What do I tell my potential, new boyfriend?

Designing the ring was INCREDIBLE. The jeweler is top notch.  First, you ring the outside bell (and stand there freezing your ass off) then they ask your name and appt time.  Then we got buzzed into the next room, where there's a sign that says, look up! We are now taking your picture!

Then you get buzzed through the next set of doors, and all they do is custom rings and that's it.  No other jewelery.  I met the owner, her assistant, and then stephon, the man designing my ring.

It's going to be so incredible-- it's a platinum band, with beaded platinum up the sides, a very high set center stone (That in ten years will be 100 years old) then there are three pink diamonds under the main stone on the front and back of the ring, and the sides are all pave set diamonds.  They do a wax of my hand, and it is all computer generated, so the placement of each stone is symmetric and lines up properly on my finger.

The wax mold will be ready in three weeks, and the are doing some preliminary work to my great grandmothers stone. I'm am having it shaved down from 2.5 Karats to 2.2 Karats in order to protect the girdle of the stone (they said it's super fragile, and if it's hit the wrong way, the entire stone could crack).

The entire process should take about 6 weeks, so I'm guessing it'll be sometime in early March.

I can't believe I found this jeweler.  I feel like everything I've dreamed of in this ring, is becoming a reality.

A little family history, a little pink for breast cancer, and of course,

A WHOLE HELL OF A LOT OF BLING- for the princess. LOLOLOLOL.

Marin- soooooooo what happened last night?????

Hi all,

Jdash - thanks!  I know I will get my mojo back -  but geeze I am just not that patient of a person somtimes...like NOW!!!LOL!!!

Traci - I am SO with you!  I am getting tired of hearing...you look great, but you look beautiful in your wig, your hair will grow back, it's only hair.....ummm......STOP!!!! This does NOT make me feel any better.  Sometimes, even when they are saying the "truth" it really doesn't help either!  I went to radiation the other day and one of the people in the waiting room says...you're tired aren't you?  I said, "why? do I look tired?" and she says "yes". Thanks!  Thanks for telling me I look like CRAP!!! Then the other day I saw someone and they asked how I was doing and I responded with "good".  Just my typical answer as no one really expects to hear how you "really" are doing - and I get a "well, you look like you are starting to get some color in your face as you were looking really pale there for a while."  SHOCKER!!!! I was getting chemo!!! 

I can also relate to my body not being me!  I have been doing very little since I started chemo back in June that my body is like jello!  I went to a yoga stretching only class last Tuesday and it kicked my butt!!!!  Now don't get me wrong - I am not a big fitness buff - but I really have NO ENERGY!!! I got on the cycling bike the following day and but it at the lowest setting and was still struggling to push the pedals

Ok - I'm really not a b****!  I just think I needed to vent because I want to feel GREAT I don't right now and I hate it.  How can I even start to think that I will be attractive to someone when "I" don't even like myself?  I want to look in the mirror and see my long hair again. I want my eyebrows and my eyelashes. I want color in my face and I want to smile and for it to be a sincere smile. 

Ok...I'm done venting and thanks for letting me  

{sigh}

Oh and Marin- I'm living vicariously through you - so I am so ANXIOUS to hear about your dates!!! Please do tell!

Beth - your ring design appointment sounded awesome! CONGRATULATIONS!!! 

Denise

Congrats Beth! What a wonderful ring - cant wait to see it??? 

I decided to log-on to plentyoffish as per Marin's experience. It's different but for free I'm all in! My current man (my weekly lay?) is nice and all but nothing is happening otherwise so why not cast the net out?  I'll keep ya'll posted.....

I'll still post on the MOJO thread but this is where I probably belong, amongst the singles trying to find some companionship.....

Cheers! I mean, hapy Mojo-ing or rather, happy hunting!!!  

Traci, I posted one that was taken a couple of months before cancer. I knew it could be a problem but hey, I didn't have to tell just about everything to the whole world, right? After having exchanged a reasonable amount of emails and such, I would send more recent ones if I was asked.

I am not sure if anyone remembers but there were two guys I met on the dating site, one from Australia and the other originally from Canada. I met with the Aussie guy in person this past October. It went well and he wasn't a bad guy. But he was just too boring to me and I've stopped talking to him ever since. The Canadian guy is still in touch although we are nothing more than friends at the moment. He is a sweet guy but just doesn't have time to talk much, he always emails me from work.

Then last week, I met another guy on that dating site. He is a 33 y.o. New Zealander. On that site, you can send an interest to those you are interested in even if you are not a paid member although there's no way to exchange email addresses unless you talk to a paid member. Luckily he was a paid member and even though I don't usually send interests (I'd rather wait), I just couldn't resist when I saw his profile. He made it very clear that he was a cancer survivor. He said he had a brain tumor and went through two operations, chemo and rads. Now we have been talking via email. What I didn't know was... his situation is very, very severe. Initially when he was dx'd a year and a half ago, he was only given two options... 1) brain surgery in two days with onlya 30% chance to live... 2) dead in two weeks...  Can you imagine that??? After he had the tumor removed (the size of a large mandarin!!!), he went through 7 weeks of chemo+rads combo and 48 weeks of chemo. I can't even imagine myself doing chemo for 48 weeks. He's just done with his treatment but has to be kept watched. He is meeting with his doctor on Thursday and is expected to get the results from an MRI he had this past Friday. I am not anywhere near his partner yet but do you mind saying a prayer for him? It broke my heart to pieces when he said he didn't know what he would do if cancer came back....

Sorry I don't have any exciting news but I just can't help but thinking about this poor young guy. He is just too sweet and funny to go through this.

Hugs,

Fumi

OMG, Beth, the ring AND the whole fitting scenario sound like something out of a fairy tale!!!! You absolutely need to promise that you'll post a pic as soon as possible! In the meantime, I'd love to see a pic of the wax mold....I thought, at first, that they waxed your hand  and considered that mighty odd  !!! And since the ring won't be ready by Valentine's, do you & Matthew have some sort of anniversary coming up in March or April? Or maybe your cancerversary (ya know, brand new life, kicking bc to the curb and all..?)? Anyway, I hope you get it, and a wedding date, very soon!

Soooooooooooooooooo, I'm gonna tell all under the lingerie thread. I PM'd Tami about not moving MOJO over here, so maybe we can use the "lingerie" thread to talk about the sexier details and this "boyfriend" thread for talk about other issues around dating?

~Marin

haha beth  i love you ! U ARE THE BEST

i am going to florida next thursday  when will u be there till?

xoxox

We're going to Sarasota.  Matt's lil sister has her coating ceremony at med school, so we'll be busy day and night doing family things.

Thus, the hot tub in our hotel room, so we can have alone time.

omg- you guys should see this "thing" he ordered for me to wear.

I'll have to post a link if I can find it, on the new mojo thread in this forum...

Hi Chantal,

Good luck with rads tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you!

Ann

Hi Chantal,

my name is Gina.

I had a bilateral in march and had immediate tissue expanders put in. I am in radiation right now. One of my  tissue expanders ruptured over the summer and I had to have it replaced... then for rads they had to deflate the other one.

So right now I am deflated on one side and my hair is just starting to grow back too.

I am also single.

Here is what I do- I think of myself as a cake not completely baked yet. There are a couple of men I have been getting attention from, but they don't know that is a wig I am wearing and have no clue I just finished nine months of chemo and am in rads right now... I would love to be normal and be able to flirt back and jump right in... but I have more baking to do.

And soon, I will be done with rads and I will get my exchange surgery and then that will be the frosting on the cake.

So I am being patient because I know that soon I will be the best me I can be soon.... I just have to bake a little more.

That is what you can do too. It really is only a matter of months and after all you have been through, what's a couple of months?

The "new you" both, inside and out , will emerge more beautiful and more full of life than ever.

Cancer is a terrible thing to have happen to us... but it does make us awesome women after we are done fighting and BEATING it!

Take care... and be patient!

Then when the time is right, the sky is the limit!

hugs,

g 

Thank you for your reponses I hope I didnt step on anyones toes cause this is Traci original post! I dont really know how all this works still kind of new at the whole posting stuff!

You women are so sweet to me! I love this place! It keeps me going! I just got my tattos today I start on Thursday next week! I have had one consult with a PS an we talked about the different surgeries I no idea which one to get ill jus have to do a lil more research any advice is greaty needed. Thanks for the Birthday wishes! Happy V day to all of you Ladies! My mother and I have started a Foundation called Joy Keepers  and im still in the Air Force so I will try to post as much as I can!

I myself am moving on.....

.....next man in line, please step up!

(since BC, this grrrl waits for NO man!)

I wish I had one, Traci.

I'm figuring "Bud" is gearing up to break up with me again this weekend because I have the lymph nodes coming out on Wednesday. He broke up with me before my mastectomy, too.  

I just don't need to have to deal with that kind of behavior. My plate is full enough.