TIME TO CIRCLE THE WAGONS GIRLS

lizws

Hey Jas - it's coming along. We'll be priming it later tonight and then will start painting tomorrow. I'm going to Linens and Things to pick out shower curtain etc. today. I still need to sand and paint the cabinet. Colors I think - LOL - are going to be gold, red and black. That's the decision this morning at least.

neesie

Good Morning to all!

Getting ready to head in for my Friday at Mom's. Or to "Master of Manipulation!" (thanks Margaret!)

Reading Gus' Not Mother of the Year Award brought back Memories!! Oh yes, I've been nominated several times for that award! I have to share one that we still laugh about.
When my DD was about 3 years old we lived in a cape cod house and her bedroom was upstairs. In the middle of the night she came to the top of the stairs and called out for "Mommy", being the ever wonderful Mom that I am, I sprang out of bed and went to the BOTTOM of the stairs and asked her what was wrong. She said, "I fowd out of bed." Being half asleep I said, "Are you okay" and the answer was "yes", followed by A-#1 Mom saying, "Okay, just go back to bed."
The next morning when I went up to make her bed and get her clothes I discovered she had thrown up in bed....What she had said to me in the middle of the night was, "I fowd up in bed!" Being the dutiful child she was, when I said you're okay just go back to bed. She put a Baby Blanket over the puke and went back to bed!!

Gotta go, but thinking of you all!

Hugs,
Denise

jankay

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sherloc

Good Morning Ladies and Happy sleepy time Peter. Thanks for keeping the night watch. I got everything on my list done yesterday except getting my car washed. Will have to toodle on up the hill for that today. I'm wondering why Mizsissy deleted her posts too? She only did it here. I went and checked all her posts. Found one in the Chemo forum with a pic of a nightgown she designed. O my is it pretty. Mizsissy if your lurking. Good Luck with your new enterprize.

Amy, praying your dad is doing better today.

Liz, have a grand time today with Madison. Give her a smooch from me.

Socal, I love museums.

Vicki, I was mistaken. Summer just began.

Beth, I do hope you have a lovely weekend alone with hubby.

Jankay, yehaw for pool therapy.

Cheri, The price does seem high but in reality it's not. Consider you have room and all meals paid for. You have to pay for soda and alcohol but don't have to drink those. Entertainment for the most part is free, unless you choose to do stuff on shore or gamble or play bingo on the boat. So $900 bucks for a weeks vacation isn't really that bad. Plus they leave the cutest little towel animals in your room every night and mints on your pillow. But that said, I do hope they lower the price too.

Jan, You don't need to apologize for you comments. I think we all understand where you are coming from.
Beth, I commend you for what you have done. I personally wouldn't have done it. Actually I didn't, I had a lumpectomy. I think the issue is not that we don't understand where you are coming from. But that you don't truly understand us. You said the Spectre of cancer never goes away. The fact is you have only faced the ghost of what might have been. The rest of us have fought the real live monster. Many have won, many are still fighting, and way to many have lost the fight.
You have had surgery by choice. I have had 8. None of which were my choice. I have tattoos as a constant reminder of the physically and emotionally difficult time during radiation. You will most likely never have to lay on a table naked while people you don't know manipulate your body to get it lined up just right under a machine that fries you from the inside out. I live in constant pain because of the damage the radiation did to my body. Yes you take tamoxifen. That sucks beans too. Tamoxifen has destroyed my bones. So lucky me gets to take more drugs to counteract that. I didn't have chemo and would never think of comparing myself or my journey to someone that has. Because I have not been there.
Anywhos all that said. You are loved here. You are a part of this group we call the Wagon Circle. I think we would just like you to see the reality of where we are at.

Sheri, another tip for eating foods with iron. Always have something containing vitC with the iron foods. Are bods don't absorb the iron properly without it.

Cheri, you let little Kevin up. hahahahha me thinks your just a pushover.

Charlene, tip for the future.....The aliens will come and kidnap Audry when she is 12 and return her at about 19. The replacement they leave is not your daughter.
O and keep her away from haystacks.

Peter, a bit of an infection? What pray tell is a bit of an infection? Hope it clears up quickly.
Shhhhh I told Vicki I was mistaken. But really I'm not. Your winter is half over.

Joyce, have a great time swimming.

Nicki, I think it's high time you retire. This work thing is just getting in the way and I miss you.
Thanks for the cereal. I love Fruit Loops. They remind me of me.

That goes for you to Vicki. O and call your doc and demand a thyroid test. This is just ridiculous that you are being made to wait like this.
I'm wishing it were fossilmax friday for me. This aredia is kicking my butt. I hurt from head to toe. Doc said wait and see if it lasts and how long. He might reduce the dose.

Cheri, I'm weaning myself off coffee. I'm down to 2.5 scoops of decaf and .5 scoops of regular. Another week and I should be good to go.

Jazzie, maybe the dog ate it. Have you ever seen what happens when a dog eats a frog. They foam at the mouth like they have rabies. It is totally gross.

Boo/Sue, happy birthday to DS and good luck to you.

Jan, I live in fear of hubby getting hit by someone. Hope that guy is ok.

Sux/Sue, I have officially nominated you for Mom of the Year.

Puppy, good to see you. How are you? Whats happening?

Liz, colors sounds fabulous. Take pictures.

Denise, hahahahahhahahhahhahha I have real tears rolling down my cheeks over that one. Poor baby. Have to admit to a few of those oops myself.

Off to Curves, have a great day one and all.

nosurrender

Hello,
I haven't been here in a while. For everyone who sent me a PM I will be answering them next! I promise!!

I was just sitting here scanning the board and I feel I need to say something.

First of all, I started the circle because of the fear that was instilled in all of us when we read about three of our sisters getting mets. I remember Robin's post vividly- I think she wrote "It's back worse than ever"

That scared us. We were scared for Robin. We were scared for ourselves.

In Moving Beyond people were writing they were afraid to express the fear they had. There was no place to let it out. I started a thread there called "I am so upset!" but it didn't go over very well so I started the circle. Instead of being scared out there alone in cyberspace we gathered together to support our sisters with mets and freely let ourselves express our own fears. We held each other up and got our sisters through all they enduring.

Look at Robin now!

The circle got bigger and bigger because we all took care of each other and it was ok to be afraid and to express ourselves.

We also welcomed people who did not have cancer, but had loved ones with cancer. And we also were very encouraging in the beginning of Beth's journey and now everyone here is being very supportive of all she has been through.

However, speaking as a person in the midst of rotten chemo, with recon scars that aren't healing because of the damn chemo, with a port that has been nothing but trouble, with the knowledge that I have gotten cancer not once but twice and this time it was much bigger and went outside of my nodes.... no, Beth, it is not the same thing. I pray you never have to know what this hell is. You had your surgery and you are here with everyone sharing and everything is going along fine. But you cannot honestly believe that you have experienced what we have. And you should be doing a happy dance that you haven't!

Jan, I understand what you are saying and I thank you. Some of you are far out of chemo and it is a distant bad memory. But there are those of us in it now and your post gave us support and didn't diminish what we are going through.

This was meant to be a place where you can say:" I am afraid my cancer is spreading." or " I have another lump and I am scared." or "My husband said he doesn't find me attractive since I had cancer" and the circle would encompass you and help you.

Are there other topics now? You bet. And I honestly cannot keep up with you all. I feel out of touch with the circle. And I feel like I do not want to post things that are serious anymore. So to some extent the circle has evolved. It is more jovial. That is good. Everyone needs jovial and happy and silly. But when it was started, this was a "safe haven" for our sisters to say even the most frightening of things. I am sure that should someone have something on their mind that is serious and of grave concern we would embrace them and support them and give them the support the circle was made "famous" for.

Beth, no one is discounting your ordeal. Having that surgery is difficult. Having that surgery AND cancer is different. They are not the same. And I think what we are trying to say is please don't equate them because it trivializes what we are experiencing.

There is no way I can catch up after almost a week... but I say hey! to everyone and there are tacos in my wagon for lunch.

Love to all,
g

sherloc

holy smokes. that should most definately read Gus/Sue.....OOPS

sherloc

Hi Gina. You always know the perfect way to say something. It's good to see you.

Biker54

Dearest G,

You started this Circle for us and you should never, ever think that you can't post anything at all to us. If you are having hard times with your recon and your chemo, this is the place to be. We will put you in the center of the circle and surround you with love. Sure, we get jovial at times, but when there is a sister (or brother) in need, we are right here for them. This is the best place on the whole site and I thank you. Oh, and save me a taco!!!

newvickie

The circle has changed a bit and we are a bit jovial but I think it is just because we have truly become a never ending circle of true sisters (and a brother) that are comfortable saying whatever needs to be said. We have our sisters in the center, and Gina dear you are one of them, and all of us surrounding you. Anyone can post their anxieties, fears, worries, ups and downs and we'll make sure they are taken care of. I love how our little "world" has evolved and would really love to see more join us.
Hugs to all...back to work (after I run to Gina's for a taco!!!).
Shokk...wake up!!! It's not Saturday yet!
Love
Vickie

shokk

Good morning hot tamales.......and our assie man.......Geez I have been on this diet (I have lost 12 pds)that the onc put me on 15% fat is all I can have in a day.......suppose to help triple negs not have reaccurences etc.......brb.......

jasmine

wow...that is fantastic shokk. Kudos on the weight loss!

shokk

Anyway now all I want is a taco..........yes Gina the circle has changed from its beginning.......to me it reminds me of a child from birth to toddlerhood to childhood and now on to being a teenager......but have we not all changed??????I think all of us are struggling to understand what has happen to us......when I was dx I was completely blindsighted......bc did not run in my family....how many of us here do have histories of bc in the family......many of the girls here have mothers, sisters, aunts that all have had bc.......Gina you carry the gene, you worry about your own sister being in somewhat denial........no Beth can't understand what we are going thru that have had/have the beast but then I don't have a real understanding of all the gals here that have the gene mutation........why do we have bad biology?????I'm triple neg.....why did my cells turn against me? What did I do that caused my bc.....not knowing how am I to protect myself? You know Gina and Jan and Cheri and Sherloc I am so freaking tired of being scared all the freaking time......the circle gives me some relief......because I am with other sisters (don't have any of my own) and a brother that is brave enough to hang out with us crazy cgs that understand and are just as afraid as I am.......oh brb......

marshakb

Thank you Gina for that post. And most of all for starting the circle.

Love, Marsha

shokk

Gina we all sure do love you and we worry when you are gone because we all know how much the port and chemo and steriods and the surgeries all suck big time.......plus to top it off you are so damm independent that I know I wonder if you have family that helps you when you need some help.......anyway sweet chica please come and check in.......there is no reason that you need to read back....unless you want to......just stopping by and keeping us updated no matter what it is would make me very happy.......anyway there it took me two long rampling post to say what Vickie said......Jan I have something to say to you....bb in a minute.......

AlaskaDeb

OK ladies and gent- I'm going to be gone for a bit. No need for a posse, I'll be back. Hugs to everyone in our little "click" (from another thread, sorry....)

Deb C

shokk

(((Jan)))) do you think for one moment that you would be standing out there alone for speaking up......you even got Gina to step in......I think one thing about this thread is that it is a group of all different prespectives and personalities....we all have our own "baggage" (I hate the term)coming into our lives with bc.....anyway just wanted to say you should always say whats on your mind.......I have been meaning to tell you for some time that some of the insurance to I do is motorcycle ins for high end bikes and custom bikes and show bikes.......anyway when some guy calls in for a quote it so funny because I can usually tell right off if its what I call a "Harley" guy......so I get some personal info and then I have to asked what kind of bike he/she has and if it is a harley guy there is always a pause because they are always insulted that I need to ask........anyway when ever I hear about a bike accident I just shudder.......yesterday was a funeral for a motorcycle cop that was killed last week when he was hit by a driver on the side of the highway and that had motorcyclist from all over Texas that attended the funeral and they had to close a few freeways because there were over 5 thousand bikers that came to give their respects....any way thats all for now....Amy praying for your dad.......love all the hot tameles here.....check back in this afternoon........

shokk

DebC going out to the campfire to do some cooking??????God I love to cook out and haven't done that in a few years......we will miss you don't stay gone to long.......

newvickie

why the heck am I so freaking tired????????????????

Anonymous

Hey Hey Hey - I got to sneak in at work. Just posted this elsewhere, but wanted to post it here to. This song is actually a favorite of mine - played it alot when my husband and I first met.

Anyways - in Remembrance of Minnie Riperton. She passed away on July 12, 1979 at the age of 31 from breast cancer.

Do we need to support each other. Hell yes! Good and bad.

Gina: So good to hear from you.


http://youtube.com/watch?v=9bhV-F8WT1M

It makes me cry.

NIcki

Biker54

Oh, that's why I hadn't heard about her for a while. It really has been a while. Still, very sad.

Shokk, congrats on the weight loss. I would be ecstatic about 12 lbs!

Biker54

Nicki, I hadn't heard that Minnie Riperton died! How sad. I hadn't heard about her for years!

Shokk, thanks for the kind words. I know what you mean about the fear. It always lurking in the background. I try not to think about it too much. I am firmly planted in the land of Denial! I had to laugh about the Harley guys. They have a saying, "If you have to ask, you wouldn't understand". Too funny. That's awful about the motorcycle cop. It goes to show that no one is immune from a crash. I can picture all the bikers showing up for his funeral. He was a brother.

Biker54

Vickie, it must be the weather. I like to blame everything on the weather. Are you sleeping at night? Maybe stress? You have lots going on right now.

newvickie

Jan...whose house are we "borrowing" for the cyber party? Is anyone going away this weekend? I think Madison is out of town LOL.
I'm hanging out in the land of Denial with many others. I plan on staying here too.
Marsha...how are you feeling? We are counting the days till your finished and feeling better...hugs to you and I loved the old men story!!
Deb...oh...gonna miss ya...I'll keep your wagon safe. sniff sniff.
Shokk...congratulations on the weight loss! I love reading your posts.
Shirley....I know that Cheri is a pushover...speaking of Cheri...where are you? Missing many girls today! We can't have this.
Robin, Shel, Liz, Susan, Puppy, Tricia, Odalys, Iris, Karen, Tracey, Anne, Betty, oh so many...you are makin me worry! I'll get Jankay to fire up the scooter. Time for a road trip!
Love and hugs all around
Vickie

newvickie

Hey Jan...I really think its a combination of my thyroid and doing way to much. I have every one of the "bad" thyroid symptoms listed...hows that for detective work...now I just need the friggin bloodwork. Looks like next week they will do it at my pcp's office.
Oh...job interview next week!! woohoo...Monday is a phone interview and there are now two positions open and I am qualified for both of them! I will so miss where I am but the money is way to good to pass up and the benefits are amazing. I can't keep working this hard for this kind of money any longer. If I'm gonna work this hard then I'm gonna make what I'm worth.
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jagsfan

SHEACTUALLY DIED IN 1979 FROM BREAST CANCER

newvickie

heehee...Melissa and Tammi have a post that says "This is a test"...I clicked on it and it just says "testing". I so wanted to post the
"This has been the national broadcast system, had this been an actual emergency..."saying under their test but I chickened out LOL.
Shall we all post something funny to tease them a little or leave it alone? I'm game...they deserve a laugh once in a while too!

SheriH

I'm so glad Gina and DebC came in and said what I tried to say, but so much more eloquently. You are both extremely talented writers.

I'm am so blessed to have friends like you. I came on today with some fear and trepidation, but am so happy to know we can share things and still be "sisters and brother". What an amazing place this is. Yes, we have fun and get silly, but I know you all care for each other and me. You are the people that "get it" and I am grateful for all of you.

Biker54

Sheri, yup this is still the best place on earth. We can speak our minds and know we are still loved. It really is like a big family. Unconditional love .

Vickie, I missed your posts for some reason. Hmmm, it does sound like thyroid. But......you still have a lot of stuff going on in your life. Maybe if you get this new job, you can slow down just a little. It sounds like a good thing for you, with benefits and all. Good luck!! I'll offer up my house while I'm in Maine next weekend. You can use the pool and everything. Just clean up after yourselves . I'll try to stop in the party tonight if I can. We are going on an all day ride tomorrow and I'll probably get in too late.

shokk

Sheri I'm amazed that you can spell "trepidation"..........ha..........oh and by the way loved the pics of you, boo/sue and marsha..........

Biker54

Bwwwaaaahhhhhaaaahhhhaaaa!!! This is only a test!!! I'd leave it alone. The whole site might explode!