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  • Wren
    Wren Member Posts: 324
    edited December 2007

    Sue, Ulla, and everybody,

    I am here as your cheerleader.  I am cheering for you for being so brave.  You can do it! You are doing it!!!

    Gone With The Wind is an excellent book/movie. I hope you enjoy it Sue.

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  • Ulla
    Ulla Member Posts: 840
    edited December 2007

    and at last this is the origin of the name (GONE WITH THE WIND)

    The title is taken from the first line of the third stanza of the poem Non Sum Qualis eram Bonae Sub Regno Cynarae[4] by Ernest Dowson: "I have forgot much, Cynara! gone with the wind." The novel's protagonist Scarlett O'Hara also uses the title phrase in a line of dialogue in the book: when her hometown is overtaken by the Yankees, she wonders if her home, a plantation called Tara, is still standing, or if it was "also gone with the wind which had swept through Georgia".

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  • Ulla
    Ulla Member Posts: 840
    edited December 2007

    god ladies ,,,i woke this mornning feeling really better after all ur worsd last night,,,

    my heart is filled with ur love,,,

    dear karyll sorry to know that they have postpond ur Rx ...but it must be better fpor u honey,,hang on,,i feel that my words r so small and not enough to be said ,,spacially to u ,,,thats why i prefer to keep silent when it coms to u ,,,,i feel that i cant add anything,,,,hoping u can understand me ..

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited December 2007

    ULLA ...my netnan LOL...I want to be friends with you for life....at the moment I am drowning at sea...burning in a fire and falling off a cliff....but yours and everyones posts are giving me strength!!!!

    I am feeling insecure right now....I need to get a new adrss book and write all your addresses in all of them ...emails and home ...so I can know how you are all getting on if I cant get on here xxx

    GUESS WHAT.... SHIRLANN, MELODY.. EX MIL...HAS GOT MY BOYS IN NORTH WALES WHICH IS 100 MILES AWAY...WHEN I THOUGHT THEY WERE 4 MILES AWAY AT THEIR DADS TIL EARLY EVENING.... I DIDNT FIND OUT TIL NOW...DAVID WANTS TO COME HOME...BUT SHE WON'T BRING THEM HOME TIL TMW...THEY HAVE NO PJS OR TOOTHBRUSHES  Cry   SHE IS SINKING HER CLAWS INTO THEM....I AM MAD BECAUSE THEY WANT TO COME HOME AND ARE NOT HAPPY...AND MY EX AND EXMIL SCHEMED THIS UP AND LIED TO ME

    MUCH LOVE XXXXX

    BTW I FELL ASLEEP EARLIER SORRY XX

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited December 2007

    AAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH ULLA your pic is beautiful....your husband will love you and so will half of sweden lolol....I LOVE YOUXXX

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  • Ulla
    Ulla Member Posts: 840
    edited December 2007

    god sue

    i am really sory about ur boys

    why ppl can be so insensative like that sometimes???

    but look at the other side of the coin baby,,honey sue

    the boys cant forget about u or be happy away from u

    that should make u feel better

    they want to be with thier lovely mom

    and it will be so soon wen they com bak to u this mw

    it is better that u will not feel wworry about takin care of them these hard days ,,plz hang on there ,,go have good sleep.dont feel sad or worried as nothing will chnge thier feelings to u even their being so far away ,,,it will be stronger and they will want to go bak faster ,,

    ty about the pic but i look so different now,,u saw the my last one ..i look so really different ,,god i being so obssesed with my outlook,,,am going to be crazy be4 thios chemohell ends??????

    love u ,,

    i hope am not bothering u all my sisters with my bla bla bal,,i just dont have someone to tell how i really feel but u all...

    ty for listenning ....

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  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited December 2007

    Oh Ulla , don't apologize. I think it was ever so kind of you to do that. Sue doesn't seem to be familiar with it , and she will now have an idea of what we all were talking about. And it is a passion of yours.

    Ulla , another new pic on your avatar! You are trully beautiful , inside and out.xxxx

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  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited December 2007

    Oh Sue! I posted before I read the last page here.I am soooo angry right now , please give me a minute.

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  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited December 2007

    First Sue , I am sorry this happened. I am so upset with them , and I don't even know them , but their actions speak loud and clear!

    I have an ex and I had an ex-MIL , but no one , and I mean NO ONE ever took my son anywhere without talking to me AND my son first!

    I don't know the situation between you and you ex. I remained "friends" with mine due to our son. By friends , I mean cordial to one another and didn't talk bad about him (in front of my son). I really never said no to him taking our son when he did , because my son loves his dad and I divorced him , he didn't. So we always communicated well when it came to our son.

    My gut reaction here is to be angry. If they purposely did this and they are mean and vindictive , I'd react in anger. And the fact that your boys want to come home , not that they shouldn't want to , but at their age , and being with "Dad" they might see this as an adventure and enjoy it , and obviously , they are not. And EXCUSE ME , BUT THEY KNOW DAMN WELL WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH , AND YOU REALLY DON'T NEED THE ADDED STRESS OF SOMETHING LIKE THIS!!!! OK , deep breath , oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo , ok ,  again , I don't know the situation , I am thinking you have PRIMARY custody of the boys , and this is out of line. If "the car broke down , and theres nothing they can do till morning" thats one thing. If they did this on a "whim" then scolled them and let them know its not to ever happen again. If its her trying to "get her claws in them" then take legal action.

    I'm soooo sorry this happened Sue. Try to calm down. I got your back sister. They will not ever take your sons from you. Hopefully , this is a big mis-understanding , and they will know to NOT do this again. Please update us on the situation. Much love and hugs , Melody

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  • Lucy1234
    Lucy1234 Member Posts: 289
    edited December 2007

    Sue



    I think you definatly need to air your worries with the ex. Access to children is done with trust and if that trust is broken then it does not bode well for the future in my eyes.



    My first son is with a different dad and he sees him every couple of months as he live a couple of hours away. I had the same problem, he had him for a week and I found out at the end that he had been working all week and had left him with his girlfriend!

    I said that Owen is my son and I have the right to know the person who is being responsible for him, I was so angry but all he said was 'well Im his dad and its my decision who looks after him when he's with me and it has nothing to do with me!' I told him if I couldn't trust him to be open with me then he could only see owen here and not take him home.

    He didn't like it but there is a trust you can't break when it comes to kids.



    Hope all is ok

    X

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited December 2007

    Hello Everyone xxxx

    Hope you're all well xxxx

    Last night I was sick ...real sick.....for the first time....and I am Still feeling sick...I was going to take the day off....but them damn steroids had me out of the house in a bolt...they woke my after 5 hours sleep....god I cant do this any more...YOU ARE ALL SO BRAVE!

    My boys were dropped back at midday....I still cannot believe anything or anyone....it went from a few hours to dropping back at 7pm.....to being told they were over there...blah blah....I think she is the true instigator/controller...but its one step too far now.....that is one positive from this chemo...I dont have the energy to blow fuse...but it wont happen again!

    Poppy I had that same problem once....I even said I would like to meet her just for peace of mind...anyway it never happened...and the kids have grown out of going ...aint life complicated at times xxx

    I get on really well with my ex husband...and I would more of less still been married for sure...but we suffered a tragic loss in 1997 which threw us into turmoil and apart...its very difficult to explain....anyway hes still a typical man....bit shifty in my opinion ...lol.....

    I am feeling very ill and down tonight...fed up ...I wish I was pre September where my arms never hurt etc etc....grrr ...SORRY....

    Much Love xxx

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  • TenderIsOurMight
    TenderIsOurMight Member Posts: 4,493
    edited March 2008





    So sorry Sue, Life has a way of throwing stuff at you, to see if you can take it.



    Still, it's a beautiful life, just not when your sick on chemo.



    Ugg. I feel for you.



    Tender

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  • Ulla
    Ulla Member Posts: 840
    edited December 2007

    sweetey sue

    feeling good as ur preciouse boys r home by now..

    and feeling so bad as u going through theses sickness times that i know...

    honey hang on ther as it will be lil bit easier wen they took out the red devile from ur chemo..

    u have only one more..

    then this stupid sickness will be so less..i dont want to say that there is no SE then but at least u will start to c ur hair growing back,,and ur sickness less than it was,,,

    plz honey keep focousing on the idea that u almost finished with one of the most nasty drugs ,,and u will no more have it again,,,

    plz u can do it ..u r a mom of 2 wonderful lil men,,u need to do it ,,if not for u it will be for them..i feel u ..my tears want to come and sooth ur pains and sorness,,

    i hope i was able to be there with u to take care of u sister as u feels so sick,,,

    i dont know if my poor wqords can help,,but am sure wat all ur words done to me,,

    they made me feel better everytime,,

    made me feel that am not alone so far having u all dear sisters..

    love u all

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited December 2007

    Sweet Sue - just keeping following the yellow brick road. I promise OZ is at the end of it and you will be "coming home" soon enough to the way it used to be.

    Ulla -  I went crazy with the hair loss as well.  I think all the blasted drugs do more to you mentally, then physically sometimes.  Hair loss is just one more thing added to the list of things that we  HATE about bootface.

    Well, I survived my nephews visit. I think he had a good time. But I am exhausted!!! Tongue out  I swear I don't know how you ladies with kids do it!!  And going thru treatment at the same time!  YOU ALL ROCK!!!

    Need to take a nap,

    TTYL,

    Valerie

    Sue- did you get Gone with the Wind yet??? 

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  • Lucy1234
    Lucy1234 Member Posts: 289
    edited December 2007

    Sue I HATE HATE HATE being sick so I am right with you (granted my sickness is self inflicted)

    You HAVE to ask for different anti sickness meds, apparently there are loads of different concoctions they can try.



    You can get Gone with the wind at www.play.com for £4.99 with free delivery! Bargain

    Its defiantly one to keep in the DVD collection (I just ordered it)



    She sounds like the mother in law from hell!



    Ulla you are beautiful, and you will look even better soon! We are lucky, some people are born butt ugly! and they will never get better X



    Thinking of you girlies and Suzy babe!

    X

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  • Lucy1234
    Lucy1234 Member Posts: 289
    edited December 2007

    By the way...........

    When I said My sickness was self inflicted I didn't mean I'm Bulimic or anything!



    Just too much alcohol LOL

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  • Ulla
    Ulla Member Posts: 840
    edited December 2007

    poppy ..u made me laugh about those who cant get look better

    god how a smile make s difference

    am happy that u ordered the film ,hope that dear sue will c it soon,,

    the new hair is falling out too.

    my husband just told me that the wife his friend died for stomach cancer ..they just make the diagnosis 1 month ago ,,and started with chemo 2 weeks ago ,,she died as she suffocated during her throwing up...

    am so so scared

    i dont know wat to say but am really afaraid

    my husband say it was an accedent ,,not related to the treatment..but i am still feeling so so bad

    i will not go to the funeral..i canthandle more sadness

    werer is everyone tonight

    am horrably alone here

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited December 2007

    Hi Ladies,

    For all who are suffering today........

    Somewhere over the rainbow, way up high......
    There's a land that I heard of once in a lullabye.
    Somewhere over the rainbow, skies are blue...
    and the dreams that you dare to dream
    really do come true.

    Love you all,

    Aunty Em

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited December 2007

    Ulla,

    I'm here

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  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited December 2007

    Hi SueSmile! I'm so glad the boys are home safe and sound. I'm glad you have a good relationship with your ex. It helps when things like this happen and you can discuss it rationally. Tomorrow is your day off. Thats good. You need it. And Poppy is right on about the different drugs. If yours aren't helping , please call your onc. They will try until they get it right. We suffer enough because of bootface. The #@##!$$# boil in a bag!! I'm feeling so much anger today at bootface. I think its because a new year is about to begin , and I think all the hell we have all gone through in 07'. Every year , when its coming to the end , I always try to think of the good this that happen. And I guess when I think now , alls I can think of is my diagnosis and the hell that followed. Now I'm crying , and having a hotflash.lol And that doesn't help any. Having so many hotflashes , keeps reminding me of why I am having them. I'm sorry ladies. I guess I'm not much of an "upper" tonight.

    Ulla , don't go to the furneral if its gonna upset you. I don't blame you one bit and I'm sure hubby will understand. You are dealing with alot right now. And you don't need more grief. You come first right now. And you should do what feels right for you.xxxx

    Auntie Em , thanks so much for the song. I love , that song. It is truly one of my favorites. My earliest memory of that song is when I was alittle girl , my mom always sang. And it was a beautiful sunny day and I was playing in the backyard while my mom was hanging out the laundry to dry , and she was singing that song. I loved to hear my mom sing. That song and Moon River. She had such a beautiful voice.

    Anyway , thanks for giving me a good memory right now , I needed that. I'm glad you survived your nephew's visit. I bet you had fun.

    xxxx Melody

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited December 2007

    Melody xxxxx I love you...you are so like me...we seem to think deep and laugh it off when it gets painful. I want to give you a big hug...but I may vomit on your shoulder..LOL....see there we go again...xxxxx

    FREAKING BOOTFACE IS A FREAKING EVIL DISEASE...IT CAUSES MUCH HEARTACHE AND PHYSICAL PAIN.....

    I HOPE WE ALL BEAT THIS DISEASE!!! AND GET OUR ENERGYS BACK...ITS TOO CRUEL...XXX

    Moon River....Mel you have just remimded me of a real reall old film called PAPERMOON...about a little girl...did you watch this ever it is in black and white xxx

    It is my day off tomorrow and I will order gone with the wind ...where Poppy got it xxxx

    Much Love ..xxx

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited December 2007

    Ulla we are all here dont feel alone ...it takes me ages to type after tx...my hands are aching and I can think straight to get my words right xxx I love you !

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited December 2007

    Oh Aunty Em....

    I so love that song ..thankyou for this tonight it is so relevant ...your are fantastically thoughtful...

    I can hear Dorothy singing it....I love the original xxx

    Have you ever heard EVA CASSIDY sing it...Eva died of Bone cancer at 33....I am sure she was from the US...please if you ever get chance to listen to this track she copied BEFORE she found out she had her illnessxxxx

    Much Love xxxx

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited December 2007

    ((((((((((((((Melody)))))))))))))   I am thinking of you....lets hope we are both swinging from the chandaliers New Year 2008..

    Take some positive from 2007.....you found it...dealt with it and it has made you stronger...and you have kept your great strength and humour as we end the year...xxx

    I am vilely angry with the evil bootface....it has took my life and trashed it  and sadness has rippled through my family and friends xxx

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  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited December 2007

    Thanks for the hugs Sue! I'll just carry a peukin'pot on my back.lolol

    Papermoon. Was that with Tatum O'Neil? If thats the one , yes I seen it. But I don't remember it being in black and white. But with my brain dysfuctions , I could be wrong!lol

    I hope you get the movie Gone with the Wind. Its funny how we all can't wait for you to see it. Its such a good , classic that we all know , it would be great to all watch it together. Hey , thats it. Lets all rent the movie tomorrow and watch it. It will feel like we are together watching it. Its been a while since I've seen it.

    Thanks Sue for being you. I love you too. I think I'll get a cuppa.xxxx Melody

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited December 2007

    AWW Tatum  Oneil ...yes I loved that film Papermoon xxxx

    I would love to watch Gone With the Wind...with you all xxx

    I am going to bed in min ..I feel freaking horrible and SICK xxx

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited December 2007

    Sue,

    I must look up Eva Cassidy, I never heard of her.

    I am happy I was able to spread a bit of sunshine.  I so love that song as well. 

    I think bringing in a new year always involves some reflection regardless of the circumstances.  Especially when it involves so much negativity. It makes it that much harder to be hopeful.  BUT IT CAN BE DONE!!!  ALL of you ladies will put this year behind you and continue on your journey into the new year knowing that Oz is in reach and dreams really do come true!!!

    YOU CAN DO THIS!!! 

    Love you all,

    Aunty Em 

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  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited December 2007

    Goodnight Sweet Sue. I hope you can rest well.Sweet dreams. Oh , I saw a movie today that made me think of you. Its called "The Holiday".Have you seen it? Its about two girls , one lives in Los Angeles , the other in Surrey , England. It made me wish that we could all come see you and end up in the quaint little pub that was in the movie. Having drinks , dinner and laughter. Maybe someday , huh?

    Thanks Auntie Em. I love you too. I am gonna look up Eva too. I have heard a lot of different renditions of the song. But I like Judy Garlands the best. So far. xxxx Melody

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  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited December 2007

    Ulla , I hope you are resting. I'm thinking about you and hope your fear and anxiety lessens. You have so much on your plate right now. Please try to not think about all the negative things. My prayers are with you tonight.xxxx Melody

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  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited December 2007

    Thx Melody...that film sounds great...xxx

    x

    Please please look up Eva Cassidy....read a bit about her she was a lovely person...she wasn't really reknowned until after she died.... one of our english DJS played somewhere over the rainbow on the radio....and since then her Album Songbird has been in the charts for ages...I bought it a couple of years ago. You can watch the rainbow song on you tube....

    HER STORY IS SO SAD...SHE WAS SO VERY BRAVE...

    Let me know if you like xxx

    Sweet dreams sisters I love you all so much..sorry I am all whacked out xxxxxx

    Much Love xxxxx

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