please help

yes Sue...at this moment there is a warrant out for his arrest!  But he has never been served.  I think I will call them right now!

I was putting it off, because I actually got 150.00 last month...but nothing since!  So..why should he be out living life normal...when we struggle?!

Hiya Sue, Karen everyone.

Yes ex's are a nightmare with or without the children (otherwise we would still be with them)

We will be happy in our old age in the knowledge we did the best, and they will not. Its a selfish side that lots of men have.

My partner will never ever say no to his ex if the kids want anything he will make sure they get it, even if he has to get the credit card out. I think he just feels really guilty as he left her.

Well I had a really quiet day at work today until... I let the part timers go at 3pm and then all hell let loose. There was three of us trying to serve 8 people. Being the only woman there I was the only one multi-tasking!! The men are so slow!!!!

Anyway I worn a skirt to work today and a customer told me I was breathtakingly beautiful! Ha Ha

I said wheres you white stick!

But I now have a big head!!

Hope you ladies are all feeling good today. I wish we could all meet for a nice meal and a few glasses of wine... That would be so nice

I did it!! I called the police, and gave them the information.  I am not positive that he is there now, but they can go check, which is what she said they would do!

I guess I will wait and see.  Why does part of me feel bad??

(((((((((((((((LISA))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry you're feeling so low. First of all , there is a reason they are called "EX"s'! You know , as mothers , we always want to be there to fix whatever it is for our kids. And we have to face the sad fact that we can't always do that. And having kids that are adult , makes it harder to help. Because they have adult trouble , mainly financial. And being at a place in our life that we ourselves are on a tight budget , we just can't always help. And that alone is enough to make a person depressed. But as Sue said , they do , and will understand as they get married and have kids. My ex was great while our son was under 18 and he had to pay by law. But as soon as our son turned 18 and started college , he no longer helped financially. And you know what expenses are like for a college student. I now have a lot of credit card bills and always gave my son as much of my tax refund that I could. But last year I had to keep it all , to have something to live on while I was off work because of stupid bootface. I always felt sad and mad , cause how can you look at your child , who is going to college to better himself and just cut him off financially. This is when he really needed us. What really makes me sick , is the fact that my son graduated college with a dept of over 25,000.00 to start adult life with! I'm sorry Lisa , I didn't mean to go on about my situation. But I do understand how you feel. Just know you helped by being there when they called to vent their situations to you. They didn't call him now did they?! My son seems to call me first before anyone when something really good or really bad happens in his life ,and that makes my whole day! Believe me , they are adults and they understand your situation. They just need you to be there emotionally sometimes and that , I'm sure you are.

Plus , you have your surgery coming up. I know that is weighting on your mind. You are gonna be just fine. I mean it. If I could do it , you can. And you are gonna look just great. Try not to worry.xxx Melody

Lucy - I am sure that customer had 20/20 vision! You ARE a gorgeous girl! Go ahead - feel big headed! It does you so much good to get a compliment.

gb 

Mel, I love the kind angel picture you posted. It is so soothing and relaxing. Where do you find all these pictures and how do you post them? Do you just google up pictures and drag them onto your post? I must have a go at that myself.

gb 

Melody,

Thanks!  I know you understand.  We do want to give our kids whatever we can.  I know that my girls are not calling for me to help, I just wish that I could.  They are so independent.  They are going to school, working and doing it all on their own!! I am very proud of them.  But when things like this happen, I just wish I had the money to say..."don't worry honey...I will help you".  My oldest daughter after finishing grad school this coming may..she will owe, about $80,000.00!! That's a huge debt to start off with.

Yes, it is very sad, that the ex can't pay for the one daugther that is still under 18.  He owes me about $9,000.00!!  I would be happy right now with about $500.00!

Sad, very sad.

xoxo

Lisa

HI gb , go to photobucket , click on find stuff , then type whatever it is you are looking for in the search box. When you find what you want , click on it , then on that page scroll down to direct link , click that and it will instantly copy , come back here , click on the tree at the top of the comment box , there will be a space for image url , click on that , then right click for paste and paste it, then click insert at the bottom. You can do it!

Oh ladies, thank you so much for your support!  GB-Jane, I so agree with everything you said.  You and Mel are right, the girls know where their support lies, and it is with me.  They know I am here for them no matter what.

Who knows what men are thinking.  I know for my ex..he was so depressed that I wanted out.  I guess after 5 1/2 years, he has still not recovered!! Whatever!  He is the one missing out on everything!  They don't call him, see him.  For my oldest, it has been 4 1/2 years since she has spoken to her Dad.  If he would just get his act together, and admit what he has done, and start taking care of his youngest, they may, just may want to have some kind of relationship with him.

I just don't understand.  I would die, if I could not see my girls, or talk to them, or have them not want to be around me.

I look forward to seeing the angel pic when I get home.

I am off work the next 2 days. I will get some things done that I need too, to prepare for my surgery, but I will rest as well.

xoxo

Lisa

Lisa, that is a huge amount and no wonder you feel sad about it. You have such a sweet, loving soul. I know your daughters don't expect anything from you but I also know that ache you have in your heart to be able to help them. It would give you so much pleasure. It's hard not to fantasise sometimes about winning the lottery.

love,

gb 

Ok, just testing:

http://i158.photobucket.com/albums/t92/AmerIdolFan/cute animals/cuteness.jpg 

Sue, hope you are sleeping but those steroids are probably keeping you buzzing. When is your new boss taking over? I will keep my fingers crossed that she's nice.

Mel - I gave the photobucket thing a go but it didn't work. I will practice again later when you are all asleep!

Lisa so glad you have a couple of days off. Hope you will get some good quality rest for some of that time. How's your leg?

Ulla, thinking of you. I get the feeling you are having a hard time right now and aren't up to posting. Big hugs to you.

Hugs,

gb 

I'd better go and do some housework. My S/O is arriving this afternoon and when he's here I tend to not get things done.

Love to all.

Jane xxx