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sueps

Sweet dreams sisters xxxx

I love each and every one of you ...I am the luckiest girl in Bolton having you all in my life xxx

At work at 6AM ...so I have appx 5 hours sleep WAAA!!!! WAAAAAA!!!!!

Have a lovely evening....when I am getting up .... I will think of you all snug as bugs in your rugs....snoring ya socks off HAHAHAHAHAH .... 

Did I tell you .........

I LOVE YOU ALL X-X-X-

Ka-Loni

 

my3girls

Hi Sisters!!

I am at work right now, but wanted to take a moment to check in.  I tried to read as much as I could of your posts.  Ulla....honey..please don't worry about the scan...that is routine so to speak. Be glad that they are checking you so thouroghly. I love you sweetie..bug hugs to you!

Well, saw my onc yesterday.  The visit went well, but I do have to have my ovaries removed. I made an appt with a special surgeon who deals with the laparoscopy procedure for women who have had my type of reconstruction.  I see him on Aug. 6th, and from there we will schedule the surgery. My oc also said, I may want a dnc done first, to be sure that there are no cancer cells in the uterus, if there are, then when I have the ovaries removed, he can also remove my uteras.  I am dealing pretty well with all of it.  I can tell that my ovaries are "very active"!!! I am very moody lately and lots of headaches...almost like I am pre-period constantly!! The sooner they are out the better.  Hopefully I won't miss much work.  I am already filling out paperwork for FMLA intermittent.

Well...I am leaving work about 2 hrs early...and going on my DATE!!! I have to tell you ladies, this man Dennis and I have spoken on the phone allot and he is really awesome!  We really click, and he is sensitive, kind, caring, understanding, and we have sooooo much in common and the same views!!  I talked to him yesterday and he knew I had a dr apt, and called to see how I was.  I ended up telling him everything about this past year...the ex who left me, my cancer, my mastectomy etc.  He said, well I hope you don't think that any of that will affect me wanting to get to know you better or see you...because it doesn't at all.  What I see inside so far...I really like!  OMG...can you believe it??? I am on cloud nine!!! I am excited but nervous at the same time!!  I feel like this is all too good to be true! We will see what happens...but I can't wait to meet him.  Say a prayer that all goes well!

I'll check back with all of you later.  Know that I love and miss you all so much!!!

xoxo

Lisa

lvtwoqlt

Lisa, that is too bad you have to have another surgery but it is great that you found a great man who doesn't care what problems you had in the past but sees you for who you are! I felt the same way when I met my now husband, I told him that my son and I were a package deal. Love me-Love my son. and you know what, he has been a great father for my son. So much that they even look alike.

Donald will be coming by tonight about 7 and picking me up in the semi before he goes to his last drop and then to the terminal. It will be fun riding in the truck for a couple of hours.

Sheila

nowheregirl

Just got a few minutes before heading off to work so wanted to tell Lisa "WAY TO GO"!!! Dennis does sound like a keeper! Fingers and toes and even my lopsided boobs crossed for you to have an awesome date with him! Enjoy every minute and keep us updated OK?

Will be back and tell you all about my man later. I too have met a very special guy over the internet and am meeting him in September!

xo

Fumi

Shirlann

Hi Fumi!

Hi Lisa and Sheila.

Fumi, you have a man????  AHA, this is news we need to hear.  Too much work and not enough fun for you!  About time you got out for laughter, a little wine, candles.  Ahhhhhh

And Lisa!   Good for you!  You too need time to just laugh and talk and forget this business of being sick.  

Kaloni, that picture is breathtaking!  Truly, truly spectacular.  WOW

Ulla, now, you seem to be getting good care.  And good care involves a scan.  This will make you feel better when the news is good.

Hugs and kisses to all my precious sisters, Shirlann 

honeygirl

I love you all my girlfriends!!!!!

Sue Its is soooooo good to see you here and feeling better. I am smiling and can't stop! I am so happy! And you get to have your same days off again! Yea!!!!!!!!!!!!!  You are on a roll girlfriend , I hope it just keeps gettting better and better! Love you.xxxx

I've read all the post , and I was so inspired to greet you all with the girlfriend pics. You really are all so special to me. And I love you all so much.

My boss was on vacation this past week , so me and another specialist was in charge. So I was sooooo beat when I got home , and I have been spending my time outside at the pool and cooking on the charcoal grill. But I just want you all to know , I think of you always , and you are all in my prayers , always. xxxx

Lisa! You gooooooo girl! Wow , Dennis sounds like a wonderful guy. I hope he is everything he seems to be. You so deserve to be happy and loved.xxxx

Fumi! Another girlfriend with a new man in her life!  I'm not surprised. You so deserve it too!  I hope it works out for you girlfriend. Puh-lease , you two have got to fill us in on how it is going with these guys. We are all ears!

Kaloni! Beautiful pic!!!!! Thanks so muxch for sharing with us. I hope all is well with you  , and your are doing fine.xxxx

Karen , Jane , Shirlann , Wren , Sheila , AE , UB , (UB  , you hang in there , I'm sure you are just feeling chemo's side effects. You know how it goes , it takes time to get over it .xxxx)

Judie , Jule , Ulla, (honey , you are fine , they are just doing some more tests to give you a clean bill of health. After this one , you can get on with your life as you knew it.Love you honey.xxxx).

I wish you all a wonderful weekend. Know you are all in my thoughts and prayers always.

Love , Melody

geebung

Lisa - I can't wait to hear how your date went! Dennis sounds like such a nice guy and if you have a lot in common as well...it sounds very hopeful! He will be a very lucky man if you find him to your liking. I am so sorry to hear that you need to have further surgery but once that is done you will be able to leave this part of your life behind and plunge into the next phase (and I think it is going to be wonderful!).

Fumi - can't wait to hear about your man too - how exciting all of this is!

UB - thinking of you and praying that your tiredness is just an aftermath of the chemo.

Melody and Kaloni - thank you for all your beautiful pics.

Sheila - hope you enjoyed your ride in the truck!

Sue - I'm SO glad you are feeling a little better! How are those gorgeous boys of yours? Have they anything planned for the holidays?

Lots of love to you all and also to Shirlann, AE, Suebee, Dawn, Karen, Judie, Ulla, Wren, Jule, AnnNYC, Ann in Colorado, Nancy, and all of you dear sisters.

Jane xxx 

nowheregirl

Hi All,

So we need a man? OK I've got a nice one.

Well, I'm not where Lisa is. My man isn't my man yet. *lol* Do you REALLY want to hear me talk about him? Since you asked, I will tell you what's going on around here. But remember it's you who asked. You couldn't blame me one bit if I didn't stop at all. Hee Hee.

OK here we go. I met this guy in January of this year on the dating site. He's a Kiwi (New Zealander) living in Auckland NZ. He's 9 years younger than me but I have never felt an age difference between us because he's a lot maturer than his age and we have sooooooo much in common and share the same values. The second thing we noticed we're a lot alike is that he works as hard as I do (he is a computer system engineer) and the reason why he works that hard is exactly the same as why I do. It's not $$ but we just can't stand the thought that we may give our customers a negative experience with us.

So now you want to hear what's the first thing we noticed that we're alike? Believe it or not, he too is a cancer survivor. Actually his case was way worse than mine. Just a year after I was dx'd, he was dx'd with a rare type of brain cancer at the age of 31. He was only given two options, have brain surgery within 2 days or die in two weeks. That's not really an option so he underwent surgery (twice to get clear margins), did 7 weeks of chemo+WBR combo and 48 weeks of chemo. So he just knows what I've been through and so do I. Although chemo drugs that are used for brain cancer are lot stronger than what are used for BC and he got pretty sick and lost his hair, it didn't stop him from doing what he wanted. He even did a half marathon when he was on chemo. I'm such a Zilla but still can't believe that! Oh speaking of which, he doesn't celebrate his cancer-versary. I just had my 3rd cancer-versary earlier this month and told him about it. Then he said he'd rather want to celebrate the day when he would have died as his "second birthday" because that's when he was given a new start of his life. He did a bit of google for me to see when I would have died if I hadn't been treated. Figured we would have died on the same date (a year apart though) so now we share our second birthdays which is 25th August. This really shows who he is. He's such a positive guy but would never try to live like dying. He keeps saying he's nothing more than who he is with or without cancer.

Anyhow since we are too far apart, we haven't met each other in person nor have we talked on the phone. But we have exchanged countless emails and texts like "three times a day basis" and we just know we really are who we say we are.(I've even seen a picture of his scar on the head) I don't think he has romantic feelings towards me at this point but at least we are great friends.

On the 3rd of September, I'm leaving for Auckland to meet him in person and will be there for 18 days with him. He's organized a getaway (3 nights 4 days) for just the two of us in one of the most popular tourists places in NZ and I can barely wait! Mind you, I've never been on any sort of holidays with a guy ever since I went on a honeymoon with my ex in 1999. The hotel he's booked for us looks so great and there's a gorgeous spa within walk distance just in front of a beautiful lake. He wants to take me there after dinner so that we could enjoy the spa along with beautiful stars in the sky. Awwww how romantic is that? I really can't believe this is going to happen. We've planned just too much for our get-together, from a small party for our second birthdays to a bread making lesson he'll be doing for me (he used to work as a chef when he was a lot younger) so 18 days could be short for us.

He is a fitness freak and a cyber personal trainer of mine. Without him, I don't think I could have lost 17.6 lb's in 2 months. He too has been on a diet (though not to lose weight but to get lean muscles before he participates in a full marathon in November followed by a 62 miles charity walk in May) so I'm not alone in this. Knowing he's working hard too helps me stay determined.

Oh by the way, did I tell that I call him Baby Pooh and he calls me Momma Bear?  (long story)

Anyhow, I'm so happy I've met him and that we soon will be meeting each other in person. Obviously I'm pretty much in love with him but been trying to hide how I feel about him. I just know it'd be better for me to sit back and see how this pans out. Hopefully once we meet in person, things may change so stay tuned and keep your fingers crossed for me!

Oops almost forgot to ask something important.

He just had his follow-up MRI this past Wednesday. Ever since then, I've been nervous as heck and could vomit anytime. It's his first follow-up atfer he was done with chemo in December so can be really important. So far, no words from the hospital and he tells me it's a good sign and not to worry because he should have heard back from them if there had been anything wrong, like when they arranged more tests pretty darn quickly after his first surgery. But I am still nervous. Please for Pete's sake, send a whole bunch of positive thoughts and prayers his way. I'd be lost if we got bad news.

xo

Fumi

honeygirl

Oh Fumi!!!! I can't stop smiling! What a wonderful "story" so far and the best part is , it is true and happening to you! Wow , this guy certainly sounds like a keeper. Very compasinate and full of heart. I don't think there is much more appealing to me in a man , than a great sense of humor and a positive attitude. Those two things can carry a person through just about anything. And such fate that he has gone through cancer also. So you two can really relate. I think the best realationships always start out of friendship. Fumi , I think you two are off to a fantastic start. What a wonderful vacation you are gonna have. And we must see a pic of you two together! I will keep him in my prayers , and am sending positive , bright thoughts his way. Try not to worry , You know how so many people tell us , "keeping a positive outlook means so much" , well if that is true , he should be just fine! And what  a way of thinking about his "second birthday". Wow , that is so deep and meaningful. Good luck Fumi. Please keep us posted. I love hearing all about your new adventure in love. Hugs to you girl.

geebung

Oh Fumi - what a beautiful true story! I think he is right - no news is good news but it will be so great for both of you to get definite confirmation. I can't wait to hear how things go in September - it sounds sooooo romantic! He sounds like a wonderful person and you both deserve each other. I will certainly keep you both in my prayers and thoughts.

Jane xxx 

my3girls

Fumi!!! What a wonderful story!!  How can you say that you don't think he has romantic feelings for you?? He has planned this romantic gettaway for the two of you!! You are kidding yourself dear..I believe he does!  What a great guy!! You so deserve it!! Good for you.  I can't even believe he ran a half marathon when he was going thru tx's!! Omg..that is superman!  You lost 17 lbs in a few months! Wow..that is quite a success!! I wish you all the best on your trip in September.  I know it's different once you meet someone...but I think you have formed such a special relationship with him...IT'S ONLY GOING TO GET BETTER!  Bye the way....I don't have my man yet...but close...haha.

Speaking of him...his name is Dennis, he is 57 years old..and I think he is attractive, in good shape..and the most attentive man I have ever met!!  He has a great job...he sells jewelry and diamonds..and makes a very good income. Last night was amazing!  We went and had a bite to eat..then we didn't want the night to end...even though we both had to work today...so we went to a little bar (he doesn't drink) and I had a beer and we talked and talked and talked. Before I knew it, we were holding hands.  It's so unlike me..but this man ladies...makes me feel like I have not felt in soooooooo long.  Actually, I am not sure if I have ever felt like this.  He has called me several times from last night to today, sent me text messages..and the most beautiful email to greet me here at work this morning!  SOMEBODY PINCH ME!!!  I THINK I AM DREAMING!  He is definately very interested in me, and has not been shy in saying so.  I have never received so many compliments from a man, esp. in one evening.  So, ladies..you must have all been saying a prayer and sending me good positive vibes last night...cause it was simply magical.  I am still floating!  He knows I want to take things slow....and he knows everything I have been through...and respects that.  He says he just wants me to feel good, continue to be healthy..and happy.  Wow...where has he been all my life?

I'll will fill you in more, when I see him next week....It actually almost scares me..the way that I feel.  Does anyone understand that?

Love you ladies....I wish we could all get together and have a big slumber party and talk about everything.  OPRAH....WE NEED YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

XOXO

LISA

geebung

Lisa - I started smiling when I read your post and by the time I finished I had tears in my eyes! How fabulous! I am so excited for you! He sounds fantastic! This is soooo good for you - to be appreciated, to have someone to talk to who is on your wavelength and the text messages, lovely emails etc... wow!!!! I so wish we could all get together too and talk ourselves blind!

Hugs,

Jane xxx 

honeygirl

Oh Lisa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Again , i can't stop smiling! I am so happy for you , I can almost cry. I know their are good men out there , and I believe , you and Fumi , have found two of the best! Has he ever been married? Kids? Does he live close by you? And yes , you should take it slow , but enjoy every minute. I hope this turns into something wonderful for you. You so deserve it. And in case you and Fumi don't know the "rules" here on our thread , you have to keep us informed!lol Live , Laugh and Love! xxxx Mel

honeygirl

Hi Jane! Good to see you. Isn't this exciting about Lisa and Fumi!? I love , love , love when life is good!xxxx Mel

honeygirl

And Fumi , he is gonna bake some bread for you!!!? Wow , that really is a man after my own heart!lol

Shirlann

Oh FUMI, I am so happy for you!  This gentle fellow sounds like your soul mate, with many of the same fine ethics you have.  Oh wow, what a wonderful, wonderful thing!  And to think we all get to tag along, cyber style, this is sooo much fun.

Oh LISA, you too!  We are awash with good news.  Sounds like you found a keeper too.  I am so glad, and we get to hear everything, because we are all like sisters but without any agenda, other than wanting you all FOUR to be happy!!

hmmm, how can we arrange to be at these weddings, I bet we can!

Hugs and kisses to everyone, dear sisters, Shirlann 

nowheregirl

Thanks for the good wishes and prayers for my Baby Pooh. Still no words from his hospital so I'm starting to think they didn't find anything to be concerned about.

Mel, I do agree with you. A good sense of humor and a positive attitude is a must. Wish I could post here his "cancer story" which he wrote for a friend of his when he was dx'd if it wasn't too long. Hmmmm OK I've decided to share it with you all because it really shows who he is. He didn't even lost his humor when he was going through the most difficult time of his life. And I think you'd know why I'm so sure that he really is who he says he is. Who could have written this without actually going through this?

http://tamako.milkcafe.to/luv/pb_story.htm

LISA!!!!!!! You just put an ear-to-ear smile on my face! OMG, that's so incredible! Yeah we should all come and pinch you in the cheek and make you realize it really is true and what is happening to you! I am sooooooooooooo happy for you. We do need to hear some happy news.

Mel, he's not baking bread for me. He is teaching me how to bake bread because I have never done that before. Believe it or not, a conventional oven is not a very common kitchen appliance here in Japan so I have never owned it. He laughs at me thinking I'd end up being all covered in flour after a bread making lesson shaking a rolling pin at him. But I must admit it could be true. *lol*

Shirl, do you know how excited I am? I only have 45 days before I go see him. Wow, can't believe that! The first thing we'll be doing together is a party for our second birthdays. He's taking me to his favourite Belgium bar and after we enjoy dinner and some drinks there, we'll be heading back to home for some more drinks and fun watching movies in front of the fire. Oh since he's in the Southern Hemisphere, September is pretty much in the middle of winter so I can enjoy the fire, which I have never done before. I have sooooo much to look forward to!

Have a lovely weekend everyone. I'm off to the shop for some food and do the workout!

xo

Fumi

Shirlann

Oh Fumi, I am SO HAPPY for you.  I just know this is going to be very special, and this could not have happened to a sweeter, more deserving person than you.

I have to click on the site, and read his story.

Hugs, and kisses, Shirl 

livesstrong

Lisa & Fumi -

for you both.

Hugs,

Valerie 

geebung

Possum was run over by my stupid neighbours. She was such a dear little cat. I was only away for a few hours! I miss her so much. She used to curl up on my lap every night and sleep on my bed - she was my little Possum and I have never had a cat so sweet, affectionate and funny.

lvtwoqlt

Good morning to all you great ladies. I thought I would check in before I started on my orders today. 

Fumi and Lisa, your both are lucky to find such great men. My hubby is almost as good. Our first 'date' was a three-some (Donald, myself, and John) going to the best BBQ place in the county that has live bluegrass music and dancing. It is a good family oriented place, only open on Thurs, Friday, and Saturday nights. Beef and pork bbq slow smoked over hickory wood in their custom bbq pits. John actually dared Donald to kiss me before the night was out.

I can't believe that possum is gone, you have not had her that long.

I need to get to work now. check in later.

Sheila

NancyD

Good morning to all. Another hot and sticky day on the horizon. Even my brother's pool was 82 degrees yesterday. Bath water!

Oh, Jane! That is so sad. I'm sure it was an accident. My neighbors just had that happen to their little dog. One of their sons was backing out and the dog ran under the car. It's so sudden, it's a shock.

Fumi, Lisa, I think I need some lessons in meeting guys. I've been so focused on getting my kids off an on their own for the last eleven years that I really didn't put much effort into meeting anyone. A few half-hearted attempts that only discouraged me. But after I have recon next year, I will be much more "available". My youngest will be off to college. I'm not sure the online start is for me, though. Like I have posted before, I just don't trust the profiles. I think I need to join in more social activities locally. Maybe a club or two.

Sheila, I may have to take a barbecue tour sometime soon. You know, hit all the spots that have been recommended via friends, television, food critics. I feel an urge coming on.

Stay comfortable everyone.

lvtwoqlt

Come on down Nancy. I know several great restraunts in the area. Sim's BBQ is by far the best as far as atmosphere as well as all-you-care-to eat BBQ, slaw, pickles, cowboy beans, and corn fritters with strawberry jelly (home made) and molasses. They have on Thursday night BBQ Chicken in addition to the Beef and pork.

The owner comes around and makes sure that you are getting all you want, and he has a guest book that any new people there sign and you just might hear your name and hometown announced from the bandstand as well as birthday annoucments and anniversary announcements. They have a bleacher area beside the band stand so when you are finished eating you can sit there and watch the dancing (clogging) on the dance floor. They have impromptu square dancing with people who don't know what they are doing but all is fun. Sometimes they have a 'broom dance' - couples start dancing with one person dancing with a broom, when the broom drops, everybody changes partners and the odd person out picks up the broom to dance a little bit then they drop the broom and change partners again. They will get all the kids up for a great big line/circle dance. I have not been in a while but it is great fun.

It is really an informal restraunt that started in a barn and we have watched it grow (expand) since we were taken to it the first time in 1978. The first time we went I didn't know where we were going, it is about 5 miles off the beaten path in the country. They have a campground next to the stream that goes through the farm and every August they have the Molasses festival where you can see them processing the sorgum cane into molasses.

Sheila

nowheregirl

Hola everyone!

Today was a public holiday where I live so I had a relaxing day. I can't believe I had to go to work tomorrow. It's been freaking hot and humid (say 95F!) and I'm sure it will last till the mid of September. But by the time I'm back here from my holiday to NZ, the heat will be gone.

Shirl, yeah you should read his story. It is so real but touching. And like I said, he made it sound real funny.

Valerie, thanks for the happy dance. Here's my Zilla dance for you.

Jane, I'm so sorry about Possum. I have two cats so I know how you must be feeling. So very sad.

Sheila, awwww you are making me want to have a bbq! I haven't had one for ages. The place you mentioned sounds really nice.

Nancy, believe it or not, I don't trust the profiles either. I never knew I would meet someone on the dating site. What is written in the profile doesn't really matter to me. What I look is the effort the person must have put when they wrote it. But it's not easy and actually he is the only guy that has never disappointed me. Most guys turned out to be a huge disappoint and I quit talking to them after I exchanged a couple of emails with them. I wouldn't have tried online if I had had more time.

Hope this week is going great for everyone.

xo

Fumi

Shirlann

Oh Fumi, I did read it.  He sounds so strong.  Quite a guy, I just know this will be a wonderful experience for you.  Hmmm, so much fun to fall in love!!!!

Jane, I am so sorry about your kitty.  We have grown so fond of Cleo, she and Dusty are best friends, but I am waiting till they sleep together, then that will be for sure.  She follows him everywhere, I think she thinks she is a dog.  She comes when you call her, (he doesn't).

I think the profile approach is wonderful, so many people who are alone and don't want to be, other than the bar scene, what is there?  Fat chance finding somebody at work.  My son has gone out with a few, and every one has been a lovely woman, he is just not quite ready, it has only been two years since Carmela passed.

Melody, those pix are just wonderful, thank you for sharing them!

Hugs and kisses to all, Shirl 

livesstrong

Oh, Jane, my heart goes out to you. I know how hard it is to lose a furbaby.

Bill went to the onc today.  His counts are normal but they said that last time and he was in the hopsital 2 days later!  They are checking his thyroid, he should know the results by Wednesday. His CAT scan is scheduled for next Monday.  So it looks like we don't know much at this point,  I keep you posted.

Hugs,

geebung

Thanks everyone for your kind words re Possum. I know it sounds harsh to call my neighbours stupid but if I wrote of all the neglect and ill treatment that they have inflicted (and continue to inflict) upon their poor, unfortunate animals it would take up pages. They had a little Shetland pony for years. They never had any grass for him (this is a suburban back yard and can't possibly support a pony) so I would often have him in my yard. I also bought him horse food when I could afford it. A horse needs supplementary feed even if it has plenty of grass. Well, due to their refusal to feed or get vet treatment for him, he died an agonising death from colic a couple of months ago. Anothoer couple I know paid to have all their cats and dogs desexed but they just keep getting more animals - and neglecting them! I don't understand them - I think it's a type of mental illness. Possum soon realised that she liked the food, cuddles and love I had to offer her. I'm just glad that I made her short life happy in the time that I had her.

AE - I am so glad that Bill's counts were normal but I can imagine how you feel after past experience. I'm praying that his thyroid test and CAT scan comes back clear.

Fumi - I read your guy's story. He sounds wonderful! I can't wait for you two to meet!

 Love to everyone,

Jane xxx 

Ka-Loni

Hello My ladies, Boy! Everyone is Happy! I like it!  I am popping in to say Hello tonight , and send you my Love and Big Hugs.

God Bless,

Love,Kaloni

honeygirl

Oh Jane honey , I am sooooo sorry about Possum. What a sad , sad day for you. I remember you telling us of how your neighbors would get so many animals and not care for them. I was so happy when you took Possum in. And you are so right. You gave that little furry sweetheart all the love and contentment her little heart could hold. God Bless you Jane. You will always have happy memories of that sweet little girl. I Pray that God helps heal your heart. xxxx Love you Jane , Melody