please help

1Cathi

All is going pretty smoothly so far, but I am exhausted, so much to do this first wek I thiink will be the hardest- I feel 100 years old,  but it's all for a good outcome I hope.

Barbe I am glad you are beter,  yeah- yippie.

Lisa I 100% do agree with you about the disrespect,  right after my divorce, both my girls even Jaclyn thought they had the right to just hang up phone calls on me,  or walk away fro a conversation they didn't want to discuss,  I just finally told them flat out "you will NOT" disrespet me,  you can disagree with me,  but I will not tolerate being treated like POOH,  Jaclyn's spurt was short lived, Amanda is much better.

Love to all my dera dear sisters-  I must get some sleep now.  XOXOXOXOXOXO

barbe1958

Cathi, glad all is well so far! How is Margo handling all the excitement?

EWB

Cathi- I suppose that is good advice (?) for all of us..respect for us and respect for others.

barbe1958

Elaine, how is your mom?

1Cathi

Barbe Margo is doing awesome, of coarse she is getting a ton more "baby droppings" to eat,  we don't give her table food. She is absolutely great with the kids though,  but by the end of the day she is exhausted also.  But she is having a blast I think.

mlkesem

I know I had to wait almost 2 months before having the surgery because I was not in the country where I live when discovered. I found the lumps myself on Aug 1 2008 diagnosed a few weeks later with 3 tumors of Invasive carcinoma and had surgery September 24th. I also would inquire immediately about having your ovaries removed. Have you been tested genetically?

I have a strong familial component but am not braca positive - the onc here thinks I should consider it but I am 62.

All I can say is try and surround yourself with supportive people and bug the hell out of the doctors to operate sooner. If in fact you know there is no choice but to wait then use what ever medicinal means is offered to get through the anxiety of it all.

Good luck - not sure what I can say that will make you feel better - do the things you enjoy and indulge yourself with warmth and kindness of others 

Mlkesem 

lvtwoqlt

Mlkesem, thanks for your concern about Sue. She started this thread Sept 2007 and she had her surgery in October 2007. Many of the ladies who posted here to help Sue have developed a friendship and we just can't seem to let this thread go away. You are welcome to join us on this thread.

Sheila

lvtwoqlt

It sure is slow here today.

I have a request for prayer for Penelope. Last week she was having problems going up the 2 steps to get into the house favoring her right hind leg. Yesterday at lunch, she refused to come up the steps, I had to pick her up to get her in the house. When she came in the house she ignored the biscuit that I give her after her walk and laid in front of my chair and quivered for the full hour I was home. When I came home after work, she didn't want to go out but I made her and had to pick her up to bring her back in. She ignored her food and water bowls and her hind legs seemed to slide out from under her when she stood on the tile floor in the kitchen. She again laid in the living room quivering. I had a meeting to go to and asked John to check in on her. He said he sat with her a while but she just quivered. She managed to get up and eat when I got home.This morning, she got me up at 5:45, I took her outside and walked her around the yard. She managed to take care of business but again I had to assist her back into the house and she ignored her food again. I have an appointment at the vet's office at 3:15 today. There isn't anything new at the house that she could get into. I am just so worried about my Penelope. She is about 9 yrs old and the average life span of bassets are 10-14 yrs.

Sheila

Anonymous

Prayers coming your way, Penelope. And yours, too, Sheila.

It is quiet. I'm sure everyone is busy, given recent crises. Big hugs to all...Judie

portiasproudmom

Oh, poor little Penelope!  I'll add her to my prayer list, Sheila.

Leesa, your little granddaughter has been added too! 

Love and hugs,

Karen

Makratz

Prayers and hugs to all.  Is this the summer slow down??

sueps

Hi Sisters xxx

I too am praying for Penelope, please let us know Sheila if she is Ok xxx 

Mary22

Hello to all. Prayers and hugs for all.

I am home from the hospital and doing good after my ooph. The kids will be helping me out.

lvtwoqlt

thanks so much for the prayers. Yesterday when I went home to take her to the vet, she couldn't use her back legs at all. The vet said she probably had a ruptured disk that affected her back legs. There is a surgery they could do to possibly give her the use of her legs again but the cost is more than I can absorb at this time. Also her age was against her. Sshe was at least 9 yrs old, we got her in 2002 as a rescue with a verbal she is between 2 and 3 yrs old. The vet said she doesn't see many bassetts over 10 yrs old. They gave her a dex shot and some tramidol for pain and I brought her home to see if there would be any improvement. Overnight she didn't want to eat but I did manage to get her to drink some water. I was up with her 3 times overnight and my son was up with her once. This morning she had less movement and feeling in her back legs. Donald wanted me to try and keep her alive until he got home this weekend but after last night I called him and said that I couldn't look Penelope in the eyes and make her suffer any more. I took her back to the vet's this morning at 8:45 and signed the papers to have her put to sleep. I did take several pictures of her last night laying on her pillow bed not showing her with her legs laying in unusual positions.

She is now resting comfortably out of pain. She will be greatly missed at the Race for the Cure in October, She was our team mascot since 2004. We didn't take her in 2003 because we wern't sure if she would be allowed at the race. I am asking friends who took pictures of her over the years at the race to get me copies of them for a scrapbook.

Sheila

Sheila

sueps

Sheila, my heart goes out to you and the love for Penelope. Treasure all the memories and know that I send my love . I am so saddened to learn x x x

Makratz

HUGS Sheila.  It is so hard to lose a friend.  My htoughts are with you.

my3girls

Oh Sheila...I just logged on and read about your Penelope. I am so sorry ((((Sheila)))), I know how very difficult this is for you.  Poor dear...she is free from pain, in doggie heaven. Remember all the joy she has brought you and your family over the years.

I joined the Susan G Komen Race for the Cure in Cleveland next month.  The race is on September 12. I'ts a 5k...so I need to get into shape!!! My sister in law Jenny, who has done it now for 2 years I think, is doing it along with my niece Katie who is 13. We are part of a team.  She said, Lisa..last year, you said you would join us this year...so I did!!

My ex MIL passed away yesterday morning.  So, at least all of this is coming to an end.  Danni is coming in on Sat. but she will miss the service, because she can't make it in any sooner.  I still have yet to talk to the girls about anything.  But at least no more grief.  I will go to calling hours, but that's all.  The girls dad, has already turned Danni off completely.  She told me yesterday, "mom, I am done".  He is not someone I can have in my life.  I totally understand.  He passed out in my nieces car, after taking some of his mom's pain pills...oxycotton (sp?). He is a mess.

Cathi..hope all is going well with the girls.

Judie...if I see that sunshine ray...w/out humidity..I will share it with you girlfriend! You bet!

Val...where are you?? How is UB doing? Did he start his tx yet?

lvtwoqlt

Lisa, Glad to hear you are doing the Race for the Cure in your area. this year is the NC Foothills 10th anniversary of doing the Komen run. I started in August 2001 when my mom was first diagonsed, our race is always the 3rd Saturday in October. the first year I had 8 people on my team and in less than 2 months we raised a total $500. I have done the race every year since then and our team has had anywhere from the original 8 members to I think the highest we had was 15. Last year we had 12 and my goal for this year is to have 20 on my team roster. I am going to start talking it up at church and work and telling people that if they can't attend they can join the team for $20 and 'sleep in for the cure' on race day. Because it is their 10th anniversary, they are getting honorary co-chair people for the race from each of the 3 counties instead of one honorary chair person. I have sent in a nomination form for my mother. Tuesday night there was a team captain's meeting and several times during the meeting the race committee kept asking my opinion on how I have done things in the past to help out the first time team captains. And they asked me how we came up with our t-shirt designs. I wouldn't give them what our idea is for this year's shirt but talked about different shirts we did in the past.

Also Lisa sorry to hear about your x-mil but hopefully your daughters will come around.

Judie, I agree with Lisa, with all that heat, if you don't have the humidity, it is bearable. Here we are having 90+ with high humidity making heat index in the 100's.

Sheila

Anonymous

So very sorry about Penelope. You did the right thing, Sheila, but it is never easy. It's good that she let you know she was ready.

1Cathi

Shelia & Penelope- XOXOXOXOXOXOXO.

Stopping in briefly to say hi,  and send you all love,  and good thoughts and prayers.  Judie come on down to Fla if yeah wanna feel hot and mostly humid,  August and Sept are the killer humidity months. 

Things are going pretty well,  but of coarse the house by my standards is turned upside down,  and by the days end I am ready for bed.  So far Amanda has been great,  Landen who will be 1 on 8/11 is a doll,  but he has never heard the words no-no,  and has pretty much been with them the entire 365 days of his life,  but with GRANNY 911 suggestions things are looking up.  He has never slept in a crib/bed by himself,  I know lots of people do that,  but oh with another on the way and him fussing so to go to bed, I think we are going to implement a bed schedule and crib use in a few days,  she says she is ready to do it,  but not sure if she can bare to hear him cry,  so I suggested they give him kisses ,  turn on the lullaby CD I bought and then they leave  for an hour,  Ed and I will stay and be sure he is safe, if you do it gently and the right way most normally only takes a few nights. We'll see,  she says yes now. But really all things considered things are going well,  we do the "no-touch" stuff gently,  and he plays with Ed and I all the time,  just does not want them out of his sight for very long.

Lisa hope things get calmer for you and the girls real soon.

Love to all.  Barbe  hope no more problems with Mick.

NIGHT ALL -- XOXOXOXOXOXOXO

lvtwoqlt

Cathi, Glad to hear the transisiton is going well. When John was small and I had moved back in with my parents we slept in the same room but not the same bed. I also used lullaby tapes to help him go to sleep. The way mom's house was set up, I could sneak up to the door without him seeing me to see if he was crying or asleep. Then as he got older I found a series of Bible Bedtime stories I would play. After he got in the 'big boy bed' sometimes he would come out after the story finished and want me to turn it back on because he wasn't asleep yet.



Sheila

1Cathi

Hey Shelia Landen does have to sleep in the same room with mom and dad here,  but he won't even go near the crib we have for him,  becuse he has never slept in one from the time he was born, so we are taking baby steps with him,  but are really going to start working on bedtime this weekend,  when he got here he would not let them out of his sight without a fuss just in a weeks time that has improved,  he's a good little cute guy - just has never had and "guidelines"  we love and spoil all the grandchildren,  but Ed and I are also firm belivers in setting limits and guidelines,  as young busy parents they found it easier to give him what ever he wanted - never a NO, so he didn't cry,  so as we had a good talk the other night I nicely asked if there was a loaded gun on the coffee table would you let him hvhave it just because he wanted it -  alight bulb kinda went off,   I kinda have my moms feelings on that stuff,  he needs to learn it's not ok to touch everything,  while you may rearrange your home,  other people may not and NO is not a bad thing.

barbe1958

Sheila, my heart breaks for you! I had to put a cat down who was 21 last year. You do know that Penelope was trying to "die" her way, by not eating. In the wild she would have found a soft piece of forest floor nesting and lain down and taken days to starve herself to death. You did the most humane thing. My heart goes out to you.

Cathi, you are right! A "NO" is not a bad thing. I used to use "soft" when it was something they were allowed to touch but very gently. They didn't get the "no" so it was easier for them to accept I guess. Like Margo would be a "soft".

Lisa, crossing fingers that the girls come through this all unscathed.....

Hugs to all!

Mary22

Sheila, so sorry to hear about Penelope. Losing a pet, is just like losing a family member. Prayers and hugs to you.

Cathi, glad all is going well. It will just take a little time.

Hello to all. I am looking forward to some actual summer weather this w/e.

Have a great w/e ladies.

Anonymous

Yoo-hoo! Anybody home...home...home...

It's so empty there's an echo!!!

I hope it's because everyone is having a super-happy weekend!

portiasproudmom

Awww....Sheila.  I'm so sorry to hear about Penelope.  It's so hard.  I still have a hard time accepting that Tinker's gone.  Hugs to you!!

Karen

barbe1958

Karen, did you get your new laptop yet? Did I miss the post? I know you got your building permits....

NancyD

Sheila, I'm sad for you over Penelope. We've lost so many pets over the years, and it never gets easier. Maybe that's why I've been pet-free for a long time, now. I know you did the right thing for her...when they can only talk with their eyes you learn to read them well. It will take some time to stop missing her around the house. It's been almost ten years since we had our last dog, but sometimes I can still hear the jingle of his tags around his favorite sleeping spot.

My dad has been slipping downwards lately. He was doing so good when he first came home, but he's in some discomfort now that we can't figure out. My sister thinks it's constipation...he won't eat and it's only the feedings she's giving him through the stomach tube that's keeping him alive, He just wants to sleep. I'm hoping we can make the trip to Florida in a couple of weeks. Then my sister can hopefully make him more comfortable. I only pray that when he goes, it's peacefully in his sleep.

Karen, congrats on FINALLY getting the building permit. That sure took long enough. I hope the building goes smoothly, no weather or supply problems. How about progress photos? I love seeing things like that.

Well, I'm sitting here, looking like a combination of a chipmunk and a pro wrestler. I had a PET/CT scan on Friday, and I had my usual reaction to the contrast dye. All the glands in my neck and under my chin are swollen. It doesn't compromise my breathing or eating, so I just live with it until it goes down. I just look weird. Lots of water to flush the stuff out.

And I decided enough was enough regarding my garden. I haven't weeded at all this summer (last time was in May), so it really needed cleaning up. Yesterday morning, I started before 8:30 am and got the whole front garden done. I'm paying the price now with a sore butt and thighs.

And I went out to dinner last night with a friend..swollen glands and all. I needed it. A nice restaurant on the river, fresh seafood and a great salad. A glass of wine would have been great, but I was driving and I had instructions not to drink alcohol for 24 hours after the scan.

I also just found out that my son will be moving to California NEXT WEEK. He's got a temporary job for two months, and he hopes to make some connections while he's there that would lead to more permanent work. He hasn't lived at home for a couple of years, but he's only been about 30 minutes away. I could pop in and visit regularly. This will be so hard. I'm glad that he's getting this opportunity, but so sad that it's on the other side of the country. Judie, I think I have a little inkling of what you've been feeling with the move to China.

It seems to swing between quiet and very busy here. I just have time to read most days, but I stay caught up. Best wishes to all.

Mary22

Hello just checking in. I finally got out of the house yesterday. ( had surgery on Tues ovaries removed) Went grocery shopping, I needed a few items. The kids did all the work. Then I came home and took a nap.

Have a good wekend.

Makratz

Hi Ladies,

Just dropping by so say heelo.  I have been on Cape Cod for a few days.  Missed you all.  I hope you are all feeling well.  Hugs to those who need them, and even those who don't!

Nancy, I will keep your dad in my prayers.

Cathi, GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

Barb, hope you are feeling GREAT!

Karen, did you get your new laptop??

Mary, take it easy.  Let the kids do the work.  I took my kids to the grocery store with me post surgery so they could do all the lifting and pushing ( I snuck (is that a word??)out while DH was working).  They kept laughing at me and putting all the junk they wanted into the cart!  I came home with a lot of unhealthy things and have never brought them back with me!

Hello to everyone else!

Linda