I Come to the Garden...

Meece

What fun!  Even if it was hot.

3jaysmom

Meece, I haven't been around, MIA with all my medical.. but I continue to pray for your family, and especially Matt. He got to me thru you, I guess.

  You know, I had a stroke in Feb. with the heart meds, and am having difficulty coming back. It HAS been rough with my hubs, and I, so I know personally what he's going thru. I will continue to lift you all up.

  I also have some sad news. I got an email from Isabellas' DD. Isabella passed on the 15th of July. I didn't know if you all had heard, or not.

  I'm really having a hard time with the news, I really got close to her here. she was great friends with Marybe, and now they're together again... 3jays

Meece

((3Jays))

(((3Jays)))

I will be praying for a comeback for you.  Thank you for keeping Matt in your prayers.  Poor guy fractured his toe at work last Thursday.  If it isn't one thing...

I am heading to my Doctor today to try to get results of my bloodwork from one week ago.  I hope they can figure something out.  If not, my her next step will be to send me to a neurologist and go for an MRI.  Either way I am ready for answers.

Eph3_12

3Jays, is that Isabella over in England?

Prayers for your healing, peace & comfort, girl!

3jaysmom

YES, SHE WAS FROM eNGLAND. yORK WASN'T HER LAST NAME, IT WAS WHERE SHE WAS FROM.

 hER DAUGHTER EMAILED ME, CAUSE I KEPT EMAILING HER, ASKING HER TO ANSWER ME. i HADN'T HEARD FROM HER SINCE SHE HAD SURGERY, WHICH DIDN'T HELP HER BACK, AT ALL, IN THE END.

  aS i SAID, HER dd DIDN'T GIVE ME ANY DETAILS, AND HASN'T POSTED anything ON HER facebbok page (sorry bout caps) so, I don't know how she died, just that she did..

  thanks for your prayers, ladies...3jays

Eph3_12

Oh, I always enjoyed her posts on the older, lively thread. That makes me sad.

barbe1958

3jays...anymore word on Isabella and why????????

Hindsfeet

3jays, I've been wondering how you are. I'm so happy to hear you are still with us. I'm praying for your recovery. Keep in touch.

Life is keeping me busy. Everyonce in a while I come here to check-up on you ladies.

(((hugs)))

3jaysmom

yeah, hindfeet; i'm also "glad" i'm still with you haha

  actually, onky on a "good" day to I feel that way..

  Yes, Barbe; i did hear, and it wasn't good news. I actually took it very badly.  The problem with her back finally Did paralyze her legs, so she couldn't put weight on them; and she died from the "old persons" friend.. pnemonia.. It  mad me sad/angry because it was SO uneccesarry!  I'm just reeling, and could've lived my whole life NOT knowing!!!but it is what it is..

  I think of you guys on this site, often, and pray continually for you all; i've gotten into some artwork as such on the compouter, and trying to keep myself busy.

  I spend enormous amounts of time in bed now, trying a new MS drug, which gives you "flulike " symptoms. I'm hedging my bets that if God wills, I'll get a life at the end of all this craziness!

  Don't know when I'll get back, but I do from time-time, and ias I said, your'e always remembered in my prayers.. 3jays

Meece

Good to see you back here, 3jays.  I appreciate having you as one of my prayer warriors.

barbe1958

3jays, thanks for touching base with us and letting us know you are still motoring on. I pray that things are settling down with your DH and am glad you are getting some creative time on the computer. I hope you enjoy reading as much as I do, as I don't watch TV in the bedroom. You are still in my prayers, sweetie!

Eph3_12

Hey gardners,  If it's not one thing it's another.  I've been at the hospital all day-my dad has had an event.  They're calling it a TIA for now.  Further evals tomorrow.  Bottom line is, if he is unable to walk with his walker, my step-mom is not going to be able to keep him at home.  We are praying that residuals from the TIA will completely heal & he will still be able to walk with the walker.  He has Alzheimers and is having somewhat difficult time understanding what all is going on but is still being his loving patient self.  Thanks for any and all prayers.  HIs name is Jack.  Thanks.

chabba

I am praying for your Father and all of you who love him so.

Eph3_12

Praise the Lord!  Dad was able to go home today.  He is back to his baseline.  Walking with walker & being his normal self!  YAY- God is good!

chabba

Our prayers have been answered.  Thank you Lord.

Meece

Praise the Lord, Eph.  

barbe1958

Amen!

QCA

I've lurked here from time to time but haven't posted before.  The more I read, though, the more I like! 

Eph, what wonderful news about your father.  So good that the "event" didn't affect him more severely,  and he's now back to about where he was before.  The longer I live, the more I rely on God and His power to answer prayers. 

And 3jays, so happy you are here!  I pray for you so often, dear lady, and it's an answered prayer just to see you post here.  I too have had a dreadful time with the loss of Isabella, and I've been so angry about it.  It didn't have to be that way and we have all lost a treasure and a dear friend. 

I had an answered prayer last week as my DD safely delivered a healthy baby girl.  Although they'd had an early ultrasound that showed no evidence of it, I was terrified of cleft lip and palate, which has "run" in my family, an aunt, a great great uncle, and my sister.  But the baby is fine!  Surgeries have improved vastly since my sister's, but I was still worried about the baby having to go through it. Now, if they could just get her to sleep....

I'll be back, and much love to all my sisters here.

Kathy

Meece

Kathy, welcome and thank you so much for your added prayers here.  Congratulations and praise the Lord for your healthy granddaughter.  Gog IS Good!

Hindsfeet

Just stopping by to smell the roses

And cecking up on you sweet ladies and hope you all are feeling well.

How are you 3jays? Meece? and everyone else. Prayer request?

Meece

Hi, Hindsfeet.

I would like your prayers for wisdom to handle a situation.  My dear Matt has started seeing the woman he was engaged to again.  She caused him so much heartache and stress.  The story is long, but one issue is that she is bipolar and refuses to go on meds.  When she's "down" she is outright cruel and selfish.  If he chooses to bring her back into our lives as well, I need wisdom to say and do the right things.

Why doesn't parenting get easier when the kids are grown?

QCA

Meece, you're so right.  Parenting does get harder because we can't parent grown children in the same way we used to. How old is Matt, and is he independent, not living in your home, etc.?  That would influence your input, I'm sure.  Would there be a way he could encourage her to seek treatment?  Without treatment for her, Matt's life is a roller coaster.  Sometimes we just have to wait and see, and all I can offer is prayers. 

When my DD first married, it was to a charming young man who some people thought was gay.  I wondered myself but didn't say anything because she seemed so sure of him.  Now I so wish I'd said something, because he was!  Big wedding, the whole bit, and 2 years of marriage before DD told us the marriage had never been consummated.  We got it annulled.  Now, she's married again and all is well. 

Kathy

Meece

Matt is 26 living on his own.  When this woman was in his life before, she would not let him talk on his phone without putting it on speaker.  He has tried to get her to get help, but she refuses.  She wouldn't let him go to his VA meetings and he wasn't able to interact with his female friends from high school.  He wasl imited to socializing with us and with her family.  

When they broke up he asked me to point out red flags 'next time'.  Now????

QCA

Well, since Matt asked you to tell him re red flags, I'd say you'd be clear to do just that.  But this time around, has anything actually happened?  Other than your general unease about the relationship, that is?  If it has go for it, but if nothing yet I think I'd wait a bit, because something will eventually happen.

Do you think he feels some kind of responsibility for this girl?  Unless he's a psychiatrist he'll be ill equipped to deal with her illness, to be sure.  Matt will be the giver in this relationship and she'll be forever insecure in it, no matter what he does.  As a mother, I feel the same way as you do--we so want to protect them and we know what they should do (from years of experience!) if they'd only listen.

My fear would be that she'll eventually want him to confine his life to her and her alone, with no room for family and friends, and I imagine that's your fear as well. 

Kathy

Meece

Thank you for stating what I am feeling.  You seem to understand.  

I figure she is going to be less willing to be around us because she will be embarrassed about what she did this last time.  She stole hundreds of dollars from him and he was still recouperating from the financial burden that had put on him.  He knows what she did, but somehow I think he does feel responsible for her because he did so much for her.  He needs to be needed.

barbe1958

Meece, that IS a tough one!! Her lack of concern for how she hurts people is VERY selfish!!! Why wouldn't she want to be her "normal" self!! She has a chemical imbalance in her brain and meds round her out. Simple. Why people think it changes them is weird. It just heightens their goodness when they are balanced. Feel free to use my thoughts to convince her that reality is for people who can't handle drugs!!

QCA

Just got home from a memorial service for a woman in our church.  She died last Friday of a sudden heart attack at only 59 years old.  DH and several other men have been to her husband's home several times over the past week and he is absolutely bereft.  This woman was in my circle, although I didn't know her very well, and the circle provided refreshments for after the service.  She was not retired but her husband was, and he's suffering so badly.  Please pray for him.  It was a 2nd marriage for both of them and they both have grown children and grandchildren.

Well, Meece, any news today?  Thinking of you.

Kathy

Meece

Thanks for the words of wisdom, Barbe.  Not, Kathy, not a peep from DS since Sunday.  I think he is not so happy with me.  I hate to make him unhappy, which just makes me think I should let things play out again.  

I will pray for the husband of the woman in your circle.  That is so sad.

I am a bit more stressed, my dr office called Wednesday regarding some of the tests I have been having done. The nurse stated that one test looked fine but they found something on the other and the doctor would like to discuss it with me on the 30th.  Why can't they jsut tell you instead of making you wait, knowing that something is going on?  Ignorance is bliss and I would have much rather gone to my appointment on Monday and found out, rather than have days of speculation.  

barbe1958

Why the heck did they call you Meece if you're going in anyway????? Give them HELL from me for you!!!

Kathy, prayers for the lonely heart at your church. I live in a "lifestyle" community (read retirement) and it's so sad with the monthly magazine when we are told to edit our phone lists to "take someone out"..... there are an awful lot of lonely people here! We see the neighbour on our left maybe once every six weeks or so!!! The other side works on her gardens a lot and goes out to art classes. She's the one that had the surgery that I need for my back so we've talked a lot. The other side, not so much. What the heck does she do all day??? She must wonder what I do, though, as I don't garden.....hmmm. (I let the yard guys take care of my gardens.)

Hindsfeet

Meece, understand about grown children. I've wanted to begin a blog or prayer website for prodical children. The hardest part is letting them go and watch them screw up. I'll be praying for your son, and I would appreciate your prayers for my son. My son is a believer and his guardian angel is working overtime.  BUT...I have a beautiful daughter inside and out who is still single. She is a little picky, but single. She has high standards, very smart and has never really had a serious boyfriend...although several had tried to pursue her. Pray that she finds a guy who loves the Lord.