if we can help others going through this it eases the load that each of us must carry.
Sheila
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well said Sheila! I think of those who helped me along in the early days...my way of repaying their help and kindness is to do the same for someone else.
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I am both grateful and envious of people like you Sheila. My anger at bootface has yet to transform into action. It just sits there. I can support people through their own journies informally here and socially, but that's the extent of it. Angels such as you overdo it to make up for sloths like me. Thank you!
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Cathi, how many more days???? I would not be able to keep quiet.
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Judie I am a "sloth" too, so keep up the good work Shelia, your one of those Angels who walk among us all.
So the kids get their key Tomorrow, we will start moving the small things, what large furniture they have will be moved Saturday. With all my complaining I am sad, sad for Amanda, Landen and the new little one, I wish that I could find something positive about SIL, I have tried believe it or not, other than the fact that he does go to work everyday, there is nothing, and even that is over shadowed with ugliness as I have so often heard is nasty comments about him working, what he WANTS AND SHOULD BE ABLE TO BUY, etc, etc, he really isn't working to provide for his family, he is working to by things he thinks he deserves because he goes to work everyday. I am sad this evening for my daughter.
I am also holding in a deep secret, haven't even shared it with Ed, but I have to get it off my chest, Bill has been on my computer nightly for hours, on Craigs List, he has been looking at some furniture stuff, well today I went on to see if there were any local garage sales this weekend they are looking for a toddler bed, well when you look at anything on Craigs List and click on it, it stays highlighted, to my surprise WOMAN SEEKING MEN is highlighted, sooooooooo of coarse I clicked into the category, there are about 30 highlighted ads for girls seeking a guy, young girls around 19-25 years old (SIL will be 25 in Nov) who ever is checking it out only went to ads W/Pics. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt my husband is not on there looking at this stuff, soooooooooooooo who is. I know I can't say anything, I don't really have any proof of anything, buttttttttttttttt boy am I PO'ed and even more worried.
UGH
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Okay, now I really want to come down there and kick his ass!!!! There is nothing more despicable than a cheating, dirty dog!!! What is he thinking? He has a pregnant wife! Disgusting!!! Maybe you should confront him. I don't know,. Maybe you should tell Ed and have him chat with the idiot. Poor Amanda has enough stress without this news.
Hang in there, I know you'll do the right thing.
Hugs,
Karen
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Cathi, you are carrying a very heavy burden. I hope you will share with Ed and think about what can happen next ... if anything. Your SIL sounds too young/immature to be a good father.
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Cathi, my post will surprise everyone, because y'all know I think the guy is an asshole... BUT...looking at pictures of girls could just be sexual frustration. He could be lonely...where is his family?
Why don't you take pictures of the "new place" before they move anything in. Then when you take pics later you can say something like "Gee, this place used to look great!" BUT that could make SIL mad at DD.....sigh.
Ah fugetit.....just bon voyage!
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Hey Barbe you might be right, I know men will be men and enjoy a look at playboy even a good ole prn shot on the internet, my problem with the stuff on Craigs list is that these are REAL GIRLS in the area he can contact via their e-mail or phone #'s they post, if he was just looking at your everyday "porn star" LOL, I would just chalk it up to being a boy/man.
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Food for thought.....
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