Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

termite

Carole, Happy Birthday!! Wishing you a great year full of good health and happiness.

termite

Blondie, glad you are home

Anne, wow that must have been a mess in your bathroom.

Sandra, it sounds like you got a lot done so far. All those people helping just shows how loved you and Mike are.

In 1996 DH and I and 2 of our 4 sons were in Florida. We got a call from our oldest son asking what he does to get the water out of the basement. We had never really had water before except when the sump pump stopped working. It had been raining for a couple of days. He said there was a big boom and when they checked the basement the walls at both ends had blown out. One end you could see outside the other end you could see under the garage floor. Two of our neighbors had similiar results. We drove home in a flash. Our neighbors around our neighborhood opened their homes to us for bathing and bathrooms whenever we needed it. The house was not to be lived in since there was no electricity in the old part of the house and no running water (so no flushing toilet). We did not cook a meal for over two weeks. They brought meals to anyone that had problems. Men from DH work, our sons and neighbor men dug out the basement from all the dirt and depree that washed in and built our walls back up. We now have a four foot fully cemented crawl space. Insurance would not cover any of it. We had added on a few years earlier and had a slab on that part of the house. That slab held the back wall up and the sons and my mother were ok we were very blessed.

Puffin2014

We had our first visit with great grandson this weekend, he's 3 months old.

blondiex46

Beautiful 

IllinoisLady

How adorable and looks so happy.

Jackie

Teka

Cutie Pie!!

carolehalston

Adorable baby and happy-looking great grandma.

 

sandra4611

Puffin,

What a darling baby! Three and four months is the cutest stage I think.

Wren44

He is absolutely adorable. I agree that it's a wonderful age.

Chevyboy

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IllinoisLady

We all want recognition for our “specialness.”  But we should never take our self-worth from our society, feedback from others, or our own comparisons to others.  Our self-esteem should be based in the fact that God created us with the utmost care and has called his creation good.  In his foresight we are all made of “the right stuff.”  Our self-worth then comes from how we use it, in service to our families and communities, exercising our creative gifts, and becoming one with God.  -unattributed

IllinoisLady

Getting ready to sip my last sip of coffee before I leave for work today --- but I took a sneak-peek at your link Chevy and my -- how tantalizing.  Already sure I'm going to love seeing them all.  The first one of the bears in the water with all those bright orange colored fish and the feast they were about to have was awesome.  I'm sure I'll be just as thrilled about the rest.

Until I'm able to get back -- thinking of you all on this foggy, rainy morning here.  Little of our snow remains -- just enough in sheltered spots to realize we have undergone quite a melt-run-off of it.  Be back later.

Blessings

Jackie

bonnets

OOPS! Lost ,my post cuz I went to see the photos Chevy posted. Amazing what they can do using drones! Beautiful.

Carol, hope you had a great birthday.

DH and son -in-law spent quite q while yesterday chopping ice on the roof.Front porch roof was leaking, hope nothing else is. Dangerous work, thankful for SIL to volunteer so DH doesnt have to climb on the roof. A lot of melting , but the ice under the snow is the problem. Supposed to get rain tonight, don't need it!

Love your post on self worth Jackie!

Been off caffeine for over a week, no tachy. Hate to have to give up all good tea and CHOCOLATE! But if that's the problem may have to. Also want my cardio to check potassium and magnesium levels when I see him on the 20th.

Have a good day, Jean

carolehalston

Bonnets, great news that you're having no attacks since staying off caffeine.  Hope you have no other leaks.  I guess this winter will end up being a gift  for roof contractors.

The forecast for today was rain off and on all day.  Fortunately, it was "off" long enough at noon for me to pick up my mother and take her to the outpatient center to have blood drawn.  After we were back at her house for a little while, it started thundering.  My sister dropped by on her way to her house (which is just down the road from my mother's) so we had a nice visit with the three of us.

Now I'm back home resting my "bum" foot after rubbing the toes with an anti-inflammatory.  I'll get up in a few minutes and do some dinner prep.  I'm cooking chicken and making a Moroccan style dish with preserved lemon and olives.  I make the preserved lemon which is basically fresh lemons with lots of kosher salt stuffed into a glass jar and left to marinate in the refrigerator for 30 days. 

I worked out this morning and had a healthy shake for breakfast.  But then I blew my eating plan by indulging in a large piece of chocolate cake at my mother's house.  No regret, though, because it was SO "chocolatey" and delicious.  It was the last of my birthday cake which was actually my mother's birthday cake, too.  I had stored it in my freezer in Dec.

My last hair cut removed all the colored hair and I've had a chance to live a few weeks with the "natural" gray, nicely streaked with some silver.  Now I'm deciding whether I want to go back to color.  I'm a Pisces and a waffler.  One minute I'm sure I'll make an appointment for color and the next minutes I'm inclined to stay gray.  Decisions.  Decisions.  I would love to hear your feelings on whether you color or don't color. 

Greeting to everyone.  Hope you've had/are having a good Tues.

Wren44

My hair still 'reads' as brown although it's approaching half gray. DH has been gray since 50 and both DD and DS are mostly gray. I've watched SIL color her hair and it seems like an awful lot of trouble. There's a point in the growth where the colored part seems to float above her head. Very odd until I figured out what had happened. I don't plan to color mine, but who knows what I'll think once it's gray. I will probably decide it's too much trouble. I tried on wigs once and none looked good until I tried on gray, so I'm hoping it will look good gray. My therapist had her hair streaked in multiple shades of blond and white. Didn't look gray and was very attractive.

Chevyboy

Wren.... In case you decide to, I've been coloring my own hair since about 1965.... My Mom started turning gray at 21.... I did too! But I use a semi-pemanent hair color, mixed with 20 volume cream peroxide, and I do it abut every 7-8 weeks.... I mix the color..(similar to my "own" color) and mix the color with the cream developer.... Then I "paint" it on.... parting as I go.... Let it sit for about 1/2 hour, with a "bonnet" on my head...then rinse it out.

Gives my hair a lot of body, and I just feel like I look better when I do it.

bonnets

Me too , been coloring mine for years, use a dark blonde , which was my natural color. Told my Dh , if I ever get to where I can't \do it myself, he better take me to have it done. I think I look better with it colored too Chevy! It's really not difficult to do , and a lot less expensive than a salon. Only thing about being grey is it shows less to the blonde when it grows out. Makes me feel younger too!

IllinoisLady

Well, I know I have some gray, but on my fraternal side at least, people were slow to gray and I seem to be getting the result of some of those genes.  So, I really haven't even much considered doing any "color".  Still, my hair  ( wonder if that was fraternal too as maternal side didn't ever seem thinnish ) is really thin and fine and stayed just that way after chemo took all my hair and then let me have it back.  I was hoping for thick and curly and even a 'better' color maybe because that was not only what I read, but also heard from many, many others. 

I had such HUGE anticipation going when I saw the 'first' new re-growth coming.  It actually seemed to come in gray/white -- or dull/white at first, but before it had started growing out much it started to 'color' up.  Well, I ended up with mousier brown than it had been and just as fine, thin, and straight as ever.  For that reason the minute I needed a good  hair-cut ( I did get a couple of meager trims ) I had a perm put in which is what I always did.  It provides curl of course, and lots of body -- both of which tend to hide my bad hair days which with my hair is every day.

I've also been told that coloring adds lots and lots of body -- so if I suddenly get a lot of gray coming on, I would likely give color a try.  As in my early yrs.  I was very close to dishwater blonde ( had to drink radiated iodine three different times ) I would likely go for a lighter color.  With each succeeding time of drinking the loaded iodine ( bad thyroid ) my hair darkened -- at the end it was a lt. brown with some reddish highlights so I never minded it.  But -- now just quite mousy brown. Doing perms helps when the weather is bad ( like the rain today ) because my hair never goes limp or straight -- although I can't say it would win prizes --- I can just keep the illusion of more hair.

So my very long answer is -- I'm not real interested right now -- but would not have any trouble taking it on should my hair gray up a whole lot more than it is right now.

Jackie

Wren44

I have that same thin straight hair, but when I get a permanent, it just looks silly on me. I guess I was meant to have straight hair. Would be ok with me if it was thicker tho. DD has very curly hair and I don't envy her at all. She has so few options for it. It's so thick, they want to charge double for a cut.

IllinoisLady

Wren,

How funny ???  My daughter has naturally curly hair.  She has for yrs. used straighteners on it.  She too says you ( meaning me for sure ) have no idea how hard to handle her hair truly is and how much time it takes with results that never make her happy.  Still, I always liked how she looked when she didn't try as hard as she could to make it straight.  Always sort of wished it was my hair, but likely she is right.  Despite getting so many perms through the years -- somehow the straightening products always seem harsher to me.  I doubt that is really true.  Chemicals are chemical and all that.

Jackie

Puffin2014

Carole: my hair is coming in grey after chemo and I've decided to leave it as is and not bother with coloring. I'm 63, so the grey looks OK on me.

Chevyboy

Hah! I thought I would be the only one coloring my hair on here! But it also blends in my eye-brows and eye-lashes, because they are really dark. I have to "add" to my eyebrows, because I sort of lost a lot over the years... but I do it with an eye-brow pencil, and a THIN brown eye-liner brush.

My hair was a light mousy brown when I was younger, so I just go a little darker.... I hope I never get too old that I can't color my hair anymore, or break my arm... etc. Ha! People wouldn't KNOW me.... especially ME!

Teka

Good Morning!!

carolehalston

Chevy, post a picture.  I've decided to do the color again.  I've never had dark hair and the gray on the back is much darker than my hair ever was.  I like the silvery streaks.  I think if the overall color were more silvery, I'd like it better.  I'm fortunate to have thick hair with a lot of body.  I can always go natural again. 

I need to get moving.  The time change has me sleeping an hour later because it's dark in the morning.  With all the rainy weather, there's no golf today so I'm going to the gym for a Pilates class.  I probably won't be able to walk out to my car afterwards!  I'm not even sure what Pilates is.  Afterwards there's a Gentle Yoga class.  I may stay for it if I feel up to the challenge.  I could really benefit from some stretching exercise.

Teka, I love your posts.  You're a real "techie." 

Happy Wed. to all.

Chevyboy

Hi Carole... It's about the same color as when I first started doing it... I STARTED using Loving Care hair color lotion, but then changed to Wella "color charm".... and then mix it with 20% cream peroxide... It lasts pretty long..... about 6=7 weeks..... and fades out, along with growing out.... then it isn't such a stark change. I would start out a LITTLE darker than your hair now, and then when everyone is used to it, you can decide if you want to go darker....

My hair is not too long, so I use 1/2 a tube of the color, and 1/4 cup of the developer....mix it all up and paint it on.

My hair has always been "fine" but not as fine as my oldest Daughter's.... Our youngest Daughter...54.... has a very full head of hair. Mine looks thicker, because it is dark, and I use a hot hair-setter every morning, and tease it.

I get mine at Sally's a beauty supply store, and you don't need a license to shop there... DH is with me there.... married 57 1/2 years! We were up at Echo Lake, near Mt. Evans last year.

I still have to "set-up" my exercise bicycle I ordered on-line.... Doc said it would help my hip better than just walking.

IllinoisLady

Enjoy the little things in life,

for one day you may look

back and realize they were

the big things.



unattributed

Chevyboy

"Demi-permanent" hair color..... also, if you have a lot of gray in your hair, the color will look a LOT darker, so I would start out with a color close to your natual color...... then you can go darker if you like.......

Chevyboy

Don't do red..... or black...... I TRIED adding "red" one time, and in the sun, my hair had the most beautiful purple tint to it!

MomMom

Puffin & Chevy - You both look adorable!!!  Thank you for posting a photo Chevy - we now have a cute face to the name:-)!  Puffin, your great grandbaby is precious!  It is one of my most devout wishes - to live long enough to welcome a great grandchild.  My oldest granddaughter is only 14, so it will be a long time.

Paula

Anneb1149

Good morning all

I have always had extremely thin and fine hair. My sister has always had thick, wavy, not curly hair. In my father's family everyone turns Snow White in our 30's. Not gray or silver, pure white. I had always colored my hair until I lost it all. When it started coming back, it was, of course, pure white but it did seem thicker. I was scared to fool with the color, in case it would damage the new thickness- which was not much thicker, but enough so I noticed the difference. I got a couple of trims and was thrilled that it looked okay as it was. Then the cutter suggested I use a "product" and a curling iron. I did, and it was probably the best my hair had ever looked. After several weeks, it just didn't seem to look as well, even though I hadn't changed what I was doing- the curl wasn't as firm and it fell straight pretty quickly, regardless of the amount of hairspray I used. I had my daughter's friend (who has been a licensed hair stylist for more than 20 years) come to give it a cut, thinking maybe the problem was it had gotten too long. Nope- I have lost the little thickness I had. It had been just a tease of what could have been. So now I am in a dilemma- do I color it in hopes of getting some body- although everyone I know has seen and accepted the white hair? Do I try a perm? Or do I stay as I am, both colorless and bodiless? And I mean straight and thin, with some scalp showing through. The hair in my picture is a wig, which is started wearing several years before BC because I hated my own so much.

I realize that given the types of decisions made over the last 18 mos, this is not really even on the radar screen, but-- another decision? Once again, cancer is the gift that just keeps giving!

Anne

PS just got a call from my BS- if I want to have my cleanup surgery on the day originally planned, I have to go to a whole new location. If I want to stay where I have been going all along, I have to wait till the first Friday in May. More decisions.