MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

Elimar,

Thank you for the good advice. I'm sorry my post was too vague. I'll fill out the info I did notice a place for that.

Eph3, love your idea of a court jester on a five year rotation. I'm married, but I married later than most in my mid 30's. The adjustment to sharing the castle was interesting. We do get used to ruling our queen-dom, and merging kingdoms is difficult. I can't imagine what doing it at my age now (61) would be like. I'm not sure I could adjust again at this age. Guess I'll have to keep the devil I know.

Lita, are you still married? Hard to tell from your post. And, of course, I can't remember anything from previous posts. It is sad some of our friends drift away after our dx. Can't handle it or it scares them like it's catching!

Without energy it is hard to reach out to others.

I, too, am in a monarchy. My husband (who by then we had divorced, but was of course part of our lives for the kids) died from throat cancer when he was 45. The kids were 14 & 12. It was all I could do to keep my shit together for them. I was running my own business (Thank God, from my house), caring for aging parents and had teenagers. I think the anger and desperation fueled my fire, so to speak, and I made it through. Now I am 64 (how the heck did that happen?) I had a chance to get remarried right after the kid's father died, but the timing wasn't right. It's all in the timing!

Now I think about match.com or some such, think how it would be nice to have a partner, friend to do things with, hang out, go traveling with, then I think of sharing my space, time, and (OMG) bathroom with someone else and I say No way. Ha ha!

When I went off to the Lyme specialist this week, my DD (who give me a ride) gave me a cut little mason jar with flowers for a late Valentine's present. I brought them home on the ferry boat. Since I am not driving I have to go up to the passenger seating area. I plop down in the nearest seat with a table, so most of the people walking on board have to walk by me. I got so many comments about those flowers. Probably started some rumors, on this small island we don't got much else to do in February.

I am not sure if this is the right place to share about my Lyme stuff, but it is what is affected me the most right now. I am changing up all my meds. Going over to liquids. Trying to get them into my bloodstream faster and to pass the blood/brain barrier, I guess. I am going to do an injectable antibiotic now, too. I had to give my stomach a break. we'll see if I get some more energy and my brain wakes back up. It's is so experimental. I mean, like BC not one protocol fits everyone. We have to keep tweaking and see what works.

I am still waiting on some new genetic testing my MO ordered. I will see him in March. He is working with me through the Lyme stuff. I can't be the only one to have both dxes. It is such a controversial subject, this Lyme treatment.

Anyway, I have not found a community anywhere, that is like this one. I am so grateful for the compassion and genuine caring I find here.

I married at 39, for the 1st and only time. Not to say there weren't court jesters along the way, but the desire to adopt was strong and for whatever reason, in 1993/94, I felt I had to be married rather than adopt as a single. Little did I know, I would be adopting single as the "king" totally flaked once a kid was in the picture. At 3, she asked me what did we need Daddy for. Slow learner tho. It wasn't until 2004 when the "king" got caught on what was supposed to a fishing weekend with the buds, at a local watering hole, with a kitchen wench. He was booted out and the Queen and her princess have lived relatively happy ever after. There hasn't been a jester in all that time, and honestly, I don't know what I'd do with one if he showed up, so I do life as Queen and damn the rest!

Lyme's disease. When I worked for the Social Security Attorney, we had 2 different cases of Lyme's. We won benefits for both gals, but it went all the way to hearing and I think one even went to appeal on the Admin Judge's ruling. But it was such a victory!

Well it's a miracle 💕 I have made it to another birthday. Didn't think I would make it to this day a few months ago. Thank you God! Will be low key as DH is sick with a bad cold. Praying I don't get it

Diana...my DH had a bad cold 2 wks ago. If you have cotton gloves, PUT THEM ON. They do help. They keep the germs off your actual skin and they are a reminder NOT to touch your nose, eyes, etc. Of course, wash your hands frequently too.

Dr. Lita signing off .

Good Luck with the new treatment, Diana

been staring at the new topper for a few minutes now. Not sure what to take from it.

We have inner birds just squawking to get out?

Our lives cause us to bellow to the sky?

It's probably some famous painting (by some one also famous) That I just cannot recall from my art major classes , oh too many years to count ago. (not to mention that I have no memory at all anymore)

It has me intriguied, Eli!

low platelets again so did another round of A/C last Thursday. Got checked on Saturday and they were 54 and the same today. I want off this roller coaster. All I have done is sleep 😴. If they aren't up on Thursday I will have to do another round

so Rebamacfam1-Reba McEntire fan?

Not such a good bday present but sounds like you have awesome support; dogs rock in that departement. Dont discount adoption. I couldn't have bio kids either, but I adopted and I am a full on mom. I went to China at 41 and adopted a 16 month old who is now 22! You dont indicate your "credentials". Somewhere on the profile page you can add in all sorts of info, and those who have similar dx's and treatments can help you out. you can see mine below. I did chemo and rads and Femara for 5 yrs. Gonna be "celebrating" 8 years from dx in less than a month. At the time it was all consuming; now, not so much! Be sure to have someone with you at the onco appointment. 2nd set of ears and questions helpful.