Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

Di2012

Sad...for the SECOND time my surgery has been postponed...so tomorrow NO SURGERY....because I am sick with a cold and cough!!.....this is surgery number 5 that has been postponed on my BC journey!

Di

Wren44

Di, That must be really hard to take happening over and over. So sorry you're still in the waiting game. Wouldn't it be nice to be done?

Di2012

Carole, I heard on the local new and on National news that TURBO TAX was hacked.....

Chevy and Cami.....love your banter,,,,that"s the way you ladies were a couple years ago...makes me laugh

Heart ladies it must be so frustrating knowing something is NOT right....I have a pulse oximeter that has shown me that when I relax/get ready to sleep my Oxygen level drops, and other times of the day my heart rate goes from 60-65bpm (my "normal") to a racing 95-100bpm....and then back to my normal, which then make me feel dizzy and sick to my stomach!

Sandra how are YOU and Mike doing....has he started the blood marrow cells transfer yet. Has he been in touch with his sister? sending hope and lve your way.

Puffin....a stange bird perch on a tree across the street...will try to post a pic tomorrow and maybe you can tell me what it was...had a wing span of about 6'
Blondie....get that foot/ankle better so you can "spring" that place....thinking of you...B-I-G hugs
My chest wall/sternum ultra sound showed a small cyst....damn...I hate thing growing on the side that I had cancer!
Hugs,Di

Chevyboy

Morning gals! Di! Holy criminy! Get that bird out of the neighborhood! If it is that big, it's probably after small creatures! Keep the dogs and cats in the house! I mean we have CROWS, and those guys even scare the Owls away!

I looked up Big Birds, but I have no clue what YOUR bird looks like.... You live out North West? So what kinds of birds are indiginous to your parts?

So now Cammi is going to go nuts trying to figure out what I just said.... I just PLANT those words to drive her nuts.... er. She doesn't post ANYwhere very often. It's that "job" of hers that keeps her tied down.... literally!

I mean they used HER references to film 50 shades.... She probably gets good kick-backs from her participation..... (oh now she'll probably include THAT form of punishment for her NEXT film)

Di, are they just going to watch that cyst? Can they or will they do something about it? Maybe it's just a troublesome be-nign cyst?

Bonnets! No kidding! I actually HAVE one! Because DH holds onto these SHIRTS that are ancient, and made out of cotton, and even though I hide them in the furthest corner of his closet, he FINDS them! And even the permanent-press cycle, or the dryer, NOR hanging them to dry outdoors helps.

Cotton was for the old days... Remember when we used to starch things? THAT'S what I should do.... Load those shirts and jeans up with starch, so they stand by themselves, and THEN see if he is so anxious to wear them!

IllinoisLady

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

IllinoisLady

Morning, though I have little time as I have to go to work.  Warm yesterday but snowing again this morning.  Still some ice here and there I'm sure, but it will be hidden now beneath the snow....growl!!!!

I'm sure your doing that too Di....with the cold and cough and getting surgery put off again.  I have to say --- it seemed ( if I can recall ) that everything I had done -- lumpectomy, chemo, rads, etc.  all just followed along and nothing kept me from the 'rounds' of what needed to happen.  I sure wish I could bottle that ( whatever that was ) and send it out to those who have stop and start progressions going through.  Not to scare anyone or make it too negative, but the whole thing is something of a downer -- you are stopping the life you had and knew -- for the life of attempting to get through the cancer journey, and whatever is entailed safely and in a time that can help you to restore yourself to the production that once filled your existence. 

As my Dad would tell me -- just do it, you are building your character.  Giving yourself good old fashioned fortitude I guess me meant.  Whatever Dad.  I hope you know where you are that I treasure everything you ever said to me.

Well out in the snow to feed the feral kits and then get to work.  I'll be checking back with all of you later.

Blessings

Jackie

shuf

" the fifties". Try is web site for remembering. - http://www.safeshare.tv/w/FEDEwZHZXu. - enjoy I did - Shuf

Di2012

Puffin,

Here is the BIG BIRD.....is it a blue heron?

....sat on the same tree for over an hour

Wren44

That last pose is the one they copy for sculptures and paintings. I think it's a Great Blue Heron and I don't think they're rare here. I didn't know there wing span was that big, but it sort of goes with the length of the body.

IllinoisLady

Blue Herons sound almost like dogs barking when they are startled.  We have them at our lake.  Use to see them a lot more often, but we don't have lake actually behind the house we have now.  Our first house did have lake behind it and they would be out there a lot.  All the people around the lake here just call them Big Birds.  I never did see then seeing on tree branches --  always in the shallower water at the lake's edge.  Waiting for some kind of fish I guess.  They were interesting to watch and to listen to as well. 

Jackie

blondiex46

Di so sorry, but there is a reason 4 ig

Miss u guys apparently there r other that have been taken off the fav list

Dix the hone assessment today, am exhausted,  not sure what the recommendations r other thzn a handle outside the shower. Thanks 4 the concern  did it jan 10th surgery 12th hzrlee manor rehab 1 15 til the 28th to here n still here, they said 6 to 8 2eeks, broke it in 3 places 4, 1 place was in 3 or4 pieces, torn the ligiments so they oput a little  bar in there to hold the bones n ligaments in place.. well it will work itself out, so i have 2 get surgery okn 3 12 to take the bar out. The plate n 10 screws stay in there

I will b fine, i am just exhausted from the field, jn desperate need of a dq,lol

Hope u all r ok, catching up

IllinoisLady

Big hugs, Blondie.  Getting the assessment means you get to go home and wow, that sure sounds good.  Now you will have to face all the jokes about being held together with bubble gum and bailing wire, huh !!!!  I'm sure it will just be wonderful to be home with your family.  Saying prayers that all goes well. 

Jackie

blondiex46

Thank u jackie hugs

Chevyboy

Yes Di! It must BE a Blue Heron! I looked it up, and if you can't get closer, and ask him what he is, we'll just all assume he is one of these! The barking kind, like Jackie says!

You live in the Pacific Northwest? So that must be one of the birds haning around your area....

Looks like they like fish.... better go out and buy fish, and throw some up in the tree....! You can probably tame him, and have a new PET!

Puffin2014

Yes, that's a Great Blue Heron. They do eat fish, and frogs and other aquatic stuff. Amazing how patiently they can stand and wait for something to eat.

carolehalston

We have the blue herons, too.  I have not seen one in a tree.  Yes, they are VERY patient as are the white egrets, which outnumber the gray herons around here.  Audubon did a famous painting of the blue heron.

Hugs, Blondie.  Hope everything works out well.

IllinoisLady

Thinking Spring --- really hard:

There is symbolic as well as actual beauty in the migration of the birds, the ebb and flow of the tides, the folded bud ready for the spring.  There is something infinitely healing in the repeated refrains of nature—the assurance that dawn comes after night, and spring after the winter.  -Rachel Carson

carolehalston

I like that quotation, Jackie. 

mommarch

Some good news here. They came back and readjusted the Fiesta and totaled it. We had the Gap coverage so we should come out ok. It is cold here with freezing fog. Another day of winter wonderland, to be 65 tomorrow. DH is repairing our ramp and railing. I don't know how he can stand to be out there.

I have to go pick DGD up from school at 4:00 so will leave early and go to $ store and Groc. Need to clean up last nights dish mess. We use alot of paper plates these days.

We are working on getting all the documents together for DGD adoption process. It is bazaar. We are total electric and we have to have a carbon monoxide monitor. Each room has to have a fire alarm although the house is wired with 3 alarms. We have to put double locks on the cupboard we keep our Med's in. No cleaning supplies under the kitchen sink. No tools left out in the yard. She is 16 for God sakes. We will do it.

Hugs to all

Teacher64

It's crazy what people have to go through to adopt, but the end result is so worth it.

26 and it's been snowing for 5 hours. I've had enough. Tomorrow we are supposed to get our rescue pup and this mess and the re freezing tonight will most likely delay it. I am ready for her when we do get her...18 month old schnauzer-terrier mix named Charli. I have a new bed, toys, and treats ready for her to settle in.

sandra4611

Di, so sorry! That's awful even though you've had it happen so many times before. Who could get used to it? I was only cancelled once, just as we were walking out the door to go to the hospital. Took 3 weeks but I got back on the list. Everybody around the country seems to be suffering with this cold or flu. Hope you'll be fine soon and can get back on the surgery schedule.

We are in a holding pattern. Mike's sister will be coming in two weeks to go through testing at Brooke Army Medical Center where all this is taking place. At the end they will harvest the stem cells then freeze them. Mike will use some this time and have some left in case he needs another transplant. The chemo went well and Mike is holding his own. He hasn't even needed a transfusion in a couple of weeks. The doctors now want to hold off a few months for the transplant as long as Mike's numbers continue to improve or at least, don't get worse. He'll continue chemo every month until the transplant...could be months, we're told.

Kid drama at my house. My daughter Stephanie arrived for a long weekend and let us know she feels left out since we know things that she doesn't. She's also not happy that Allison is names as primary on the Power of Attorney and in our new wills. She is second but she feels that's indicative of how we feel about her. Oh for **** sake! The last thing I have time for is this kind of crap!

Chevyboy

I'm so glad Mike is holding his own Sandra! Sounds like they are on the right track, and he is in good hands!

Don't worry about your Daughter.... We have two, but don't have any sibling rivalry... They have stayed close all their lives.... even after big Sister threw the phone across the room at little Sister when they first moved in together... It all worked out, and now, the big Sister in Orlando thinks her little Sister (54) is like her own kid. They just love each other to pieces.

We just did our Quit Claim Deed.... and had all that other stuff taken care of years ago... I don't even remember now which one was named first.... because it doesn't matter! Isn't it usually the oldest one first? Or whoever is "closest" to you.... You are in control here Mom.... don't let it bother you.... You are doing this for them, and if one feels miffed for how it was worded, that is really just their problem.....

Some families are just different.... and then SOME are ..... for a lack of a better word, dis-jointed! Some families don't even talk to each other.... Or know where their Son or Daughter even IS! Some leave their kids as they are growing up, and never have anything to do with them again.... Same with the kids...

You just take care of your business, and don't worry if someone's feelings get hurt.... you didn't MEAN to.... You have a lot on your mind right now..... so it's okay.......

IllinoisLady

Don't Limit Your Challenges... Challenge Your Limits.
- Anonymous

IllinoisLady

Sandra -- it is good news that Mike seems to haven taken a good up-swing in doing the chemo.  We just never quite seem to know how anyone's body will respond to things and I'm sure glad that the chemo seems to have provided a holding pattern for now. 

Sure sorry to hear that Stephanie  is feeling shoved into second place.  I'm sure it has been really disruptive to both girls that you, their father and them have had to confront this issue and feel the worries and stress.  Like Chevy -- I think in time she will see that when there are TWO someone has to be second and that is all this means.  In all the upset -- it is easier  to focus on this detail probably for Stephanie -- then the major part of the confrontation of what is happening.  Still, I hope she will soon realize that your love and care for her is just as strong -- but you are making natural, normal choices so that life will carry on with way less bumps and pot holes for all concerned.  Comfort for everyone with details that are settled so a strong focus on as much health and harmony can take place. 

I hope your daughters can just share in the love and warmth -- and not get lost in paperwork details.  I'll be praying for that.

We are awaiting three to six inches of snow this afternoon.  A bit of sun it trying to show itself, but it is pretty cold out.  I'll get all my running done this morning when I go out to feed the feral cats -- then back home to stay in and watch anything that comes from the warmth and coziness of the indoors.  Now that we are so close to Spring I'm not thrilled about the snow which I normally love --- so hanging on here. 

Blessings

Jackie

 

carolehalston

Sandra, thank you for checking in and updating us.  I'm very glad to hear that Mike has responded well to the chemo.  Stephanie needs to realize this isn't about her and lend her support at a time it's needed. 

Jackie, you would love the day we're having here.  Bright sunshine and warmish high temperature.  DH is off playing golf and I'm a bit jealous even if I'm glad for him.  I went to the gym, my 4th day this week!  I could no doubt find some yard work to do outside if I were motivated.  It's probably still pretty wet.  That sounds like a good excuse.  Unfortunately the weather isn't looking great for the first part of next week. 

I'm researching a foot ailment that could be what ails my left foot. Morton's neuroma.  It's a nerve problem and requires a simple surgery if it gets bad enough.  I know a woman in our golf organization who had the surgery.  The cortisone shot I had a couple of weeks ago has helped but hasn't made the pain go away entirely.  I bought a different insole yesterday that the podiatrist told me to try and it is comfortable.  That makes $60 on insoles altogether. 

Hope everyone is having a good Saturday.

Wren44

Sandra, It's a compliment to your relationship that she feels OK to bring it up. Not what you need to hear, of course. It may be a case of the best way not to worry about something big is to worry about something little. I'm happy to hear that Mike is improving on chemo. Wishing all the best for you both.

ritajean

Oh Sandra, I'm so glad that Mike is holding his own so well. That is certainly GOOD news.

It was 77 degrees here today and I golfed.....not verry well, but I golfed. I started to get frustrated with myself because I was hitting the ball so badly but then got to thinking that the game is really so minor and I'm just glad to be here and to be out in the sunshine instead of shoveling snow and skating on the ice. Maybe Monday I will do better. :-)

Gee mommarch....I can't believe you have to jump through all those hoops just to have a "suitable" home for your GD who is 16 years old. It just doesn't make good common sense to have the same regulations for a teenager as for the younger children. Dah! Still, you have to play the game!

Carole, several years ago one of my friends suffered from Morton's neuroma. Surgery was suggested for her but she didn't need it because if just finally went away and has never returned. She was in quite a bit of pain for a few months, though.

Is it snowing there yet, Jackie?

Wel I'm off to grab a book and just relax for a few hours. Everyone have a good weekend.

IllinoisLady

The snow started this afternoon  -- around 2 p.m. or so I think.  It actually is a very nice snow.  Pretty much coming straight down and very seeable out the windows.  It actually is the kind I really like.  I sort of hated the thought of having " a good snow " so late, but  it is what it is.  At least I really can find some joy in getting one during the day that I can watch and delight in the patterns  of the snow as it "piles" here and there.  Bill, our Black Lab was just loving it -- jumping and cavorting all over.  Though he can handle it fairly well -- he hasn't really enjoyed the colder, slippery, icier stuff we have had --- now a good snow that is not too cold since no wind is blowing seems to help him take full advantage of any fun to be had and he spent the afternoon doing just that.

It is due to snow most of the night I think -- not sure they were really sure -- so it will be telling in the morning when we get up to see what our white world looks like then. 

Despite enjoying the snow --- I will still be thinking of Spring.

Jackie

termite

Hi ladies,

Sandra--so glad to hear that your DH is holding his own and numbers are staying good. My 2 older sisters were mad when my mom put me down for everything for her medical and will. (She lived with us) but she left it and everything was ok in the end.

Ritajean---enjoy the weather and golfing (wish I was in FL or anywhere warm)

Mommarch---ritajean is right about having to play the game with DCFS. It doesnot make sense but no one seems to want to improve anything in their system.

DH had his right shoulder operated on and is now doing therapy 3X a week. Seems to be doing ok.

I have been lurking here trying to catch up with all the post.

We are expecting more snow tonight, tomorrow and Monday. It was a nice -14 here this morning.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend and staying warm.

Anneb1149

Hi everyone

Just returned to the hotel from my cousin's daughter's funeral. It started at 1pm and it is now 9pm. It was sad, yet inspiring as well. She has two younger sisters who spoke about the guidance she has given them through their lives. He ex husband spoke about her purity and honesty- the love and kindness she showed to all was genuine and really who she was. But I think the best part was watching her younger son 9. He was struggling thru the service, but first sat on his teenage cousins lap, then when it got to be too much, his step- mother, in the row behind him tapped him on the shoulder and her very quickly moved into her arms, where she held and comforted him. It was very clear that there is real love between them.

It was an Irish wake, so it was back to the house for food and drinks and, yes, eventually Irish music. I was reunited with family I haven't seen in 7 years. It may sound confusing but my mothers best friend (Lily's) sister married my fathers brother. Growing up, we spent many, many hours with Lily's family, especially after her husband died when their daughter, my sister and I were all around 10 years old. We vacationed with them and spent many, many summer Sundays at their house because they had an above ground pool. Lily's mom lived with her, and of course she was also the mother of my Aunt, and my cousins other grandmother. I must have been 13 or older before I ever realized that Nana Burke was not really my nana. As first cousins, Lily's kids were at the funeral as well. We haven't really seen or talked to them in over 40 years. I was telling the son, Tom, that the very first official date my DH and I had was at his wedding.

It is so hard saying goodbye to someone so young and so good. It was wonderful catching up with family and almost family. It was good comparing stories with Lily's daughter who has gone through BC twice. And talking with one of my cousin's daughters about my radiation and other treatment. She is a radiology tech. It was tough watching my cousin trying to hold herself together on what was no doubt the worst day of her life. It was good to hear another's cousin's wife talk about her son being gay, for the very first time. Although we have all known for years, it was an unspoken truth. Today, his mom spoke, very naturally about her son's lifestyle and the fact that she loves him exactly how he is. He is her son, and that is all that matters. It was a day filled with emotion, and it was good to share it with family. I feel sorry for those that did not make it there. They missed a time of family bonding and remembering this is what family is and how important it is to be there for each other, in good times and bad.

RIP Patti - you will be missed, but you will always be loved by each and every one of us.

Thanks for letting me put my feelings on "paper".

Anne