2005 ROCK-TOBER CHEMO GIRLS

CherylG

Be strong ladies... DO NOT let this troll succeed in what they want to do.... tear apart the threads.
These are free and open boards for support to EVERYONE. If everyone goes somewhere else how will the ones who need our help find us.
Others can say it so much better than I ... just keep on keeping on I say
Hugs
CherylG

Paula15089

oh my... we are getting bad rep for being a quarrelsome bunch now?? not the kind of rep i want on these boards...

Laura, i am not seeing you here as much as before.. Why? You are an invaluable part of this group. I understand why you would feel violated and upset. However, as someone who has seen the original post, i dont feel it was directed at you personally. My issue with the poster not what was said in the post, but the manner in which it was expressed...
I would hope by now we have proven ourselves to be an understanding, mature group. Why would anyone resort to posting under a different name is beyond me. Anyone understands that by doing that they invite a huge problem, which is exactly what happened.

May i suggest, if you find out who this person is (which i am sure is possible for someone who is into computers), simply PM them and discuss the issue off the boards.

Just know, we support you 100%. Dont let anyone make you feel unsafe here.

Hey, there is a silver lining to this mess - who else has completely forgotten all BC-related problems in their life in the last couple of days??? I know I have!!

TracyNY

Thank you CherylG.

I just ate a whole can of fruit cocktail. From the tin. With a spoon. For dinner. I think I'm going to burst!!

Anonymous

Okay, here I am sticking my nose in where it may not belong...

I am pretty clueless as to any drama here, but I did just read the last few pages of your thread and I am saddened.

Please oh please none of you leave. I may not speak to all of you all the time, but I have posted alongside some of you on other threads.

Even though we don't always have stuff in common, we share a bond that supercedes the petty differences that crop up in life.

There are some of you that I may not speak with often, but I am comforted in knowing that you are there, somewhat like being across the room and giving that "knowing" look to each other (I am here...you are there...we are connected).

Please don't let negativity ruin the beautiful thing you have here. I have never felt anything less than welcomed on the rare occasion that I've "dropped in for a cuppa"!

Hugs,
Peggy

PS: LMAO @ "I just ate a whole can of fruit cocktail. From the tin. With a spoon. For dinner. I think I'm going to burst!!"

newvickie

I'm sticking my nose in here too as I have heard there is such hurt feelings and discontent. Please girls, don't let one post (and truthfully I missed it and don't really know what's going on)ruin the wonderful thread you have. We have lost many girls in the past due to hurt feelings and misunderstandings and they are girls that I still miss. Don't let one person or statement break down all you have built up.
Hugs and love
Vickie

Anonymous

What happened? What troll? Can someone tell me about this?

I am going to try my very best to be there for the BIG meeting. If it's the end of August it's a crucial time for school so I can't do it then. July and the beginning of August will be the best time for me (summer - no school). I'm sure I can get time off, though, as long as it's not the first week of school.

My Chargers lost... but, we'll get over it.

Curlylocks

Hi Ladies,

I'm with Graycie, wont be going anywhere either. I am excited to meet all of you, my boss approved my 2 weeks vacation today including the Friday of our planned weekend!

We had terrible freezing rain starting at 4:30 a.m. this morning combined with snow making the roads really dangerous. I drove slowly with my new winter tires but got to work in one piece. Now coming home was a different story...my window wipers died 1/2 home. I had to use my glove to wipe the window while driving, not the smartest thing to do but didnt have a choice. My hubby was at work and had no else to come and get me. I looked at driving home tonight as a minor inconvience in the scope of things. My mechanic's shop was open until 6:00 p.m. so they fixed the wiper arm temporarily that had come off on the inside of the car. I am an appt on Thursday to get it fixed permanently. We have been spoilt with not having any snow this winter but today made up for it! I sooooo hate winter driving, makes me nervous....especially freezing rain.

Victoria I am sorry about you missing your scheduled appt on Saturday. My brain is mush too, it is very frustrating.

Have a great night ladies!

Michele Wenz

Anonymous

Maybe we can have 2 big meetings? I know it's not the same, but it's better than not getting the chance to go. Maybe one in the west coast and one in the east coast.

Oh, I just realized my little meeting is coming up!!! Kelly and Laura, are we still going to the same restaurant?

I'm a little insecure at this moment because I know I will be meeting with a Hollywood movie star and a wild cheetah woman from Chicago who races cars!! I am a small, Asian woman, very painfully plain. Nothing exciting about my looks. My hair is so awkward people I don't know are suggesting I cut my "tail". I don't even think a makeover will help me. I am driving myself into a frenzy just thinking about it.

Anonymous

Brenda, don't be nervous!! Believe me, I don't look like a movie star unless you are thinking a plus size movie star with a short hair doo...... Wah, wah!

You can be Lucy Liu in our party! Asian women rock! In true Rocktober fashion, I am going to make sure Little Girl wears appropriate cheetah attire!

Naniam

Hey guys, just want to tell you that I came to the board after I had finished chemo and rads. I didn't have the kind of "connection" that all of you feel and have shared.
Don't feel bad about your bond or your thread; it is as special as the experiences all of you have endured. Don't let anyone or anything rob you of the joy, comfort, strength and encouragement you have found in each other.

There are other people that are considered in cliques too in other threads. I think that happens anytime a thread gets lots of pages - it is hard for some to keep up and often time doesn't permit and they back off or it is just to overwhelming. That doesn't make it a clique!!

Warm wishes, Brenda

marymelodi

Wanting to say "hello" and "good night" at the same time.
Soon going to sleep.

I find it interesting that what I thought was a small "tizzy" between friends has taken on a larger life. Frankly, I didn't realize so many other folks looked at the Rocktober Girls messages.

This thread is the only one I have participated in on a consistent basis. I have contributed to a couple others a few times, but really, this is the group that I felt most connected with since we were all in the same boat at the same time and then as time went on, the personalities and spirit between us bonded me to my Rocktober Girls. In my view, it's not a clique or exclusive because we have not shut anyone out, but we have spent more time and energy on this group and we have naturally found ourselves focusing on each other. I think I would find friendship with other women, but the reality is I haven't got enough time to be close friends with everyone who might be reading and posting at bc.org. So, while I do not intentionally shut anyone out, it just works out that I cannot respond to or relate to everyone.

I think I must be naive. I just didn't think that our group was so much noticed by the larger community.

Mary

TracySeattle

Hi Everyone!

I am glad to hear that we have decided to stay here... I didn't like the yahoo group either and it was hard for me to figure out how to invite people to join. Victoria - you definitely were not left out on purpose - you and I were PMing at the same time I was trying to figure out exactly how to get everyone over to that board.... I am so sorry if you felt differently.

I hate that we have had this disruption, but I am glad that we are moving past it....

I want you all to know that I care about each and every one of you, I trust you and I am so excited that we are all going to get to meet each other!

For all of those that have stopped in to provide encouragement to us - thank you! And please feel welcome to hang out here with us..... We like making new friends.

Love you all and tomorrow, I will be moving forward and away from these past few days.....

Good night and sweet dreams....

Anonymous

I am expected to report for teaching duty starting the 29th of August. If I can't meet with everyone this year I'll have to do it another time!

ravdeb

Brenda..we thought to meet the weekend just before you need to start teaching. It's a weekend...see if you can try to come. I know how difficult it can be just before the school year...

Victoria..I'm sooooooooooo sorry about you missing the day. How frustrating! I can relate because I can't seem to keep anything straight and wish I had no dates to remember! I feel like I'm living in a fog and wish things would clear up!

I think that our reputation will be okay around the boards. I thank all those who came on to encourage us.

Beth...Thanks for the invite to your mini-get together. If I lived in that area, I'd come!
I love the new thread with the crafts. I am into crafts. I "lurked" when it first came on. Didn't have anything to join in on, but it looks like a wonderful idea. I was impressed with the blanket many of the women are putting together. I don't knit and I did learn to crochet a couple of years ago (made a lot of mini kippot for my dolls and one for me) but never really got the hang of it. But, I love the idea and I think it's wonderful to be doing things like that. Another way to support the ladies here.

Be well everybody. Have a good day. Tracy..watch out for cuts from fruit cocktail cans! Debbie..sorry no insurance for you...but then..we all understand!

ravdeb

RoseMarie... Your nip surgery is coming up. Just noticed my note on that... I had a bunch of notes to remind me of things and my dear house cleaner made a new pile of them in an unknown place. Just about went nuts this morning trying to find something!!!!! I love my housecleaner anyway!

Hope you are prepared and excited for this newness you will acquire!

ravdeb

Ladies..

I wanted to just tell you that Mena, who quoted me on Moving Beyond, had misinterpreted what I had written and has apologized a zillion times and deleted the thread. In fact, it got deleted before her apology got through.

Mena was looking for some support here. She started chemo in Oct 2005 and is still on chemo, is really sick right now, and pretty down. I feel so badly for her. She feels awful that she started something that she shouldn't have, and is just not feeling well, physically.

She asked me to please tell you all that she is so sorry. She also said that we should stick together because it's important to stay together.

Just thought I'd let you know.

I feel badly that my words were misunderstood. I never meant to hurt anyone or make us sound like we are an exclusive group. I just meant that I love you all and feel good with all of you. I also meant that the other thread I had mentioned was also a tight group and that I thought that was a really GOOD thing. Just can't be a part of every thread here. I have a life!!!

I hope I didn't hurt anyone here and if I did, I apologize..totally.

Love you all.

RoseMarie

Ravdeb - love you! And yes, surgery is scheduled for Fri!! I have to be there at 9:30 but surgery isn't scheduled until 11:00. eeek - I'm usually pretty easy to please but I sure am hoping I'm happy with the end result!

Will check back later - got to get the kids off...

debbie444

Hey, its nice getting back to normal !! It has been nice of others to drop in and say hi, i go on a few other boards but find my attention span a little lacking so tend to stay here.
Rosemarie - i was thinking of your op this morning. If you are anything like me, they have told you to be there early so that you actually turn up!!
The photo of the lake was great - lets hope the weather behaves when we are there. You have gone up in my estimations travelling alone with the kids, would you do it again??
Roger looked at me the other night and said " you know, everyone has an inner child, but yours is on the outside!" I guess it about sums me up!
We went to Sheffield on Sunday - it actually stopped raining for a while! Dont know what its like for Jill but i may be calling for the ark shortly!!
Going to post some pics but site on go slow so posting this so dont lose it
Debbie

Anonymous

One of the bc sisters has a request that she posted elsewhere and thought I'd post it here so you guys would be sure to vote!!

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I really hesitated to post this on the boards but the vote is soooo close I knew I could pull out the big guns and turn to you all My cousin and his fiance, James and Marenda, have entered a contest with a local radio station to win a free wedding. If they win they have to get married this weekend!! Woohoo!!! We have been waiting for them to tie the knot FOREVER. Anyway, if you are willing to take a minute to "vote" that would be great. Just go to www.thetwister.com and click on "Joe Friday & Yeager" at the top. Then scroll down to James and Marenda's names and story. Click on the little circle next to their names. Then scroll down to the end of the couples stories and click on vote. Only one vote per computer is accepted. After you vote you can see the results. It is very close with one other couple. The voting deadline is noon tomorrow. Thanks so much to any of you who do this.

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ravdeb

I voted..
Wanted to correct my message about Mena..she started chemo way back in 1999 I think and is still on stuff because of mets. She has lung mets.

Anonymous

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I'm a little insecure at this moment because I know I will be meeting with a Hollywood movie star and a wild cheetah woman from Chicago who races cars!! I am a small, Asian woman, very painfully plain. Nothing exciting about my looks. My hair is so awkward people I don't know are suggesting I cut my "tail". I don't even think a makeover will help me. I am driving myself into a frenzy just thinking about it.

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Brenda -
I pm'd you but also wanted to respond here. OMG - DON'T BE SILLY! But at the same time, you are VERY funny! Please don't drive yourself into a frenzy! FYI, I will be at the table with a "Hollywood Movie Star" too! I have a long list of physical imperfections that I agonize about, WHO DOESN'T.?.?. Please set it aside. You're an adorable little Asian girl...full of style and grace!

Wanna race? ...(just kidding) LOL
Laura

newvickie

(((Rocktober Girls))) from the "Circle the Wagons" girls.
Thanks to Xv above for your kind words in the circle. Know that you are all welcome there at any time. Come and sit by the fire...listen to all our silliness.
Hugs to all
and...Rock on Rocktober Girls!!!
Vickie

RoseMarie

This is probably old news and you may already know this BUT I just found it and thought it very worthy of posting.

"Red wine contains an ingredient called resveratrol that, in the lab, caused cancer cells to die off in an early stage of the cancer process, report doctors from the Lineberger Cancer Center in Chapel Hill, North Carolina (Cancer Research, 7/00)."

Debbie - Lol! Thankfully we traveled to Chicago with my dh - he just worked the 2 days we were there - I did the Shedd Aquarium alone - couldn't figure out how to catch the bus back to the hotel and ended up walking endlessly for MILES it seemed. The kids had had it and they were pretty awful, (ok, ok, their BEHAVIOR was awful...) Can't say it was the most fun I've ever had! I would probably do it again, since I'm a glutton for punishment, but I'd be more prepared and have a better idea about what to do!
Victoria - will pm you as soon as I post
Looking forward to hearing about the "California Connection"

RoseMarie

Thanks Vickie! What a sisterhood we have!

debbie444

Well, i voted, if UK votes count that is!!

Here we are this weekend ( with a hat because my hair needs cutting!)

PuppyFive

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Ladies..

I wanted to just tell you that Mena, who quoted me on Moving Beyond, had misinterpreted what I had written and has apologized a zillion times and deleted the thread. In fact, it got deleted before her apology got through.

Mena was looking for some support here. She started chemo in Oct 2005 and is still on chemo, is really sick right now, and pretty down. I feel so badly for her. She feels awful that she started something that she shouldn't have, and is just not feeling well, physically.

She asked me to please tell you all that she is so sorry. She also said that we should stick together because it's important to stay together.

Just thought I'd let you know.

I feel badly that my words were misunderstood. I never meant to hurt anyone or make us sound like we are an exclusive group. I just meant that I love you all and feel good with all of you. I also meant that the other thread I had mentioned was also a tight group and that I thought that was a really GOOD thing. Just can't be a part of every thread here. I have a life!!!

I hope I didn't hurt anyone here and if I did, I apologize..totally.

Love you all.

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{{{RAVDEB}}} I have never known you to do anything But Love us ALL !!!!!! I posted to try and get things Healed, never to Hurt anyone!! I hope You know that!! Rock on Girls, and enjoy Your wonderful Togetherness, I think It is wonderful!! Puppy

linny

Debbie, such a nice picture of you and hubby.

My surgery side has been very sore - how can I still have so much discomfort 18 months after? When I saw the radiation oncologist for follow up in Dec. he said I had fluid in the breast, I should massage it. Yesterday I called his sec. for a referral to the lymphedema clinic - my arm is fine, but could this indicate something going on? I have not heard back yet, as usual in Canada, you have to wait for return phone calls and appointments.

My daughter in New York gets a call back from the pediatricians office within minutes of calling, day or night, 24/7. When my kids were little, I would sit home the whole day waiting for a return call.

Michelle, I am a big chicken in bad weather and did not drive yesterday - I read there were 600 accidents (most single cars skidding) in the GTA. Glad you made it home okay.

Hope everyone is feeling well.

Linda

debbie444

Linny, sorry you are going through the mill. Keep well because Granny may be needed soon if the op goes ahead.

debbie444

I have one that reminded me of Victoria but cant get it to load, will try later

TracyNY

Okay ladies, I'm off. I managed to coordinate a number of outfits with shoes and purses enough to last me the week. Now I just have to pull together the bits and pieces that make me me, the curling irons, make up case and brushes, products etc., and I'll be done.

And I have a dinner guest coming at 7pm, serves me right!! Shrimp newburg and penne rigate is on the menu. He'd better come on time too because its one of my favorite meals and I may eat it all before he gets there!!

Later gators!!