I Come to the Garden...

Meece, I haven't been around, MIA with all my medical.. but I continue to pray for your family, and especially Matt. He got to me thru you, I guess.

  You know, I had a stroke in Feb. with the heart meds, and am having difficulty coming back. It HAS been rough with my hubs, and I, so I know personally what he's going thru. I will continue to lift you all up.

  I also have some sad news. I got an email from Isabellas' DD. Isabella passed on the 15th of July. I didn't know if you all had heard, or not.

  I'm really having a hard time with the news, I really got close to her here. she was great friends with Marybe, and now they're together again... 3jays

3Jays, is that Isabella over in England?

Prayers for your healing, peace & comfort, girl!

Oh, I always enjoyed her posts on the older, lively thread. That makes me sad.

3jays, I've been wondering how you are. I'm so happy to hear you are still with us. I'm praying for your recovery. Keep in touch.

Life is keeping me busy. Everyonce in a while I come here to check-up on you ladies.

(((hugs)))

Hey gardners,  If it's not one thing it's another.  I've been at the hospital all day-my dad has had an event.  They're calling it a TIA for now.  Further evals tomorrow.  Bottom line is, if he is unable to walk with his walker, my step-mom is not going to be able to keep him at home.  We are praying that residuals from the TIA will completely heal & he will still be able to walk with the walker.  He has Alzheimers and is having somewhat difficult time understanding what all is going on but is still being his loving patient self.  Thanks for any and all prayers.  HIs name is Jack.  Thanks.

Praise the Lord!  Dad was able to go home today.  He is back to his baseline.  Walking with walker & being his normal self!  YAY- God is good!

I've lurked here from time to time but haven't posted before.  The more I read, though, the more I like! 

Eph, what wonderful news about your father.  So good that the "event" didn't affect him more severely,  and he's now back to about where he was before.  The longer I live, the more I rely on God and His power to answer prayers. 

And 3jays, so happy you are here!  I pray for you so often, dear lady, and it's an answered prayer just to see you post here.  I too have had a dreadful time with the loss of Isabella, and I've been so angry about it.  It didn't have to be that way and we have all lost a treasure and a dear friend. 

I had an answered prayer last week as my DD safely delivered a healthy baby girl.  Although they'd had an early ultrasound that showed no evidence of it, I was terrified of cleft lip and palate, which has "run" in my family, an aunt, a great great uncle, and my sister.  But the baby is fine!  Surgeries have improved vastly since my sister's, but I was still worried about the baby having to go through it. Now, if they could just get her to sleep....

I'll be back, and much love to all my sisters here.

Kathy

Just stopping by to smell the roses

And cecking up on you sweet ladies and hope you all are feeling well.

How are you 3jays? Meece? and everyone else. Prayer request?

Meece, you're so right.  Parenting does get harder because we can't parent grown children in the same way we used to. How old is Matt, and is he independent, not living in your home, etc.?  That would influence your input, I'm sure.  Would there be a way he could encourage her to seek treatment?  Without treatment for her, Matt's life is a roller coaster.  Sometimes we just have to wait and see, and all I can offer is prayers. 

When my DD first married, it was to a charming young man who some people thought was gay.  I wondered myself but didn't say anything because she seemed so sure of him.  Now I so wish I'd said something, because he was!  Big wedding, the whole bit, and 2 years of marriage before DD told us the marriage had never been consummated.  We got it annulled.  Now, she's married again and all is well. 

Kathy

Well, since Matt asked you to tell him re red flags, I'd say you'd be clear to do just that.  But this time around, has anything actually happened?  Other than your general unease about the relationship, that is?  If it has go for it, but if nothing yet I think I'd wait a bit, because something will eventually happen.

Do you think he feels some kind of responsibility for this girl?  Unless he's a psychiatrist he'll be ill equipped to deal with her illness, to be sure.  Matt will be the giver in this relationship and she'll be forever insecure in it, no matter what he does.  As a mother, I feel the same way as you do--we so want to protect them and we know what they should do (from years of experience!) if they'd only listen.

My fear would be that she'll eventually want him to confine his life to her and her alone, with no room for family and friends, and I imagine that's your fear as well. 

Kathy

Meece, that IS a tough one!! Her lack of concern for how she hurts people is VERY selfish!!! Why wouldn't she want to be her "normal" self!! She has a chemical imbalance in her brain and meds round her out. Simple. Why people think it changes them is weird. It just heightens their goodness when they are balanced. Feel free to use my thoughts to convince her that reality is for people who can't handle drugs!!

Meece, understand about grown children. I've wanted to begin a blog or prayer website for prodical children. The hardest part is letting them go and watch them screw up. I'll be praying for your son, and I would appreciate your prayers for my son. My son is a believer and his guardian angel is working overtime.  BUT...I have a beautiful daughter inside and out who is still single. She is a little picky, but single. She has high standards, very smart and has never really had a serious boyfriend...although several had tried to pursue her. Pray that she finds a guy who loves the Lord.