Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

Mommarch.... My Mom really had trouble with her shoulder also, with the same problem.... They gave her a cortisone shot one time, and it helped, but was awfully painful.... Let us know what they say.... or how they can help you....

Paula,  Happy belated birthday.  Hope you had a great day.

Mommarch,  hope your shoulder is feeling better

For the last 7 months my eyes have been dry and every so often they water. Dr says allergies but it is not in both eyes.

Blondie,  so glad you are home

Mommom, so sorry to hear about your dil.   it is great that you are able to help her through this.

Barb, thanks for the update. Happy it all worked out for you. My breast are a little different in size since I had the lumpectomy  glad to know there is help for this problem if needed.

My computer is not working right now so typing on a tablet. Sorry for any misspelled words

Hi to everyone.  hope your weather is warming up. And you are having a great weekend

Emmy

Sandra,

I feel that kind friends are angels in disguise!

Good morning,

It is a lovely, lovely morning here too.  It stayed relatively warm overnight so has an excellent start this morning of reaching some really great numbers this afternoon -- which should be in the mid-60's from the sound of it.  Except for a day of rain or so --- we will have a week or more of these great temperatures. 

Sandra,

I think I know what you mean.  It is sort of an amazing thing when friends come to your rescue.  You've always known they would, but not having to have it happen makes you feel as though you are all rather even in a way.  No pressure -- no sensations like you are having now --- just a great friendship that sits and blooms and is comforting in that you know there is more but you feel good NOT needing more.

I well recall when I had my stroke ( long ago it seems now ) and at the time there were about 25 floral arrangements and vases in my room.  It looked like half the inventory of at least one florist shop was there.  At the time --- I was bowled over.  You are so used to the light camaraderie that you have with your friends -- the daily give and take of that, and suddenly it becomes for some reason so very much more than it seemed.  It fills you to over-flowing and a simple thanks just seems a rather puny acknowledgement. 

Hard to see it that way but a really good friend feels blessed by your needing them and it does their soul and certainly their life karma so much good to be able to do something for you.  I mean, just think how wonderful you feel when you are able to do something for someone.  Even if they don't know you did it.  It gives you a special kind of lift -- you feel as though you have soothed your own soul --- and you really do.  We all ( usually ) like to bring light to others by helping them over a rough patch.  It makes more of us while helping others --- and it is a very positive feeling.   It just lights up the world -- the adage that it is more blessed to give then receive has much truth. 

No man is an island --- we all need each other and there will be those times when extraordinary things are needed.  You have been so blessed by your friends while they were so blessed by being needed by you. 

Blessings

Jackie

Our home burned in 1997 in Bryan, TX, we had no insurance as we owned the home outright. The people I worked with brought out $500.00 they had collected that day plus a cooler of soft drinks and water. When I went back to work a week later, they told me to go to one of the back offices and it was full of furniture, appliances, clothes, you name it. We had a hamburger fry out by the pool at our office and the employees presented us a check for $7,000 and the owners of the company presented us with a check for $15,000. Then later the owners gave us another $10,000. We gave the money to our minister at Peace Lutheran Church in College Station and our Habitat for Humanity Group built us a very nice small 3 bedroom home. There are alot of good people in this world, they just do not get the praise they deserve.

Jean,

We don't hear enough about the "good" that takes place.  This is such a tough world, especially now.  If we all gave what we could, when we could -- each and every one of us I think would end up in a good place almost all the time.  I'm all for it.  I'd love to hear more stories if any have some to share.

Jackie

Taking off the wallpaper border before we started on the ceiling.

Bushes along the side of the driveway had to go.

Another successful work day yesterday. Forgot to cover up the ceiling fan. (sigh) Many swaths of plaster still on the ceiling even though the popcorn is gone. Daughter Allison and I will scrape all that off this week and do our best to clean up the new tile floor. I should have covered the vacuum cleaner too...it was a mess along with all the ladders, step stools, and tools. We all had inches of sticky popcorn on our shoes which pulled away the plastic sheeting on the floor, letting so much go through to the textured tile. Oh well. It will come up. In previous weeks we took up carpeting, patched sheetrock cuts made to repair a water leak, and had a new wall & door into the room installed. I have to find a duct cleaning company next. Then wash walls, paint, and put a new bed and easy to clean recliner in there. We bought HEPA filters for the room and will be using only certain acceptable cleaning products in that room. Mike's linens and towels have to be kept and washed separately. Eating utensils will be kept as clean as I can manage. We're looking for a new dishwasher that will nearly sterilize but it has to be something we can afford. Our old one died after 20 years.  

Outside, a couple of weeks ago we severely cut back the bushes next to the driveway and along the front walkway, but it wasn't enough so some of them had to go yesterday. There wasn't enough room to open the car door with two vehicles in the driveway, much less get a wheelchair to the car door. (Mike has a big truck...after all, this IS Texas, LOL.)  I'm going to find somebody to put down a curved concrete patch where the bushes were so I can get the wheelchair up to the house. I have a portable wheelchair ramp for the front door but need to modify the rest of the sidewalk to get the wheelchair past the 90 degree angle and onto the ramp. Maybe that will get done next weekend.

You just never realize what's needed until you face a life event like this. Mike said, "Gee, you are doing so much work! I hope I live long enough to make it worthwhile." He thought it was a funny statement. It broke my heart.

Sandra,

The work your having to do is so enormous and I'm so glad that you do have lots of help to get it done.  Loving positive energies still being sent on their way to you.  Also to Mike.  Hearing what he said --- I think he is overwhelmed too at the enormity of everything.  Hugs to you and all your friends and to your daughters as well. 

Jackie 

Carole,

Happy Birthday!!

Mommarch, what a wonderful true life story about the gifts of money and household items.  As Bonnets said, it's good to hear those stories and be reminded of human generosity. 

Sandra, you're an iron woman, measuring up to the challenges.  I'm so glad you're getting help from friends. 

Thanks for the birthday wishes and for the birthday cake!  Let's all have a slice. 

Just lost my entire post so I'll summarize.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CAROLE!! Hope you're having a fabulous day and being royally spoiled!

Sandra, How wonderful to have the help of so many family and friends with the huge project you've had to accomplish in a short period of time. I must say how much I admire the strength you've shown since the beginning of Mike's illness.

Termite, Congratulations on your 5 yr. anniversary. Wishing you a long life of anniversaries!

Hoping y'all had a good weekend and feel rested and ready for the week ahead.

Peu I ple r amazing it warms my heeart, i asaw it att xmas n recently from all of u.

Sandra glad u r girls  r therehelping, n that mike is aware of aulll who is doing. They want to do it, let them n say tu.

U r an amazing woman n he is lucky to ghave u so r the girls. I really want u 2 do something for u even if it is walking round the block, wish we could  help...XOXOXOX 

Morning everyone,

Judy,

Isn't that discouraging to lose your post.  I've done it a couple of times lately and did not realize exactly what I did to have it occur.  It is frustrating no matter what the reason.  When I was new to BC. Org I used to think I needed to hit 'preview' to check for mistakes etc.  Then realized that often seemed to "assist" me greatly in losing my posts so I stopped.  Later I realized it was not what the preview was for at all. 

Blondie,

Sure glad to see you.  Hope things are working good for you now that you are home. You are so right -- it would be wonderful if we all lived in Texas and could just all show up at Sandra's house and get things taken care of for her. 

Sandra,

Hope you are listening to Blondie about that walk.  It really can be a restorative for you.  Walking gets us our of ourselves and broadens our horizons once again when they have gotten way too close to us.  You can only do what you can, but I do hope you might find a little time for a walk.

Wren,

That was a great story.  When the world is a wonderful place I really feel it is so because there are others who will help you shoulder the burdens you are given.  That is only love freely given and everything blooms where love is and keeps the world going. 

It is foggy here this morning but is likely in part the result of all the melting snow and the warmth that hung in through the night-time hours.  Hopefully some good sun this afternoon after the fog is completely burned out.  At least that is what I'm hoping for.  There is still some snow here and there ( anywhere there was a drift or lots of ice underneath ) but it will rain I think tomorrow and that will just wash more out of here if it remains at all today.  There is mud -- plenty, outside which I'm not liking but very expected as the snow melts.  Rain will make it a bit worse and we will have sun for a couple of days and maybe another rain day -- but it will all dry up in time.

See you all later on.

Blessings,

Jackie

Anne, Check around for stores that recycle for construction companies. They often have such items that were ordered and the home owner rejected due to style, etc. Habitat for Humanity stores sometimes have bargains as well.